Greiving Breastfeeding?
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Topic: Greiving Breastfeeding?
Posted By: Paws
Subject: Greiving Breastfeeding?
Date Posted: 06 October 2006 at 5:31pm
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This may be an odd one and I'm not sure if other bottle mums went through the same thing.
You know we made the decision to switch to forumla as I was in such agony with cracked and bleeding nipples and have had minimal success in expressing. I noticed today I was considerably healed and decided to give it crack at feeding Maddie again. Sadly the well is obviously drying up as it seems she only had slightly more success than the breast pump. We had to top her up and top her up again an hour later. B and I talked and I really don't feel I have the energy or the emotional readiness to spend the time needed to re-establish the supply and I don't regret forumla feeding her because she has been so happy and more settle on it. I do feel really sad though that I haven't been able to breastfeed or press through and continue. I feel like I'm greiving. Did anyone else feel like this? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 06 October 2006 at 6:10pm
hey paws, congrats again on maddies birth 
what you are feeling seems normal to me. with my first daughter i tried constantly for 6 weeks to breastfeed, having to express and give her breastmilk in a bottle, right from the start she just wouldnt latch and suck, we ended up re-admitted to hospital when she was a week old because she was very sleepy and wouldnt even wake for a feed. anyway, long story short.... i ended up switching to formula and gave up on trying at 6 weeks, i was getting really depressed. mine wasnt a problem with milk, it never dried up fully i still had some when i got pregnant with my second daughter. but 6 weeks of trying to get her to latch and actually drink got too much. so i know where you are coming from with having the feelings you are. especially with the pressure of breast feeding, constantly hearing that "breast is best" and not to mention the pressure i put on myself. i hadnt prepared myself for being unable to feed. even a doctor i went to at 6 week check for bubs made me cry for not feeding! it was horrible. but for me my only regret was that i didnt just make the choice sooner, rather than try for 6 weeks and ALWAYS end up in tears feeling like a failure as a mum and not get to enjoy those first weeks. you made a choice and i reckon you are doing great just try to think of the positives, and know you are doing whats best for you and maddie she wont think any less of you and you shouldnt either. and dont let what some people say to you or say in general make you feel bad.
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 06 October 2006 at 6:46pm
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Yep i felt worthless coz i couldnt produce milk but once i saw how much ella was florishing on formula i got over that pretty quickly.
It does disappear but dont beat yourself up about it your doing what you think it best for your daughter and dont let anyone else tell you otherwise. Only a mother knows what is best for her child 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 06 October 2006 at 6:52pm
yep felt the same way and sometimes still do its tottaly normal i gave up because i was in sooo much pain but i still wish i had b/feed him but i,m also for bottle feeding not all mothers can b/feed and sometime breast is not best ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 06 October 2006 at 7:08pm
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I was lucky that I was able to b/f Maya (OK, so maybe lucky isn't the word, damn stubborn might be more appropriate, after 9 days in hospital I wasn't going to let it beat me!).
But when she was 10 mths I was forced to give up as she was sick and had stopped growing. And I grieved a lot about it - I wasn't READY to give up, and resented HAVING to give up. It got easier once I saw how settled and happy she was on formula. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 06 October 2006 at 7:15pm
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It's good to know others have had similar feelings...it's seems weird that I would greive it when I only managed to feed her for 4 days.
I'm grateful though that this last attempt this morning was really nice and didn't hurt even if she got stuff all out of me! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 06 October 2006 at 7:31pm
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I had to formula feed Andrew from about 6 fully with the odd little bit he got from me. I was determined to keep trying and it got to about 4 or 5 months and I stopped putting myself through it. I know if I have the same problems (I had a supply problem) I know its not my fault and will formula feed again. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 06 October 2006 at 8:21pm
We didn't have any issues with latching on or anything, but it turned out that demand feeding was making her colic worse and as I wasn't making enough hind milk she wouldn't go past 2 1/2 hourly feeds and after a CS and suffering with a nasty cold and chest infection (she was 7 weeks then)I had no energy left... now we are having to deal with her being very constipated on the formula. So yeah, you could say I'm grieving BFing, mostly because my milk basically wasn't good enough for her, and the only other option has created a problem all on it's own. There's nothing worse than seeing your baby in pain and there's nothing you can do about 
But in saying that, the switch to Karicare and all of the other "poo relieving" methods we are doing seems to be working. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 06 October 2006 at 9:07pm
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Yup, I was very sad and very hard on myself for not continuing to B/F Ella. I had the same problems that Rachel did and we both wound up in tears at every feed for a month.
After a big weepy breakdown to Hubby, he explained that Ella didn't care and loved me just the same regardless of how the milk came to her. It made sense, and I stopped grieving
I hope you feel better about it soon Paws. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 06 October 2006 at 9:20pm
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I was reading http://shapeofamother.blogspot.com - Shape of a Mother and another lady was describing the same thing.
Just remember that loving your baby is more important than anything else... and I'm pretty sure you are doing a brilliant job at that
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 06 October 2006 at 9:21pm
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I breastfed Olivia for the 5 days that she was in hospital, it wasn't until day three that they realised that I had produced no milk and had minimal colostrum. With lact-aiding and double breast pumping (I was breast feeding triplets) at day 5 I finally had a gutsful of my nil milk and chucked it in. I do say that I regret not colostrum milking for another couple of weeks, but the reality is that I never had any milk in at all and it would not have made a difference. I was Ok with my decision right up until BreastFeeding awareness week (which incidentally was totally shoved in my face) and the advertising was everywhere about "breast is best". What about the mum's that have no breastmilk? Where is my sympathy and help? I was let go from the hospital with no brochures or support for what I was going to be doing because it was the "easy option" and not hospital protocol. In reality is was the only option!
It is hard bottle feeding, in a different way than what it is from breast feeding. You have to get up and go heat a bottle in the middle of the night, there is never any warm milk in the baby bag ready to go, you have to make your baby wait till it's ready and then there are the higher risks (not at all saying that it can't happen with breastfeeding women) of allergies, constipation, colic and reflux that can happen. And then there is the trauma of choosing the wrong brand or switching brands! I personally think there should be more support out there for the mum's that are doing the bottle slog and are left with the guilt. Now I know that the road I have travelled even though it might be ladened with "bottle guilt" is going to eventually be creating the child I raise into a human being. so I have to push past it and concentrate on this person that needs me to teach them that alternatives to the norm are ok, nothing in life is a guarantee, my door is always open for guidence, we are grateful for the little things and I am always the person that will love them more than anyone else. /end rant! ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 06 October 2006 at 11:17pm
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I had the same feelings with Paris.. she wouldn't latch she would stop feeding and would scream and scream and not want to go back on again, so much i stopped going out cos i knew it would happen, she wouldn't feed up town, i'd walk thru town witha screaming baby.. after that happening a few times i just gave up going out.. finally when we did start giving bottles, i felt so much like a failure, i mean, i would still TRY, but very soon it was more bottle that breastfeed alot of the time. The thing i hated was at mother's groups, being the only one bottle feeding.. especially the one's at plunket, where all the mums would just go to feed their bubs.. i tried once, but she did the screaming thing really badly which was EMBARRASING.. but then so was what felt like the walk of shame as i then got up, and walked accross the room to go out to the kitchen at the plunket family centre.. to heat up a bottle.. It is normal to feel that way, but for me the thing i found was because it had got to the point where i dreaded feeding Paris sooo much, and where she wasn't getting enough and wasn't growing and was always hungry - i felt a huge sense of relief once i did start giving bottles because not ony could i again enjoy feeding times, but i saw that she stopped being hungry and started growing. so for me, the feelings of failure faded after a little while.
It did make it a little bittersweet when ih ad Ayja though, who fed like a dream (she was a cluster feeding frenzied nut!!) - the first time we went out one night to town, and i had to feed her in the mother's room, all those fears can flooding back (the same one where i had many a time ended up in tears of frustration with the screaming Paris in my arms).. but Ayja fed great, and i almost cried then because #1, i was amazed and so happy she was a good feeder, and #2, It made me really truely realize all that grief at missing out on that experience with Paris. Perhaps that's why i perservered for near on 14/15 months with Feeding Ayja even through placements, having to express at weird times, running myself into the ground while studying, missing out on breaks and lunch hours to go over to the daycare to feed.. The day i stopped i felt so sad. On the day that Paris finally gave up at about 6 months, she was only down to 1 feed a day, from one side, by then first thing in the morning.. and one morning she woke up and didn't want that anymore.. I went through grief then too. (If you did want to build supply back up, it is not too much really, if bubs is feeding well when you do try, then offer the breast first at each feed then comp with bottles, express after feeds and if you follow this for a few days to a week then your supply will build back up pretty quick as you will have alot of stimulation for milk supply, as if she's having a growth spurt.) ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 07 October 2006 at 10:48am
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Peace i was exactly the same cept i even had no colostrum i felt awful!!!
Apparently its due to my PCOS and conceiving with clomid. |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 07 October 2006 at 11:39am
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I think I was lucky in that the only reason I had a clue what formula to get and what the heck to do with it was from spending time with Jax and knowing what she uses and seeing what she does.
One of B's cousins works in a neo-natal unit and she is actually really frustrated in knowing that there are mothers leaving the hospital not knowing how to prepare a bottle or what to do. I agree there should be more support and understanding. I feel like I tried really hard to breastfeed, like Janine, I dreaded feeding Maddie. The amazing thing was that when my nipples cracked and bled it was using a nipple shield so I didn't even have the option of using one of those to ease things!! On Tuesday 2.00am I was begging B not to make me feed her! The pain was honestly that agonising and the only thing that stopped me screaming out loud was that I knew it would scare Maddie so much. That's when B went and got some formula and we gave her that for the next two feeds. I tried to breastfeed again later Tuesday morning and a cracked and bled further. I know I don't feel like I took an easy option switching to bottle feeding. To me it is just as hard for the reasons Peace gave. We're dealing with the reflux thing ourselves. Hopefully I can breastfeed number 2, I won't rule out by a long shot! (and I must admit - I'm kinda disappointed my new DD chest has already gone back down to a D and is no doubt headed for the orginal C. *sigh* Still I enjoyed my few days as a DD  )------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 07 October 2006 at 12:07pm
| I felt really disappointing when i gave up feeding Taine. I had been constantly breastfeeding and it felt like I would be on the couch for an hour every two hours. jake would get really upset as I couldn't play with him...and taine was always hungry. he'd latch on fine, but would take so long to feed. I went to my contact course and Nana looked after taine. I was going to express but my pump was still in Japan so nana gave him formula. taine at that stage was sleeping for about 30 minutes a time during the day. First day on forumla and he had three three hour naps and slept most of the night. So i decided since he was such a happier baby on formula I would make the switch, but i felt really guilty, like I was givining up. the weird thing is, that I've chatted to numerous mums on here talking about how they shouldn't feel guilty as they were doing the best for their baby and even thought i KNEW this, i still felt bad. |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 07 October 2006 at 1:38pm
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Wow, Paws, i still find it amazing that there are mums who leave not knowing how to prepare formula and sterilize bottles etc too. In our unit where i work, any mums going home using bottles and formula are not allowed to go until they have had a demo on milk making and sterilizing andhave shown us that they can do it right - to ensure for their wee bubs that they are going to be getting it made up right so they can stay healthy and growing - all of the stuff we use in the hosopital comes readymade, and brands are switched regularly so that we are not showing any special interest or promoting any certain type. I feel so incrediably good that our neonatal mums get alot more support i feel for breastfeeding as well as bottle feeding in terms of info and access to people that can help.
But for those that leave from just the postnatal ward i am unsure, i think because of BFHA (babyfriendly hospital accreditation) they must sign a form and consent to be able to get the info about bottle feeding and formulas.. we can't just give it out without them asking. so i would say, if you have any inkling about possibly switching.. even if it isn't for a while or just every once and a while.. if you have no idea, then ask for info cos they should have some, you may just have to give consent first. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 07 October 2006 at 5:49pm
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I might get my head bitten off for saying this but formula feeding doesn't make people think of you as a bad mum. I don't really care 2 much if people are bf or ff but it drives me insane people going on to me when they see me bf how lucky i am to be able to bf and they tell me this great big story on why they couldn't (I don't mean on here btw I mean randoms on the street). I had a really hard time bf and it makes me feel bad cos I refused to give up.
I think it does really suck that bf is so difficult for some but most people don't define whether you are a good mum or not by the way you feed your bubs. Don't let people feel guilty and don't feel you have to justify yourself you obviously made the switch for a reason. |
Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 07 October 2006 at 5:59pm
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I just wish I could have had the luxury of the choice Rachel. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 07 October 2006 at 6:03pm
| Yeah and that does suck peace. I just don't like being made to feel guilty like i'm sure you don't like either. |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 07 October 2006 at 6:07pm
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I agree that no one should be made to feel guilty for thier choices.
If you don't mind me saying, I really admire anyone who has had the strength to push through and be successful at breastfeeding! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 07 October 2006 at 6:12pm
| honestly paws the only reason i managed was because i had no idea about what formula to get or anything about it and midwife kept convincing me it wasn't as bad as i thought and wouldn't tell me about formula. You are doing a great job paws. |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 07 October 2006 at 10:02pm
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well ithink the baby friendy thing in hospitals is not baby fridely at all i was made to feel a failer as a mother and being a frist time mum like i was a wuss for giving up b/feeding i dont think this baby friendly in the hospital is helping for more mothers to b/feed at all but it is making mothers feel guilty about feeding there babys the way they want/have too if they who ever they are want more mothers to b/feed then it should,nt be shoved down there throths or the mothers be made to feel gulity about the way they feed there child iuf your baby is happy healthy and growing well then thats all that matters when i decied to bottle feed james it was not a easy way out or a easy option for me ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 08 October 2006 at 7:00am
| I've heard that there is a percetnage of mothers who MUST leave the hospital breastfeeding for maternity wards to earn funding or something like that |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 08 October 2006 at 12:39pm
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Well with Alan I feed fully till he was 5 week's then introduced a bottle unfortunality this ended up causeing us all sort's of trouble with constpation(SP?). So this time round I was determined to fully feed Mikey how ever I have now started to wean him to a bottle not cause I have a supply problem or anyting like that we have had really no trouble feeding however like you Liz I feel like I am feeding alot and poor Alan is really missing out. I think I have done so well so far and if I choose to give it up that is my choice. However Rach I agree with you BF mother's get a hard wrap too from ff Mother's who like to make you feel bad cause apparently we have it easy. So I have been on both side's and to be honest the guilt is often how we are feeling not nessarlly what people have put on us in most case's people are pretty good and supportive. At the end of the day no matter how we are feeding our baby we still love them. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 08 October 2006 at 12:49pm
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I would never say that breastfeeding is less diffucult and a more easy choice. I actually think bottle and breast feeding each have it's own hardship. Although I do think that it is quite sad that there is no support for the bottle feeding mums. I think it is wonderful that women want to breastfeed, if I had breastmilk I would be giving it to my own child. I do dislike how the establishment leaves you out in the cold, whether it is your choice or not. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 08 October 2006 at 3:45pm
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My cousin struggled to b/f her first baby even tho she had decided beforehand that b/f wasn't for her the hospital put so much pressure on and she ended up a nervous wreck and bubs was on a bottle by the end of week two anyway.
With her second she had the confidence to stand up for herself and basically told the hospital to stick it and put him on a bottle from day one. I think the enormous pressure to b/f is sad, especially given how little support there is in hospital to get b/f properly established. When I had mastitis I wasn't allowed home until I could feed properly off the infected side, because of total lack of help from the hospital m/wes it ended up taking 9 days, when if someone had made the effort to help me I oculd have been home 3 or 4 days earlier. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 08 October 2006 at 5:10pm
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have to agree that the hospital puts heaps of pressure on you for BF. I also think some plunket nurses are worse. I had one who was a nightmare and was down on me from day one seeing her as Andrew ws on a bottle. Didn't know the situation or reason for the bottle was just "you do know you should be breastfeeding him" It wasn't until I told her the reason she finally accepted my reasons. I fully intend on giving it a go with number 2. I think this time I won't be as afraid to ask for help. I felt like I was an idiot for asking for help so never did and worked things out myself. But with BF I am goin gto need the help. And plus I just brought a nice new BF singlet in the farmers sales and so want to use it heaps. If I have to bottle feed for what ever reason I know like the rest of us we did give it a go but something happened and had to switch to the bottle. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 08 October 2006 at 5:26pm
| I have to say, my midwife was an absolute doll about breastfeeding. She always said, whatever suits the family, is what is best. No baby ever died from being bottle fed! She really helped. I didn't have much in the way of people making me feel bad - it was the pressure I put on myself SUPERMUM!!! |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 08 October 2006 at 6:59pm
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One baby has dies but that was because the mother made the bottle of formula up at the beginning of the day and left it out all day and gave it to her baby when it was hungry. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 08 October 2006 at 7:05pm
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I will say first of all that overall the midwives at North Shore were really great!!
That said I was not shown how to put the nipple shield on properly which was what contributed towards a lot of problems. The first time I used it a midwife just plunked it on my breast so I had no clue what to really do with it! I didn't know to wet it to put it on...I didn't know to make sure it was centred...or that there should be no raised bits or bits not firmly down on the breast. Maddie ended up sucking on the wrong part of the breast just short of the actual nipple and I didn't realise until she was done. By the end I had what amounted to a love bite (as they called it) but there was white pus looking stuff having been sucked out and it was cracked and bleeding. In addition I didn't realised that her bobbing up and down on the shield was further causing more cracking and one of the midwives even commented that she noticed it but she never said anything at the time! My point being (and there is one in this long rant) is that there doesn't seem to be a lot of help in getting breastfeeding established which did surprise me. I would love to see a lactation consultant automatically come around and sit with you and help you get it right, not just a midwife manipulating your nipple until you want to scream and then slapping the baby on and you learning nothing! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 08 October 2006 at 8:33pm
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Hrmmm... maybe make a suggestion to the manager up at NSH?
In Rotorua, I was given so much support with breastfeeding as I was producing barely any colostrum so nipples were blistered, cracked, and I cringed every time that little mouth came anywhere near me. The Lactation Consultant came to visit and was quite a b*tch... but that made me even more determined to continue. Han had formula top-ups after me forcing myself to keep her on each breast for 5 minutes at a time. The formula top ups were a godsend! But I also managed to survive the pain and breastfeed for more than a year. Stick it Lactation Consultant. But anyway, my point is, that helpful midwives allowed me to continue. So if they can organise the midwives to be less nazi and more suportive then the mother will feel empowered no matter what she chooses. (Except in cases like mine which work with the nazi treatment! )
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 08 October 2006 at 8:49pm
I must say that like Becks - i too thought i'd jsut figure it out with Paris and didn't ask for help - themidwife would come round, the plunketnurse would come round and they'd ask how bf was going and i'd say GOOOD! ( )
but i made the effort second time to go to the breastfeeding talks up at palmy hospital at 10 am, talked to the lactation consultant that takes the session, told her about the problems i had the first time and she came and checked with me a couple of times before i left the hospital to make sure i didn't have any bad habits lol and wasn't having probs. I did get to 6 weeks with Ayja and have the same happen as with Paris.. and got reallllly upset about it all - so began the screaming baby , stopping feeding just as i let down, didn't want to go back on, til i talked with another lady on the treasures site i think and they told me they'd had the same - and found that while they had had a few probs early on.. once it got to 6 weeks, after the big growth spurt, and the milk supply increased.. the probs began just like me. The reason? having built the supply up so much, the baby would end up choking with the let-down of milk, because it was so forcefull that it was too much all at once and high pressure, so they learn to stop feeding once they feel that start - hence mum is left with screaming baby, milk going EVERYWHERE!!! (and not enough hands) so i began keeping a towel with me, when ayja did this i would just stick the towl over for maybe 30 secs to a min or so, till the initial force had died down.. and she would go back on like a dream and feed well. If that helps anyone, then good, cos man i was baffled as to why i had 6 weeks of good feeding then it all went to crappers. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 09 October 2006 at 9:15am
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Janine, i'll just come down a floor and see you and you can help me with it all ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 09 October 2006 at 9:30am
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Hmmmm.... that's a great idea, Becks! Lord knows when I'll actually be at the hospital - some time this week, eh. It's sad to hear how so many women are made to feel bad about bottle-feeding. If a baby needs food, doesn't a good mum feed the baby?!? It's just logical to feed using option B if option A isn't working out! I think the whole baby-friendly hospitals, promoting breastfeeding stuff is fine - BUT they've left out the most important parts, so it just leaves women struggling. What's the point in promoting breastfeeding if you don't give mum's the time to learn it and get it established before they're out on their own? 2 nights in hospital doesn't even give time for your milk to come in, let alone to get the hang of breastfeeding - it's just cruel to think that unless there are added complications that a woman and newborn are fine to fend for themselves a couple of days after giving birth! Craziness. ------------- Andie |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 09 October 2006 at 11:08am
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the thing many wmone don't know, especially first time mums, is that if you are struggling with feeding, or just everything and anything in general.. have a talk to your midwife.. usually they can wrangle at least 1 more day for you.. you are well within your rights to stay for 3 days unless they are completely chocka blocka full, I did this with Ayja, i had her 4.35 am on the wednesday morning, and by thursday morning they asked if i was ready to go home that day! ha!, "NO" was the reply, "I am not, I am tired and feel like crap" and Ayja was a cluster feeder, but i guess they tried some other tactics.. cos i was in a double room which up until then had been just me.. that day they moved in another lady, and the next morningi decided that yes i would go home, cos her baby slept thru the night waking 1 time maybe, whereas ayja was awake all night and i felt so bad. I think the main thing, is not being afraid to ask for help - you are no less of a mum for asking for help, in fact it means you realise when you can't quite manage or meet your own or babys needs or just need a little push in the right direction. so ask, lol. (i say this now, i am a hypocrit) ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 09 October 2006 at 11:09am
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I actually totally agree with what you are saying Rachel (and not about people on here either ). ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 09 October 2006 at 11:13am
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BTW Andie, lol, will be on tomorrow evening, then working graveyard shift on thrus night and friday night.. just for your info. lol... if there's anything you want me to pass on or anything. lol no - i'd leave that to you and hubby. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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