HELP ME PLEASE NIGHT WAKING
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Topic: HELP ME PLEASE NIGHT WAKING
Posted By: Paula96468
Subject: HELP ME PLEASE NIGHT WAKING
Date Posted: 16 October 2012 at 4:38pm
 This night waking has been going on for about 3 months now and I am at the end of my wit. My 18 month old boy had a bad cough about 3 months ago and woke several times during to night, this then went away and now he wakes every night and I can't re-settle him unless he is in bed with me, should I just leave him and let him scream it out? I'm so tired, work full time and have a 6 year old who looks like a zombie at school - I'm passed being able to think straight. |
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Posted By: DellysMum
Date Posted: 16 October 2012 at 8:14pm
| My guess would be he knows if he goes long enough he'll get mummy cuddles in bed for the rest of the night ... sounds pretty nice to me but for me it doesn't mean you need to leave him on his own to scream :(. Have you seen any of the articles on the sleep store website (http://www.thesleepstore.co.nz/sleep-information/toddlers) or go to the forum on their facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/SleepStore/app_202980683107053) & post this same question - they have moderators who will make suggestions. Hang in there ... sleep deprivation is crap hey :) |
Posted By: Buntingsmum
Date Posted: 16 October 2012 at 8:23pm
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Oh I feel your pain! My 2 yo started waking 6 months ago (when I got pregnant) it has got better form time to time but then regresses again. He stays in his cot but some nights he's awake for 2 hours (as am I - just listening to him chat away). I've posted more details in a thread below this one ('habitual night waking in 23 month old) so maybe have a look there. I've thought about whether I am 'accidental parenting' - creating habits that encourages the habit to continue (giving milk, cuddles, singing etc). I have just left him (helps that he never really cries) but things are still up and down. I don't really have the answer for you - but wanted to say that you don't thave it on your own. I hope you can figure it out. ------------- [URL=http://lilypie.com][IMG]http://lb2m.lilypie.com/OCHup13.png][/URL] [URL=http://lilypie.com][IMG]http://lmtm.lilypie.com/sz8Fp12.png][/URL] |
Posted By: KateMcGrath
Date Posted: 16 October 2012 at 8:31pm
| Definitely check out the sleep articles especiallyby the baby whisperers on this website. Whatever you do, do it consistently. I suggest controlled crying with positive reassurance. As in let him cry for an acceptable time (10 mins?) before going in to calm him down, let him know mummy is nearby and then leave, letting him know its time to go to sleep & that you'll come back & check on him in 10 mins. At 18m your baby will understand the bulk of what you tell him so communicate what you want to happen. Also - and this might seem random - but if it is relevant stop any sweet desserts after dinner. My now 30month old went through a shocking patch of unsettled nights which was cured by stopping sugar after 4pm - worth a try?!? |
Posted By: Montybob
Date Posted: 16 October 2012 at 9:01pm
| When mine started I put the radio on quietly in his room and he started going to sleep on his own. "The Sound" or "The Breeze" are good for quiet night music. |
Posted By: DorothyW
Date Posted: 16 October 2012 at 10:29pm
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Hi letting him scream it out will do you no good or your family. I would start trying to resettle in his cot this Friday when it is a long weekend and hopefully by Monday night you will see some changes. When he wakes during the night try not and take him out of his cot. Allow him time to resettle on his own this can be anywhere from 5 to 20 minutes. During this period STOP, THINK and ACT and when you feel it is the right time to intervene then go into the room. YOu have options here you can either cup and shush or pat and shush back to sleep. NO eye contact and stand to the lower end of his cot when doing this. YOU need to do this until he falls asleep. When you go to leave if he wakes and starts crying just say Mummy is going to the toilet and will be back in a minute. This is an action and consequence so you need to follow through - if he is asleep then in the morning tell him you did come back in and check but he was asleep. If cupping and shushing or patting and shushing annoys him just sit on the floor next to the cot or by the door so he knows that you are there. YOu can lie down on the floor and pretend to go to sleep as well. Hope these suggestions help. |
Posted By: DorothyW
Date Posted: 16 October 2012 at 10:30pm
| Also you need to look at the daytime behaviour and also how you verbalise. Actions and consequences are important to follow through as well. |