comfort toy help please!!!
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Topic: comfort toy help please!!!
Posted By: Andie
Subject: comfort toy help please!!!
Date Posted: 02 January 2007 at 10:25am
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Hubby and I were reading through Jax's post on comfort toys/blankies... trying to decide whether or not to let Ella have one. What he'd like to know is: (ladies with older kids) did your children end up carrying a comfort toy or blankie around when they were 6 or 8 years old or whatever? Needless to say, we've not yet agreed on it - I like the idea of something other than me that comforts our baby for those teething/flu/earache days, and her daddy hates the idea as much as I like it, as he fears Ella turning out to be a child trying to take her blankie to school. Anyone learnt from experience how this works out??? Reading the other post on them was great, but hubby wanted to hear what parents of older children who had comfort toys have to say. Of course, no-one's gonna mention that they know of 12 different older kids without a cuddly-dependency because who doesn't? So I figure it's mostly the kids who are 'too old' to have a blankie and still have one that'll get a mention. Ah well... Ella might just 'choose' a toy for herself anyway! ------------- Andie |
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 02 January 2007 at 11:48am
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Jayden has had a "blankie" since he was a baby and while he was young it went everywhere with us. Around the age of three he started leaving it at home when we went out with encouragement, then it stopped coming out of the bedroom around four and now at five he sleeps with it and that's it.
He still loves it when he's upset or sick but has outgrown the constant cuddling and dragging it around now. I will say this it has helped us a lot when he has been in hospital or we have gone away as it was always there and comforted him and helped him to settle. I wish my older boy had, had one it would have helped a lot. Abby now has one but doesn't seem as attached to hers she brings it out of her room everyday but as long as she can see it she doesn't need to hold it constantly, but once again when she started creche it was a godsend as she takes it with her and they just leave it where she can see it. I do know lots of adults that have kept there cuddlies for sentimental reasons and have very fond memories of them now be it packed away in a box. I hope this helps a little. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 02 January 2007 at 12:26pm
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I'd say it's really dictated by the parents... if you aren't comfortable with your child having it at 8 years old (or 25) then you set the rules!
I had a cuddly which I was quite attached to until my silly mum cut it up so I could have one in the car, one in bed and a couple spare. It was then on referred to as "Broken pink" and never held in quite the same regard... so there's a way to get rid of one when ya need to  
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 02 January 2007 at 12:27pm
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Ok so here is a little personal insite to me. I am a thumb sucker to start with had a cuddley for some reason it was a cloth Nappy wich Mum said was great cause she could wash it all the time and just give ne a new one. I got to about 4 she decided it was not a good look so she moved me on to hankies to this day I often have a hankie in my hand or pocket its not a big deal and most people don't even know I have it. I guess it is one of thoes thing's Andie Ella will decide's she need's something like that. Not all kids do. ALan does not have one he has about 3 soft toy's and any will do for bed. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 02 January 2007 at 1:21pm
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My girls have both had a special bedtime doll from about 1yr and at first we have taken it to everywhere because they sleep so much at that age and it was good to settle them when we weren't at home or on long trips in the car seat etc. By the 15-18m mark we start setting some rules on where it goes. So if we're going out somewhere food-related (like for dinner), it stays in the car (so it won't get mucky). Dolls don't go to the supermarket, and they have to stay home (for a non-sleepy child) if it's raining. If we're going to be out late or far, the dolls come along. It's a bit of a laugh sometimes because it doubles our family and we have to count everyone going into the van after a day out
So anyway, we're still a bit young on it and both girls are strongly attached to their dolls but the general rule at the moment is that the dolls stay home. Briona knows the routine really well. Whenever we stop, the doll gets tossed onto the seat next to her and she fingers her buckle to indicate what our next job is  -------------  |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 02 January 2007 at 1:45pm
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When I was little my mum gave me a little teddy and I use to suck my thumb and hold him in my hand while I did it. Mum managed to finally get rid of the teddy at about 10, I wouldn't take it to school but it was glued with me if we went to the aunties or supermarket. It embarassed my mum and they couldn't work out how to stop it bar throwing the teddy away. Eventually they did get rid of the teddy but I still sucked my thmb til I was 12, ended up needing braces to fix the damage done to my teeth due to sucking it..
As a result of this I'm going to be very very weary about giving a comfort toy or blanket to my child, also weary about sucking thumbs etc |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 02 January 2007 at 1:57pm
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We lernt the hard way with alan about the thumb sucking thing we did everything we could to stop him. Iwas detertimined I was not goign to have a thumb sucker it worked only trouble is we had to get us 3-4 time's a night to put his dummy back in use to drive em nut's Mikey we are letting him suck his thumb it is so much easier at this atage will owrk on stoping it when he is older. I have never had braces for my teeth although mine a pretty good. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 02 January 2007 at 2:38pm
| My teeth were perfectly straight, but were 1.4cm further forward than what they should have been so I had to have 2 teeth removed to pull them back to where they should be. I don't remember what mum did to stop me. |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 02 January 2007 at 4:03pm
Thumb sucking is a big issue  I know someone who spent all the early days taking out her girls' thumbs and putting in a dummy, only to find 5 years down the track that thumbs are better than dummies!  How frustrating.
I was a thumb-sucker, couldn't actually go to sleep without sucking my thumb until I was 12 (broke the habit by lying on my hand, a couple of months later I broke the thumb anyway lol). My front teeth are a little forward but they are all close together, its just what my teeth would have done anyway because I have a small mouth. Now I have a 3yo who suckles her fingers when she is tired (or sometimes shy as well) but my 1yo hasn't really taken to anything since being weaned off her dummy at 8mos-ish. ------------- |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 02 January 2007 at 4:04pm
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Oh I was going to say that I know someone with perfect teeth who suckled her two fingers until she was 22 and married! So I'm not concerned about my 3yo suckling her fingers, although she sometimes gets negative comments from interfering extended family ------------- |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 02 January 2007 at 8:11pm
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LOL the interfering extended family I had plently of comment's when I was young the way I see it if it not bother me why should my thumb sucking bother anyone else. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 02 January 2007 at 9:28pm
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My brother sucked his thumb and slept with his teddy bear till he was about 12 and the teddy fell apart.
Maya is nearly 4 and Fussy still goes everywhere with her, but like some of the others have said I do set boundaries on that and Fussy isn't allowed at preschool either. IMHO kids will attach themselves to something or other if they are that way inclined, for some kids it's a dummy, or a thumb, or a blanket or a toy etc. We (or more I) engineered Maya's attachment to Fussy but I think if we hadn't she would have found something eles to attach to. The twins have Care Bears that Maya bought them when they were born and I'd like them to be the things they attach to, but time will tell. Mercedes is a thumb sucker tho... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 03 January 2007 at 8:17am
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Kobe has a blankie but it is not allowed to leave the house and he is happy with that because its never ever left the house so he doesnt know any different.
My neice has a peice of satin cloth and a bumble and god help you if it gets left anywhere. Hubby and i both agreed if the kids have something then it stays at home. we arent doing the 10pm trips to peoples houses because its been left there. |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 03 January 2007 at 8:24am
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My cousin who is 8 has a little toy thing (I think it used to be a teddy?) that he takes everywhere. It is in a revolting state but he is really attached. DD never got attached to anything- she had a dummy but we weaned her off that a while ago. It just depends on the child and also how you deal with it- if your hubby is really worried about it maybe you could also set the rule that it doesn't leave the house? ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 03 January 2007 at 9:37am
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at the moment jack's fave toy is...chimes!!
just small ones from the warehouse...got them boxing day and he hasn't let them go since! takes them to bed even! strange child ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 03 January 2007 at 10:03am
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i had a cat pillow when younger...that i cuddled - but deal was it stayed in the bedroom and wasnt taken anywhere. Then when that fell apart they got me a sheepy cushion but not nearly as cuddly for me. I still find i cuddle up with my tripillow in a similar way.
We did however see a kid yesterday - aged at least 4 with a huge dummy in its mouth that she sucked and pulled out and put in...have to say that didnt look right at all.... theres comforting and then there is..... |