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Topic: Breastfeeding debate
Posted By: Nothing
Subject: Breastfeeding debate
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 9:37am
On radio live now, Michael Laws is talking about breastfeeding, its quite interesting.

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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 9:46am
Oh, I thought you wanted one I'll try and tune in.

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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 9:55am
What's the frequency?  Have I missed it?

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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 9:55am

Originally posted by Hopes Hopes wrote:

Oh, I thought you wanted one I'll try and tune in.
Baahaa!



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Posted By: Nothing
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 9:58am
its still on, google radio live, you can listen online

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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 10:00am
Found it!  Thanks

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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 10:19am
OMG Im chopping at the bit trying to get hold of the radio station to have my say! God that lady PAm made me angry!


Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 10:30am
I've emailed them instead. 

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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 10:31am
Im waiting on the phone now, yay


Posted By: pumpkino
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 10:46am
At the risk of sounding naive, how is there a BFing debate? I know some people choose to formula feed but surely noone is actually ANTI BFing?? What are the negatives??? I'd better not listen or my radio might end up being thrown out the window...


Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 10:47am

It is Michael Laws he will debate anything.



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Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 10:59am
ooooh im interested..... but i agree .... how can anyone acutally be ANTI-BFing, obviously there are choices of course, and some people who cant for various reasons, but what debate is there?

anyone give me a brief statement about what happened? and what the callers said?

Kellz - did you get through?


Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:02am
Originally posted by pumpkino pumpkino wrote:

At the risk of sounding naive, how is there a BFing debate? I know some people choose to formula feed but surely noone is actually ANTI BFing?? What are the negatives??? I'd better not listen or my radio might end up being thrown out the window...


Its a debate wether formula should only be available on prescription


Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:09am
What?? Prescription for formula???

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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:22am

I don't get the radio here, can someone enlighten me on what's being discussed.

WTF Why would a source of food nutrition need to be prescribed.



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Posted By: Renee & Lauren
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:23am
I have to say I think it is ridiculous if they offered formula only by prescription. I feed my son on formula only cos I dried up and my dr said there wasn't anything I could do. Anyway if we were to have to go to the dr everytime it would be $15 for dr appt and prescription and then the formula appt of $22 EVERY WEEK. They have to understand that not everyone can breast feed, also my work don't offer a place to express so if I was to go back to work I wouldn't be able to express in the day.

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Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:24am
caliandjack - i think they want to do it to force mums to BF and boost BFing numbers. absolutely ridiculous.


Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:26am

Originally posted by MyLilSquishy MyLilSquishy wrote:

caliandjack - i think they want to do it to force mums to BF and boost BFing numbers. absolutely ridiculous.


Agree!



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Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:26am
If i hadnt had formula readily available, either I wouldnt "be here" (PND caused by all my BFing problems) or my son wouldve been hospitilised from too much weight loss from birth.

and we would have to pay $30 dr visit + $18 for formula. i think not.


Posted By: Renee & Lauren
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:27am
yes it is about boosting bf'g number like in oz BUT I can see if this happened that there would be a lot of stressed out mums here.. I know if I had to go to the dr everytime I need formula then I would become stressed out especially when you can't get an appt when you need one too

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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:27am

Where's Nigel Latta when you need him, I like his view point on breast nazis.



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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:29am
Originally posted by caliandjack caliandjack wrote:

WTF Why would a source of food nutrition need to be prescribed.

 

I get pasta, flour and oats on prescription

When FIL was dying he was getting liquid foods (similar to formula I guess) on prescription.

 

ETA: he's against mums who choose not to breastfeed due to lifestyle choices (for eg mums that don't feed because they want to party) he is not anti-mums who can't BF and he's not anti-formula. 



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Posted By: happymumma
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:36am
I think he ought to try breastfeeding before he comments!


Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:37am
Originally posted by MrsMojo MrsMojo wrote:


ETA: he's against mums who choose not to breastfeed due to lifestyle choices (for eg mums that don't feed because they want to party) he is not anti-mums who can't BF and he's not anti-formula. 




thanks for clarifying that! hate it when people think that everyone can and should and it doesnt matter coz mums boobs are made to do that.


yeah i cant get an appointment within 5 days. i would have to book every appointment until DS didnt need it anymore lol.


Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:38am

 MrsMojo, I would hate it to get to the point of dying before getting formula.
I guess it depends on the lifestyle choice being made. I would love to know just how many mums are not BF so they can party.  I'd imagine it isn't that many.

Sadly the main reason I hear of women stopping bf due to lifestyle factors is cause they're having to go back to work after 14 weeks ppl. To me that's an issue around how much we value mothers and babies.  If 'society' and/or 'govt' recommendations is for BF up to 6 months then regulations and legislation needs to be changed to accommodate it.

My personal view on the bf/forumla debate is simple as long as your baby is getting the nourishment he/she needs, what does it matter how that is achieved.



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Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:41am
Originally posted by caliandjack caliandjack wrote:



Sadly the main reason I hear of women stopping bf due to lifestyle factors is cause they're having to go back to work after 14 weeks ppl. To me that's an issue around how much we value mothers and babies.  If 'society' and/or 'govt' recommendations is for BF up to 6 months then regulations and legislation needs to be changed to accommodate it.

My personal view on the bf/forumla debate is simple as long as your baby is getting the nourishment he/she needs, what does it matter how that is achieved.





Posted By: happymumma
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:45am
I was just wondering about the 'lifestyle' choice thing too.  What exactly is that and how many women actually fall in to that category - I certainly don't know any and I know plenty of FF mums.


Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:46am
Which ever person came up with that idea needs a slap across the face with dried up boob. It will never work.

How do they propose you deal with BFing if you have to return to work?
Some people can be completely successful at BFing and find themselves unable to express.
You would have to make it compulsory for companies to have rooms for expressing.

In saying that I do think that people who can not breastfeed despite best effort and the help of a lactation consultant should get formula on prescription at a subsidised price.

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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:51am
IF this stupid idea were to take place I would imagine that you would get a refillable prescription so you wouldn't be going every week; maybe once every 3 - 6 months most likely. The appointment would be made for your child too as they are the ones that require the formula so the appointment would be free. Moot point though really coz it'll never happen.

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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:52am

I have actually been very impressed with Michael Laws (I know, it surprised me too).

He is pro-breastfeeding but not a breastfeeding nazi.  He's told people off for suggesting formula is unhealthy and mentioned that all of his children have used formula at one time or another. 

He is also calling for more support for mothers especially in the early days when BFing is being established.

I agree C&J that it is really sad so many people think they have to stop BFing when they go back to work.  I worked fulltime from when DD was 5 months old and still managed to feed her until 15mo (mixed feeding) and DS is still breastfed although I've worked part time since he was 9mo and start fulltime next week.



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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:53am

Originally posted by Aprilfools Aprilfools wrote:


In saying that I do think that people who can not breastfeed despite best effort and the help of a lactation consultant should get formula on prescription at a subsidised price.

 

That is a great idea!



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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 11:58am

I don't think forumla should be on prescription, in doing that your treating formula as a medicinal product when its a nutritional one.  I have no problem with it being available from the supermarket like any other source of food.



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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 12:13pm
You can get iron tablets on prescription, would you class that as nutritional or medicinal?

I'm sure there are a number of nutritional items you can get on prescription. They do it because the subscription provides them the subsidy not for medicinal purposes. They give babies with allergies prescriptions and subsidies for formula so why can they not do that for the baby of someone who is unable to breastfeed?

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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 12:17pm

Gluten free food is also a nutritional product but because I need it for medical reasons I am entitled to get it on prescription, subsidised by the government.  Although TBH I generally choose to buy it from the supermarket because it's easier and the brand choices are far more extensive.  I only bring it up again because the nutritional vs medicinal argument doesn't wash with me

Having said that I think that formula should continue to be readily available in supermarkets but agree that there should be far more support for the mothers that want it and need it and I like the idea of subsidising formula for baby's where the mother cannot breastfeed for medical reasons.



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Posted By: Manda08
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 12:28pm
Its stupid to think they would put formula on prescription, BF is best yes, but sane mummy is just as important and sometimes formula is needed. If it was on prescription how many mums would just go buy full cows milk as its easier..... that would be worse for under 1's surely!

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Posted By: BessieBear
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 12:37pm
Originally posted by happymumma happymumma wrote:

I think he ought to try breastfeeding before he comments!


ROFL I'd like to see any man try to BF or give birth. Then we'll see them debating on it. 

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Posted By: Renee & Lauren
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 12:39pm
April Fools - it is actually LAW that companies provide a room for breastfeeding or expressing BUT some companies just don't have the facility to do that so some people may end up doing it in the bathroom.

Also, my child's appt's are not free. There are not alot of dr surgeries in Wgtn that have free for under 5.

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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 12:47pm
I get the whole "breast is best" campaign but I really don't understand why we can't accept that some women simply don't want to breastfeed, for whatever reason. It doesn't make them bad mothers or bad people they just don't want to do it (perhaps they can't get past the pain or just really hate the idea of it). At the end of the day, these babies are getting the nutrition and love they need to grow, is that not enough?

Yes bf'ing is the ideal solution but it is not detrimental to the childs health if they are ff.

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Posted By: Nothing
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 12:53pm
Gosh.... what did I start!

I think there needs to be more support out there for BF. Here in Nelson there is only one lactation consultant at the hospital and her hours have recently been cut back to only 8 hours PER WEEK! This is for the whole of the Nelson area. Its no wonder mums that have a hard time and are not getting the support give up and go to formula. I completely understand the logic if someone cannot BF due to medical reasons, but to actually not do it cause they "are busy" is ridiculous. It takes much more time to formula feed than BF, getting the bottles ready, cleaning them etc....

I can see the merits of a prescription being needed, it would mean the mum would have to speak to a health professional first, and they may be able to suggest ways to help with BF. They would have to make it so that you can get a 6 month prescription like the pill, so you dont have to go back all the time.

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Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 1:13pm
Originally posted by Aethalia Aethalia wrote:

I can see the merits of a prescription being needed, it would mean the mum would have to speak to a health professional first, and they may be able to suggest ways to help with BF. They would have to make it so that you can get a 6 month prescription like the pill, so you dont have to go back all the time.


I can also see the merits, it isn't really feasible though. I think Drs visits in Aus are quite expensive compared to here, so that might put people off
I'm not really offended by the idea, and I combined from birth, so I'm not a bfing nazi or anything....
if it was on script then it may be subsidized too, which would be a huge help to a lot of people.


Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 1:37pm

I'd be interested to know what the breast nazis have to say to the mothers that can't breastfeed.
The foster mums and mums of adopted babies, nanas and aunties that are raising babies that they havn't given birth to themselves.

I can see some merits in being available on prescription ie: subsidies etc don't agree that this should be the only way of obtaining formula.

I was 100% formula fed baby from birth as I was adopted and I'm as healthy as the next person.



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Posted By: jakspaksing
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 1:41pm
http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2010/09/23/3020386.htm?section=justin
here is a link to i think the story that started it.

i cant breast feed due to an operation i had before having kids and a result from that means my parts are not connected and so far 2 kids down no milk has come through let alone even atempting to breast feed. yes i would have loved to try but i needed the op or being pregnant would have been very very difficult. so i figured have opp and have kids or not have op and have major hassles in pregnancy and breast feeding after if i could at all.

im pregnant now with my third and id be feeling as though im being persicuted for the choice i had made. like it was something bad to give my baby formula. i envy those that can at least try to breast feed. like someone said there needs to be more support out there for BF. dont make life harder for if you cant do it due to your choice or baby choice.

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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 1:54pm
Originally posted by caliandjack caliandjack wrote:

I don't think forumla should be on prescription, in doing that your treating formula as a medicinal product when its a nutritional one.  I have no problem with it being available from the supermarket like any other source of food.

lol I just *knew* I would disagree with you on this C&J . Formula is barely a nutritional product IMO. I agree totally with Mrs Mojo....it should be available when it's needed...not because it's more convenient.  And I also agree with you btw re: society not valuing mothers roles enough and not having enough support in place.  That, I'm sure, would make BF a much more viable option for so many more Mamas.



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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 1:55pm

Oh and um...just cos you foster or adopt a baby doesn't mean you can't BF him/her.  And I don't think anyones being a BF 'Nazi'. BF supporters are trying to SAVE lives, not destroy them.

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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 1:59pm

Unless NZ is prepared to bottle breast milk what's the alternative. 
As I said before I would really love to meet the women who are formula feeding because its convenient or they want to party.
I don't know any FF mums who are doing it for either of those reasons.



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Posted By: jakspaksing
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 1:59pm
emmecat call me ignorant most people do but how can you BF if you adopt or foster im abit confused.

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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:00pm

Originally posted by Emmecat Emmecat wrote:

Oh and um...just cos you foster or adopt a baby doesn't mean you can't BF him/her.  

It did in 1973!



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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:00pm

Originally posted by Aethalia Aethalia wrote:

Gosh.... what did I start!

I think there needs to be more support out there for BF. Here in Nelson there is only one lactation consultant at the hospital and her hours have recently been cut back to only 8 hours PER WEEK! This is for the whole of the Nelson area. Its no wonder mums that have a hard time and are not getting the support give up and go to formula. I completely understand the logic if someone cannot BF due to medical reasons, but to actually not do it cause they "are busy" is ridiculous. It takes much more time to formula feed than BF, getting the bottles ready, cleaning them etc....

I can see the merits of a prescription being needed, it would mean the mum would have to speak to a health professional first, and they may be able to suggest ways to help with BF. They would have to make it so that you can get a 6 month prescription like the pill, so you dont have to go back all the time.

You BF Nazi, you started a riot!  

I think it's a great idea. Firstly, cos new Mums would get proper support and education about BF, secondly, if there were a medical/pyschological reason they couldn't BF then what's the big deal in getting a script for formula? It would probably end up being cheaper than buying it at Woolies.

Oh and I can't remember who made the comment about not wanting to BF...well I guess that's an unusual thing to now want to do if you want a baby? But to me that would fall under a pysch problem. And I don't mean that in a bad way, just there would be issues there I assume that would make the thought of BF unpleasant iykwim?



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Posted By: Renee & Lauren
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:02pm
I have to disagree with you Emmecat.

I dried up when Jayden was 4 weeks old and nothing (I did try btw) would get my milk back so formula was my only option.

I agree with the people that right from the start say they are not going to breastfeed as they want to go out and party / drink but for those of us that have no choice but to use formula I don't think this is a good option.

IMO Formula is not as bad as what is used to be yrs ago and I actually read (about 5 yrs ago) that some formula is just the same as breastfeeding. I'm not trying to make a debate on this debate at all but I just have to disagree! While breastfeeding is best and alot of people can do it some others can't breast feed (even after trying) and if I didn't have formula I would have gone insane!

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Posted By: Renee & Lauren
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:03pm
oh C & J - I know someone who decided she wasn't going to breastfeed because she had carried her baby for 9 mths and now wanted to be able to drink. She's not young either.

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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:04pm

Originally posted by jakspaksing jakspaksing wrote:

emmecat call me ignorant most people do but how can you BF if you adopt or foster im abit confused.

you're most def not ignorant hun.  Most women produce milk and my understanding is that there are drugs you can take to help increase milk production so as long as you have a suckling baby then you ought to be able to BF 'even' an adopted child. I don't know when those drugs were introduced so can't address your comment C&J. But I assume that was the year you were born- which is similar to when I was- and I DO know that BF wasn't overly encouraged back then.



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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:05pm
Originally posted by caliandjack caliandjack wrote:

Unless NZ is prepared to bottle breast milk what's the alternative.

The alternative is to BF. That's why we have breasts.

But yep a breast bank would be awesome to help out those Mums who are unable to BF for whatever reason.



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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:05pm
That's cool Renee, you can disagree with me.

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Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:14pm
Originally posted by Renee & Lauren Renee & Lauren wrote:

I have to disagree with you Emmecat.

I dried up when Jayden was 4 weeks old and nothing (I did try btw) would get my milk back so formula was my only option.

I agree with the people that right from the start say they are not going to breastfeed as they want to go out and party / drink but for those of us that have no choice but to use formula I don't think this is a good option.

IMO Formula is not as bad as what is used to be yrs ago and I actually read (about 5 yrs ago) that some formula is just the same as breastfeeding. I'm not trying to make a debate on this debate at all but I just have to disagree! While breastfeeding is best and alot of people can do it some others can't breast feed (even after trying) and if I didn't have formula I would have gone insane!

They aren't trying out law formula, so you would still have access to it.

And I have to disagree that some formula is the same as breastfeeding.


Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:14pm

So your saying grandmothers and aunties should be breast feeding?



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Posted By: jakspaksing
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:16pm
ok interesting.   

but i cant breast feed at all no milk and my nipples and milk ducts are not connected. i already have an element of guilt about the choice i made but for health and quiality of life i needed to have an op that resulted in the non connection as a result. so if it was made to be such a big deal having to go to the doctor then i would feel even more guilty of this choice i had to make.

i agree there should be more support out there for BF help but dont make it all more than it should be. i had to make the choice i did and i have to live with it. much easier if i dont have to get the third degree and have to explain myself each child i have (ok this should be my last one lol)

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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:17pm
Renee, how come your milk dried up? So long as your feeding on demand then it would be very very rare for your milk to suddenly stop, even people that weaned still have milk for a couple of weeks!

C&J, a lot of adoptive parents can lactate and BF the baby, I was talking to a LC about it, and its actually becoming very common with adoptive parents. ETA cool http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1314283/Licia-Ronzulli-brings-baby-EU-Parliament.html - linky , maybe we will be able to take our babies to work one day?

Formula should ONLY be an option if you CANT BF, not because you dont want to, dont like it, cant be bothered etc, you have made a decision to have a baby, made the decision to love it, care for it, and do what is right for it (and that is BFing so long as you can). BFing isnt easy (if it is for you then you are extremely lucky!) but you do it because it is whats BEST for your baby.
In saying that DD had to have formula when she was born as it took over 10 days for my milk to START to come in, since then I have had mastitis, a supply drop as a result of that, a 3 week nursing strike (where I tried EVERY possible way to get her to feed from me), another drop in supply, and I am still on domperidone, I have recently tried to wean off it but my supply dropped too much. I had some milk in the freezer so havnt had to use formula since my milk was in.

Why do I keep going? Because it is what is BEST for MY daughter. Same reason why I will do my best to give her healthy food to eat, a warm dry house, clothes to wear, make her put her seat belt on.
After doing a lot of research (and you dont have to go far) you see very quickly why they say breast is best (note that they dont say only breast), all the benefits for baby AND you, so why not do it?

If you cant BF, then no problems, have formula, but it is there for when there is no beast milk, not just because its easier. And those who actually cant BF then they shouldnt be made to feel guilty as there isnt anything they can do about it.

In the end I guess I think that there shouldnt be a "choice" on whether or not to BF, and that is my opinion (well rant I guess)

Emmecat, agree with you on the milk bank idea! I wish I had thought of that before giving DD formula. I know of a MW in welly who has a mini milk bank, one lady with over supply who donates it to those who need a bit more or some to fill in the gap!

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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:23pm

Originally posted by jakspaksing jakspaksing wrote:

Much easier if i dont have to get the third degree and have to explain myself each child i have (ok this should be my last one lol)


I don't think you should have to go through this either jaks. Its the reason I don't understand why there even needs to be a BF / FF debate



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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:24pm
Originally posted by caliandjack caliandjack wrote:

So your saying grandmothers and aunties should be breast feeding?

Um quite frankly....yes, why not if the need is there? Wet nursing is still better than formula and is the norm (or was until companies like Nestle got involved) in non western countries. *shrug*



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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:26pm

*like* Emmi

I must admit I am always fascinated that starving and near-starving women who live in terrible conditions the world over manage to feed their children for years yet we in affluent, well nourished NZ are 'unable' to do so.  And that is a genuine puzzlement btw, not a veiled dig or criticism at anyone who has/is FF.

I think it's because mothering is not valued here as much, we don't have the proper support- family and otherwise- and quite frankly cos we *have* an 'alternative'. Albeit a poor one IMO.



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Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:31pm
*like* Emmi
I don't understand why people are getting worked up about it. It isn't like they are proposing to eliminate forumla all together.


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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:37pm
So in this perfect world where everyone breast feeds unless they can't, when can't they? As in, when do they have to give up trying, to qualify as being "unable" and therefore entitled to formula?

I'll add that I fully intend to bf but I can't understand why we don't seem to be allowed the choice.

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Posted By: Renee & Lauren
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:38pm
Emmi - I have no idea why my milk dried up. My dr just said that sometimes it happens. Jayden was a VERY hungry feeder early on and she said that maybe he drunk all of my milk up. I dunno. Yes I did do it on demand as well. Went away for 48 hrs and yep had no milk when came back so yep formula it was. I had issues expressing as well so he was on formula for 48 hrs.

I realise that you would still have access to the formula BUT you would have to make an appt with your dr and then go and get the formula and with my dr I can't always get in within 5 days notice.

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Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:43pm
Originally posted by Renee & Lauren Renee & Lauren wrote:


I realise that you would still have access to the formula BUT you would have to make an appt with your dr and then go and get the formula and with my dr I can't always get in within 5 days notice.

Thats a good point, my Dr is the same sometimes.


Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:44pm
cant? for me its defined as you have done everything you possibly can.. When my supply dropped, I was expressing every 2 hours for 3 weeks, 4 hourly over night. I would have continued to express and bottle feed DD before giving up, then I would have felt like I had done everything I could to continue to give her the benifits of my breast milk.

Renee, so you went away for 2 days?? No wonder your supply dropped!! Just so you know, your baby cant "drink all your milk up" milk is continously being made (so long as there is a demand), so on an empty breast it 'fills' up quicker than a full one. When your breast is full and is left full thats when your supply drops (like going away for 2 days). If you had expressed/not gone away/taken baby with you for those 2 days then you wouldnt have experienced that drop in supply.

My Dr is free for under 5 (I think its actually 6?). You can ask for prescription repeats, so you dont actually have to go in, and Im sure you would get 6 month scripts anyway. And the formula would be subsidised making it cheaper for FF anyway

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Posted By: sbeach
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:45pm
whether you support the idea of prescription for formula or not there would have to be a huge overhaul of some areas of community health before this would work in NZ...

I cannot imagine any of the GPs in my doctors office having more knowledge about BFing than is available on the net that I am able to find my self...with the exception of the one female who has kids (and because of that works reduced hours and is impossible to get appts with!!)

There would have to readily available LLL consultants or at least experienced BFing counsellor at doc offices and A&Es and 'walk ins' would have to be encouraged etc... just not feasible with the way things are now!

perhaps if this kind of support was already in place this topic would be a moot point!



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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:45pm
If your FFing, then you would know when your going to fun out of food, so make the appointment a week before hand or what ever (if you need to) You dont leave it till youve run out...

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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:50pm
Emmi, I agree, I would also do everything I could to bf as long as possible, but for people who want to give up, who decides when they've tried long and hard enough?

I just think it should be a personal decision left up to the parents just as if you choose to vaccinate or use cloth or disposable nappies. Sure nappies won't affect your childs health and wellbeing but vaccinations certainly could (either if you choose to or not).

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Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:51pm
Originally posted by sandie sandie wrote:

whether you support the idea of prescription for formula or not there would have to be a huge overhaul of some areas of community health before this would work in NZ...

I cannot imagine any of the GPs in my doctors office having more knowledge about BFing than is available on the net that I am able to find my self...with the exception of the one female who has kids (and because of that works reduced hours and is impossible to get appts with!!)

There would have to readily available LLL consultants or at least experienced BFing counsellor at doc offices and A&Es and 'walk ins' would have to be encouraged etc... just not feasible with the way things are now!

perhaps if this kind of support was already in place this topic would be a moot point!


Yea thats why I thought it wouldn't really be feasible. The medical professionals would need to be a lot more educated on bfing, or have specialists on site at all time, otherwise it would just be red tape for mothers.


Posted By: sbeach
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:52pm
I think most people would plan ahead once FF was established...

however in the beginning when they are having BFing problems etc, not being able to get an immediate appt would only compound a lot of the problems I would imagine...

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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:54pm
How I choose to feed my baby , is entirely MY business (and my husband's I guess but he supports my every decision anyway) if I don't want to breast feed because I don't want to , that is MY choice and anyone that thinks otherwise, can bugger off.

Yeah, formula might not be as great as Breastmilk, we've all seen /heard the studies but sometimes its necessary, and even when its not, its none of MY business, I will make it my business when people say they don't feed their kids AT ALL.

And quite frankly, I don't drop C off at school and think
"breast fed , bottle fed, breast fed , bottle fed bottle fed, breast fed " about each child.


Im very VERY anti this issue because breastfeeding Nazis made my close friends last 3 weeks of her life pure hell .

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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:56pm
Originally posted by TheKelly TheKelly wrote:


Im very VERY anti this issue because breastfeeding Nazis made my close friends last 3 weeks of her life pure hell .




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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:58pm
Originally posted by TheKelly TheKelly wrote:

How I choose to feed my baby , is entirely MY business (and my husband's I guess but he supports my every decision anyway) if I don't want to breast feed because I don't want to , that is MY choice and anyone that thinks otherwise, can bugger off.

Yeah, formula might not be as great as Breastmilk, we've all seen /heard the studies but sometimes its necessary, and even when its not, its none of MY business, I will make it my business when people say they don't feed their kids AT ALL.


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Posted By: fairy1
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 2:59pm
Nutritional things are prescribed so that people that need them can get a subsidy rather than pay the full cost. I havnt encounted things like gluten-free products being prescribed but I can understand why after seeing some of the affects they can have on some people. Things like fortisip, ensure are prescribed and they are counted as nutrition not medicinal.

I plan on breastfeeding until I go back to work as if I get the hours I want (during the day rather than evenings/nights) then I wont be able to express due to time constraints and limited space available during the day. Hard enough to get a lunch break somedays let alone time to express.

My MIL is a BF nazi and we have already had an email from her going on about how great it its and that there is no need to express so DH can feed him. It really p@#$ed me off and shocked DH. If I decide not to BF for whatever reason (wont be so I can drink and party) I want the option of formula feeding without having to struggle to get it. I think thats a womens right.







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Posted By: fairy1
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:02pm
Originally posted by TheKelly TheKelly wrote:

How I choose to feed my baby , is entirely MY business (and my husband's I guess but he supports my every decision anyway) if I don't want to breast feed because I don't want to , that is MY choice and anyone that thinks otherwise, can bugger off.

Yeah, formula might not be as great as Breastmilk, we've all seen /heard the studies but sometimes its necessary, and even when its not, its none of MY business, I will make it my business when people say they don't feed their kids AT ALL.

Im very VERY anti this issue because breastfeeding Nazis made my close friends last 3 weeks of her life pure hell .


*like* the first 2 paragraphs.
*dislike* the last one. Thats just horrible. I hate hearing that as I know thats what its going to be like for me from my MIL if I formula feed, or she knows Im expressing (if I do).

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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:02pm
put more support into helping All mothers breastfeed (and I'm referingt to those who are having their second, third, etc children) and we'll talk.

My boys went on formula because I had to go back to work and expressing wore me out (along with working and up all night breastfeeding). Help me stay at home for six months

I was ina double room with a woman whose baby cried all night. i wanted to get home, but I didn't have a car to get me back to the hospital for the LL talk. give me more educated breastfeeding educators and make it compulsory that they see each and every new mother

My mid wife was great but at three weeks I went to the care of plunket who forgot about appointments, who seemed disinterested when they arrived.
give more funding to plunket nurses etc so they aren't so overworked

and when i had Taine, i had a husband at work, no family support during the day and an extremely active toddler demanding attention
Help my family/husband be able to stay home in the first three weeks to help estaqblish breastfeeding

This country is fantastic compared to some in regards to breastfeeding, but if formula is to be available to only those who "can't" as opposed to those who "don't", then many more changes need to take place.


Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:05pm

Originally posted by melissag melissag wrote:

  If I decide not to BF for whatever reason (wont be so I can drink and party) I want the option of formula feeding without having to struggle to get it. I think thats a womens right.


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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:06pm

Ok I'm getting a little peeved at BF SUPPORTERS being called Nazis. Once again, people are lumping some of us into a rather derogartory category just cos we have firm- and differing- views on something.  If I was going to play this personal attack game, I could comment that TBH the Nazi term (if we're gonna get to this level) would better suit FF mothers IMO. In my experience, they raise hell, fire and damnation at being able to 'keep their rights' to FF, but never mind about the baby.  But I don't come onto these threads and name call because there isn't a need to. It sounds to me like there's a lot of guilt hanging about for some people, perhaps cos they DIDN'T BF?! I don't know and that's not my call to make....but please stop being so damn negative and personal against each other.

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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:07pm
Lizzle I also really like your post, all excellent points and I think a lot more positive than suggesting that formula should be prescription only.

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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:07pm
Lizzle- I like your post. Thank you for being so clear in what our needs as mothers are

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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:07pm
I really like Liz's post.

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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:08pm
Originally posted by melissag melissag wrote:

I want the option of formula feeding without having to struggle to get it. I think thats a womens right.


What about your babys right??


ETA Lizzle, I like your post too

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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:11pm

I didn't think BF supporters were being referred to as BF Nazis, its people who say BF is the only way and anything different is unhealthy, bad for baby or are a bad mother that get labelled as Nazi's. The same people that think FF feeding makes you a bad mother.

I certainly don't think my mother was a terrible parent for not bf me, if my plunket book is anything to go by, I was happy to be fed.



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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:13pm
Originally posted by caliandjack caliandjack wrote:

I didn't think BF supporters were being referred to as BF Nazis, its people who say BF is the only way and anything different is unhealthy, bad for baby or are a bad mother that get labelled as Nazi's. The same people that think FF feeding makes you a bad mother.



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Posted By: fairy1
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:17pm
Originally posted by Emmecat Emmecat wrote:

Ok I'm getting a little peeved at BF SUPPORTERS being called Nazis.



I think there is a big difference between bf supporters and BF Nazi. I refer to my MIL as being one as she thinks even expressing is wrong and that it shouldnt be done. Just wanted to clarify that.



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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:17pm

But most BF supporters probably DO think breast is best, and that as Mums we need more support etc adn that we should do what we can to make sure we CAN BF our babies....so therefore we seem to fall into this category of 'BF Nazi's'.  I've never ever said anything derogatory about a FF mum so why the hell should they say something about me as a BF mother?

TBH I actually hate the idea of the government monitoring who feeds their babies what, for me it's more that as a society we are better educated and that the multinational complanies who produce this formula as a viable option where it's not needed, need to be addressed...hence my thinking that prescription is actually a good idea. It would allow access to formula but would mean the huge amount of $$ going into company pockets could instead be used for , oh perhaps more LC's, in-home support etc???

Don't kid yourselves that some baby loving CEO is pushing formula our way out of altruism.



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Posted By: fairy1
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:20pm
I agree that there should be a lot more education and support available for BF mothers. Unfortunatley to do this there needs to be a lot more money put into the health sector for this and that just isnt going to happen. Any medical professional will say that there is not enough education provided int he hospital to staff let along patients and their families (not just BF), so if the staff arent supported and educated then how can mothers be. Its stupid cos it would make a big difference.

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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:22pm

Sorry I haven't read everyones posts, or listened to the radio - but if they think they can make buying formula through prescription only it's going to make the Doctor's VERY busy people and the people that are actually sick and NEED to see the Dr will lose out on appointments because they'll be taken up with people going to just get a formula prescription.

 

I don't see it ever happening to be honest.  A debate that is a waste of time because it's highly unlikely it'll ever go that way (formula on prescription only).



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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:23pm

I need a drink.

And not of breast milk.



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Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:28pm
Originally posted by Emmecat Emmecat wrote:

I need a drink.


And not of breast milk.


Well its after 3pm on a friday Emmecat, I believe it would socially acceptable :)


Posted By: BeLoved
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:29pm
Sorry but YAWN! Heard it all before, this is only going to get heated.

I BF and then BF & FF but I do not feel the need to force my views and opinions onto anyone else. I take my hat off to all the mums out there who do their thing, their way with confidence and pride in their decisions but don't find it necessary to bleat about it every chance they get, get over yourselves and move on!

And asking someone to fully explain how it is that they came to have no milk and were unable to BF, please but who the hell do you think you are?




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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:33pm
Originally posted by BeLoved BeLoved wrote:

And asking someone to fully explain how it is that they came to have no milk and were unable to BF, please but who the hell do you think you are?


Well my name is Emma
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Posted By: jakspaksing
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:40pm
the doc app would probably be just teh first visit then after than you would ring up they would print out or write up one and you go pick it up. i do this for my sons meds each mth although it cost me $10 each time to get this done and then the script itself luckly one is cheap and supsadiesed but one isnt so the thought that formula would be subsidised is abit of a wishfull thinking cause not all drugs are so doubt realy they would make it subsidised unless there was a real need medicaly for formula.

and i dont think anyone is calling anyone on here a nazi of either side only those that cant see it from the other side. im pro boob but sadly cant nothing there (although part of me dreams that maybe the bits have connected and nature has done a mirical) . cant remember who made the comment about "thinking about the baby etc" its comments like that that give the impression that those that FF arnt thinking of the baby. one lady said to me i was crule for choose to have a major opp on my boobs instead of feeding my babies. i was glad there was an option of formula.

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Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:43pm
Originally posted by jakspaksing jakspaksing wrote:

cant remember who made the comment about "thinking about the baby etc" its comments like that that give the impression that those that FF arnt thinking of the baby. one lady said to me i was crule for choose to have a major opp on my boobs instead of feeding my babies. i was glad there was an option of formula.

I think the person who made that comment is cruel tbh.


Posted By: fairy1
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:45pm
Originally posted by Emmi_ Emmi_ wrote:

[QUOTE=melissag] I want the option of formula feeding without having to struggle to get it. I think thats a womens right.


What about your babys right??


Its my babies right to be healthy and it for whatever reason if its better for me to FF (personally that wont be to party but for other reasons) then that means its better for him.

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Posted By: jakspaksing
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:54pm
yes kellie i do to and i gave it to her also showed her pics of me before and said you imagine milk coming into those boobs and tell me breast is best lol i would have had to get someone to hold the baby or prop bubs up on the bed while feeding and have at arms length to feed i was that big.   im going to leave this convo now and leave you all to it before it goes down a road that is not so nice.

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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 3:56pm

Originally posted by jakspaksing jakspaksing wrote:

emmecat call me ignorant most people do but how can you BF if you adopt or foster im abit confused.

 

I'm not sure if this has already been answered because I haven't read all the way through yet.

To stimulate milk production a woman would need to regularly express or let someone suckle on their breasts.  You do not need to have a baby for your body to respond, but it does help because during pregnancy hormones that stimulate milk production are released into your body.  You can get synthetic hormones and lactation drugs can help too but neither are necessary so back in '73 it could be done.



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Posted By: Renee & Lauren
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 4:00pm
Emmi - after 2 hrs of expressing (which I tried doing at 3 weeks - 1 week before I went away) I got maybe 5 mls. It was doing my head in sitting there with a breast pump and getting pretty much nowhere so that is why I didn't express.

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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 4:04pm
I hope I didnt offend you by my question Renee... (I was honestly just curious and wasnt an attack on you at all)

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Posted By: jakspaksing
Date Posted: 24 September 2010 at 4:06pm
MrsMojo wish that would work for me lol and be that simple. its funny the receptionist at where i had my op said , when i rang up when preg with my first, that he wouldnt have take the nipple of and i should still be able to breast feed etc lol mmm might help if she would look at my notes before saying that lol i should right away for my notes actualy it would be interesting.   but sadly i remembered right and those puppies are just for show. all boob and no fuction lol lol

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