No ears...
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Topic: No ears...
Posted By: Maya
Subject: No ears...
Date Posted: 31 October 2006 at 1:56pm
Grrrrr -this is a vent more than anything else but I swear Maya has NO EARS! Or the ones she has don't function properly. Because I feel like a broken record repeating myself over and over and over again. I realise that she's making big adjustments to having the twins etc. but seriously, you'd think she'd get sick of me screaming and just do what she's told! 
Last night I completely lost the plot and swore at her, then burst into tears coz I felt like the worst mother in the world, but I was trying to express milk which atm is really painful, and she was jumping on the couch and after telling her 5 times (not exaggerating, literally 5 times) I just lost it. So how can I make her listen? -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 31 October 2006 at 2:28pm
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No advice really Emma, but I can definitely sympathise.
I was coming in here to write a similar post! Some days (like today) Ella is like a boomerang, in and out of the time-out corner because she just won't do as she's asked. It drives me banana's and I hate feeling like such a horrible nagging Mum all the time  ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 31 October 2006 at 2:44pm
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I only have the one non-listening devil child to deal with and that is more than enough!!!
Listening is my huge thing at the moment, I feel I have to constantly get down on my knees, look her in the eye and ask her if she is listening and then repeat myself for the 60th time. I can't imagine having to do that with a 3 year old who I KNOW can understand me! So big hugs and keep going! You are doing very well Emma 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 31 October 2006 at 2:47pm
Sometimes I say the first half of the ever-repeated sentence and get Hannah to complete it! But if you're having strings of problems, like constantly over half an hour or so, I'd get her to choose a couple of books and go to her bedroom for 1/2 hr or something. Gotta be careful because it is a hard adjustment time, and she is probably just wanting your attention (for good or for bad  ). Hope things settle down soon.------------- |
Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 31 October 2006 at 6:51pm
argh! it drives me completly INSANE! i have 2 that dont listen. it really upsets me, sometimes i feel like the worst mum too, like they dont care and respect me  its yuck when your only looking out for them and they wont listen, my girls when they are fighting and someone always ends up in tears. grr... i was talking to my mum the other day about it because i was feeling like i was failing as a mum and she said its a stage (man i hope it passes soon!) and i was like it too.
my girls are 2 and a half and just turned 4. i admit i have felt like i was going to loose it several times too, its really hard especially with a new baby, feeding or expressing and kids jumping around you. my 2 year old kicked kayla twice in the head by not listening in a matter of minutes, i couldnt do much as i was feeding.
BIG HUGS EMMA! hope that your wee darling starts listening soon. |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 31 October 2006 at 7:25pm
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I also have a cloth eared child. I am trying really hard (and it isn't as easy as it sounds) to tell him what I want him to do rather than what i don't want him to do. Dosn't always work (yet, after all he is only 17 months), but when it does, YEAH! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 31 October 2006 at 9:04pm
| jake is another "no ears" kid. i have to say "jake, jake JAKE" and even then he'll actively ignore me. what's worse, he is looking away and grinning. And I'll say "Jake where are you taringas - they just painted on", and he'll grin and point to his ears and run away. 2 year olds are not the one. So sorry Emma, can't offer you any advice. |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 01 November 2006 at 8:07am
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we also have children with painted ears. for the most part we try to redirect them, but sometimes it just gets to the point where that doesn't work either. Paris used to do the same when i was trying to feed Ayja, so we did do the book thing, i would say to her to get some books and bring them and sit next to me and read them. we also have the choices thing now.. ie do as i ask and stay in here, or if you cannot stop whatever naughty behaviour, then i suggest you go and find some quiet thing to do in your room away from me because i am getting angry. it's kind of a way to tell them to stop without nagging, but also means that they can choose to stay near you, or go find something else to do..without having to resport straight to the time out thing, sometimes even give them direction ie.. how bout going and playing blocks in your room. of course depends if you are asking them to do something for you, in which case giving them an out clause is not what you want.. but if they're just being annoying.. definately the way to go. lol
again, easier said than done with the 3 yr old variety who blatantly ignore every thing said. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 01 November 2006 at 8:29am
| KObe can be pretty bad, I'll ask him to say turn off the tv and goes what and i repeat myself and this goes on about 5 times so i say I will do it myself and go to turn it off and he jumps up and says no i want to do it and turns the bloody thing off! Preschool said to me the other day have I had his hearing checked cos they can be talking to him telling him to come inside and he doesnt seem to hear them, hmmm i dont think its a lack of hearing thing, more a selective hearing thing. |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 01 November 2006 at 8:29am
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oh you so have my sympathy. speaking from experience i now only tell Alyssa to do something once. If she doesnt listen i count to 3. She now stops what she is doing and is good. Depending on the level of naughtyness involved 3 is either a smack on the hand or time out in room. Or a combo lol.
But hard for you to carry out if your busy expressing i know. But i guess she is only doing it because she knows you are tied up and cant do anything about it. It would only take (hopefully) a couple of times of you stopping what your doing and following through with the punishment for her to realise that you mean business. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 01 November 2006 at 1:23pm
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i think gabriels ears fall off occasionaly. i am getting a referral from plunket tho for a hearing check cause i am a bit worried his isnt just selective hearing.
counting helps for me here too tho and also if they really dont listen i just give up and ignore them, and they dont like that either. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 01 November 2006 at 1:34pm
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Oh I'm sooooo glad I'm not the only one! She was a lot better yesterday, we only had two minor altercations. The latest thing is that I am "starving" her because after dinner I only let her have one chocolate Freddo frog (that I bought for the trick or treaters) and not 3. She wants 3 of everything coz she is 3. Gotta love the logic. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 01 November 2006 at 2:33pm
| lol emma! thats cute! i definalty love the logic... hmm... dont think i could handle 25 feddo's though. |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 01 November 2006 at 2:51pm
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chop her freddo in three...
oh you wanted to brush your teeth three times cause you are three... and you only want three toys in your room, and only three books??? ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 01 November 2006 at 3:16pm
I'll have 31 and a half freddos here thanks! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 01 November 2006 at 4:04pm
Kobe's mum, my mum was having trouble with one of my brothers and she wasn't sure if it was selective hearing or an actual problem. One day she tested him: was on the opposite side of the room and whispered "Geoff would you like an icecream?" He heard first time without fail... no need to visit the Doc!  ------------- |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 01 November 2006 at 7:20pm
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Theresa, that's how we know Kiya's hearing is fine... she can hear us quietly discussing any topic that has nothing to do with her in another room, but cannot hear us talking directly to her when we are beside her on the couch!
Sorry ladies... it doesn't get any easier as they get older ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 01 November 2006 at 7:53pm
Hahhahahahaha yup they're very clever  ------------- |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 01 November 2006 at 10:12pm
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LOL @ the T.V., Robyn.
Hannah caught me out the other day while I was watching Shorty St. I was about to take her to bed (in the ads) and mentioned the word story, then unfortunately Shorto came back on so I sat back down. Han started saying "Come, story" and I told her that I'd read it in the next ads. The little toad marched over to the T.V. and turned it off! I couldn't argue with that - a good old taste of my own medicine. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 02 November 2006 at 10:15am
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Maya wants to be a doctor coz she watches Shortland St...
Oh and she had a hearing test at preschool yesterday and what do you know - she has perfect hearing... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 02 November 2006 at 12:40pm
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I have had Paris and Ayja both home for the last 2 days as i had days off. well, me and Paris have been consistently at each other. boy does she get on my nerves!! what a bossy brat she has sturned into. argh! mike came home to me crying at lunch time .. at the point of frustration. I have no idea where she has gotten her little mouthy mouth but argh, it's like having a teenager!
We get the starving thing.. constantly... after breakfast,(she has a plate of cereal as big as mine, or weetbix - 2 of them plus milk plus fruit plus a drink) "i'm starving", "can i have something to eat on the way to daycare" an hour after brekkie "is it morning tea yet?" when we pick her up from daycare "what's for tea tonight?" is the first thing we get.. not hello, not yay, and hugs.. just "what's for dinner, when's dinner" when she wakes from a sleep.. the first thing she wan'ts is a snack, and not a little one.. a big huge snack, of which she will eat all off, and then go on to moan that she wants dinner. all she does all day is want to eat.. i think that's where we clash, cos i think she should not, i am fine with the 3 meals plus 2 snacks a day.. but she has all those and wants more, far more than any child, growing like a weed or not, should have at her age. when mike is here he grazes, all day, and the kids graze with him cos they want everything anyone else has, it drives me insane! ARGH VENT! no, just her mouth is getting me angry.. wanted a video this morning, i told her as soon as i had finished my breakfast i would put one on, mike texd me, i was still eating but wrote a tex back, and ihad her sitting at her table, slapping her hands and pouting (you know.. the i want you to notice that i'm pouting and angry at you.. kinda pout) she yells at me, just eat your breakfast man, hurry up! Sorry, venting having a bad day with a 3 going on 15 yr old... they are asleep, for now, hopefully the day will get better once they wake up.. what's left of it anyway. Might chuck em outside to terrorize the bunnies. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 02 November 2006 at 4:19pm
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Vent away Janine, I can so relate! It's just nice to know that I'm not the only one that would put mine back if I could! Ad I feel guilty because the babies are so easy that I wonder where my nice easy Maya-baby has gone... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 November 2006 at 8:13pm
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I've got one that won't listen. We are trying to tell Andrew to take his listening ears out of his pockets (when he has pockets - don't know what to do when he doesn't have pockets) and put them on where his ears should be and turn them one. Has worked so far so here's hoping it continues. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 02 November 2006 at 10:53pm
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Ugh.. whereas you have one that eats too much Janine, mine won't eat anymore! GRR.. she won't eat at dinner time, or lunch sometimes.. refuses anything, even things she used to like. THEN.. at bed time, she asks for a snack.. we've tried feeding her the dinner she wouldn't eat, but she will have none of that.. then she'll wake up in the night wanting something to eat!
Ella doesn't listen to me at all anymore. I don't know why I bother to ask her things.. if I ask her to get something for me/come to see me/leave something alone, you can guarantee that she won't listen. I get so frustrated at her! Arg, I can't believe Paris is talking to you like that, I know I'll be next!! I was hoping that at 3 they were better behaved, as she is already correcting me on things I say etc.. but she is definately going to be like that too! eeek!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 02 November 2006 at 10:55pm
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I just have to ask, is anyone else getting the constant whinging/bursting into tears all the time when things don't go their way? I feel like all I do is complain about her, she is a sweetie most of the time but this stage is really difficult at the moment ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 03 November 2006 at 5:23am
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Hands up here, Meow!
My Ella's constant whinging is driving me round the bend. That and her repeating the same thing over and over and over until I respond the way she wants me to. Its like half the time I am completely besotted with how cute and sweet she is, and the other half I'm tearing my hair out! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 03 November 2006 at 2:44pm
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Andrew will do that sometimes and will also tell us he has a sore tummy when he is told off. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 03 November 2006 at 9:07pm
| hell yes, it must a stage or something cos kobe is the same. |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 03 November 2006 at 11:16pm
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Mel, sounds like you have a chatterbox too..maybe it is an Ella thing hehe
The repeating everything over and over is sooooo annoying sometimes! like if you answer a straight 'yes' or 'no' to them it isn't enough, they often like you to repeat the whole sentence back to them  all part of learning I guess!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 03 November 2006 at 11:42pm
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we have that too - another thing that drives me bonkers.. crying, crying CRYING!!! I am usually a very patient person.. but come on.. she got her jammies off her bed and carried them down the hallway.. a bed-sock fell off the pile, so Paris burst into tears, i went to get her dressed the other morning, and instead of standing her next to her pile of clothes, OMG i stood her IN FRONT OF THEM!!! ARGH SHOCK HORROR! that was another teary episode.. glad to know it's not just Paris.. I was beginning to think there was something going on that i wasnt' picking up..
BTW i am completely shocked that she is talking to me that way too.. have no idea where she gets it from cos theres no way i talk to her like that, ggrr. although, my big sis has looked after the girls a few times lately and brought her 4 yr old boy with.. who, is, hhm, interesting in his behaviour and approach to things.. ie yells at his mum, tantrums etc.. and paris did say to me the other day when i tol dher that's not the kind of behaviour we have.. "but I'm being Jack, Jack does it".. whoaaaa. i had to bite my tongue.. i so felt like saying well i'm not aunty and i won't put up with that $%^&! ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 04 November 2006 at 5:06am
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I have another non-listener! And the thing that annoys me is that she knows with 100% certainty that I always follow through. If I ask her to do something and she walks away or pretends she doesn't hear she gets one more chance or gets timed out until shes ready to do it and she STILL ignores me almost every time! I think its just them exerting their independence- which doesn't help at all but at least explains it.
Shes an arguer too. She gets me so fired up and she argues far too well for a little person. She'll be a picture of calm and I'll be losing the plot and I stop and think "but I'm the adult!". ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 04 November 2006 at 1:36pm
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lol cleaver wicked childern how young is too young for mr no ears drives me crazy i will say his name a million times and when he finiliy looks at me hes smiling cheeky little bugger ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 04 November 2006 at 2:47pm
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Ah Kat, after seeing the balloon incident today and reading these posts... I understand what I am getting myself into so much more!
Ella is a lovely kiddliwink... I can vouch for that! Sometimes the only way I can get through the day with my lovely little mongrel is to just put her bad behaviour down to something physiological. She tantied up a storm just after everyone left her party today... so I just repeated to myself "she's exhausted, just get her into bed" and it stopped me from screaming when she wouldn't lie down to put her nappy on because she was too busy screeching. |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 04 November 2006 at 5:58pm
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I know I hate people trying to give me advice when they haven't been in that situation but...
I watched a skip video at a plunket thing and they were asking kids what they want their parents to do and they pretty much all said no yelling and tell us what we can do and not what we can't and show us how to do it. They also all said they would like to be rewarded with cuddles and kisses and a treat fom the shop lol. |