What’s a good bedtime......
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Topic: What’s a good bedtime......
Posted By: ellabellame
Subject: What’s a good bedtime......
Date Posted: 26 November 2006 at 5:00pm
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i was wondering if now that mikey is 1 i should change his bedtime. he usually goes to bed around 6 at the moment because that's when he's tired, is that too early for a 12 month old?
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 26 November 2006 at 5:29pm
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I wouldn't worry about it unless he's waking too early in the morning.
I think it largely depends on your lifestyle. My girls generally sleep from 7pm to 7am, give or take a bit in the morning, which works well for us because DH starts work at 7 so we are already awake by then. But if he started work at 8 I would probably not be so keen  -------------  |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 26 November 2006 at 5:58pm
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mikey goes to bed at about 6 and gets up at about 7ish. but he does wake up about 5 times a night, do you think that could have something to do with him going to bed too early? ------------- |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 26 November 2006 at 6:11pm
| Taine is 10 months and goes to bed at 6, Jaske at 2 goes to bed at7. i think at 1 jake was between 6-6;30pm,getting up around six. |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 26 November 2006 at 7:32pm
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Hannah goes to bed betwen 7 and 7.30 depending on when she woke up in the afternoon, and sleeps til 7ish ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 26 November 2006 at 7:51pm
5 times  ouch for you! You could try a slightly later bedtime but there's probably a huge list of possible reasons for his waking.------------- |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 26 November 2006 at 9:36pm
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yea lol 5 times is about usual, i tried letting him cry it out during the night and not feeding him like i usually do once and he got all wheezy (asthma) so i don't really want to do that again. maybe i should try a little bit of a later bedtime and see if that works. if not then i think i'm just going to have to resign myself to broken sleep for the rest of my life lol. ------------- |
Posted By: Kim
Date Posted: 26 November 2006 at 11:15pm
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Zac is 1 on Thursday and he goes to bed between 7:30 - 7:45 pm and sleeps through until 7:30 - 8:00 am. ------------- Zac Mark - 30.11.05 Samara Ailsa - 13.08.07 |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 9:14am
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Zaara use to go to bed a bit later like 8pm and some time 9pm before...but then she would sleep till 10am or 11 am.....it was impossible to make her sleep!!!
But now that she is going to day care she is in Bed at 7.30 and wakes up about 7.30am. Like Mikey she also wakes several times at night!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 10:09am
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Ella, does Mikey wake up for a feed all those times? Will he drink water out of a bottle or something cos if that is why he's waking up its probably habit not cos hes actually hungry. Or is it cos he's cold or moved around the cot...? Just wondering cos I dont know how you handle getting up still - totally take my hat off to you to still be able to function during the day!! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 12:05pm
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Oh dear these little boys aye!!!
Paige is 7 and goes to bed at 7:30!!! My girlfriend has a 18 month old and she goes to bed at 6:30 - 7pm. I was looking in one of my books and it says that from a year up until they are about 9-10...children need 12 hours of sleep during the night to grow and function!!! So there you go. I know children are differnt and depends on the days sleeps etc but gives you a good idea. I would suggest he is having trouble resetlling. I think by that age is it is a bad habit and if he is waking for feeds as someone above said it is not cause he is hungry and the bottle of water is great idea as they give up cause its not worth waking for!!! Good luck!!! XXX -------------  
 
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 12:26pm
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yeah, he does need a feed to settle him and if he doesn't get one he gets himself all worked up until he starts wheezing (this asthma thing is still pretty new). i tried giving him his sippy cup with water in it (he won't take a bottle) but he wouldn't have a bar of it and just screamed harder. i agree, it is a bad habit, but it's one i just don't know how to break!! it would make life a whole lot easier for all of us if he did learn to sleep through the night, it's just getting him to do it that's the major problem. ------------- |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 12:36pm
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I would like to know as well...because Zaara is the same. She needs a feed and thats that!!
I am wondering when she will finally sleep thru the night!!!??? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 12:39pm
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it's hard ay roksana, it's good to know there are other babies that do this though. i was starting to think that mikey was the only one his age who wouldn't sleep right through. ------------- |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 12:55pm
Oh no hun you are not the only one.....Its so hard waking up in the morning to go to work.....and now I have to get Zaara ready too, so that I can drop her to Day care......
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 1:15pm
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Okay...have you tried getting Daddy to go in and do it???? Sometimes it can work!!!
My only other suggestion is leaving him to it. My partners sister did that as 15month was still waking for feeds. She shut his door at 7 and went back in at 7 in the morn. He would scream the house down and get so worked up ..go blue in the face etc. He didnt have asthma tho but she did it for 4 days ans that was it. he never bothered unless he was sick etc. I guess with some babies that are otherwise healthy and for those of us that can bear to put the rest of the household thru the disruption...sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind!!! I feel sorry for you. I wish there was an easy answer. have you tried asking Plunket about it at all??? -------------
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 1:31pm
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Maybe try emailing the sleep expert on OhBaby and see if she has any "gentle" solutions ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 1:44pm
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that's a good idea, thanks aimee.
kelly - yeah, if mikey was healthy i think i'm probably desperate enough to do the whole cry it out thing but i can't really do that and if his dad goes in there mikey gets really freaked out, dunno why, i guess he's just used to me. ------------- |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 1:55pm
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right, i've emailed the sleep expert so lets see what they have to say about it. maybe you should too roksana, we can get our babies to sleep through the night together! ------------- |
Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 2:01pm
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I need to email them too about Blakes day sleeps!!! Actually I might post something and see what people say.
Let us know how you go!! -------------
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 2:09pm
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let me know what they say Ella!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 29 November 2006 at 2:10pm
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will do. ------------- |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 01 December 2006 at 11:26pm
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Jack goes to bed between 8 and 9 it used to be 7 but he has pushed it back and if i try to put him down too early he won't go to sleep. He wakes at 8.30.
I so know how you guys feel Jack was waking over 5 times a night and would be impossible to get back to sleep but about a month ago he just randomly started sleeping through or waking uponce and going straight back to sleep so hopefully Mikey and Zaara do that too. What are his day sleeps like? If Jack sleeps past 4 he won't sleep at night. |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 02 December 2006 at 8:29am
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he has 2 day sleeps, 1 at about 9.30-10am for about an hour and then 1 at 2pmish for about an hour to 1 1/2 hours. ------------- |
Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 02 December 2006 at 8:40pm
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I put Olivia into the bath at 7pm every night and she is in bed asleep (normally) 40 minutes later. I thought this was a good time to have for the summer as we will want to go out some nights and she will need to stay up later. In the winter when the clocks go back she will be in the bath at 6pm so Mummy can snuggle up in bed a bit earlier too! ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 03 December 2006 at 8:50am
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yeah, that's a good idea peace. i'd love to be able to go out without worrying about how grumpy mikey will get when his bedtime rolls around. sounds like you have a wee angel on your hands if she lets you choose her bedtime ------------- |
Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 03 December 2006 at 11:07am
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It is just the routine of bedtime that snapped her into it. She is most definitely at the end of her tether when I am stuffing her into her jarmies after her bath. All she wants to do is have a drink and go to bed. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 03 December 2006 at 12:32pm
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lol, that sounds like mikey. after his bath all he really wants is cuddles and a feed before sleeping......for a little bit anyway. ------------- |
Posted By: rug_nz
Date Posted: 03 December 2006 at 6:00pm
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Man most of you put your kids to bed early.
We put Ash down anytime between 8 to 9.30pm. She sleeps thou till 7am. The reason we do that is cause mum leaves for work at 6.30am and gets home at 5.30ish pm so she only gets 3 hours a day with her and the weekend. We also did this for me when I was working. As much as they say that babies need there sleep, we don't think it should come at the cost of not having that time with dad or mum. ------------- Look out! It's a man. SAHD 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 03 December 2006 at 7:49pm
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Fair enough Mathew (great occupation!)... I guess we are quite lucky like that - Daniel leaves at 7.50am, is home for his lunch hour and then home by 5.30 so Hannah sees her Dad quite a bit during the day. I love that after 7pm ish we have the evening for ourselves. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: rug_nz
Date Posted: 03 December 2006 at 11:32pm
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Haha Did ya like that occ. Flash way of saying Slave.
I spose the bad thing bout living out West Auckland and DW workin in the city its about 2 hours out of ya day in traffic. Some people I know the dads are lucky to get an hour a night with there boys, but I spose that suits some people, maybe it just cause i'm so hands on that I think like that. Gettin a bit off track, sorry people. ------------- Look out! It's a man. SAHD
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 04 December 2006 at 7:30am
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i think it's great that you're able to spend lots of time with your daughter. in his current job DH gets home at around 6.30 so he's lucky if he's able to even say goodnight to mikey before he's whisked off to bed. soon, he'll be moving away altogether to go work in reefton so he'll have even less time with him as he'll be away for 7 days at a time.
hopefully he'll be able to have heaps of bonding time on his time off. and i agree with aimee, great occupation mathew ------------- |
Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 04 December 2006 at 8:36am
I think it is great that you spend lots of time with your midget as well  But Olivia gets up at the same time every morning (6am) and after putting her to bed, spending time with hubby and cleaning up absolutely everything for the morning. Most nights it is about 9.30pm I am finished everything and I'm not the type of person that goes to bed and just falls asleep I make a lot of work for myself though, so maybe that is my downfall! ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 04 December 2006 at 10:27am
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I sooo know what you mean about the commute Mathew! We used to live at Muriwai (pre-baby days) and I worked at Auckland City Hospital so that was a LOT of time on the motorway! Main reason we left Auckland really.... ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: rug_nz
Date Posted: 04 December 2006 at 11:57am
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haha OT again but DW works at Auckland City Hospital. I want to get out of here to but I don't bring home the bacon ------------- Look out! It's a man. SAHD
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 04 December 2006 at 2:54pm
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Ahh, we always go OT!! If you dont mind me asking what does your wife do? Im a physio... ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: rug_nz
Date Posted: 04 December 2006 at 4:33pm
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Educator - Anaesthetic Tech. mainly on level 8. Trained in Hamilton, moved to Tga, then up to Auck. ------------- Look out! It's a man. SAHD
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 06 December 2006 at 9:30am
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roksana, i just heard back from the sleep expert. she sent me an email asking me heaps of questions about mikey's routine, like when does he eat, how many milk feeds does he have, what do i do when he wakes up, does he have a dummy, does he wriggle around in bed, things like that.
i answered all the questions (took me about 1/2 an hour with mikey pulling on my leg) and sent it off so hopefully she'll be able to work something out for him *cross fingers*. i'll let you know when i hear back from her again. ------------- |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 06 December 2006 at 12:06pm
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Ok ...since they have asked questions about Mikey....the answers will suit him only huh? May be I should email them too....
I will wait and see what they say about Mikey!! I am lucky I guess...Atish picks Zaara up from Day care between 3.30 - 4.30 and goes home and spend time with her, some days he gives her bath...so he gets good quality time with her...Once I am home tho she is all mine!!! LOL ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: LockieandLiam
Date Posted: 06 December 2006 at 1:04pm
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We put Lachlan down anywhere between 7 - 8pm and like some of you all he wants to do after his bath is have a drink and go to sleep, he is certainly ready for his bed. We sometimes get through the whole night without a wake up and other times he can wake once and it can be any random time!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 06 December 2006 at 2:50pm
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Ella is older than Mikey but we put her to bed around 8pm at the moment.. can be later, not usually earlier in summertime.. lately has been 9pm - argh! But it suits us as we go out all the time during the summer.. keep her up late for bbq's, outdoor concerts etc etc. She loves it and we have lots of fun taking her places.. the only downfall is that she hardly ever sleeps in! Wakes up about 6am.. And if she does sleep in there is no nap for her that day.. doesn't want it! I am not giving in on that one nap though, I try to get her to have it every day.. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 06 December 2006 at 2:50pm
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Oh yeah.. we did it last year too and Ella was 18 months at Christmas time. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 12 December 2006 at 10:10am
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roksana, i heard back from the sleep expert and she gave me alot of suggestions.
she said there are 4 things i need to look at: routine, swaddling, positive sleep associations and self settling. with routine, i have to try to stop him from associating feeding with sleeping, so i have to give him his feeds other times rather than just when i put him to bed. she also said it's probably time to stop wrapping mikey, she suggested i try a sleeping bag instead. with positive sleep associations she says i should try to get him used to a comfort blankie, preferably something that smells like me so that he can use that instead of me to get himself back to sleep when he wakes up. also, having a cd going quietly on repeat in his room through the night might help as well. with self settling (i guess this is the hardest part) i have to choose a plan and stick to it!! no giving up. she suggested i read a book called "no cry sleep sollution for toddlers". so hopefully you find something there that can apply to zaara as well. ------------- |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 December 2006 at 11:31am
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The feeding to sleep thing can be broken by making the feed slightly shorter so that bubba goes to bed still awake but full. Just another thing in the mix! ------------- |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 12 December 2006 at 12:55pm
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i've thought about that but when mikey wakes, he's not really hungry, he just takes a little feed anyway. it's really just for comfort. if i thought he was waking up hungry then i would definitely feed him.
ah well, we'll see how it goes once i've got a sleeping bag for him. cross fingers that it works. ------------- |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 12 December 2006 at 2:37pm
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hmmmm.......might have to look in to it...and see what I can use! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 22 December 2006 at 2:58pm
here's a photo of mikey sleeping like an angel in his new sleeping bag (thanks ana!!!). he went to sleep without a feed for once with very minimal crying!!! let's just see how he goes tonight *cross fingers*.
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 22 December 2006 at 3:04pm
Good luck Ella - heres hoping for a full nights sleep for you soon  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 22 December 2006 at 4:14pm
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ohhhh....where do I get one of those??? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 22 December 2006 at 4:21pm
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i got ana to buy me one, i think she got it from babycity. it was $30. i'm sure they'd have a cute pink one that zaara would look really gorgie in ------------- |