the first six weeks (just a ramble)
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Topic: the first six weeks (just a ramble)
Posted By: mrs frantic
Subject: the first six weeks (just a ramble)
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 1:11pm
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Just wanted to put this out there incase my experience helps anyone else...
I was so unprepared for the changes that a newborn would bring. The first 6 weeks were a total nightmare for me. I loved my baby from the moment I saw her but only now am I starting to feel like life is returning to normal. It really bugged me that I didnt take naturally to being a mum, I felt like I couldnt get anythign right and that things were out of control. Add to this sleep depravation and hormones and I was a bit of a wreck really... and people said to me that things would get better after the first few months but I just didnt see it happening. Anyway we re 7 and a half weeks now and I am just starting to feel like things are gettign better, it's like suddenly a fog has lifted and I can see things more clearly now... and only now am I really starting to enjoy spending time with my daughter without letting my anxiety get the better of me... So just wanted to say to all the new mums and almost new mums out there, you may have a fantastic time from teh moment you give birth, you may have a dream baby that sleeps and feeds well, and thats great if you do... But if you are like me and you have a tough start dont worry, things will get better, you WILL eventually be able to get out of your pyjama's before 4pm, you WILL figure out how to get you baby to eat/sleep/settle, and most of all you WILL regain control of you life... I am so much happier now, we still have our days (and nights!) but things are definately on the upswing... anyway, dont want to go on too long...just wanted to say that....  ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 2:07pm
Ditto to that 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 2:38pm
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Well said! Glad things are improving for you ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 3:07pm
Yap well said!! Glad you are enjoying the time you spend with your angel now!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Redbedrock
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 4:37pm
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Thank you for that,
I am suffering from huge feelings of being overwhelmed at the moment and it's almost as if I have only just worked out that being pregnant means having a baby. I feel like everything about having a newborn is negative (I think i listen to other people too much) so yeah it is reassuring to hear that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Don't get me wrong I am not afraid of the hard work and commitment, but just think I have hit the 7 month bump and it's all a bit soon and grown up to deal with. so well done on getting over your hump and thank you for sharing that it will get better. It's nice to hear at my end of the experience glad you are enjoying your daughter now Claire ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 4:49pm
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Thanks. Mine is three weeks and all that is really great to know!
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Posted By: Katherine
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 4:57pm
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LOL I love what you wrote about the fog lifting... For me, it was more like 8 months after Emma Rose was born that the fog lifted! Up til then, I was living in my pyjamas and she still wasn't sleeping totally through the night! What powerful words for all the new mums out there -- and old mums with second, third, fourth, etc new babies who had forgotten how tough it can be for those first six weeks. You know, in a lot of cultures, new mums don't even leave the house for the first six weeks following birth. I tried really hard to do this, but it's not easy, with relatives wanting us to bring the baby around, shopping to be done, dog to be walked... Just remember to take it easy as long as you can and don't be too hard on yourself. You're right, it does get better, the fog lifts, and you eventually start shaving your legs again! :) |
Posted By: Redbedrock
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 5:00pm
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It would be nice to shave my legs again, but I figure if i can't see them it doesn't matter ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com">
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 5:22pm
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Ohhh Mrs F, you just wrote my first six weeks... well, first three months actually !! Really glad you put this out there, I wasn't very prepared either, but you are right that things DO get better !! ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 5:30pm
well said ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 7:18pm
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Well said Mrs F.
I think everyone goes through that foggy period and no matter how long or short that time is you can't see an end. But ladies and gents, babies DO sleep for more than 10 minutes at a time.... eventually So hold on in there, listen to all of the advice (good and what seemed like bad at the time) and accept all of the help you are offered and don't be ashamed, it's Bl**dy hard work being a mum for the first time. But what better reward than that first smile, just for you!
------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 8:25pm
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Fog? Hello anyone out there?? My fog hasnt really cleared yet lol but thats coz i have a refluxy baby but yes things do get better!! Its the biggest test in the world and noone can fail
At the moment i love reminising over her baby baby photos lol looking at how big she is now and how much more hair she has etc Time goes WAY to fast~! |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 8:30pm
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Yep i can totally relate to the fog thing too - bor me it stuck around for about 6 months with paris.. was just like a constant haze. I remember going to my few classes i had a week, (2 2hours classes) and just feeling blah the whole time, nothing sunk in dunno how i passed my exams for those two.
Funny, before you have kids you think "ok, yep, whatever, yeah yeah yeah" when everyone tells you things.. then when you're living it and people tell you it will get better you think "LIAR!!!!" until one day a few months down the track you realise that things aren't quite as hard as they used to be, .. and you r4ealise that they WERE right.. it's a bit like pantene, lol - it won't happen overnight.... but it will happen. PMSL ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 8:50pm
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I must have had it easy the first time round coz even the first six weeks weren't too hard, I felt really in control, Maya was a good baby and I felt like supermum.
This time round am feeling more than a little overwhelmed but living in the hope that it will get easier after six weeks (6 more days to go... ). And in fact it actually IS getting easier every day, and every day is one day closer to a whole nights sleep!-------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 9:00pm
| OMG almost 6 weeks already Emz? |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 20 November 2006 at 9:05pm
Yep, 6 weeks on Saturday  ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 21 November 2006 at 9:34am
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charli is 6wks today!
it is a little easier but i'm still hanging out for the day she starts sleeping through the night! emma, i had it easy the first time round too! jack was such an easy baby, this time i don't know what to do with her half the time  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: LockieandLiam
Date Posted: 21 November 2006 at 12:20pm
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You are so right Mrs Frantic - I think its the big you just don't know what to expect. Lockie is 8 months and we sometimes get right through the night but I am living in hope that its every night and its just around the corner. At the moment is a lolly scramble you never know how many hours you are going to get during the night. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: shelleybean
Date Posted: 21 November 2006 at 1:15pm
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Hey there Frantic - pleased to hear everything is going well for you now.
To be honest with you all - I am finding being a Mum a breeze, Lily is great we get 6,7 hours a night, and about about 4,5 hours during the day. Im loving it!!!! She is feeding really well also.------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 21 November 2006 at 2:20pm
well shelley there's no need to skite! 
glad to hear everything is going well and lily is an angel for her mummy and daddy ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com">
http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: luna
Date Posted: 30 November 2006 at 12:46pm
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Glad to hear things are going well Frantic.
I think I had a pretty good 6 weeks - everyone had to come to me cos I wasn't allowed to drive (C-section) which was brilliant, but I did get quite down about my only outings being to the chiropractor and back! Even when I was allowed to drive, I didn't get out that much as it unsettled Amelia so much and I found I paid the price later. Anyway, yes, everything does get easier - you start to realise you do actully know what you're doing, feel less tired (well somedays) and the mummy brain you had for weeks or months starts to disappear and you remember where you left your cup/keys/glasses/what you went to the fridge for! ------------- Selina http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 30 November 2006 at 4:38pm
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I am not a first time mum but my youngest before Rhyley is 8 so I am starting all ovedr again. Although night time is ok at present ( and I am sure it won't stay this way) just the feeding and Rhyley not latching on etc... gets to me. Hes been really unsettled today and I feel its because hes got a sore belly from runny poos. He has finally settled (only for 10mins) in his bouncer/rocker for now.
It is tough work, I found my first alot easier I was asingle mother but I lived with my parents - great help. He wasn't a sleeper though and kept me up alot during day and night but i don't recall ever getting baby blues. Second was a breeze and Rhyley although not bad I have had the baby blues-bad in my books I told my mum I wasn't enjoying baby and almost crying,had a few stressy at Dh ending in crying over nothing and talking about stuff happening with baby almost crying getting chocked up lucky midwife would of seen it all before so no worries - that has past but girls its bloody hard work and every baby is different. The reawrd is the smile but with my kids alot older 8 and 13 its other people telling you what great kids you have, thats my reward as yes I have help along the way but it was me in the end that 'moulded' them into who they are. ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |