Solo mum-to-be scared and unsure
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Topic: Solo mum-to-be scared and unsure
Posted By: Fe134698
Subject: Solo mum-to-be scared and unsure
Date Posted: 06 December 2013 at 11:19pm
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Hi everyone, I don't really know how I got to this website, but maybe I can find some kind words and advice from people who have been there. I know having a baby is the most wonderful thing that could ever happen to anyone but what if it was unplanned? I am single, 24, no job. In theory, I am very lucky, I know that, I just don't feel it. My parents are very supportive, got me to move back home to give me all the support I need, but this was never what I had planned. I just finished my Bachelor, was supposed to move overseas next year to do my Masters. Now I am 13 weeks pregnant, no going overseas, no Masters. Plans cancelled. I know the father very well, at least I thought I did. I dated him for 2 years, but we also broke up when I was 21. We met again at the wedding of our best friends and everything started up again, nothing official, barely anyone new about it. Now I am pregnant with his child and he doesn't seem to want to know. Even though I have all the support anyone could wish for, I feel alone and scared and don't know how to get over that. I want to look forward to this child, but it just was never supposed to be this way. |
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Posted By: Jessaroo
Date Posted: 07 December 2013 at 3:39pm
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As scary as it is it can be done and when you are holding your gorgeous baby in your arms it makes all the stress worth it! I did it alone at 18 and unfortunately didn't have the kind of parents I could move back home to - my advice would be to take full advantage! You have got another 6 months or so to get your head some what around it - having a baby doesn't make it impossible to study, work and travel - just changes the way you go about it :) As for the Dad - it's his loss - but don't count him out just yet - it's probably a bit harder for him to swallow since he isn't going through the physical changes so may take him a bit longer? Good luck - I am certain you will make a brilliant Mum :) The good times most definitely out weigh the bad I promise you! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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