Now this REALLY f**ks me off!
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Topic: Now this REALLY f**ks me off!
Posted By: Guests
Subject: Now this REALLY f**ks me off!
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 7:39pm
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I have a blog for ella i started it the month after i had her for family that arent in the same city as us mainly my parents and my husbands parents.
Well i updated it yesterday and today i get an email saying there was a comment left on the site and this is what it said!!
Now i am REALLY F**KED off coz only my friends and family can see the blog its not for just anyone to see. This person called Jill has NO idea why i formula feed!!! It just really pisses me off that people can be so rude about things like this when it is NONE of their business and they have no idea why i cannot breast feed!!! 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 7:42pm
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Jess, so you should feel that way. She has no idea what happened to you and why you can't BF. How dear she saw anything like that to someone she doesn't know. Is there anyway of tracking her down and giving her a ear full throught the net?? ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 7:45pm
| Nah she left a message on the blog and just put her name and no contact details i have no idea who she is or where she is from!! Makes me wild! My daughter doesnt even look awful she looks loved and is definately filling out now her reflux isnt hurting her! |
Posted By: hailstones
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 7:50pm
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wow, the nerve of some people!!!!! No wonder you are fuming I would be too!!! And this person doesn't know you??? Hope you can track her down, I'm with mummy_becks this interferring busybody needs to be put in her place!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 7:57pm
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sounds like spam or something - unfortunatley when stuff is out there for the public that can happen. I have a web page for my boys and any comments i get to see the address it came from - i hope you can delete the comment. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 7:58pm
| i agree, thats a shocker! i can understand how you must be feeling jess. big GRR'S to the "jill" person. man that would make me soooooooooo mad. |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 8:00pm
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gsmum - yer it does that for me aswell but if they choose anonymous then i dont know their email. I may see if there is an option to turn it off. I have deleted it but the nerve of some people!
Now i need chocolate! MY DIET IS RUINED 
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 8:06pm
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I must say that makes me pretty mad as well, you think people with "the brains" to think up witty comments that are full of knowledge actually know what they are talking about.
I'm with you Jess, we can't help that we couldn't physically breastfeed and no amount of "you should have, you could have" can change that. Bigoted intolerance just rips my nightie! ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: Red
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 8:10pm
| That is awful, I can't believe someone would post something like that! |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 8:16pm
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Just have a little bit of chocolate, you don't want to let her get to you or let your team down. Good thing you could delete it, hopefully she doesn't come back again. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 8:26pm
Hehe im safe i have no chocolate thanks to the nazi hubby 
I have edited my blog so that only registered users can post so if she is determined again ill report her! Thanks ladies i feel better after venting. I took so long to get used to the idea that i couldnt Breastfeed i had baby blues early like the same day i gave birth coz i was so overwhelmed and thought the world would think i was a bad mother coz i couldnt breast feed. I ended up coming home from hospital early coz i didnt want a new midwife coming in everytime and having to explain the situation it only got me down. I stood in the shower the next morning bawling my eyes out AGAIN coz i couldnt comprehend it. I must have been the only women my midwife has seen get SO excited when i got engorged breasts i thought YAY my milk is here lol But alas it wasnt 
Then to have someone like that come along 4 months later and rub that in is rubbing salt into old wounds. I love my daughter and im actually glad im not BF with her reflux and allergies. It would have made life harder! I applaude and admire women who have children with allergies and still breastfeed! |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 8:34pm
| Weird. How absolutely rude!!! |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 9:42pm
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Dont take it to heart Jess, you know its just some jumped up pro b/fing lady who no doubt thinks her opinion on things is the only way it should be. I hate people like that. Even if you didnt have any medical reason to forumla feed its still your decision and its not going to harm Ella just because you formula fed her. Some people are so narrow minded it makes me mad.
And good on you for not going out and getting chocolate, i probably would have. |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 10:11pm
| What a nasty lady you don't say that to anyone especially people you don't actually know. Try not to let it get you down everyone else knows how awesome a mum you are. |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 17 November 2006 at 10:13pm
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OMG jess. i thought you were joking and I laughed, until i realised you were serious. i can't belive someone would have the audacity to mke those kinda comments. note that those kinda people also don't leave details so you can answer back - cowards.
I know what a big deal it is not to breastfeed. even though physically i could, Taine was so more settled and happier on the formula i made the decision to switch. and even though i talk about how we should think about how we are providing the best care for our babies BY giving them the formula they obviously need, it still felt bad to "give up" Good on ya for not giving into the chocolate (c'mon red team!!) |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 18 November 2006 at 10:09am
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Kharma will come back to bite those BFing nutts (the ones that absolutely shove it down your throat!) in the ass!!!!
I couldnt BF my son and no one could tell me why but i persevered for 4 months!!!! to no avail and even after all that trying i still felt like an unbelievable failure!!!  i even felt like maybe i shouldve rushed into having another bubs just so i could prove to myself and all those other BF nutts that i could do it!!!
Im not sure what those BF nutts expect those of us that have no choice to formula feed, to do!!!??? struggle along till our children get so melnurished that we have to formula feed!!!!. Dont get me wrong though - i totally have no problem with formula feeding even before i had to do it myself! i just have something against those ladies that are so narrow minded!!
That lady "jill" obviously was never told by her mummy that "If you dont have anything nice to say and its uncalled for then dont say anything at all"!!!! |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 18 November 2006 at 1:40pm
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That is just terrible that anyone would be so heartless. I hope you feel better now. I know how important it is to try to Bf, and I will give it as good a go I can, but I also know people who have been unable to and I get fed up with the people who promote it over and above the mental health of the mother. Grrrrr. -------------  
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 18 November 2006 at 2:09pm
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That is so unbelieveably rude and sucky. I hate people that do that. I sincerely hope that anyone on here never mistakes any advice i give for Bf as being pushy. lol. I went through the same thing with Paris and perservered despite all the signs being there that it just wasn't working.. and i was a right mess mentally because of that and a few other things. I did have a good expereince with Ayja though so I do finally know how nice it can be.. but having cuddles giving them the bottle is just as good if not nicer sometimes cos you have all your hands free to give them cuddlysnuggles. I have just found that through working and learning and knowing more and having to help women everyday.. I have a little more knowledge and so am willing to share it.. but yeah...am always willing to give mums the reality as well.. It's fricken hard to learn and sometime syour body just doesn't do what it should.. and theres nothing wrong with formula, most of us were probably brought up on fromula because there was a fad for a while where BF was just "SOOOO uncool" and hey, we all turned out just fine
anyway Jes, I hope you can find out who that nasty piece of work is. What a horrible lady. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 18 November 2006 at 2:29pm
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Yer in my situation i have PCOS and i got pregnant by taking Clomid. Later on i read that fertility issues crossed with fertility drugs may mean u cant breastfeed but didnt really think anything of it. It wasnt until the lactation consult at the hospital asked me if have PCOS and what not and i said yes and she said well that explains alot.
I can understand how it happens. The body is tricked into ovulating then gets pregnant maybe its just still confused? lol I tried in vain to pump and hand express but nothing, it was horrible. |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 18 November 2006 at 5:09pm
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mum2 Paris, I don't think that anyone would ever take advice the wrong way! I am just disgusted when people are told they are letting their kids down. I mean, we all try so hard to do whatever we can for these babies, then when you can't do something that you really feel you should be able to do people abuse you - grrrr!
Advice from those who have gone before is awesome! I am worried a bit about breastfeeding becasue both of my sister's kids had to go on to formula within 6 weeks due to poor quality milk and bad sucking - I just don't want to get feedback like poor Jezsika has had to suffer! (The sort of unsolicted comment Jezsika got on her blog makes me think of that terrible sureslim add where they have the baby in the womb and list all the things the mother is doing by being overweight - I would never go to sureslim after that add) -------------
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 18 November 2006 at 5:21pm
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Dont beat yourself up on breast feeding! I did and unfortunately i didnt enjoy being a mum in the first few days. My midwife was ok i was still scared to tell her tho
Just prepare yourself mentally for it and when ur strong enough u will get through it fine. One thing i found that helped was having a supportive husband he ended up telling the midwife coz i was so scared! lol that was just my baby blues to! |
Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 18 November 2006 at 7:44pm
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What a yucky spack head lady Regardless of what your situation was Jess, it's not anyone elses business what you choose to do. You are a loving and devoted mother, no-one in the world could say otherwise, and you are bringing up a happy, healthy little girl. Go you I say!
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 19 November 2006 at 12:49pm
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what a bicth big hugs jess ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 19 November 2006 at 2:59pm
Jess - take heart in the fact that if she has time to go trawling thru cyberspace looking for places to post random junk then she must have a pretty excting life!
Janine - One pro about bottle feeding you forgot to mention is that IT DOESN'T HURT! My boobs are ouchy just thinking about being chomped on... -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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