Wedding question...
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Topic: Wedding question...
Posted By: Samandtia
Subject: Wedding question...
Date Posted: 26 August 2010 at 10:49am
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I know this is nothing to do with babies and stuff but once again I am after your opinions... (Geez! some would think I don't have opinions of my own!?  ) I did post this on the only wedding site I could find but it doesn't seem as active or helpful as this forum! 
Anyway, All our family and friends are back in Australia. Now that I am FINALLY planning my wedding (had to reschedule... I ended up due when my wedding date was set) I am thinking of locations and at first I really wanted it in Sydney because our older family members are there and would be easier for them and it is a beautiful city. But now I am starting to think of having my wedding here in Auckland (so much easier for me to check out potential venues and organise everything else specially with my one yr old in tow) which would mean that all our guests would have to travel. Would it be selfish if I was to have it here? I'm guessing it would end up being a small wedding because not everyone will be able to travel, I will organise accommodation but I would not be able to afford to pay for everyone's accomodation. So I am basically asking should I stick to the original idea of Sydney, so it would be me, my 'husband to be' and my baby who have to do all the travelling (plus pay a fortune for a cattery for my 2 furry babies) or make everyone travel and have it here in Auckland? Any ideas/opinions would be great! Thanks! OH! I just thought about the currency conversion aswell! 
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Posted By: Kalimirella
Date Posted: 26 August 2010 at 11:02am
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Well one question is do you want a big or small wedding?
Having it in Auckland will ensure it is a small intimate and close family/friends only. By the sounds of it having it in Sydney means everyone will be able to come which will mean it is bigger. My personal perference would be smaller but that may not be what you want. Thats venues and all else aside :D ------------- Kiara is 3 and Teagan is 2, now we're expecting our long awaited 3rd! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 26 August 2010 at 11:04am
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My biggest piece of advice - do what you want to do. If you want it in Auckland have it there, the only consideration would be if somone you really wanted to attend couldn't make it.
If you do decide to do it in Sydney, try and find an all inclusive venue will will remove some of the stress of not being there. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 26 August 2010 at 11:06am
I'd make everyone travel to me ... after all its your wedding.  ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 26 August 2010 at 11:12am
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Do what you want to do, Dh and I got married in Palmerston North as that's closest to where we live. Everyone came to us apart from maybe 10 of our friends everyone came from out of town. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: HuntersMama
Date Posted: 26 August 2010 at 2:35pm
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Id travel - but thats just me always trying to please everyone else! If you have it in Auckland will the important people be able to make it? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Rovic
Date Posted: 26 August 2010 at 2:51pm
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I guess it also depends on your budget. If it was in Auckland, I expect it would cost less as no travel for you, less people at the wedding etc. If you had it in Auckland could you plan a party over there at some stage to include everyone who couldn't make it over? ie on 1st anniversary or something? ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: rachndean
Date Posted: 26 August 2010 at 8:42pm
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We wanted to get married in the islands, but everyne kicked up a stink and said we were being stupid expecting people to travel, so we stayed in NZ and got married locally.
Don't get me wrong, my wedding day was fantastic, but we do regret not doing what we wanted to do. At the end of the day, you are the one getting married, it is your day so do what makes you happy
Congratulations by the way! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 26 August 2010 at 9:23pm
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As the others have said, do what you want to do. As long as the most important people to you can make it thats all that matters. ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 26 August 2010 at 9:52pm
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My DH is best man to our old next door neighbour ( party central) and we are travelling to Oz to their wedding cause that is where they live now. We are also combining it with a holiday.
A lot of his family live there now & a lot of their friends are travelling over. Going to be a huge party all week long I think? We would have travelled regardless. We want to be at their wedding plus it's a great op for the holiday. So hopefully your family & friends will see it like that too. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: nathansmummy
Date Posted: 26 August 2010 at 10:19pm
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It's a hard decision. I think you have to weigh up what is important to you and take your finances into consideration - ie. what you can afford.
I mean, trips to Sydney or to Auckland for that matter are cheap if just using carry-on baggage. It's like flying down to Wellington or something for a wedding. You also have to consider all the to-ing and fro-ing you are going to have to do to look at venues etc. - even if you shop online and arrange one trip prior to the wedding, how stressful and the extra expense of several trips over there. If you already have some places in mind, that makes it easier for you - but you're still going to have to book a lot of your vendors over there such as florists etc. online which could just give added stress - and arranging a wedding can be stressful. On the other hand - consider who may not attend your wedding in Auckland if you had it here and if you really want them to be there, then maybe the stress and finances are worth it? Only you can really figure that out! |
Posted By: Richie
Date Posted: 27 August 2010 at 8:53am
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Like the others have all said, go with what you want. We are in a similar situation. Half of our guest list are from Ireland (DF is Irish). We feel bad having the wedding here, knowing that the majority of them wont be able to afford to fly all the way over here but at the end of the day, it's our wedding and the most important people will be here for it. We will then go to Ireland after the wedding to have a celebration with those who couldn't make it. It can kind of be like our honeymoon at the same time. Maybe you could do the same? Have the wedding in Auckland and then go to Sydney to have a celebration with those who couldn't make the trip over? -------------  
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Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 27 August 2010 at 10:08am
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are you doing a honeymoon/holiday afterwards? what about wedding in aucks, then holiday in sydney where you can have kinda a 2nd reception for anyone who couldnt make it?
i think the send out the invites WAY in advance is a great idea and if you talked to a top10 motel they are always pretty good about big booking from what i hear. personally i would sort out a d/c rate for travellers and they pay themselves. and i would make people come to me lol. mostly because i prolly cbf trying to organise a wedding somewhere that isnt just a trip down the road, and 2ndly... its your day! you dont have to cater to anyone except yourselves 
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Posted By: Samandtia
Date Posted: 27 August 2010 at 11:10am
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Cool, Thanks ladies! I don't feel so bad now about thinking of having it here....
Originally I did want the big party afterwards but since having Isabella we now prefer a small intimate wedding, so I guess if our friends from college couldn't make it it wouldn't be soooo bad as most of them would be there to REALLY celebrate (and I just can't handle 'celebrations' like that anymore hahaha I've become a bit of an old fuddy duddy in my old age!). Most important I think is our close family and friends will make the effort (hopefully)... I know they can afford it but I was thinking that it may be a bit of a hassle for them... although I like what you said A&C's mum, they can make it into a little holiday for themselves, they don't have to come over JUST for my wedding! Nathansmummy, it will DEFINITELY cut down on the stress by organising a local wedding instead of over the internet or having to fly over a few times to organise it. I do prefer to see things in the flesh rather than pics off the net.... specially venues! There are great photographers out there that can make anything look great! Plus, having it here will definitely cut down on the $'s since our budget now isn't all that flash! :( Yep, Mylilsquishy (love the name btw!) noted- send invites out EARLY! hahaha Thanks Again! |
Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 27 August 2010 at 11:38am
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good luck hun! hope to see some pics pop up lol.
also for photographers..... are you on FB? there are heaps of NZ photographers on there at very reasonable prices. might pay to talk to them? |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 28 August 2010 at 9:48pm
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How about a small wedding with family and close friends in Auckland, as you want, then a trip to Sydney as part of a follow-up or honeymoon for a BBQ or some other casual lunch/dinner at a family venue? You could even dress up for that and of course take the photos with you. Slideshows on a laptop work a treat. -------------  |
Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 29 August 2010 at 12:20am
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Do what you feel is best for you! Dh and I live in Aus and all our family (well the better part of them) live back in NZ so we decided to travel back home to get married. We also wanted to get married at 'home' were it has sentimental value to us etc.
Were pleased we did it that way, it was much easier to organise logistically and financially, and we didnt have to worry about accommodating 70 odd people in a different country. ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: 4thtymlucky
Date Posted: 01 September 2010 at 7:51pm
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Wherever you decide to have your wedding will be awesome Don't worry about your family and the guests too much as those who care most will support your decision (regardless if they can make it or not). Have a fab day and have fun organising it All the best and congrats
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Posted By: MrsMc
Date Posted: 01 September 2010 at 8:31pm
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I dont think its selfish, people get married in Rarotonga etc all the time.
Just let everyone know well in advance so they can save to come over good luck planning it all! |