feeling a lil; alone
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Topic: feeling a lil; alone
Posted By: walkinshaw
Subject: feeling a lil; alone
Date Posted: 04 July 2011 at 1:29pm
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hi,im 36 with 5 kids.my eldest is 19,16,11,10,and a 17mnth old that stays home with me 24/7.
i feel thaat my family is not being there for me,i mean like my sister,my husband,my immediate family. i go out of my way for all of them in return i get sad excuses,im feeling pretty down and no-one to turn to,what can i do..is there any kindov help out there???... 
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Posted By: phantom_1
Date Posted: 04 July 2011 at 2:11pm
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Hey, just wanted to spread a little love. Its hard when you feel like no one is there xxx
Can't help much though, where abouts are you? 
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Posted By: catisla
Date Posted: 04 July 2011 at 3:11pm
YOu can meet some great people and get some great advice on here 
where in NZ are you? ------------- |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 05 July 2011 at 7:24am
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I think its a common feeling. It is for me sometimes. Doing the same old stuff day in day out, stuff like making beds, washing, cleaning, meals, organizing everyone & everything & because you do it all the time it is taken for granted, along with you....so I get how you feel.
You need to take time out for you. Have an interest or hobby. Set chores/tasks for the family to do..DH included, may not be easy but if they want things then they will have to work for it. Put your foot down & be selfish. I am not surprised you feel this way as you had your first child when you were very young & have had kids around for 20yrs...time to take back a little for yourself 
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Posted By: marija
Date Posted: 05 July 2011 at 3:53pm
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Have a ready made excuse for when they need you or want you to do them a favour. Find something of interest , group or hobby and have some me time. Ive been through this and although I am a giver and enjoy helping out the family, its always disappointing when it isnt reciprocated even once or twice. But they certainly come to the table when you arent there
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