*sob* no more public outings!
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Topic: *sob* no more public outings!
Posted By: Paws
Subject: *sob* no more public outings!
Date Posted: 03 September 2006 at 2:26pm
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Hubby and I just went to the mall for some lunch and get a Fathers Day pressie for his dad.
I have never felt so self concious in my life!! People had thier eyes GLUED to my belly to a point where I wanted to walk up to them and slap them!!!! I know between it being my last 2 weeks and Maddie having a generous swimming pool I'm sporting a fairly sizeable bump but oh my goodness it just felt so rude the way people were staring!!!! 
It doesn't help being tired and emotional too. All the same I think I'll hibernate (bar a few select trips to friends houses) until Maddie is here!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 03 September 2006 at 2:41pm
Awww.. I'm sure your bump is beautiful! You should just stare right back and then and make them turn away.. I did  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 03 September 2006 at 3:07pm
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thats what i use to dothe only thing that relly got me paws was when they touched my tummy and it was more men then woman sooo grosssss ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 03 September 2006 at 3:50pm
| oooh, now when someone asks you when you are due, turn around and say "actually I'm not pregnant" and watch them die of embaressment. that might help you feel better. Nothing like schadeunfreuden (or however you spell that thing that means gaining happiness from the misery of others) |
Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 03 September 2006 at 5:27pm
Well hasn't someone in here developed the America's Next Top Model super-ego - how do you know they were staring at you and not your hubby? He could have been sporting something dashing today that had them all staring...
 He wasn't wearing his undies on the outside again was he? They weren't your undies he was wearing on the outside either?
But seriously, staring is all part of the game. People stare at my belly when I'm out waddling around the mall. I figure it distracts from them noticing that I'm wearing my slippers and staring at my sheepskin footwear (I can't help it if they are both comfy and the only shoes that fit comfortably at present). As soon as the little miss is born they'll start ignoring you and staring into the pram to see the baby. Then a year or two will pass and they'll be staring at the toddler throwing an all out tantrum in Whitcoulls while you look helplessly on... In any case, if it was Glenfield Mall, be happy that they are staring at you for being a glowing pregnant soon-to-be-mum and not some Westie Bogun wandering around in her slippers....*oops* ------------- |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 03 September 2006 at 6:08pm
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Aw, Paws... the staring's just uncomfortable, innit!! I don't like that strangers stare at my belly now, and today I did manage to stare back at one until she turned away in shame... I'm liking your approach, though, Maree - niiiice! I stare at people's strollers now. It's tempting not to stop them and ask how they find each brand (even though we've got ours). Yes, I'm the creepy lady staring at some of you, probably! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 03 September 2006 at 6:34pm
Hmmmmm think I will have to use the "stare-em-down" approach next time...or my SIL's husband suggest I dash up to them yelling "yes I'm in labour I'm in labour help me help me!!!" 
Maybe I should get hubby to wear undies on the outside....then people wouldn't stare at my bump OR my slippers if I decided to wear them out! hehehehehehe ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 04 September 2006 at 1:04pm
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Hehe I'm another slipper-wearer-in-public, although with all the staring at the hippopotamus belly I doubt anyone even notices... I did get asked last week if I was overdue tho and the look on the lady's face when I told her I had 6 or so weeks to go was priceless - go on, ask another dumb question!
LMAO at Willie when we were at Countdown on Saturday, this young girl about 14 or so was staring I think at US as in me, him and Maya (we are a strange looking family ) but he thought just at ME so he went up to her and said "don't worry, one day you'll have a belly like that too and people will stare at you". It was funny, but still I wanted to curl up in a corner and die somewhere...-------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 04 September 2006 at 1:07pm
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she'll be right ---- go where ever you want, most people think pregnant bumps are amazing and gorgeous and I am sure if they had the guts to they would touch it too.... ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 04 September 2006 at 8:41pm
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I'm risking being hit by Gen here... I stare... well... not so much stare as gaze in admiration. Is that acceptable??? I try not to when I don't have Hannah, as people may think I'm a little strange... but atleast if I have the kid with me then they know that it's nostalgic
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 04 September 2006 at 8:49pm
he he... Nikki I was gonna say something similar. I dont think its necessarily bad staring, but I know it isnt nice on the receiving end. Along with people continually asking when you are due.  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 04 September 2006 at 9:09pm
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That's one thing I never ever do. Have absolute phobias about asking someone who isn't pregnant (Thanks Liz ).
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 05 September 2006 at 10:21am
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I ALWAYS stare at bellys now that I am pregnant. I know I shouldn't but I can't help it - I'm super jealous and I want to see what they are wearing. I try to do it with an admiring smile on my face but I don't know if I pull it off. hehe - I love preggy bellys - I think they are beautiful and the bigger the better!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 05 September 2006 at 1:31pm
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I could probably handle people having a casual glance a lot better but honestly this one lady had her eyes glued to my belly the whole time that I was walking down the mall towards the coffee club where she was sitting and I swear didn't leave my belly until I was around the corner and it was out of her sight (I know 'cos I turned around and checked!). It was really disconcerting...that was when I asked B if my waters had broken without me noticing! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 05 September 2006 at 2:18pm
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Oh poor you Paws!! That's so not nice. I'm always really conscious about making the object of my belly envy uncomfortable so I try not to stare and just pass a casual glance. I don't think I would cope very well with that amount of staring though. Not too long to go now... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 05 September 2006 at 2:30pm
I try at least give the person a smile to appear less obsessed and more wistful 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 05 September 2006 at 2:35pm
| Same thing happened to me on Sat. We went away to Napier for the weekend. I was sitting with MIL on a bench outside shops waiting for her friend and this oldish lady stared (complete with dropped jaw!)as she approached us, then turned around to look again 4 times as she went past! MIL called out " Do you want to take a picture?" Haha! I am kinda used to it now, happens all the time, but I was a lot smaller 6 weeks ago when I last saw MIL, and she hadnt seen people so obviously stare at me! |
Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 06 September 2006 at 9:05am
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Yeah Nikki I try to smile but then I got worried that they might think I find them funny!! Arrrrgggghhh - maybe I should just try and stop!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 06 September 2006 at 9:14am
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yup I get the looks too... actually I noticed the other day that I get more "kindly knowing smiles" than anythign else... it creeps me out - a stranger walks past and takes a look at my belly and must think "oh she is about to pop" and then I get it - the kindly nodding smile... almost like an approving type of thing like "there there dear - it will all be over soon" - eeuuw! I wish peope would stop smiling at me just cos I have a big belly! I have taken to glaring at them - doesnt stop the first smile - they do taht before I can glare, but it sure stops the kindly nodding after about 2 seconds...! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 06 September 2006 at 11:30am
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Oh Frantic, I smile at people with bellies cause I feel like Yay another mum having a baby! And then I remember that I carry really tiny and so obviously they can't pick immediately that I'm pregnant "like them", so then I feel a little silly. Ah well... a good thing for most of you's is that you're in the last month. Well done! ------------- |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 07 September 2006 at 7:09pm
| This is all a bit new for me... I liked the "knowing" smiles... it's all an introduction into the "Mummy club". I loved being (almost) part of it! |