Termination for medical reasons
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Topic: Termination for medical reasons
Posted By: MandzG
Subject: Termination for medical reasons
Date Posted: 06 December 2011 at 1:04pm
| Last week I sadly had to have a termination at 16 weeks of my baby girl who was diagnosed with Trisomy 13. Over the last few weeks I have been looking for support (online I mean, I have amazing support from my husband, family & friends) and couldn't really find anything. There seems to be plenty of support for miscarriages, and also for losses after 20 weeks. So I guess I just wanted see if I have missed them, or would like to start one so people can share their experiences. |
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 06 December 2011 at 1:07pm
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I am so, so sorry MandzG!
I dont know of any support groups here - my only experience of Trisomy 13 was when a friend lost her baby (also around 16 weeks) but she is not in NZ. I'd recommend searching Yahoo groups or Facebook to find other people in the same situation. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 06 December 2011 at 6:45pm
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I didnt want to read and run, just to say Im so sorry hun x ------------- http://lilypie.com] 
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 06 December 2011 at 8:48pm
 Big hugs to you hun! I'm so sorry to hear what you have been through.
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 06 December 2011 at 9:27pm
| Have you tried SANDS? They are apparently really good. I had a medical termination at 22w for severe spina bifida. Support groups is something I've not felt comfortable with myself so I've not looked into them. I hope you find one that suits you! |
Posted By: Genie
Date Posted: 06 December 2011 at 9:37pm
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I'm so sorry for what you have to deal with. I too had to terminate for medical reasons at 21 weeks, 8 years ago now. I remember how hard it was to find help too, it was a long time after someone told me about http://www.thelostones.co.nz/
Hope that helps :) ------------- 
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Posted By: MandzG
Date Posted: 09 December 2011 at 8:41pm
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Thanks ladies. I have been talking lots to friends and family so I think that will help me get through, but I will have a look at the two suggestions as well. ------------- 
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Posted By: spanky77
Date Posted: 01 January 2012 at 8:35pm
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I'm sorry you went through this, it is a horrible decision to have to make and I can only imagine how hard its been. I have joined a yahoo group for balanced translocations - I don't know if either of you have been karyotyped or whether your little girls chromosomes were a new event. Either way if you want to pm me I can send you the link if you can't find it(I don't log on OB very often but get email note if I have PM).
I get emails from the BT group as they come through and quite often read about women who have terminated for medical reasons - heartbreaking stuff. And its something you hear about usually once in a blue moon, or not at all, unless you're running in chromosomal anomaly circles - more of a reality for some of us. I wish you peace and healing, all the very best of the best to you both ------------- 3x miscarriages, balanced translocation likely culprit. BFP from 2nd round IVF, The Bonk born in May 2013 |
Posted By: Aims11
Date Posted: 09 January 2012 at 9:13pm
| Hi MandzG - I've only just seen your post, so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby. I had a termination for medical reasons in August at 14 weeks due to a serious neural tube defect. I found reading the posts on babycenter.com helpful, they have a termination for medical reasons group - and it's nice to know you're not alone. Big hugs, it does get easier. xx |
Posted By: tigger,roo
Date Posted: 13 January 2012 at 9:42am
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Hi MandzG - I had a medical termination @14 wks in 2010. www.inspiredbyjack.formumotion.com is a great forum for mothers who have lost babies in any situation. Its nz based and the mothers are really supportive. Also try sands - the ladies that admin inspired by jack and william are involved with sands too.
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Posted By: MandzG
Date Posted: 24 January 2012 at 1:52pm
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Thanks for the recent messages. As they say time is definitely a healer. I think having xmas and summer holidays was actually a blessing in disguise - great distraction. If anyone else goes through something similar and wants some support, I am happy to talk. -------------
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