Stretching - definitely TMI
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Topic: Stretching - definitely TMI
Posted By: busymum
Subject: Stretching - definitely TMI
Date Posted: 12 November 2006 at 8:20pm
(Does putting TMI at the top make more people look? Haha I'm like that  )
My m/w has started reminding me that I should be doing some perineum stretching (ick) in prep for the birth of this little bub, especially since I had an episiotomy with #2. My question: did you do it and do you think it works? I think I need some convincing to get past the "ick" and just do it... especially since I *did* do it in prep last time  -------------  |
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 12 November 2006 at 8:22pm
| Sorry no help... but did want to confirm that TMI in the subject heading atleast attracts me. How sad is that? |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 12 November 2006 at 8:32pm
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Me too, Nikki, and sorry, i can't help, either.. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 12 November 2006 at 9:12pm
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he he me three!! I thought the researchsaid it didnt make much difference? I didnt do it and I had no problems, I thought it was more to do with the babies head size and position, esp after 3 babies!! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 12 November 2006 at 9:36pm
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Ick no. And Maya and Mercedes had giant heads, and I had no stitches with Maya and only one after the twins.
Not sure about whether it helps after an episiotomy but after reading a recommendation you use olive oil to do the massage in a pregnancy book I decided definitely too ick for me. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 12 November 2006 at 9:43pm
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lol, my midwife told me it was a load of bollocks and not to waste my time. Although she did tell me to insert evening primrose oil tablets up my foo foo, to ripen the cervix. Which of course i did. If you try that only do it at night and wear granny undies. YUCK ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 2:44am
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LOL!
My midwife advised me to do it as I'd had a complicated tear the first time and was keen to do anything to avoid a second one. I was a bit grossed out but I found that doing it in the bath made it easier. I also did the EPO up my fufu twice a day (with liners in!) from 36 weeks on. I really think that makes a difference, as everyone I know who has done it has had no tears. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 10:54am
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My midwife told me to do it and I didnt, but even if I hadve done it I ended up with a forceps delivery so I was having an episiotomy no matter what lol.
I have heard form some people it works but also I know of others who did it and tore badly. So I guess it all to do with your body. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 12:10pm
I think I should probably clarify that Hannah was c/s so I have actually only pushed one bubba out and she was 8lb 4oz. Things stalled a bit during pushing, I just could not get her head out... hence the episiotomy. I think I might do it religiously this time, then if it doesn't work I never have to think about it again!  CaraMel's idea of doing it in the bath seems heaps better than anything else so far....------------- |
aimeejoy wrote:Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 12:31pm
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Yeah doing it in the bath sounds a lot better.
Haleighs head got stuck during labour thats why I had an episiotomy and forceps delivery. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 1:00pm
| I did it a few times, but midwife said not to bother. Unfortunatly the perinium is not the only part that can tear. I ended up with 3 tears, only one of which was my periniem,..so even if I had done it, it wouldnt have stopped my labia, or vagina tearing anyway. ( sorry if TMI!) |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 2:17pm
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I have no idea about the stretching but yup TMI always make me check out the thread!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 2:37pm
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My MW advised me to do it and she reakoned that me doing it was probably the reason I had no cuts or tears at all. I did it in the bath so that it was done out of the way. I am going to do it again for this time round as well. I have heard of woman inserting a tampon soaked in EPO to help bring on labour as well and one said it was under advise of her MW. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 2:50pm
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likewise i have no idea...just wanted to confirm that the TMI made me look
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 3:34pm
Whats EPO? I'm always curious when I see TMI too KAz  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 3:45pm
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EPO = Evening Primrose Oil
Sorry, no ideas or advice... and yeah, TMI caught my eye  ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 3:56pm
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Thanks Becca ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 5:03pm
| I didnt do it and was fine, had no probs and only minor tearing, didnt even feel it during or after |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 13 November 2006 at 7:10pm
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Ooooh Kellz my SIL had something like that. Is it feeling okay yet? (I note your bub is 3 weeks) ------------- |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 14 November 2006 at 7:24am
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I think its alot to do with genetics- some people stretch better than others. Some get strech marks and some don't- they have better skin elasticity. I think like how they say that using stretch mark cream can lessen the severity of the marks you get, the perenium massage probably lessens the severity of the tear but if you're going to tear alot you will probably still tear.
I did it first time around with DD- I used KY as thats what my midwife recommended. Its was horrible but DH thought it was hilarious. Seemed to work ok as I only had 1 small tear. Will do it again in case it did help as I would much rather do that than be ripped to bits! I am a total prude! I saw this thread days ago and didn't want to read it because I was worried it would be gross- its silly because I always end up answering the gross ones anyway  ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 14 November 2006 at 8:57am
Busymun,..Im healing up pretty well now thanks. I did make the mistake of having a look in the mirror after about a week,..nasty,..nasty mistake 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 14 November 2006 at 7:59pm
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lol Kellz
Does anyone remember how often you're supposed to "do it"? Once a day... once a week? Please say once every two months hehe ------------- |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 14 November 2006 at 9:34pm
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I was told every day sorry ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 15 November 2006 at 5:01am
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LOL, yup once a day!
If its of any comfort, I only did it for maybe 2 or 3 minutes a day and it wasn't sore  ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 15 November 2006 at 8:23am
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I used to be a prude until I got pregnant and had a baby lol.
I guess I just got used to talking about things I wasnt used to. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Vixsta
Date Posted: 15 November 2006 at 12:08pm
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Well oh my im learning so many things about my self and us ladys which i suppose i have supressed until now i suppose by the end of it i will have no dignity anyway, I suppose you yak with your girlfriends but how offten is it about the iky stuff not really ever in my case so this is a real eye opener for me have been using bio oil on my tummy as for fear for streck marks and now im thinking i should be doing a bit more than my tummy and start on the boobys and hips so now i have to think about using some EPO in there to gees all these things i never knew about and theres no were but places like this to tell you what you need to do
Good on you girls Vix ------------- 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 15 November 2006 at 12:28pm
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How far along are you Vix?
I was told not to use EPO until after 36 weeks as there is a small risk of it causing early labour. (Just in case you're not that far yet )------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 15 November 2006 at 12:29pm
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My M/W suggested it I said ewww ick, but hubby was keen so he had a go a few time's Ithink it helped , but I am such a prude there was no way I would do it. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 15 November 2006 at 12:46pm
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I had a go, but found it hurt, even in the bath. Midwife said to do it with olive oil, but I never tired that!
Vix,..I used Bio Oil right through my pregnacy from about 13 weeks, on my belly and hips after my shower in the morning. I also used Cocoa butter mosituriser on my belly before bed. No stretch marks on my belly or hips at all,...but lots on my boobs! So I would start oiling them too if I was u! |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 15 November 2006 at 1:16pm
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I tried it twice and it just hurt a bit. Ella had a larger than average head, and after an hour and a half of pushing I narrowly avoided an episiotomy, and only had a 1st-deg tear and a nasty graze (which the stretching wouldn't have helped avoid anyway). Somehow I doubt that doing the stretching massage would have prevented that. I think labouring in the bath is what saved me from needing more stitches! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 15 November 2006 at 1:36pm
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Argggh stretch marks - I had none for my first pregnancy. Not a single one. And I hadn't even had time (or bother) for oils etc. Then Hannah was born and within the week I got all the stretch marks - from shrinking! LOL
Vix I know what you mean, it's nice to be semi-anonymous in a way and you can ask all sorts of funny sounding questions which I wouldn't dare ask in person ------------- |