Is 1 enough for anyone else?
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Topic: Is 1 enough for anyone else?
Posted By: aimeejoy
Subject: Is 1 enough for anyone else?
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 10:53am
Well I've spent the last few days thinking I'm pregnant (yeah I know again!) but thankfully am not  It really freaked me out, even more than teenage pregnancy scares! I know Han's only little and we will probably change our minds later on, but at the moment I really don't want anymore kids. Its not even like she has been hard work and its put me off. Not in the least bit clucky and am getting so sick of people just assuming we'll have another soon.
Has anyone else decided to just have one? ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 11:00am
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we had decided to only have Jake until he was about five, but circumstances of course changed. The only thing you will get A LOT if you decide to have one is the endless-
"oh, she'll be lonely" "Hannah will get spoilt" and "you'll change your mind and it will be too late" I was an only child until my father remarried and am perfectly well-balanced! |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 11:01am
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Well... apart from the obvious reasons... I am happy with just one.
But really, even if I was in the situation where I had a partner, I'm pretty sure I'd stick with just one right now. Not to bag having more kids, but I'd enjoy Han much less if I was pregnant/had another child to tend to. I lack patience as it is, imagine another one!!! And I am really getting excited about my career and future, all of which would be much more difficult with two young children. Plenty of time to have more later Amy. Just let people know you are enjoying watching your little girl grow up 
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Posted By: EllenMumof2
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 11:03am
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I decied just to have one with Kalem and than when he was 4 got this sudden feeling i wanted another one and had Madison now im geting that feeling again and madison only 6 months http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 11:46am
i felt the same when i had jade. i didnt want anymore, felt very happy wee family just the 3 of us. then i got a suprise pregnancy result when jade was around 7 months old! i was in shock for the whole 9 months. when emma was born it took about 5 hours and i realised i was in love with her too  hehe now there's kayla to add to our growing family  all done now.
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Posted By: EthansMummy
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 11:59am
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I want to have more than one but I won't be trying until Ethan is about 3. I really want to enjoy Ethan as much as I can and I want to be able to give him my full attention. Saying that if anything happened before hand and I did fall pregnant I would be happy but for now 1 is enough for me ------------- ** MUM TO ** Ethan 29/08/2006 Brooke 22/09/2008 |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 1:11pm
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I think I fall into the small minority of people who already can't wait for number 2 (in spite of the massive shock of becoming parents!). We won't try until Maddie is at least a year old of course!!
I was an only child also and I was lonely and often wished I had brothers or sisters (that weren't imaginery ones!) but then we also had nothing to do with extended family which I think really made me feel isolated as well. I don't think only children are spolit or anything though. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: LockieandLiam
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 1:38pm
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I am all keen for another one although on days like I have had today I really second guess myself and ask myself do I want to go through this again.
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 1:52pm
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We are thinking about another one but I could not have one with Ella the age she is now. I'm hoping that Ella at 3.5 will be much easier to handle, she is very hard work right now. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 2:00pm
Unfortunately Meow in my experience 3.5 is even worse than 2.5 (I know that probably seems impossible!) 
Most days I'd like to put the 3 I do have back where they came from, especially when #1 is grumpy and grizzly and #'s 2 and 3 are screaming/fussing/want to be carried around all the time... But I still see us (read ME - Willie is not that keen) having at least one more somewhere down the track. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 2:16pm
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lol Emma, yeah I've been told that many times before.. the thing driving me crazy at the moment is that she can disappear in under a second, she is sooo fast.. So I'm hoping in another year she'll decide to stop that haha! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: LockieandLiam
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 2:16pm
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You're very game Emma!!
Babies are adorable though. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 2:44pm
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Ditto what Paws said ! ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 3:05pm
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I am a nutter and cant wait to have another baby! Well I will wait a year, but wouldnt mind if it happened earlier! DH on the otherhand is not keen at all,..for a "very long time" after watching me go through labour/birth. He still says he "never wants me to go through that again". If I can get over it so quickly,..Im sure he will eventually too!
Nothing wrong with only wanting one child. I know lots of "only children" who are perfectly normal and not stuck up or spoilt or anything! |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 3:16pm
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With the way Andrew is now I wish I wasn't pregnant, but thats another story. So your choice, but as Liz said you'll probably get a lot of Hannah will be spoilt and get waht she wants. This doesn't happen, the only way it happens if you you make it happen. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 8:22pm
| the way this pregnancy has treated me I am tempted to stop at one...i always thought pregnancy would be a breeze and wanted three....DH wants two....I think I will wait a bit before trying for a second (please remind me of this often once bubs is here!!!)...but i still want more than one...I grew up with one sibling but mainly on my own and feel like an only child...and dont want that for my kids...so guess i will endure pregnancy again...someday!!! |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 8:33pm
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I will probably have more at some stage but don't have any burning desire for more like I thought I would. I was just curious as there was a thread a week or so ago where heaps of people with little bubs were keen for more already... ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 22 November 2006 at 8:47pm
Yer we are the same i was all anti having another due to the rough pregnancy i had but we decided that when Ella is one we will start TTC i just hope it doesnt take nearly as long and doesnt require intervention 
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Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 2:06am
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I had a really easy pregnancy with DD but still had no desire what so ever to have another. Not because shes awful, I think shes pretty much the best thing ever, but because I was quite happy with just the one. The only reason we have decided to have another is that DH really wanted two- very passionately! Since I didn't feel that strongly about having one we talked about it and decided to have another. He had to talk me into it though- I am getting a big fat diamond, a tummy tuck and a boob job out of it! Hehe Now I'm pregnant of course I want this baby desperately but I still know that I would have been happy with just DD.
I am an only child and I absolutely loved it- wouldn't have had it any other way. I never ever desired siblings and don't feel I missed out on anything. I am very close with my parents and really thrived being their centre of attention
I think you'll find people have their opinions whatever you decide- if you went on to have 4 you'd have the whole "four! thats a lot to handle" comments too! ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 6:15am
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my girlfriend has three and she gets the
"don't you know how it happens?" and people, because the kids are close in age, even ask her if they were planned or an accident! |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 8:00am
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I onlny wanted one but maybe someday when james is a lot older say about 3 and i have a pantner i would have another ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 8:11am
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I can't imagine having another one right now although we will probably end up with 2 later on.
It's mostly that DH has put me off having another one since he's not entirely helpful day to day..although he's dying for another one of course (easy to say when you don't help out)... Must admit he is getting slightly better now that Alyssa is getting older. |
Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 8:28am
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I have always wanted to have three kids so I will have more but i waiting till each kid is toilet trained before i have the next one so I guess they will be round two years apart at least.
It is up to you how many kids you want so just tell people to mind their own business if they hassle you about only having one. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 10:34am
| I have 2, 19 months apart and yes we have our hard days and I still have a bit of a struggle with PND but they were both very much planned and I would love another 2 .... so far DH has agreed to 1 more so we will just see what happens. DH used to be reluctant to help out on day to day stuff but has got much better, I just keep inforcing how much the girls need him to be around and spend time playing with him and using him as a jungle gym and he has learnt if he doesnt help out he doesnt get things done, or help in the garden, or dinner before 10pm etc and he also has to contend with a very grumpy shi**y wife if he doesnt pull his finger out! |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 11:30am
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It's excessively rude of people who don't know you well to share their opinions on how many kids you should have - I can't believe people make comments about only children being 'spoilt' or 4 kids being too many. Like it's any of their business! I always wanted more than one child, 2, 3, maybe 4... but these days I think 4 does seem like too many (for ME... lots of other women thrive parenting 4 or more, and 8 isn't too many for some parents!). It's still such early days, but right now I love having one baby and can't imagine having another. Yeah I know, that might change, but for now I'm enjoying being the mum of one too much to plan to change it in the near future, and I think it's GREAT to enjoy life as it is - if it ain't broke don't fix it! I'll bet we end up with 2 or 3 kids, but I've got to be realistic about my health (so should wait a while before having another) and about my age (hmmmm... so can't wait forever!) as well. Turning 30 soon... eeek! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 11:49am
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Ok so I think there is nothing wrong with one. I presonally can't wait to have my next #3 however I am very lucky I have an amazingling supportive hubby who does help so much with the day to day stuff, but yeah Andie I agree it is so rude for anyone even people that know you well to pass judgement on how many children you want I think it is a really personal desision. By hte way for the record I relly want six. I am also one of the luckey onew who has great pregancy, birth and babies. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 12:52pm
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Liz - yep I get the "don't you know how it happens" questions already and I haven't even HAD my #3 yet Interfering people... just have to think of smart, quick answers so you're prepared. "Oh, I love kids" just blows some people away, they're so used to hearing all the negatives.
And Deb, I'm inclined to go for 6 as well (at the moment it's officially "at least 4" though)... but I can't say I've had a good birth yet, just good pregnancies. Fingers crossed, they seem to be getting better! ------------- |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 2:34pm
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LOl mummy22 will u surrogate for me then? tee hee...
We are 35 so decisions re next bubs etc will need to be done relatively promptly...but I so dont want to do this year over again too quickly...yet age concerns mean i may need to....UGH... I know what u mean about the comments...even hear myself saying some of those at times... |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 3:06pm
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We get the "Don't you know how it happens" comments too... Nat and I grin at each other and say "Yes! And it's lots of fun!" and watch them blush as they realise they've just enquired about your sex life! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 3:56pm
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becca.l wrote:Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 4:09pm
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That's all class, Becca! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 9:09pm
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It is funny Aimee but I have just gone through exactly the same thing. A pregnancy scare, and I admit even though right up to the scare I would have been fine with another pregnancy. But it ended up terrifying me for several reasons.
1 being that I am a cesar girl so my next child so soon after my last op is more likely to not be full term and not be VBAC. 2 Olivia can be a real hand full at times and I'm not to sure I could cope with her being hell on wheels as well as a new baby that could possibly develop the same problems (heart murmur and silent reflux). 3 I had such a terrible pregnancy with horrific anxiety and gestational diabetes and although the memory has fuzzed over a lot I made sure that at the time I made myself remember how uncomfortable and scared I was. 4 I am still overweight. I need to be down to at least 80 or 90kgs if I get pregnant again, carrying around all of my weight is killer. 5 I really do want to be with Olivia for a lot of her firsts. Her mental health and wellbeing is something I see as an empty canvas or an innocent plant that needs to be cultivated. She is just starting to open up and it really takes my breath away how lovely she can be. So now I am of the same mind as you. I would dearly love another child but I still only want Olivia! As they say you can only ever have your first child once. I would feel like I am stealing something from her, you know? I still haven't made up my mind (in the general state of it). I will probably relent at some stage but for now, I am happy with just the one. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 9:10pm
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I like that Becca, so going to say that next time someone says that to me. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 9:24pm
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Thanks Peace ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 23 November 2006 at 9:27pm
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To quote Peace: "being that I am a cesar girl so my next child so soon after my last op is more likely to not be full term and not be VBAC."
Not wishing to contradict and obviously there are other issues you have to work through, but I had a VBAC 19mos after Hannah was born and a friend of mine had the same gap with the second one a c/s..... so it IS possible. But yea, gotta be ready for it in other respects too. Hard decisions! We never know what's 9mos ahead
And Becca, I've thought about saying that but never had the courage....yet ------------- |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 8:35am
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Love it Becca must try that one next time. Specially on those snoty old ladies who just can't mind their own. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 8:37am
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Bombshell LOL I thought bout it at one point, but I would have a far too hard time giving up the baby after sorry. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 8:51am
First of all I would like to say that I actually think that is a pretty insensitive thing for you to say to me! Olivia is only 6 months old and I had gestational diabetes (which is not an "issue" to work through as GD is non weight related) so my chance goes down from 50% chance of VBAC in year 1, to 20% chance so yes it would probably be another c/s because the baby would be large and stretch the scar which would mean she would be out before 38 weeks. I actually feel like you did a bit of a face rub there "I did it so you SHOULD be able to" comments don't fly with me at all. Watch what you say I feel quite offended. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:10am
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:13am
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I did read what she said and like I said at the end of my post: "I did it so you SHOULD be able to" comments don't fly with me at all.
Which is what I feel annoyed about. I think the bottom line is was this whole thread was to reassure aimee that she wasn't alone in how she felt, and to have someone say that your reasoning is off because they didn't do that irks me a little. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:18am
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The whole situation of a pregnancy scare when you have a new baby is something that is not lost on many of the girls on here I am quite sure. Some people are quite ready for it and others are not. It is quite a personal situation with intense feelings surrounding it. I mean if I had ended up pregnant I would have been forever angry with myself that I was upset and emotional over the whole thing rather than happy and elated. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:24am
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:27am
Is what I am focusing on. She said it to me so I am assuming that the it is possible is directed at me. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:27am
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:30am
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Of course I made an issue of it, I should stand up for myself, it isn't a personal attack, I'm not calling her an effing what not, it's just telling her that I was offended! ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:34am
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:36am
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And like I said it is a very personal situation with plenty of emotions around it. Just because other people are able to do something (righteously) does not mean every one else can. Since the comment was directed at me (whether you see the implication there or read it like a small chalk board) I still think I have reason to state that I feel a little let down by the whole "I can do it, so you should be able to" feeling the post had.
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:50am
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LOL, Hi Viv! ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:57am
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Sooooo anywhooo....how 'bout them All Blacks?
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:58am
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LOL very cool Pepsi. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 10:00am
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 10:31am
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 12:00pm
i have got to say that is pretty much the first catfight i have ever seen on here..   hopefully the last. This is a place for all to share ideas without judging or offending others. lets be nice and not turn it into one of those icky other boards that we all know exist (which is why we come here, to stay away from the dramas) be open to others remarks, acept that others have differing opinions, take things as they are meant - to inspire and let others know ALL the options. If you disagree, politely state your case, or PM them, keep it away from the boards.
ANYWAYSSSS......Aimmee - i can officially say - when i did find out about Ayja - even though i had a funny feeling i was preg for a few weeks before i found out.. I was gutted, I felt so sad for Paris, Mike did too, since Paris is his little girl... he kept saying "aw, my little girl, what are we doing" which made me feel even worse.. then we found out it was another girl and he got worse. I think even if Ayja had been planned it would have been the same.. it's all good planning but when you get that positive, it's like "what have we done.. it's all real now" Some one said something about the first child missing out. I actually feel bad for the second child. No matter what, the second child will never get you and your partner all to themselves.. EVER, the older one will be around, or will be on your mind, or whatever.. they will never know life without competition no matter how fair you try and make it. I feel bad for Ayja, her firsts are the big excitement that we made PAris's, her plunket book isn't filled out as much, things aren't as pedantic.. it's the classic second child syndrome. That said.. i like that i am much more easy going this time round, and for the most part.. even though Ayja was a more difficult pregnancy and birth, and baby in general.. she's awesome. I love her so much. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 12:13pm
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I knoe Janine hence my apology I feel awful about the whole thing like you said it the first vcat fight.
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 12:26pm
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Aw Deb, you don't have to say sorry to anyone. I have the right to register my annoyance at a comment just as you have to defend a friend.
LOL @ catfight, I didn't even get to pull hair or call Deb any naughty names!  ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 12:49pm
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I would just like to clarify a couple of points I was trying to make as they have been taken wrong.
Peace without doing a birth story search on ya I actually wasn't sure why you had had a c/s. I just wanted to offer reassurance that people can have ok 2nd c/s' and/or VBACs, because a lot of people actually don't think it's medically possible at all, or until acertain length of time has passed. It wasn't clear from your first post (which I responded to) whether you knew that.... obviously I now know that you do know. When referring to "issues", I was oblivious to your GD and simply referring to the other points you had made in your post. I think they were good points, and obviously medical reasons are not the only things to work through. Anyway I do agree that this post has been largely thread-jacked, some time ago. Certainly there is a lot of support on here whether you choose to have more kids or stop (or wait).... and I didn't mean to cross any of those lines. I didn't mean to offend you, Aimee, or anyone else. Feel free to PM me if you still want to talk about this. ------------- |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 1:28pm
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aimee, just want to add that sam and i have decided that we only want one as well. i grew up in a very large family and although i loved it, it was very hectic.
i think i may possibly change my mind further on down the track though and try to turn sam around as well but for now i'm happy with just my one wee man. ------------- |
Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 2:05pm
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DH and I are actually unsure now what we will do after this one. We always said we would have 2, but lately I have been thinking if we only have 1 that will be OK too. Time will tell, but I can say the age gap will be around 4 years. ------------- "> 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 2:29pm
Yeah I always thought I wanted 3 kids. Its so nice to hear other people semi-decided on one too I have a brother and a sister, but they are a lot older than me (the afterthought!). I dont really remember them living at home, so in some ways was bought up like an only child too. And Daniel is the eldest of 4 and he tells me heartbreaking stories about them not having much money when he was a kid. For example he was the only kid at school that wore shorts in winter and one of the very few that wore the recommended (not compulsary) uniform  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 2:39pm
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lol, yeah - i was the 2nd youngest of 6.. all my sisters were 70's kids.. so when i was at primary, i was wearing their ever so lovely 70's sundresses.. very embarrasing. makes it worse that mel and chris were 10 months apart and mum made 2 of everything the same.. so i had to endure things 2 - 4 years in a row depending on how long i fitted them. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 2:40pm
 Janine!------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 3:00pm
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add that to the fact that mum made us have our hair long (as in, down to our butts) and in two plaits.. i felt like a 70's throw back from the braidy bunch.lol ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 3:05pm
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Yay am I glad I was the eldest! It's so good that family support is hugely increased since the 70's and 80's and even 90's though. ------------- |
Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 4:42pm
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Hey Busymum, thanks for the reply!
Gee, it is getting late in the day, I'm a wee bit behind on my posting! ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 8:03pm
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Ok so after much thought I am very dissapointed with myself for getting into a catfight (for want of a better word) this morning so I have now deleted my post's as I no longer think it is nessary for anyone else to read them. I feel really awful that I was part of the first ever on oh baby thanks Janine for making me aware.
Sorry again Deb. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 8:38pm
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*puts on her admin hat* Pleased to see you ladies have sorted out your differences, sometimes when we say things online without tone/expression etc. to put them in context it's easy for others to misunderstand us. We at OHbaby! want this to be a supportive and accepting place for all of you, so no more catfights please
*takes off her admin hat and slinks back to maternity leave* I was the oldest child but unfortunately had too many older cousins to be able to avoid the dreaded 70's hand-me-downs. Sooooooo never inflicting that on my children! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:02pm
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Isn't it funny tho how much 70's stuff is back in and all the "kids" of today think its just great? Ugh!!! ------------- |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:04pm
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I don't think the 70's was too bad it was the 80's I am sure I have some pic's of me in some awful cloth's. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 9:07pm
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I was an only child and always got lovely new things! I only had one older boy cousin so never got hand me downs. Much to my Mums disgust I always chose "favourites" like my teenage mutant ninga turtle T shirt I wore practically non-stop for a whole year!
Couple of things you have to be aware of in only children is that it is easy to spoil them. I still struggle with money as I find it really hard to grasp that you need to work for it as I just got handed it as a child. Not to put too much pressure on them. Because they are your only off spring it is easy to want them to be the best at everything- luckily I excelled under that pressure (a real keen-to-pleaser here!) but some kids with different personalities may struggle with it. Aaand last but not least- get them out and about with other children lots. I still have major sharing issues and can be quite selfish at times- I have to really work on it not to be. I had a cousin I grew up with and was very close to, and always had friends over which helped. In saying that I absolutely loved being an only child and wouldn't have it any other way. I have a really close relationship with my parents and never felt like I missed out by not having siblings. ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 24 November 2006 at 10:07pm
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oooh yes - Mike's an only child and i can agree with the money thing. lol.. my older sister's (now ex) husband is an only child and there are definately personailty traits that we could see between them both - they hated it cos we could see it so clearly. lol. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 25 November 2006 at 9:18am
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LOl kinda glad i missed all of that...but had wondered how this thread got so huge so fast!!! LMAO!!
well seeing as no surrogate offers (tee hee) Im guessing our gap will be a year or so....I need to be back at work 6 months before leave etc again so need at least a year back...and will probably take me that long to lose bubs weight! I always felt sorry for the kids I nannied for in states...he was nine months when his mum got pg with the baby...and he was still in need of his mum a lot yet she had baby to deal with too....so no nine month gap for me...and if god forbid that does happen then at least i am aaware of the difficulties of that kinda age gap from first hand experience. I woudl still love three kids...but might need to aim for twins next time...Emma - might come to u for advice on that one next...LOL! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 25 November 2006 at 12:10pm
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oo after having two under two I will never ever again dream of having twins! What a romantic noodle I was back then! ------------- |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 25 November 2006 at 2:01pm
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I would be a surrogate mum for you but unfortuantely i dont do the growing babies part very well. Horrible pregnancy, gestational diabetes, big babies, prem babies etc.... Imagine that, handing over someones newborn baby 'heres your baby but sorry you cant take it home yet cos its got problems thanks to my diabetes and your going to have to watch bubs get pricked with a needle every three hours and have lots of other tests' I wish i had nice pregnancies cos I would love to be a surrogate mum.
On the how many kids issue, cant remember if I added my two cents worth but I came from a big family and loved it, its even better now we are all older with kids of our own. My hubby only has a sister and the difference in family values etc... is very noticable. Money was always tight in our family but i dont really remember wanting for anything. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 25 November 2006 at 2:40pm
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LOL Bombshell, if I'd known 'how' we got twins in the first place we might not have 'got' them
I could never be a surrogate either Robyn coz I spend every day of my pregnancy chucking up. Would love to give the gift of a child to someone else but the thought of having a baby at the end of it is what got me thru the whole horrid experience, take that away and where's the appeal? Oh and I totally agree with the only child theory - Maya has been an only child (not counting random half siblings) for 3 years and she has been more than a little spoilt. I'm used to, and she's used to, being able to go out to the movies etc. and buy nice things. I got the fright of my life yesterday when I went to Pumpkin Patch and bought the girls some new summer clothes. Last summer I bought Maya's entire wardrobe at Patch and thought nothing of it (two incomes, one child, life was good ), yesterday I spent $500 I don't reaaaaally have on 4 outfits for each of them. Having 3 is just so much more expensive. Me thinks one income and three children is not quite as much fun when it comes to shopping!------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 25 November 2006 at 3:00pm
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I think you have to be careful with spoiling at any age tho I am from a family of 3 girls (22, 20 me, 16) and we were very spoiled I have trouble spending money too and found it very hard when I moved out of home as I didn't know how to do very simple things like peel potatoes or work the washing machine.
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 27 November 2006 at 8:51am
Firstly - Thanks for stepping in there Janine I haven't been on here much lately (but that's another story) and I was shocked when I read through this thread! Glad you have all sorted it out though 
Aimee - Although we are "TTC" #2 (I put that in quotation marks because I think to officially be TTC you have to put in more effort... if you know what I mean ) I still have days where I don't really know if we should have another baby!------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 27 November 2006 at 5:34pm
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I said Rhyley would be the last but been thinking - will he? ?I am pretty sure he will be as i did not enjoy my pregnancy nor birth and at present Rhyley very wakeful during night so good medicine to put me off, but then again Rhyley is my third and so different to you. personal choice i say. my cousin is an only child my aunt and uncle didn't want anymore so stopped and there is plently only children outthere. ------------- Ann 
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