Petrified of VBAC
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Topic: Petrified of VBAC
Posted By: butterfly_mum
Subject: Petrified of VBAC
Date Posted: 10 October 2011 at 9:27pm
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Hi All
I had my DD in 2006, she was a c-section because she was breach. I had contractions up until about 9cm and thats when they discovered she was the wrong way. Now I'm pregnant again, baby2 is due in March. SInce I didn't go all the way the first time I am really scared of the "full monty" so to speak... Does anyone know if you automatically get referred to an obstetrician if you had a c-section the first time? Part of me knows I should try VBAC but I am really worried about it - last time was really panicked for me. Feeling kind of nervous now...help?!?!?!? 
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 11 October 2011 at 1:47am
Yes, you'll see an OB at around 34 weeks. And it's up to you whether you want to have a VBAC or not. You don't have to feel pressured into anything either way  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 11 October 2011 at 11:02am
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An interesting point to ponder for you....
I very good friend of mine ended up with an emergency c-section 3 years ago for her daughter, at 31w, she herself was in such a bad way she physically didnt see her daughter till 3 days later. My friend HATES pain, and when she discovered earlier this year she was pregnant again she immediately rang an OB and booked in for a private c-section - no way was she going through the pain of labour! WELL She ended up carrying twins, c-section booked as planned... BUT the twins had other ideas, her waters broke last month, they held her in Waikato because of the risk of infection, then 4 days later (31w6d) she went into labour, but it wasn't picked up till she was 8cm Dialiated. She ended up with a VBAC (but with twins) much to her initial horror, but looking back she is glad as it wasn't as bad as she thought it would have been. It is your choice though, what ever you feel comfortable with the medical system will provide ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 11 October 2011 at 5:19pm
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As far as I know you wont be pressured to VBAC. You can choose an elective c-section if you want.
There is a VBAC support thread on the forum though if you want to see how other people's went? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: InthemiddleMummy
Date Posted: 11 October 2011 at 6:13pm
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There is also a pro-csection chat topic under the c/section support thread.
Maybe try to get an apt with OB much earlier than 34wks be a good idea to talk over things. I found it was also good to talk over things with my GP |
Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 12 October 2011 at 6:44am
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What is it specifically you're worried about? That you don't know what to expect because you haven't experienced the later stages of labour? Or that you'll have similar complications and another rush c-section? Or just that birth's a bit of a scary thing now you've had one experience that didn't quite go to plan? I agree it would be good to chat to an expert - as GR said, sooner rather than later for your sake if you can - who'll be able to go through your options. For example, if you were freaked out about a repeat of last time, and the ob could reassure you that baby is tail up in a perfect position, that might help you make your decision. -------------   
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Posted By: vixgirl
Date Posted: 15 October 2011 at 9:05am
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butterfly_mum I'm in the same position as you. My DD was also breech and also only discovered during labour I was 7 cm... I cannot decide whether to go the VBAC route or elective, I've read so much I'm driving myself mad and keep changing my mind. Unlike alot of women I just don't feel the "need" to have a VB now, I did my first pregnancy and was very anti C/S, but now I've had one my mind has changed. My concern about VBAC is that the whole way through labour I'll be worrying about the "what if's", yes I know the chance of things going bad are very small. Apparently I'll see an OB at 35 weeks, so have another 12 weeks of changing my mind I guess... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: butterfly_mum
Date Posted: 15 October 2011 at 9:24am
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thanks so much everyone.
What am I scared of - well I guess thoughts of tearing and foreceps and just something going wrong... Vixgirl its nice to know that there is someone in the same position - I am also really 50/50 about what I want. The fact that I had a really good CS experience means i know it and I feel like I would be in control and most of all I would know what ti expect...i also feel no need or desire to do a VB, but it seems everywhere I look there is such a lot of information telling me it is "better"... i want to make the right decision, just hard to know what that will be...  ------------- DD is 5 years old, #2 not far away http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: InthemiddleMummy
Date Posted: 15 October 2011 at 12:15pm
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The right decision is the one that makes you happy!
dont do what is "expected" and dont feel pressured into doing what you are not keen on doing, IMO if you have no desire to VB then go straight up c/s. Feel confident in your choice, you dont have to explain your choice to anyone, its your body and your baby. like you I had no desire to VB thou and didnt want to "try" ever ever again. IMO Bonding doesnt happen with a baby from the method of birth, it happens from other factors. It must be slightly stressful to debate in your head c/s v VBAC for so long into your pregnancy (34-36wk visit with OB) Also my DH was very supportive of c/s that helped. How do your's feel about it? My mum was the only one that is and still is quite negative on the whole idea, but its my body, my baby and my choice! VB is not for me. |
Posted By: vixgirl
Date Posted: 16 October 2011 at 8:01pm
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Yeah I think it's pretty mean making us wait so long, oh well guess it covers those that may change their minds... My DP doesn't seem bothered either way. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 18 October 2011 at 8:33am
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I think there are a lot of advantages to a VB (like you say, you'll have seen them laid out). I don't think I've met a person yet who's had a c-section and then gone on to a straightforward VB who hasn't preferred the second option by a mile. Of course, your concern is that the VB won't be straightforward, and that's a perfectly normal concern, especially given how the first one went.
If it was me - and of course you might differ and that's OK too - I'd be most interested in getting all the information I could and making the best decision I could based on that. I think if I got a green light from my MW and Ob, who were fully aware of my worries but could reassure me that Bubs was all in the right place and things looked great for a VB, I'd try for it because like I said, everything I have heard from people who've had both a c-section and a straightforward VB would prefer the VB. On the other hand, if there was any indication it might not be straightforward, a c-section might be the way to go for you since you're obviously worried. -------------
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Posted By: luvmylittlies
Date Posted: 19 October 2011 at 11:35am
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If you want a VBAC then you get a referral to see an Ob around 34-36 weeks. Obviously if you want another c-section you will also get a referral but it's my understanding you can still have the rest of your pregnancy under a midwife.
I had a VBAC 6 weeks ago. But because I was preterm and baby was getting stressed (despite a VERY fast labour) I ended up needing an episiotomy and forceps. It was all pretty intense but they threatened me with another c-section (an empty threat to try and get me to push harder I found out later) and I realised that I really really didn't want another c-section. If you're interested I can PM you my birth story to give you a bit more detail of what happened. I know all the benefits of a vaginal delivery and was worried about dealing with a toddler whilst recovering from a c-section. Also I did go into labour actually quite excited about having a VBAC and I do think that would influence how I coped/felt about it. But do I feel empowered or like more of a woman for having a vaginal delivery? I have to say no. I'm very glad I had a VBAC and if I have another child will go for another one. But having a vaginal delivery wasn't life changing. Holding my healthy babies was, not how either of them arrived. Make sure you're really comfortable with what you decide and don't be pressured either way. ------------- Adoring Mum to Talisin 8/9/11 and Kiara 18/01/10 |