Question about being Emotional?
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Topic: Question about being Emotional?
Posted By: babyblue88
Subject: Question about being Emotional?
Date Posted: 01 December 2010 at 7:23pm
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Sorry wasn't sure what to put for the topic!
I have been feeling very emotional lately when hearing/reading about babies being and being taken to newborn intensive care. My little girl who is now 9 months old was (unexpectedly) whisked away to NICU when she was born. I know it's normal being emotional, but it gets so bad that I can bawl my eyes out for a few minutes and gets rather embarrasing when I'm face to face with someone. Could it be something underlying or am I just a very emotional person? lol Thanks in advance 
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 01 December 2010 at 8:21pm
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It seems a fairly natural reaction to being reminded of your own traumatic experience. I had a pretty unpleasant birth experience, after planning and working hard to ensure a natural home birth, and for quite some time (DD is 11 months now), I've found it a bit hard to cope with other people's happy homebirth stories (there have been about 6 at work recently). Sometimes I've had to lock my office door and pretend I'm not there while I pull myself together. It is embarrassing. But I'm sure people understand if they know about your DD.
That said, if it's worrying you, a chat to the GP might be in order. It might help you to have a good chat to someone about it? ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kiwi2
Date Posted: 01 December 2010 at 9:03pm
| My daughter has a congenital heart condition. I was fine with dealing with it at the time and all the surgery but 6 months on I had an emotional period and I got really angry about it all for a while. I think it is normal to have a delayed experience and I have spoken to other who have experienced it too. I am ok now as it was 7 years ago and she is a healthy 14 year old now but whenever someone else starts going thru a similar experience to us I well up and get emotional. |
Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 01 December 2010 at 11:06pm
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Yeah, I get emotional when I see scary births as I had a pretty scary one....presume is pretty normal for a while. ------------- 
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 02 December 2010 at 4:47am
Well, I haven't got to the nine-month mark yet, but so far, I'm waaay more emotional than I was pre-baby, mostly because I'm constantly tired. In my case, not so much with the touching stories, but I just can't handle conflict now without tears it seems. I feel like a bit of a chook about it 
So I'd say it's pretty normal even with your regular birth, and the fact that you had some unexpected dramas makes it even more so. I wouldn't stress, just go with it, have a cry if you need to. -------------   
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Posted By: JadeC
Date Posted: 02 December 2010 at 5:19pm
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Is it impacting the rest of your life? Like, are you feeling worried/stressed/down for most of the day? If it's just when you hear those kind of stories, then I would say thats totally normal. I cried watching 16 and Pregnant today, and I swear I cry at every single NZ Post ad!! ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 03 December 2010 at 11:38am
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What you're going through is really normal. I'm the same as Kiwi2 - had a son suddenly diagnosed with a heart condition, had urgent surgery ..... I have self-diagnosed post-traumatic stress disorder. It's recognised to be common among parents who go through a major health scare with children. In my case, I was an absolute mess about 2 weeks after getting home from hospital, and then again about 3 months later. Luckily the nurse specialist had warned me about it. I also hate going to the heart ward, which we do every 6-12 months, and get incredibly tearful when I look through the photos. We also had a health scare with #2 the other day and both DH and I were in tears as we left the hospital.
It's an intense experience you go through and I think it affects you in ways you don't realise till later. You can get information and support throught http://www.tabs.org.nz/ - Trauma and Birth Support - you may find that talking to other parents who have been through a similar thing might be reassuring. ------------- Mum to two wee boys |