Those with an autistic child
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Topic: Those with an autistic child
Posted By: kiwigal
Subject: Those with an autistic child
Date Posted: 04 November 2006 at 10:10pm
| I was wondering if anyone has an autistic child and have another child as well. My son is 3.5 with borderline autism and my husband and I are looking at trying for another baby I just wanted to know what made you decide for another baby? Was he/she normal or do they have some traits of autism? |
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 04 November 2006 at 10:12pm
| Sorry cant help you there but can i ask at 3.5 what traits does your son have of autism? How did you/your doctor know thats what it was? |
Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 04 November 2006 at 10:25pm
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I have an 11 year old son with Aspergers (ASD) and two other kiddies. Although they are littlies, Andrew does not show the tendencies that Sean has. Connor is too little to know just yet. My hubby and I decided to have more kiddies without really taking into account seriously the possibility of another one within the autistic spectrum. We spoke about it briefly and decided that we knew what we would be getting ourselves into and really wanted a larger family.
A woman in my coffee group has a 6 year old autistic son and a 2 year old daughter. Her younger daughter shows no signs of autism. You could get in touch with Autism NZ to find out more information or to be put in contact with other families to get more advice. Good luck.  ------------- |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 05 November 2006 at 9:11am
| When I was growing up there were 2 kids with autism and both were the oldest of 3 and none of the others had it and the younger ones used to look out for the older one too. |
Posted By: kiwigal
Date Posted: 05 November 2006 at 11:18am
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Thanks everyone for your replies.
My2angels He had no speech Very little eye contact No social skills Ignoring us when we called his name Lying his toys up Screaming Head butting And by the time he was 22 months old he was diagnosed with autism.At 3.5 he has improved tremendously and the only words he says his Bye Bye and Uh-Oh but he understands everything you say. Peter and I went back to our OB/Gyn to discuss our options and is going to speak to our paediatrician on the risks etc.Peter and I scared of next one up ending up autistic but we also don't want to go through life WHAT IF and be miserable for the rest of our lives. |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 05 November 2006 at 12:40pm
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i have a 13 year old aspergers son, very high functioning and you wouldn't know he had it if you met him.
I have had another child but it was a different father so not the same curcumstances.But for the record she does not have any autisum. I do belong to a support group and there are a few I know who have had more than one child and in their case they only had the one with autisum. (although one couple had 4 and 2 have got it) Unfortunatly there is no sure way of making sure you don't have another one with autisum. ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 05 November 2006 at 7:03pm
| I have 3 first cousins with autism - one with aspergers, one with borderline aspergers/autism, and one with severe autism. As it is so predominant in my family I am terrified of Joshua also having it, so have done loads of research on signs, treatment etc. With my cousin who is borderline, he is the oldest of 3 - the other two are not autistic and really it was just the luck of the draw that they weren't. If you like, I can put you in touch with some support networks who can help. Just PM me if you need to. |
Posted By: kiwigal
Date Posted: 06 November 2006 at 12:13am
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Clare thanks
I do know that on my husbands side of family his Mothers Mums brother his two kids are autistic and my half sisters son has just beeen diagnosed with ADHD at 8 or 9 years of age. |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 06 November 2006 at 12:30pm
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adhd is not on the spectrum of autisum it is just another trate they can get along with Autisum.
My son Josh did not get diagnosed till he was 6 so for you to find out so soon is a good thing. ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |