Why do people say stupid things?
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Topic: Why do people say stupid things?
Posted By: Maya
Subject: Why do people say stupid things?
Date Posted: 26 August 2006 at 7:24pm
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As most of you know, Mercedes hasn't been growing so well, so we might end up being induced at 32 weeks. Twice this week when I have told people this they have said:
"Oh, you're so lucky - you get to have a short pregnancy!" Yes, really lucky! If my girls are born then I will spend the next 6 weeks driving backwards and forwards from the hospital visiting them 
Do people not actually think sometimes? Yes I am totally over being pregnant, and can't wait to meet my lil girls, but I'd like to bake them a while longer just the same! Grrrrr! Sorry, vent over! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 26 August 2006 at 7:33pm
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people often say stupid things before their brains can censor them. thats why I thank God for internet message boards where I can edit what I say!
Emma, I hesitate to ask - but what was your reply? |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 26 August 2006 at 8:11pm
 Whatever you said in response, Emma, they deserved it!------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 26 August 2006 at 8:31pm
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oh my oh my way to put there foots in there mouths and why oh why would you want a prem bubs dumbasses emma thats what they are ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 26 August 2006 at 10:43pm
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OH man MORON'S. Some ppl just dont think hey. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 27 August 2006 at 8:25am
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Maya i get the same thing when I explain my condition is likely to bring on bubs early - and it doesnt make it easier with people saying oh well at least they are fully formed....we would rather be able to have them bake a little longer....I know exactly how you feel...
I wish people would be a little more understanding sometimes....HUGS to you |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 27 August 2006 at 9:01am
Man people are stupid soemtimes! I suppose most people have no idea of the realities of premature babies... BTW Emma, my sis had her twins last year at 30 weeks, and altho they were in the NICU for a couple of months they are fine and dandy now. They are both walking and talking, one is a bit smaller than the other and got sick easily over winter, but they are fine in every other way.  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 27 August 2006 at 9:47am
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i agree with everyone! people can be so stupid! argh! why would anyone wish and want to have and believe you are "lucky" to have a short pregnancy?
i just hope that things work out well for you and your precious wee girls (and family ) all us here on ohbaby will be thinking about you and sending lots of love your way.
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 27 August 2006 at 11:49am
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Geez, I hope you told them where to go! What a stupid thoughtless thing to say. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 27 August 2006 at 2:08pm
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they say things like that because when you say
"my baby isnt growing and they will have to be born early" they dont know what to say so try to focus on something positive, even if it isnt really. would you rather they said "oh no that is really bad, how will you cope, you poor thing." it may be a stupid response, but they wouldnt have been able to think of a diff one at short notice prob. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 27 August 2006 at 2:29pm
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This is a bit OT (well... kinda related), I was watching Cirque Rocks last night and saw that McDonalds has set up rooms for parents in the neo-natal part of the hospital. How absolutely cool is that???
Would you get to use one of those rooms if the twins come early Emma? I hope so. |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 27 August 2006 at 3:38pm
Did you want to borrow my stapler to shove down thier throats? I don't need it now that I'm not at work! 
Seriously though, some people can be so inconsiderate!! Maybe they really didn't realise the realities of prem babies....*sigh*
Big hugs to you! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 27 August 2006 at 8:41pm
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hoow are you going today emma ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 28 August 2006 at 7:51am
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Some people jsut don't think do they. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 August 2006 at 1:52pm
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Hehe Paws - might need that stapler because I was speechless - I didn't know what to say! The second one was by text message so I just didn't reply...
Nikki - Haven't seen the McD's things. Must look into it! Thanks everyone for thinking of me! And Deborah - I think you're right, they probably didn't know what to say, but still.... I mean they could have said nothing! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 29 August 2006 at 7:24am
Grrrr, that must have been so infuriating chick I got the opposite when I was pregnant - everyone was constantly saying "god, you're so huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge". Like, hello!!!!! Did they think I hadn't noticed???? Comments like "is that just one baby in there, or is it a whole rugby team?" were so helpful, dontcha think??? Hope all is ok with your wee girls Emma. Sending big hugs to you 
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 30 August 2006 at 11:28am
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Pretty insensitive of them! I'm all for telling people you just don't think their joke is funny (like the rugby team comment - how stink, Clare!), or that they're being a Pollyanna and it's not the time for it. I hate it when you open up to someone about something really difficult and they immediately point out the silver lining in it all... sooo not the time to play that game! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 30 August 2006 at 12:35pm
hmmm... my exoerience is people say stupid stuff cos they ARE stupid... pretty simple really.... ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com"> 
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