from co-sleeping to having our own space.
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Topic: from co-sleeping to having our own space.
Posted By: Lizze
Subject: from co-sleeping to having our own space.
Date Posted: 08 March 2012 at 1:22pm
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DS 26 months has co slept with us since the September earthquake, its very normal for all of us now.. we have a Californian King bed so plenty of space.
We have recently weaned from breastfeeding during the night still, to having cows milk instead, so he still wakes a few times a night and asks for milk (not sure how to nicely stop this one but not concerned just yet). Baby #2 is due in 12 weeks, and I'm not sure how well the co sleeping will go with baby in the room as well. Does anyone have any experience and ideas how to wean off co sleeping? He self settles now, but only with me cuddling his back, so I don't think it's going to bed a short process.. ------------- 
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Posted By: Lizze
Date Posted: 08 March 2012 at 1:24pm
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ps. not planning on co sleeping with the new baby until theyre at least 8 months, they will just be in a bassinet in our room
pps. also not that concerned about cuddling him to sleep, its more the cosleeping im worried about when baby comes... or will it be fine? -------------
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Posted By: pudgy
Date Posted: 08 March 2012 at 6:05pm
We've just tried to domthe same. Will come back after betime and reply  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 08 March 2012 at 6:59pm
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Yeah I've got this issue too, #2 if he wakes in the middle of the night comes into our bed, hopefully he'll just stop doing it????
Need to start pushing him to go back to his own bed I guess! ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 08 March 2012 at 8:27pm
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Is it the noise in the room when baby wakes in the night that u are worried will disturb C? They soon get used to noise- Isla can sleep through anything- even Aiden crying in the bed next to her- its only for as long as it takes us to hear him and get to him, but still, it doesnt wake her up!
What reason are u not planning to co-sleep til baby is 8 months old? After only co-sleeping out of necessity with #1 and #2- much more so with #2, we are planning to co-sleep by choose, from birth with #3. |
Posted By: pudgy
Date Posted: 08 March 2012 at 9:45pm
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We tried to move them both out recently. I ended up sleeping with R abd L was in with Dh. It didn't work. lol If it's not a big deal to keep him in with you, I'd leave it. it only took R a week to stop being woken up by L and he was waking 2 hourly or less.
You will def get more sleep. co-sleeping If you worried about safety bed sharing with a newborn you can get those co sleepers that go on the bed. It's really just using your common sense.
Eta He will be ready to move out of your bed when he's ready ( I knew this and still tried to move them lol). I'll give the sibling bed a try at some point. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Lizze
Date Posted: 08 March 2012 at 10:27pm
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not sure we would trust ourselves with a newborn in the bed (especially DP) and with C in there as well... where will we all fit, lol.
have been thinking about the sibling bed alot too, but thats a few years away its not really a big deal, just thinking if we are going to change it we should do it before the baby comes.. and yeah noise i guess is the biggy, with DS1 still waking up, and a waking newborn... maybe we should just see how it goes! -------------
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 8:41am
| We just bought a king size bed so we can fit the baby in with us better, and Isla and Aiden are in the same room- have tried them together in a big bed, but the more space Aiden has the more he moves about- and ends up sleeping horizontally with his feet in her face! |
Posted By: pudgy
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 8:45am
hehehe ! I have tried a few times too, but L wakes R up and thats the end of it
Lizze we had Dh on one side then R then me then L . It worked quite well. But now we have Lewies bed in our room too. Gives us extra space. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Kellz wrote:Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 3:43pm
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Hey! We coslept from birth but weaned DD off it when she was about 19mo. We started off by bringing her cot in and slowly moving it away from the bed by 50cm, them 1m, then 2m and then out of the room and into hers which is next to ours and it worked ok - think it took just under 2 week. We just had to get her used to the cot (converted to a bed). DD also night weaned herself around this time too. We just did it slowly. The first night she was pretty good although we did find her asleep standing next to the cot/sorta bent over it. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 7:43pm
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We tried 4 in a bed a few times after DD2 was born and it was awful. The baby woke the toddler (or sometimes the toddler woke the baby; I have 2 pretty light sleepers) over and over. And the baby would then want/need a feed but it took her a good month to master latching, so until then, feeding was a two-handed, sit up straight, concentrate job. So I'd be trying to do that in the bed whilst DD1 desperately wanted a cuddle with me and was doing her best to squeeze herself between DD2 and I, sobbing if she got moved away by DH. It was utterly heartbreaking and awful. We ended up getting DH and DD1 to cosleep in her bedroom and DD2 and I to cosleep in our room for the first 6 weeks or so; now DH sleeps in with DD2 and I until DD1 wakes and cries out for him. It's just about getting some sleep in our house still.
At his age, you might be able to promote bed as a big exciting thing - talk to him about how tonight he's going to sleep in his own bed in his own room etc and make it an exciting thing. I'd take it gently and perhaps try things like DH going in to sleep in his room (DH has a spare bed in DD's room) if he needs it. The No-cry sleep solution has some ideas too, there is a toddler version. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 7:51pm
| Good ideas T-Rex. Since I stopped breastfeeding DS to sleep just before his 2nd birthday, DH has been putting him to bed each night. He lies next to Aidens bed on the floor (with a pillow), and DS quickly falls asleep. When he wakes in the night one of us goes in an dtucks him in and lies next to him, or on the floor til he goes back to sleep. If hes not teething then this only takes about 5 mins each time. |
Posted By: 09_mrs
Date Posted: 13 March 2012 at 4:08pm
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My DS is 19 months old and has coslept with us since I became pregnant because I couldn't be assed slash was too tired to get out of bed to comfort him when he was waking in the night.
We started by having a single bed next to our bed with all his own bedding etc so that he got the idea that it was his special bed. It was really handy that the beds were the same height, not sure how it would work if they were different heights. We all had plenty of room too, with a king and a single next to each other. He also became really attached to a teddy at this point so when he woke I would give him the teddy to cuddle and he was happy with that. He started waking less and less so as the next step I separated the beds so his was still in our room but a metre or two away. About a month ago we moved his bed into the spare room and he has been fine in there. He only ever wakes if he is cold and sleeps through most of the time. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Bky
Date Posted: 13 March 2012 at 5:16pm
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I'd love to get DD out of our bed. We have a sidecar cot setup and when she was solidly sleeping through at around 15-16 months we tried moving the cot away from the bed. After a month solid of multiple wake ups (as well as her climbing out of bed and wanting to get in with us) we stopped that. Since then she is no longer sleeping through :( and the cot is back up against the bed. I've switched sides of the bed with my husband as DD will want cuddles from me all night and will pinch and grope me a lot. She doesn't pinch him.
Right now if we can't find something that works we're anticipating DH sleeping with her in a separate room when the new baby arrives. I'm planning on getting her a big bed (most likely a bunk bed set that can be used as singles as the top bunk used alone has built in safety rails) and maybe we'll try that in the bedroom for a bit. Luckily our bedroom is enormous so there's room for extra beds and our king size as well. I'd just keep her in there except I figure if the new baby wakes, DD will wake and no one will get any sleep. ------------- 7/2010, 10/2012 and 1/2015 |