The baby/toddler ear piercing debate
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Topic: The baby/toddler ear piercing debate
Posted By: Delli
Subject: The baby/toddler ear piercing debate
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 8:55pm
Seeing as the other thread was just a question about where to get it done rather than on what your opinion on the matter was, I thought I'd start a spin off thread on the topic - being the judgmental judger I am, I rather like a good ole controversial topic being discussed every once and a while 
My opinion on the matter: I'm not really that passionate about the topic but don't much care for it. Don't see the point in it. Toddlers are cute enough without trying to add earrings into the mix (along with the potential for sore ears, tears and infection). I'll throw another spanner in the works (while I'm being judgemental and all) and say I don't buy the "its for religious reasons" excuse either. 
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 9:00pm
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I'm in the 'dont get it done until they are old enough to ask 5 times' camp...
I wont get my DD's ears pierced just because its cute, I got mine done when I was 6 and my grandmother took me to get them done, much to my mothers disgust (she had said no already) but I was able to look after my ear piercings by that age I say 5 times rather than just once, as a little girl might see a friend with earrings and ask as a spur of the moment thing, but after 5 (on seperate occaions!) times then its obviously something thats being thought about. ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 9:09pm
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I'm in the don't care what other people do to their children camp. Really ear piercing if a parent wants to then why not?
Curious though would you let your boys get their ears pierced? Personally I didn't get my own ears pierced until I was able to pay for it myself and was in my teens, that's about when DD will be getting hers. Unless she asks earlier then I'll consider her request when it happens. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: HuntersMama
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 9:12pm
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I don't like it on really little kids, think it looks wrong and it just for the parents. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 9:17pm
I dont like it either. DD wont get hers done until 10ish. I guess ill see how i feel about it later in life. I dont really wear earrings myself though so she doesnt even know what they are 
However if others want to do there own children's thats their choice. No concern of mine -------------  
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 9:29pm
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I don't wear earring either but have both ears pierced twice.
I personally don't care what someone else does with their child in terms of ear piercing. In some cultures and religions it is done for very special and symbolic meaning. Having studied Anthropology. Anyway, if DD wants them done then that will be fine but I wouldn't look at getting them done until she was about 10. My ears did get infected but I couldn't stop touching mine and it was a result of a ear piercing gun and the earring being put on far too tight that they couldn't even get the butterfly off the back at the doctors! I found they also got infected a lot having to take them out for sport or if I wore cheap and nasty earrings. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 9:32pm
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That was the reason I wasn't allowed them when I was younger as I played netball in primary school and we weren't allowed to wear earrings when playing. In case they got caught and we ripped our ears. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Delli
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 9:41pm
Why not? Among other reasons: Because it hurts. Because it can get infected. Because babies and toddlers can rub their ears causing the earrings to fall out. The loose earring can go into their ear canal and potentially pierce their ear drum or fall outside the ear and become a swallowing hazard (normally not such a problem with something so small except earrings tend to have nasty pins on the that can do all sorts of damage). Because babies and toddlers crawl and run about the place, fall off things, engage in rough play - all of which could potentially rip the earring from the lobe. I hope those that get their babies done at least wait until they have had all of their tetanus shots 
I'm not sure at what age I'd allow my kids to get earrings. My parents had a rule that if you wanted your ears pierced you could get them done at your 10th birthday or if you really wanted them before that, you had to save up and pay for them to be done yourself. I kind of like that rule because it meant you had to be really committed to getting them - it wasn't just a spontaneous thing.
Yes, I would let my boys get theirs done (at an appropriate age, not sure what that is yet) if they wanted them. I don't see why it would be any different for boys - but that's a whole 'nother debate I guess ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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caliandjack wrote:Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 9:57pm
Damn, I was going to do the "thank goodness I have boys and don't need to worry" line. It's unlikely I'd allow my boys to get it done till they were pre-teen/early teens. Most schools don't allow boys to wear earrings. I wasn't allowed to have mine done till I was 18. My parents eventually relented and let me have them done at 16. They grounded me cos I got 2 holes in each ear instead of one. If I had girls, I'd be saying 9-10+. And yes, I'm inconsistent saying my boys would need to be older. Don't know why, probably because I'm not a big fan of boys with earrings. That said, it's not a huge deal to me cos they can just take them out and let them grow over. But back to the OP - definitely not a fan of little kids having them. ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 10:04pm
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Not to mention earrings are shiny and to another kid... HELLO!
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Posted By: HoneybunsMa
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 10:12pm
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I don't think little kids need them and won't be getting DD's done until she asks and then will have to discuss it with her. In saying that I never even considered getting them done till our friend got her daughters.
I was 8 I think, I can't even remember if I asked for them to be done, I must have surely. Mine got infected once but I think that was because I didn't turn them? I was meant to turn them once a day and put the meths on them to keep them clean and stop them healing over. I now rarely wear earrings as I was only allowed sleepers or studs at school and I kept losing them lol. I did have the top done and that was with a needle but lost the earring at work one day when I had to take it out, now its healed over and a piece of cartilage sticks out abit. I did enjoy that one done though hehe DD knows what earrings are as her aunties and dubby (grandma) wear them and she plays with them in their ears. As I said in the other thread Czech pierces from birth and apparently they have studs that are different from the ones here I think the back is flat and they are pushed through from the back instead of the front leaving what we would call the butterfly at the front. Haven't really looked at them to know though ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: mothermercury
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 10:21pm
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I think it's pretty unnecessary for very young children. We'll only cross that road once my girl is a) old enough to really want pierced ears, b) she is able to understand that it will hurt, and c) she understands that she needs to look after the piercings.
If I had a boy, I would let him have his ears pierced, but the same conditions apply. I just don't really see the point of inflicting unnecessary pain on a baby just to make them look "pretty" or whatever. That decision will lie with my child. I hardly ever wear earrings myself, so it's not an important thing to me at all! |
Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 10:46pm
| I'm in the "I don't care what you do with your kid" camp. But would like to just point out that those who seem very anti-piercing are those with younger children. My two eldest daughters have theirs done (aged 5 & 7), we have had no issues whatsoever apart from one gunky hole from grotty public swimming pool (she'd just had them done), alcohol swab, all better. I don't see what tetanus vacs has to do with it, the piercings are sterile, gold over surgical grade stainless steel. |
Posted By: Madi
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 10:47pm
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I personally don't like the look of it on babies. I would prefer to wait until she is completely capable of looking after them herself, I had mine done around 11 and think that is a good age. Things change tho so who knows how I'll feel about it in 5, 10 or even 15 years from now. I also don't feel it's my place to judge when people get their babies/kids ears pierced, we all have our own opinions and it sucks when someone else judges your parenting techniques or offers unwanted 'advice' ------------- 
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 10:55pm
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I dont care what others do, but for me personally I dont like piercings on babies/toddlers/young people and wont allow for it until an appropriate age. Not too sure what that age is yet, perhaps 8-10 years maybe older.
I think its a bit unfair to go putting holes into someone elses body if they havent asked for it to be done. ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 18 June 2011 at 11:01pm
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Alia has asked a few times, but we've compromised on an age, me 16 her 8 LOL
I am not in favour of them until she's old enough to not be at risk of them ripping out of her ears, she does ballet & Gym which would be fine but she also wants to play netball & she plays touch so those are too contact for my liking to have ears pierced just yet. I don't care what others do & think that babies look ridiculous but do think that getting done really really young is actually better than when they are 1 or 2 cause then they are so used to them so don't play with them as such. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 3:48am
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I dont like it in young kids, I ahd to be 13, and DD will be 13+ (older if she doesnt want them done) when she gets hers done.
I have a friend from high school/primary school who had an earing torn out of her ear when she was at preschool... 20+ years later its still torn and she cant wear earings in it (falls out obviously) I dont want to risk my kid going through that (especially if shes anything like DH or I who have played a lot of sports!) And the boy, yep he can get his done, same rules apply (why wouldnt they?) Oh and older (16+) for any other G rated piercings ------------- 
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 5:13am
I'd let DS get his ear pierced but i wouldnt do it for him. I know people who had their ears done as toddlers and never like to wear earings but always have the hole/scar and are self concious about it. For my imaginary daughter, i'd say not until she's old enough to take them in and out by herself so she can take them out to play netball etc and put them back in later. Probably also wait til she asks then make her wait at least a year, holding it over her head going if you get a good report, then we'll get them done. No wait! Two good reports and you keeping your room tidy for a month. No wait! All of that AND being nice to your brother until she nags so much i give in. Like my mom did 
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 6:39am
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I don't see the need/point in getting a young child's ears pierced. And doing for "cuteness factor" is just ridiculous imo. Deforming a child, and let's face it, it is deformation, for beauty is so wrong. Not to mention the pain and potential problems that go along with it
Like Mum did with me, around ten (if that's what my children want). ETA - I will admit that I do judge those that pierce Babies/toddlers. Someone said that we shouldn't be "judging others parenting techniques", to me this isn't a parenting technique, it isn't a case of different styles of discipline etc, it is a choice, a decision that affects your child's body and how they will look for the rest of their lives, not too dissimilar to circumcision really, although admittedly on a smaller scale. -------------  
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Posted By: pudgy
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 7:23am
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I thimk itlooks cheap and tacky on little babies. I don't accept religion as an excuse either. Really what religion requires you to subject your child to pain ? Its not like an 18 month old is able to make that decision.
I judge the parents of babies with pierced ears too. I think deep down we all do, just not everyone will admit it. It is after all human nature to judge others decisions /actions. And I agree with Mama T, I don't seeear piercing as a parenting technique. If ddever wants them done it will be at an age she can look after them herself. Probably 10 +. I really just can't comprehend people hurting their babies so thy look " pretty" ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 7:46am
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The only babies/toddlers I've seen with pierced ears are indian babies whom I assume do it for cultural reasons.
I don't get the need for a debate over it. Then this is OB and people debate whether the sky is blue in this forum. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 8:24am
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I don't see the need for it & now days don't think it says "cute baby girl" like it did yrs ago.
If I had had a girl 10yrs ago instead of a boy maybe I would of done the ear piercing thing..but I had a boy & then 2 more boys, no I would not get my boys ears pierced or let them get get it done or a tattoo till they are older & can pay for it themselves & well maybe left home
I think in boys it gives them an image I don't want mine to portray..I mean if you see a boy in primary school with his ears pierced what do you think... |
Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 9:02am
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I think there's plenty worse you can do to a kid than pierce their ears, and I think in reality the risks just aren't that great that I'd think someone was abusing the kid or anything.
In saying that, I think it looks cheap on little kidlets, and even if I didn't I wouldn't do it till the kids are old enough to ask for and look after them themselves (like most people here by the looks). I'd let Jacob get his done if he wanted, when he's older (but I kind of hope he doesn't want, I don't like the look myself!) -------------   
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 9:33am
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The other issue is the message that is being sent to the little girl about beauty. Piercing a little girls ears tells her that she isn't beautiful enough the way she is. -------------
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 10:32am
Exactly... but why not discuss it though, it's interesting to see others views. I for one would love to know the view on it from a religious point of view. Yes it's inconsequential in the grand scheme of things but still interesting. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 10:32am
Ahh I so agree caliandjack. Hence why Im not giving my 2 cents on the subject as no doubt someone will challenge me and I cant be bothered with it! ------------- |
Posted By: mothermercury
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 11:07am
Hey, it's the internet, people debate! Compared to other forums, the debates on here are pretty tame too. Nothing wrong with a bit of hearty discussion every now and then.
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Posted By: mizpix
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 11:13am
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My 2 cents worth
I hate the look of piercings in young children, it looks tacky and almost makes them look too grown up, a bit like those silly parents who dress their kids up for beauty pagents. Two girls I know had their babies done before they were a year old...looked really silly. I asked to have mine done when I was a teenager. Mum said not till I was 16. I never got mine done, I only ever asked because everyone else had theirs done. Now I am very happy not to have any extra holes. I certainly could not condone doing it to a child before they were able to comprehend what that action meant ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2920e5" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart |
Posted By: Troods
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 12:16pm
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My ears were pierced when I was 3. I actually remember getting it done, but don't remember any pain or being scared or crying. But then again I've always been good with needles and stuff as a kid and have a pretty high pain threshold anyway. I didn't have any problems with them until I was about 8 or 9 when they would get a bit infected, but I think that was more to do with my mum putting earrings in that weren't hypoallergenic (some cheap pretty girly things which I didn't really like anyway). Went back to studs or sleepers and they were fine.
DD3 has been commenting on my earrings alot lately and asking me about getting earrings when she's a bit older (and she's by no means a girly girl). I'm not sure yet when I'll get them done, but it won't be until she fully understands what it's all about and how it's done etc. And whether that time is next year or 10+ years time, it really doesn't bother me what age she is, so long as it's her own informed choice. TBH I don't really have a personal view for or against parents who choose to get their childrens ears pierced, but I do think piercing young babies ears simply so that they "look cute" is a stretch too far. When it comes down to cultural/religious reasons however, I don't think it's anyone's place to comment on that side of it, whether it is up for debate or not. I am most definitely not a cultural/religious person myself, but I do believe those who are are entitled to their beliefs and traditions without criticism from others. ------------- 
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Posted By: Delli
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 12:42pm
Yes I have baby and a toddler. This thread is about babies and toddlers. I'm not sure what relevance having older children has on the matter. Perspective? When the kids are not toddlers any more, will I think that piercing babies and toddlers ears is not that bad?
Tetanus is a bacteria that can be picked up from the soil and enters the body through open wounds. So, even if equipment has been sterilised - while the piercing is still healing, babies who have not had their shots are still vulnerable to tetanus infection. Babies complete their tetanus shots at 5 months though (with boosters after that), so after 5 months there is less risk. That's all I was getting at - not that piercing is a dirty, filthy business
I'm not against piercing. I have piercings myself. Just think piercing toddlers and babies is unnecessary. Older children doesn't bother me so much (not that this topic bothers me a great deal!) as they would have been much more capable of having an input into the decision.
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Posted By: Delli
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 12:56pm
I don't agree . I feel people are perfectly within their rights to criticise a practise of body mutilation of children based on religious or cultural views.
I'd hazard a guess that 99.9% of people here don't think female circumcision done on children because of culture/religion is a good thing and would have no problem openly criticising the matter. Yes - Ear piercing is on a much MUCH smaller scale than female circumcision, so please don't think that if you have had your baby or toddlers ears pierced that I am saying you may as well have given her a circumcision as well.... I am NOT saying that. All I am saying is that I think people should be able to criticise a practise even if it is done for religious/cultural reasons. Religion/culture doesn't give you an automatic "get out of jail free" card. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 2:01pm
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I don't have much to add,my daughter's ears were pierced when she was 7 I think.Maybe 6.*sigh* its so long ago I can't remember.
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Posted By: Troods
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 2:44pm
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Fair enough Delli that is your view and you are entitled to it, as is anyone entitled to their own views including my own, however my point on cultural/religious reasons is directed towards ear piercing babies/toddlers as this is what this thread is about.
As for jumping to the other end of the scale and raising the issue of female circumcision, yes I completely do not agree with that practice either, but like you said ear piercing is on a much smaller scale comparatively, and the barbaric issues of femal circumcision, in my opinion, is a completely different kettle of fish as opposed to the issues of ear piercing (or even male circumcision), and occurs in a sad sad world that is a far cry from the society we are living in here where the topic of ear piercing is being discussed here amongst a group of loving parents whether we are of a cultural/religious background or not. I'm not trying to say all cultures/religious groups should simply get a "get out of jail free" card for all of their practices, certainly there are some practices I definitely don't like. But when culture/religion comes into play on something like ear piercing, I just don't feel it's my place to judge or point finger and say it's wrong. Of course you and others may feel you should, but if that's how you feel then you are entitled to your views and opinions too, but in my opinion it seems a bit judgemental and and I'm just putting it out there. BTW going off topic - Thanks Kelly. -------------
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 3:27pm
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I would never have my children's ears pierced at a young age, and never without them wanting it done. To me it seems so unnecessary and inflicts needless pain... I agree Delli, I don't think religious/cultural reasons are sufficient to justify making holes in babies/toddlers.
I let my daughter get her pierced at 10, when she was able to care for them herself. I had wanted her to be older but she hounded me and I gave in in the end
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Posted By: SBM
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 5:01pm
I haven't read all the replies but just wanted to say that I had my ears pierced when I was 2-3 days old. It's a tradition in the Philippines (I just talked to my mum about it, she said she didn't think it was religious, it's just what is done) for baby girls to have their ear's pierced, and baby boys to be circumcised!!! I'm very glad I am a girl 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 5:07pm
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I got mine done when I was 6 years old. My parents did the ask so many times and I got it done. I remember it happening and remember my mum telling me I would be big girl getting them done as I would have to look after them. I got my second hole done when I was 13 on the sly (my dad told me I couldn't do it) when I was out roaming, me and 3 other friends got piercings done at the same time. Having boys has meant I haven't really had to think about it. If my boys asked for them to have it done I would wait till he had asked a number of times before I thought about getting it done. |
Posted By: SBM
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 5:17pm
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Oh and I no longer wear earrings, haven't since I was about 14yo, so I'm almost the reverse of most girls! I do however still have holes in my ears, and every few years I try and stick something blunt through there to see if they're still open, haven't done it in many years now but would bet that they are. I imagine that since I got them done so young that the holes grew with me to the point that they are too big to heal over. I'm not too worried about it, they're not too noticable.
As for my DD wanting her ears pierced... I don't have any strong views either way, I imagine it will be a matter of the reasons why she wants it combined with how mature she is. Because it is so reversible I don't think I would mind too much, in comparison to asking for a tattoo, which I would basically never give permission for, so she'd have to wait til the law allowed her to do it by herself! |
Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 7:55pm
Exactly how I see it. I've told Paul I don't mind if Jacob gets his ear pierced or his hair dyed, but no tattoos!! (Not sure if he wanted multiple piercings in unusual places... I really don't like the look, but aren't sure whether I'd object or not...) -------------
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 8:25pm
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i have pierced ears, and had a pierced nose and eye brow and had my lug done too. I dont care if my daughter gets her ears pierced but i wouldnt do it when she was little cause i couldnt be bothered having to look after them and am too cheap to pay for it anyway.
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 8:26pm
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 9:49pm
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I have several piercings and there is no way I would get my child done before she was old enough to ask and know what she was asking for. If I was that keen on a piercing I'd just get another one for myself
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 9:50pm
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 9:55pm
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All I can think of when I read this thread is prince alberts & I really don't want to know when my child does that! ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 9:58pm
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Haha Kel, now that would be an interesting thing for our boys to ask if they can have done. |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 19 June 2011 at 10:17pm
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My sister had my nieces ears pierced at a young age, she was younger than 9 monthst but cant remember...
I personally wouldnt do it but I shudder at the thought of doing it at all. I know how much it hurts having had 2 sets of holes and a lip piercing as an adult and I dont want my babies to feel that pain at any age. There are worse things a parent could do than pierce and ear.... -------------   
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 20 June 2011 at 9:29am
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not something I have given much thought to to be honest since I have 3 sons but I do have a friend who has a 6 year old who is asking to get hers done, she has decided it will be a 10th birthday thing, to celebrate the double digits and hopefully she will be old enough and responsible enough to care for them ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 20 June 2011 at 10:56am
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TBH I think its kinda tacky... ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 20 June 2011 at 10:32pm
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Hmm just saw this... naughty of me to miss a debate
I'm like fattarts (wow, how often does THAT happen?!), I think it looks tacky on babies/toddlers. As for me, I will continue with the family tradition of children not getting ears pierced until they are old enough to take care of them, themselves - ie 10. If they want them, they can learn to turn the piercings, put stuff on them if they start getting infected etc etc. Not my problem |
Posted By: MrsH23
Date Posted: 21 June 2011 at 1:31am
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I got mine done at 13 when Mum and Dad said I was allowed to. I'm not too fussed about actually wearing earrings now but I have to as one hole closes up if I don't have anything in for a few hours and it's a PITA.
If we have a daughter she wont be having them done until at least 10 too. I met some new friends when I moved to Perth and they say that their daughters are best friends and they both pierced their daughters ears around 6 months old. One of them even bought her a pair of diamond hoops for her first birthday which she wears out often. Personally I think it looks tacky! ------------- Lisa mummy to Ryan http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 21 June 2011 at 10:40am
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Lol Emz
I think it happens more often than we would think lol ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: ....
Date Posted: 21 June 2011 at 1:00pm
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I got mine done when I was 6 as a birthday present, I think if my son or daughter were to get their ears pierced, it'd be as a birthday present once they were at least at school.
My son's main male role model has a sparkly pink stud in each of his ears, so I'm prepared for him to want his done, and I'm fine with my boy having his ears done, once he's at a decent age. |
Posted By: babydoll09
Date Posted: 21 June 2011 at 4:36pm
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I got mine done on my 10th birthday and i remember asking for years and getting told 'not till your older', then the day of my birthday my dad took me into the pharmacy (i hadn't asked that day tho) and he said 'you want you ears pierced go pick some earrings'
I remember picking them and sitting in the chair, he checked the dots were even and away the gun went. I did cry after the first one and wanted not to follow thru with the second but it was over so quick i walked out of there thinking i looked a-maz-ing! Just from that i know that anytime before then i wouldn't of been ready, i did really appreciate and look after them so i would never let a child of mine get them before 10. Trouble is once they get there ears done, they want there belly button done haha. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 21 June 2011 at 4:36pm
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Call me old fashioned but if my son gets his ears peirced it will be without my blessing. Yuck. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: ....
Date Posted: 21 June 2011 at 7:35pm
Haha, I won't be combining it with a mullet and a Holden/Ford jacket, though, that's for sure. |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 21 June 2011 at 8:06pm
Oh, thats good then cos *blerk*...not gangsta shades and skate shoes tho? lol ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: HoneybunsMa
Date Posted: 22 June 2011 at 7:50pm
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haha DP pierced his own ears when we were 18... muppet actually not sure if he has an earing anymore thats how much I pay attention lol.
I know my brother at school made a fake earring out of a paperclip. I don't mind it and am prepared for it. Don't have boys yet so not a big deal ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: JadeC
Date Posted: 23 June 2011 at 10:15pm
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I dislike them on babies, I remember watching a reality show on tv when I was young where the mum and grandmother were laughing hysterically as the babies (multiples) got their ears done, I had to leave the room.
My other issue (apart from the babies lack of consent) is that it's applying an adult standard to babies. Nowdays kids clothes are becoming so adult, so quickly, and so much of it is sexualised, and I see ear piercing as another adult thing that we are doing to babies. ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 23 June 2011 at 10:28pm
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I'll be getting Lily's ears done - and I'll be doing them myself (I am a qualified body piercer).
I think half the problem is that people get them done with the gun at the chemist, so the wee ears really really hurt and can get infected and swollen. When they are done properly with a piercing blade (the needle) you dont get said problems. The gun forces the earring thru the ear and s tretches the flesh and skin causing mega stress on the area whereas the blade slices a nice neat little path thru the flesh and the healing time is minimal compared to the gun. It does bleed for a few mins sometimes tho but stops quickly! My ears were pierced before I knew what was going on, 32 years later and I've NEVER had problems with them. My sister who waited until she was 14 has had nothing but problems with them from constantly touching and changing the earrings. Just on a side note, as a piercer there are super duper strict guidelines that we have to follow when it comes to piercing under-agers. Theres not an actual law on what you can and cant do, but local councils have by-laws on age limits. Auckland for example has the age limit set at 18, unless you have parental consent. I remember working in newmarket and a whole group of kids came in wanting belly buttons done - they all had 'letters' from parents. I rang all the parents to make sure and not one of them had actually given permission :P Anyway that was OT and i'll shut up now LOL ------------- Alex, Thomas and Lily http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: fallen
Date Posted: 24 June 2011 at 2:36pm
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I got my older daughter's done when she was about 2.5years old. Not sure how I feel about getting my younger daughter's done so young. I probably won't. I have changed in my parenting outlook I think.
I work at a pharmacy and do ear piercing. We usually only do 6 year olds and older. Though in saying that I have done one 4 year old who REALLY wanted it done. Most people kind of blink and look a bit shocked immediately after its done. But this little girl had a big smile 'does it look pretty?' We don't pierce under 16s unless a parent/guardian comes in with them and signs our paperwork giving permission. ------------- |