wide awake in the middle of the night
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Topic: wide awake in the middle of the night
Posted By: myonlineself
Subject: wide awake in the middle of the night
Date Posted: 27 August 2010 at 7:20am
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So, we are finally making some good progress with Teyla's sleeping, she did 8 hours solid last night from 7-3am, but often after a big chunk (not usually as much as 8 hours) she wakes up and is wide awake and takes a good 2 hours to go back to sleep. I try feeding, patting, shusshing, a good bit of crying often (which I hate)... my DH reckons I should just get up with her and then put her back to bed once she's tired, rather than spending a couple of hours awake anyway but frustrated... I don't know, its so hard, broken sleep is one thing, but hours of awake time sucks too!
Anyway - just wondering if anyone has any ideas or suggestions of things to try or if I should just ride it out and hope she stops eventually. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jano1
Date Posted: 27 August 2010 at 7:38am
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How much is she sleeping during the day? For us if DD has too much day sleep she is awake for hours at night.
I wouldn't get her up if it was me as it might reinforce that it is okay to wake and get up and might be a harder habit to break. Is she teething? ------------- http://www.thebump.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=UBB&utm_campaign=tickers"> |
Posted By: myonlineself
Date Posted: 27 August 2010 at 7:52am
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I think she is teething - or at least was, no sigh of the teeth through the gums yet, but she has settled down other than that, she was waking hourly crying from teeth I think... She's not upset when she wakes just awake... the crying is just cause mummy leaves the room and doesn't get her up...She did have three naps yesterday 1.5 in the morning (at 8am due to a 5.30am start...) then an hour at lunch time and I got her up to go out and then 40 minutes at 3 and bed at 6.30. If she doesn't get enough sleep during the day she takes HOURs to settle in the evening. She does usually only have two naps of 1.5 hours each..
It seems if she has good naps, she settles well, sleeps a decent chunk and then wakes up wide awake...if she doens't have enough day sleep she is unsettled all night long. I guess she has to learn that even though she's wide awake its still night time and time to go back to sleep... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jano1
Date Posted: 27 August 2010 at 8:29am
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Have you tried using any meds when she wakes? Like neurofen to see if that makes a difference? Those pesky teeth can move around for ages before they come through.
Sounds like she is sleeping too much during the day. Might just be a phase then? ------------- http://www.thebump.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=UBB&utm_campaign=tickers"> |
Posted By: myonlineself
Date Posted: 28 August 2010 at 9:59am
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Gah yesterday she had a 1.5-hour nap in the morning and only 40 minutes in the afternoon. Was asleep by 7, then woke at 2am, and was wide awake till 4am! I can't handle being up for hours in the night, but she won't go back to sleep ... I can't (won't) just leave her to cry by herself ......
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 28 August 2010 at 4:18pm
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Is she happy when she's awake - just wanting to play? What happens if you just leave her to it in the cot? When DD has been like that, I've laid down on the floor where she can't see me and dozed while she's rolled around in her cot squealing and playing, and then got up to soothe her once she was ready for sleep again. I won't leave her to CIO either, but that was a good compromise allowing me to get some rest too. I wouldnt' get up and play with her - you want her to learn that nights are for sleeping, not playing. Stick with it - I honestly know how hard it is!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: monikah
Date Posted: 28 August 2010 at 4:23pm
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if mack is happy i just leave him. always have. i often wake during the night and can hear him talking to himself or walking round in his cot through the walls. have you always done the no eye contact, minimal noise and light, no playing etc when she wakes during the night. if you have them im not sure at all. but if you used to cuddle, play etc for night time feeds then it is probably a bad habit ------------- 
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Posted By: myonlineself
Date Posted: 28 August 2010 at 4:25pm
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I normally just feed her and put her back to bed, no eye contact, no talking nothing. But now I do that and if I leave the room she will cry and cry. Even if I stay in the room sitting on the chair ignoring her she will be happy for a bit and then cry. I definitely haven't got her into the habit of being cuddled etc... and if she was happy to be awake in her cot then I wouldn't be bothered, but she'll just cry and cry if I leave her there... so I fed her and put her back, then I can pat her and shush etc... but she doesn't go to sleep until 2 hours have passed. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: monikah
Date Posted: 28 August 2010 at 6:43pm
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oh man thats real hard. i let him cry when he did that but only if i knew there was absolutely nothing wrong with him. he went through a phase for a few weeks after being in hospital sick. i went back and forward for the first week or so in case something was wrong but after that id leave him and just keep listening to make sure he didnt amp up. i know there isnt many ppl that are keen to do that though. best of luck and hopefully its just a phase -------------
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 29 August 2010 at 7:04am
I feel your pain - and I don't have the solutions either. If you find it, let me know. At least you are getting a decent stretch out of her now - hopefully things will just steadily improve with time... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MrsH
Date Posted: 29 August 2010 at 5:07pm
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She's not waking cos she's cold is she? I mean if she woke during one of her sleep cycles and was a little chilly then she might wake completely up (IYGWIM). Maybe another blanket or something to ensure that she remains sleepily warm and then dozes back off again....
Another thing is if she's going through a developmental milestone like crawling and just wants to do it all the time.... that happened with DS around a similar age and I just decided it was a phase and got up with him. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Paulsmum
Date Posted: 30 August 2010 at 11:58pm
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we are going through the exact same thing at the moment!! although the times change every night and he is not doing a big chunk which is really hard when since the day we got him home he has done, 9hrs at night... I really have no advice as i haven't found anything that has worked.... but just thought i would let you know that your not the only one and i completely understand how hard it is!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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