A letter to your MIL
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Topic: A letter to your MIL
Posted By: AzzaNZ
Subject: A letter to your MIL
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 8:47am
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Dear Mother-in-Law,
Please don't try to tell me how to raise my kids - I'm married to one of yours and believe me there's room for improvement! Sincerely Your Daughter-in-Law. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: DinoMum
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 8:54am
AzzaNZ - I think I will be writing the exact same letter in the next 20 weeks. Definitely made me smile.  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: Mrs_R
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:35am
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Dearest Mother-In-Law,
It is not okay to:
I know you're only trying to 'help', but you drive me NUTS!!! Please respect my privacy and stop interferring in matters that don't concern you. If I want your advice, I'll ask for it. Respectfully, Your Daughter-in-law ETA: phew, nice to get that off my chest! Good thread idea Azza.. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:40am
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Mrs_R, I would want to KILL her! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:54am
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Aww that's funny AzzaNZ.
Accept I have a great MIL she doesn't do any of those things, she changes nappies and cleans the house for us when she's here. I managed to live with my ILs for 4 months it was great. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: luvmylittlies
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:59am
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hahahaha AzzaNZ. My MIL is pretty good and I love my boyfriend but I've definitely mumbled those words to myself at times! ------------- Adoring Mum to Talisin 8/9/11 and Kiara 18/01/10 |
Posted By: newme
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 10:00am
| Ha ha, I wouldn't even know where to start with the letter to my MIL.... |
Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 10:40am
Arhhhhh neither. I could actually be writing all day 
One thing from this week though. Dearest Mother in Law Dont tell my daughter that mummy is a meanie because i wont let her have a biscuit at 430pm right before dinner time From your lovely Daughter in law -------------  
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hila1 wrote:Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 11:37am
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Oh mine would pages long... I love the woman and it all comes from a good place but my goodness sometimes i just want to slap her.
My biggest issue would remain: Dear Mother-in-Law, Please do not say to my children "oh you don't want your stink Mummy" when in fact they quite clearly DO want their "stink" mummy! Regards Your Daughter-in-Law -------------   
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Posted By: KrazeeKaz
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 11:58am
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Mine would be the opposite, it would be a letter to my mother. My DF's mother is absolutely awesome.
Melnel - mine would also be pages long, but here is a short version. Dear mother, He is my son, please do not intefer and try to tell me how to raise him. And when I say this is how I like it done, dont do the opposite as it ruins all the hard work I have done. And I am not going to apologise for my 'attitude', I am doing the best that I can for my boy. Your faithfully, Your idiot daughter. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 12:04pm
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Mine would be to my FIL lol.
Dear FIL, When DD wants me please don't say to her "mum who...who cares about mum", it kinda hurts. And its weird when you play make belive with her dollys and tell the dolly shes naughty, stupid and dirty.... not words I really like using to be honest. You usually totally awesome but yeah... Yours sincerly, Daughter in law ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 1:01pm
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Bahhahahahahahaha Brilliant!!
Mine would be, Dearest MIL, You will never fully appreciate how thankful I/We are that you live at the opposite end of the island from us. Yours Sincerely, Your Son & Daughter-in-law ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: millymollymandy
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 1:09pm
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Gosh I ahve to say mine would be...
Dear MIL, Please come home, I know the rest of the family love seeing you but, 10 days is long enough and your grandaughter really misses you playing with her. Love, US MY IL are awesome, totally OTT and besotted grandparents but I coudn't get by without them. They must know something as they a pretty special man. My parents are great too! I wish they all lived around teh corner. |
Posted By: Mucky_Tiger
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 1:38pm
Dearest MIL, just because I got fat and find maternity jeans comfortable as my tummy expands and shrinks (as does every womans) does not give you due cause to ask you son "so you knocked her up and now your stuck with her ae" from, "the knocked up"/fat one |
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 1:59pm
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Dear MIL,
When you treat my daughter like a person, not a prop for you to take photos with, I will consider making the effort to bring her to see you. Until then, I will continue to prioritise the people who've actually been there for us in our year of need. With very little remaining tolerance, your DIL ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 2:28pm
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Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 2:35pm
| Oh what a brilliant idea. Mine too would be a novel, again nice person/people but I'm loathe to set my bil up with anyone I actually like. |
Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 2:41pm
| Dearest Parents-In-law, Whilst it is hurtful that you never make an effort to come & see your grandchildren or son despite you living nearby & being retired, I'm actually quite relieved. From Your Does-nothing-you-can-brag-to-your-friends-about-therefore-unimportant Daughter-in-law. |
Posted By: AnnaShev
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 3:06pm
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i could write one of these, because the length would rival an encyclopedia, and also a family member DID do this to my mother in law AND gave it to her, she ignored it and attempted to get them commited to the psychiatric unit at the hospital ------------- http://daisypath.com" rel="nofollow">   <
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Posted By: luvmylittlies
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 3:43pm
------------- Adoring Mum to Talisin 8/9/11 and Kiara 18/01/10 |
Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 4:25pm
OH lordy!
Hehe My MIL thankfully isnt too bad. Albeit we do live in different countries at the moment. ETA spelling ------------- Our Angel July 08 Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 6:13pm
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Wow some in-laws! Mine would be to my FIL too:
Dearest Father-In-Law No I am not a mean mummy because I won't let my daughter drink coke. Yes I know we are all going to die one day, but I don't need to hear about how the baby in my tummy is going to die and that I just have to accept that  Yes it may well be true but I don't want to think or talk about it.
Just because DD looks at whipped cream, doesn't mean you need to try and spoon feed it to her. Honestly, who eats straight whipped cream? Yes I may be pregnant with your grandson, but that doesn't mean you need to rub your hands all over my belly while telling everyone in the room "it's my grandson and I can rub him if I want to" You don't need to pick my daughter up and tell her over and over again that you're her grandad. She knows that, even though you and MIL have been to visit her 4 or 5 times in her life despite living 15mins drive away. I could go on, but that's enough for now 
Your daughter-in-law ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: MrsH
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 6:22pm
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Can I just say? There are some weird FILs out there that's for sure!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 7:36pm
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Why on earth is he telling you your baby is going to die?! What a nutjob!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: wellymummy
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 8:43pm
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Dear MIL,
Thank you for still being a part of my DS's life even if his father is a bit of a douche-bag and walks out on us after 5 months. We are sad that you live on the other side of the world but are SO happy that you are here for a whirlwind visit for his bday! |
Posted By: smw85
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:12pm
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Dear MIL,
When our son is only a week old, and you have seen him already four times, do not get upset, offended and start crying on the phone trying to emotionally blackmail your son when we tell you that you can't visit because I am battling an awful case of mastitis and don't want visitors! Then don't be in a huff for a entire whole month. When you do finally make contact it is when you call DH on his cellphone asking if he is alone. When he says, no my wife is right next to me, don't say, oh I want to talk to you privately so ring me when you are alone. AND when DH can't be bothered with your sh!t and doesn't ring you, don't ring up a week later (still not asking how we are getting on with a newborn or how your grandson is!) at 8.30pm saying you want DH to drive 30 mins to your place so you can talk in private. I am never ever going to let you walk over me and my family like you do with your husband and kids. Who all just go along with your certifiable craziness just to keep the peace. When my DH stands up to you, it isn't me telling him to do so, the most tolerant and patient man is just over your bs. And when you pretend nothing is wrong and act all sweet I am not going to play that game. I am going to ignore you like the b!tch you are. From your zero tolerance for sh!t, I just want a simple life, Daughter-inlaw ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: becky
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:18pm
OMG I think we have the same MIL or they are twins seperated at birth!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: smw85
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 9:26pm
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Omg you poor thing Becky!!
Tell me, warn me what is coming next...! :-) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: fallen
Date Posted: 11 March 2011 at 10:29pm
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Dear MIL
How dare you OD a couple of days after our son was born just because the attention wasn't on you! If you try something stupid like that when our daughter is born I will not be insisting that my DF send you photos and make an effort to be in contact just because you are his mother/the baby's grandmother. When we came to Aussie over Christmas I was shocked with how uninterested you were in your grandson. We contacted you many times with suggestions of visits etc, but each time you had no petrol or were busy etc. I always thought DF was exagerating when he spoke of how you were. Sadly now I see that he wasn't. I am glad we live in different countries. Having you nearby really puts me off moving to Oz. Regards "That woman"... you know, the one who stole your son away from you. ------------- |
Posted By: PorterLou
Date Posted: 12 March 2011 at 11:41am
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Mine is a bit different...
Dear Mother, Please don't use you "I'm disappointed" speech on me just because I am living in sin, engaged without a ring yet, not rushing to get married and maybe going to have a baby first, just because it doesn't fit with your beliefs and is not what my sisters have done (girls, if you read this, remember that I love you both!). I am 30 years old and VERY HAPPY with my life and the choices I made. I have not done anything I didn't want to do. Please just be proud of me. Love, your oldest Also, sorry to those who don't have the best IL's, but... Dear MIL, Thank you for being a wonderful MIL, who loves me like a daughter and supports me more than my mother does. Love, DIL2B -------------   
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Posted By: Kazper
Date Posted: 12 March 2011 at 3:37pm
I think I also have the same MIL. Oh and dear MIL, because I gained 8kg over my entire pregnancy does not give you the right to go around telling people I'm such a lazy fat person and that no one gains that much and I used pregnancy as an excuse to gain - WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/545141" rel="nofollow">  |
Posted By: newme
Date Posted: 12 March 2011 at 8:36pm
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Dear MIL
When someone tells you they have had a miscarriage, it is not polite to respond 'well, what about my bbq tomorrow - I hope you are still coming'. And then it is even ruder to actually ignore me for my entire last pregnancy, not once asking how I was doing, or about the baby. And once your grandchild was born, you have not once asked me about the birth, or anything. You are just so concerned about what a bad mother I am cos he had reflux! And you get so annoyed we never come to see you, even though we make the effort at least once a month, when you have never once come to see us - you say you have no petrol money, but you go up to Auckland regularly enough. and I don't want any parenting advice from you EVER. You are a terrible terrible mother. You tell my husband, the only one of your children who makes an effort with you, that his brother is your favourite. Well, thats just rude. And stop texting him, telling him that he isn't cut out to do the job he is doing. How about believing in him??? Regards, Your DIL PS Don't bother getting me another xmas present. Dish cloths and tea towels are just an insult. |
Posted By: AbzandH
Date Posted: 12 March 2011 at 8:48pm
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Mines a lil different to
Deal MIL, You are an amazing and beautiful person. Why are you with such an idiot?? I'm sorry to tell you people judge you because of him. He is nothing but a d*ckhead. Who doesn't move their hot coffee (in their hand) when a 6 month old is about to put their hand in it?? You can do so much better, you deserve so much better. You sadly are missing out with your son and grandson because of that complete loser. But I do love you. Regards, Hopefully your one day DIL |
Posted By: Shelt
Date Posted: 12 March 2011 at 10:18pm
This sounds a lot like my (thankfully now) ex-MIL. Who cried and then got in a massive huff because she had a cold and I was so inconsiderate to a) give birth to a prem baby when she was sick and b) not let her visit said prem baby while she had the cold. She didn't see DD for 5 months because she was so upset at me. No call to see how we were, no card no nothing. Bitch. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 13 March 2011 at 8:45am
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Dear soon-to-be MIL
Its our wedding, not yours and not the families. I understand that its the first family wedding in 30 years but that doesnt change the fact. Oh and forgot asking us the invite anyone you want- your not paying for ANYTHING so you dont get a say in it. And yes its DF telling you no as well not just me because we are a team and both know what we want! PS my parents are paying for most things and are being fantastic. Mum wants us to have the perfect day because she knows we are only going to do it once From your soon-to-be DIL and your son (who are going to have the best day ever at THEIR wedding) |
Posted By: QTMum
Date Posted: 13 March 2011 at 9:09am
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Dear Mother in Law
House guests and fish go off in three days. Please remember this the next time you invite yourself to stay. Also when we say "it's not a great time actually we are renovating", that means do not come. It certainly does not mean come on down and let us spend the week paying for EVERYTHING and running around after you when we have a baby due in 1 month. I know it's a nice, cheap, relaxing holiday for you but you cost us a fortune. Do NOT come back down after the baby is born unless you book yourself into a hotel. I can't handle having you here again. With no love and certainly no respect Your daughter in law ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 13 March 2011 at 10:40am
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 13 March 2011 at 10:41am
Are you freakin kidding me!! you are these horrible women!! My mother in law lives in the UK, but I doubt she would take such freedoms and if she or anyone else spoke like that or took such liberties I would be very vocal about it!! ------------- http://lilypie.com]
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Posted By: snugglebug
Date Posted: 13 March 2011 at 11:48am
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Kazper I gained 25kg during my pregnancy due to pre eclampsia so I think gaining 8 kg is wonderful! How weird your mother in law would say that when that's about usual if not lower!
Dear MIL, Please stop calling me every day for a progress report. I am a good mother, even if one day he doesn't sleep or do the things on your checklist. Your own children are not perfect so stop picking apart the job I'm doing with mine. Why are you always so standoffish and rude to certain people? It's so obvious. You think they don't like you but you don't even like them and you show it! Everything is all about you and how you feel and your emotions. Open your eyes. You have your family wrapped around your little finger but not me. I see what you do. ------------- Me 28, DH 29 DS born 20 Nov 2010 (4 years old) #2 due October 7 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 13 March 2011 at 1:03pm
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Dear MIL
we miss you, and wish you'd been able to live long enough to know your first grandchild would be the beautiful little girl you'd alsways wanted, and would have loved to bits, shes growing up to be more and more like you which I am sure you would have been thrilled about. And now we have a gorgeous little boy to pass on the family name, and you'll never know of him, and they'll never get the chance to know their nana, and what makes it so hard is that FIL has no interest in either of them, where you would have more than made up for that lack of interest... Our wee man is 11 days old and my own mother hasnt even met him yet, you would have been over here every day spoiling your grandkids rotten... We'll never stop missing you. ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: BessieBear
Date Posted: 13 March 2011 at 3:28pm
Ditto except it would normally be potatoe chips or lollies cause you have to have a starter....... *eye roll* ------------- Sarah Mum to, Boy 07/2008, Girl 03/2010, Boy 05/2012, Angel 07/08/2014
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Posted By: BessieBear
Date Posted: 13 March 2011 at 3:34pm
LOL you are so so brave you sinner. ------------- Sarah Mum to, Boy 07/2008, Girl 03/2010, Boy 05/2012, Angel 07/08/2014
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Posted By: PorterLou
Date Posted: 13 March 2011 at 4:49pm
Hope you're gonna have my back miss? -------------
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Posted By: febbabe
Date Posted: 14 March 2011 at 2:05pm
I could have written this letter 3 years ago Hope you have a lovely day regardless
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