Depression or Grieving?
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Forum Name: Life After Miscarriage
Forum Description: Up to one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet for many the loss of a pregnancy is isolating and lonely. Share your thoughts and feelings here with others who have experienced loss.
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Topic: Depression or Grieving?
Posted By: tan73
Subject: Depression or Grieving?
Date Posted: 17 December 2012 at 9:32am
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I have struggled with depression in the past. Last year I had Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (I live in Christchurch) and had to go on meds. I went off them this year in January so we could try for a baby. The doctor felt it was best to go off them if I was feeling ready, before we tried. So, as you can see, since June, we have been on a bit of a roller coaster. Now I find I am often sad or low - so not fun for DH. I am also tearful or bursting into tears often. When AF arrives it's the worst. I hide it from DH now because I think he doesn't understand and thinks I should be over it by now. My question is: is this normal grieving? Is anyone else feeling like this? Is it normal to be often tearful and low this far out from a miscarriage? I am just working out whether I really need to be back at the doctors. I don't want to spend my holidays crying! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 17 December 2012 at 9:52am
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Grief is such an individual thing and there is no real time frame on it. I dont know how far along you were but regardless pregnancy hormones can play hell with our bodies for ages after and if your sig is right it has only been 3 months which is really only 3 cycles. Not long really when it comes to hormones! If you have an understanding doctor though definitely talk to them and see what they have to say. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Moobear
Date Posted: 24 December 2012 at 7:58am
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Hi tan73, Sorry for your loss and to hear about the hard time you are having. I have been there and I think it varies for each person. I took my first miscarriage very hard and it took me a long time to get over it. Especially the fact that due to medical reasons I couldn't try again for at least 6 months after. I miscarried in September and I think it wasn't until about February that I started to come right again. If you need to, ask for help... that is one thing I wish I had done was get some counselling. I thought I could cope but I couldn't and it just made things worse me not getting help when I needed it. The would have been milestone days were also very difficult (20 weeks, due date etc) but I managed to get through them and now I have a baby boy on the way. Try to stay positive and know that you will get through this x ------------- Angel Babies Sept 2011  March 2012 http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mrs Mac
Date Posted: 27 January 2013 at 8:27am
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I don't know if you're still worried about this, but I was just on the Miscarriage Support Auckland website, and they thought it took women an average of 6 months to reach acceptance. I've struggled with depression in the past, and I'm thinking about getting some counseling to help me deal with my grief in a healthy way rather than slipping down that slope! -------------   Jan '13
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