Preemie bubbahs
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Topic: Preemie bubbahs
Posted By: Guest_47701
Subject: Preemie bubbahs
Date Posted: 26 November 2012 at 11:51am
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ok, so I had my second baby 5 weeks early. I had developed pre-eclampsic toxemia. she was born by emergancy c-section after starting an induction to which my baby totaly freaked out, so wouldnt have coped with birth. here's my issue, all though she's fine and i know having her born early was the best thing for both of us health wise, i still feel like i failed her, and i've failed at being a mum. Everything was fine in my first pregnancy so everything should have been fine in my second. She spent the first four weeks of her life in the hospital, in nicu and then scbu care. i feel like i was robbed of m pregnancy and proper bonding time. I love her so much but ijust dont seem to be able to get past the feeling that i failed her as a mum before she was even born. anyone else feel this way? |
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Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 29 November 2012 at 11:17pm
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Oh honey :( my bubs was born not breathing, and my poor hubby watching her get oxygen and heart compressions. At three weeks old, she had surgery to remove a mass from her bowel. I felt so strongly for months that I had done really wrong by her. I felt like I hadn't made he right at all. But over time, I feel better now. Do talk to someone if you feel sad. Mothers Helpers are really good to talk to. Take care x -------------  Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |