I think my son might have a gender crisis
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Topic: I think my son might have a gender crisis
Posted By: fattartsrock
Subject: I think my son might have a gender crisis
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 8:19pm
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Yes, I have been busily uploading...
Rod threatened me with death if I showed anyone this... I think its worth it... 
------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 8:22pm
| heheheh 21st. |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 8:28pm
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yeah there is about 5 pics, so funny,a nd Rod is soooo not happy. he nearly died that I bought our wee "man" a stroller... it is his FAVE toy of all time! lol! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 8:30pm
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Andrew loves his "abc" stroller. Its the one he sits in but he will push it around all the time. His other "fav" toy is at his friends place and its the toy vaccum cleaner. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 8:43pm
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yeah, jake loves getting out my vac and pushing it round making a noise, and has been known to have tantrums when having the broom taken off him... ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 9:01pm
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KObe has a stroller and his favourite toy at the moment is a microwave that he cooks things for me with.
he also loves nailpolish etc.. |
Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 9:28pm
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Ooooo, that pic is so cute!!
Andy was mortified when I bought Quinn a toy stroller and baby doll too!! I have the CUTEST pictures of Quinn "feeding his baby" breastfeeding his baby like mummy feeds Kaia!! Andy was disgusted with the doll house I bought him too... ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 10 January 2007 at 10:13pm
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Don't tell Rod, but I am getting a dolls house.... Cute Quinn "breastfeeding!" ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 7:53am
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sorry but i am more with Rod on this one...a dolls house is a little much IMHO...
the kid behind us has a stroller, a baby doll and HE takes it to church...he was given a barbie canopy bed too while his brother had a buzz one...he is teased sooo much and his only friends that come to play now are girls...and I swear he even sounds gay already...cruel to say it i know but he is six and his older brother at 8 is soooo different...i think his mum really wanted a girl and has fostered the feminine side a little too much... I think there is a cut off...mine would be a dolls house too...nail polish, dolls, stroller in the house are ok...they are imitating mum. Sorry.... 
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 8:49am
cute pic annie! definitely one to save for his 21st!! sam won't let me get mikey dolls or anything ------------- |
Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 9:36am
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Christopher desperately wanted a baby born (remember those)when he was about Jacob's age and we let him have one. He also had a fascination with one of my sister's silk petticoats and used to wear it around the house without a nappy on - he liked the soft feel of it against his bare skin. Cute. Aaahhhh - he was such a sweet little boy. I am of the opinion that if you make a big deal out of it - it will turn in to a big deal for the kid and then they get confused. I think they are just curious at that age. We just let Christopher play with what he wanted and tried not to worry. He's fine now - no identity crisis and very comfortable with who he is. Excessively masculine probably - his fav thing to do at the moment is fart mid-sentence... ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 9:47am
| Yeah i agree Leish. As much as kobe loves girly things when you actually meet him you would never mistake him for a girly boy. He is fantastic and ball sports, rough and tumble real boy. very daring and into everything boyish but he just also likes playing with dolls sometimes. Could also be that all good friends and cousins are girls. |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 9:49am
| Also just wanted to add, it wouldnt really bother me if Kobe decided he was gay. As long as he is happy then thats enough for me but i dont think what he plays with now is going to affect his sexuality. |
Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 9:52am
Why? ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Bombshell wrote:Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 9:52am
BTW I think it's a gorgeous pic of Jacob  ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 10:27am
| I totally love the pic of Jacob that is to cute hehe i giggled at the shoes hehe |
Posted By: EllenMumof2
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 10:33am
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very cuties kalem loved those things when he was jacobs age we used to play dolls etc but now he will not go near the things lol its just a stage http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 11:03am
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Does anyone think there would be a huge market for toy vacuums that ACTUALLY vacuumed? Imagine how great that would be!
Personally, I don't see the big deal letting Quinn play with toys that he likes. I don't think a dolls house is going to affect his sexuality. ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 11:04am
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Jax - I am all for nature vs nurture argument but when a child is fostered to become something they werent necessarily headed towards (fa'afaine for eg) then that isnt right...the kid next door doesnt leave it in the house, he goes out with all the girlie stuff, there are other boys around...only the girls will play with him etc...
it has nothing to do with homsexualtiy etc...but apparopriate boundaries for acceptable behaviour so that a child is not scorned - in the case next door at six he is suffering already for his mothers actions in fostering it too much... i think Jacob is cute too, and like i said no harm in a stroller or a doll etc..but totally see where Rod is coming from with his cut off point too... |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 1:45pm
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Rods cut off point is anthing remotely girly, which I disagree with. As for the dolls house, it isn't specifically for "jacob" (probably more for me), but my grandad made me a beautiful 2 story one with stairs and all the furniature, carpet, wall paper etc, and it got stolen out of our garage a few years back, and I was absolutely devestated. My brothers and I had had many, many years of fun playing with it. I was really sad that such a special toy had been so carelessly taken, and that any children I might have would miss out on what we had had so much fun with over the years. Anyhow, when Dad died, we were going through all the old photos and found lots of really great pics of the dolls house, so I have decided I am going to contact the woodworkers guild and see if some lovely grandad would like to make me one.
I don't want jacob growing up thinking that their are "girls" toys and roles and "boys" toys and roles, as I don't want him to end up a chauvanist pig like my brother. while I won't be encouraging him leaving the house in girls dress up clothes or wahtever, i am all for imaginative play. if I could see it was going a bit far, and the teasing thing might be a problem, then I owuld worry about it. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 1:49pm
It was never my intention to start any form of debate, be it over sexuality or nature vs nurture, I was just curious as to why you said what you did Bombshell - and while I may not agree with what you've said, thank you for explaining  ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 1:52pm
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Personally, i think you are born with sexuality. Just my opinion? ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 1:53pm
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Yeah, my view is everything in moderation. If I had a boy, I'd be more than happy for him to have a dolls house etc but then he could have a train set and a tonka truck too!
And as far as I have observed toddlers (other friend's kids, creche kids, family members etc) at about 2/3 they all seem to go through a "nurturing" phase... boys and girls... and the boys seem to grow through it and by 5 they are onto the "girl germs" phase! Delightful! Then you have to try and stop them from ripping off dolls heads.
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 2:10pm
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"Then you have to try and stop them from ripping off dolls heads."
Hahahahaha Nikki! -------------  |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 3:02pm
very cute pic james loves vamuaming the hose and folding washing i see it s traing for when hes older ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: EllenMumof2
Date Posted: 11 January 2007 at 3:55pm
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so true nikki re 5 year olds oh so true lol http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 12 January 2007 at 12:16am
Amen to that i used to go away for a couple of weeks at a time and come home to find in my room barbie torsos, legs, heads and arms scattered everywhere by my darling brother!! 
Needless to say he would ride around on my pink bike that had pink wheels and i can GUARANTEE hes not gay lol U kinda get that impression when hes hanging out the window going "PHWOAR YERRRRRR SHES HOOOOOTTTT" and dribbling everywhere at any chick he sees
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 12 January 2007 at 10:01pm
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Andrew loves to play in the family corner at his daycare, and his carer thinks the reason for this is because I am pregnant and he wants his baby too. When Andrew was a little younger when he was at my parents place their were mostly girls toys as mum and dad had 3 girls. The only "real" boys toy was a concrete truck that my sister got when she was 2 as she loved trucks. The vacuum cleaner that Andrew has been playing with makes the noises but doesn't pick up the dust - I would be buying one if they did work properly. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 12 January 2007 at 10:15pm
| Hannah is afraid of the vacuum cleaner. I'm working on it. |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 12 January 2007 at 10:22pm
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Have you tried letting her use it? Andrew was when he was a lot younger but now loves it. He (for some reason) loves it when I put it on his tummy. Different feeling I spose. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 January 2007 at 10:26pm
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My Briona has only just got over the vacuum cleaner - and waste disposal. I didn't have as much patience with her as with Hannah (when you've got 2 kids and need to vacuum you just gotta do it!) so I plonked her on the couch and just got it over and done with as soon as I could. ------------- |
Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 12 January 2007 at 10:37pm
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Erin's not a vacuum cleaner fan either, not even the dustbuster
And I used to have a Tonka truck when I was little, it was a dump truck and lived in my sand pit ! ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 13 January 2007 at 7:50am
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Good excuse not to vacuum I say!!
Quinn used to be scared of the vacuum too, I used to have to vacuum with him on my hip. Not easy with a porker like him! ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 13 January 2007 at 9:53am
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My niece at 4 is still afraid of the vacuum. Whenever my Mum does it she has to go to the opposite end of the house, and if you go near her with it she becomes hysterical.
I'm sure it won't last, but it's amazing she's still so freaked by that when she knows how it works what its for etc. Oh and, she'll happily sit through the drags with Dad so not afraid of noise? Little weirdo  ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 13 January 2007 at 10:34am
| SO maybe just scared of housework? I don't blame her. |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 13 January 2007 at 12:24pm
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LOL Nikki, never thought of that! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 13 January 2007 at 1:37pm
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I too am scared of housework. ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 13 January 2007 at 8:06pm
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oh yeah, I'm hearing ya.. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |