Gutted!
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Topic: Gutted!
Posted By: 11111
Subject: Gutted!
Date Posted: 11 February 2007 at 9:19pm
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Ok so a quick up date on me. It seem's I am not coping(man I hate to admit that) so I am off to the doctor the get sorted and hopefully get some chemical help(ya happy pill's). It has got to the point where I am so unbalance one min I am happy as the next screaming the house down then crying for being such an awful wife and Mother poor hubby and kid's have had enough. So have I for that matter. So it is time to get some help. I am also going for some councelling as well. I am just so annoyed with myself that I have let it get like this.
A little back ground I have a Mother who is well nut's and never been willing to help herself get better. Anyway I am so scared I am going to put kid's through the samething I know I am differnt then her, but admitting I am not coping and getting happy pill's make's me feel like I am if that make's scence. Well I guess that was a bit longer the intended sorry for my pity party rant. Just want to say how much you guy's rock I love knowing I can come say all this stuff without feeling judged. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 11 February 2007 at 9:28pm
awww hunny well done on getting help and big hugs ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 11 February 2007 at 9:28pm
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You know that accepting help is needed and asking for it is the first big step in the right direction and I praise you for that...
I wish you all the best...and hope you find some very understanding professionals along the way...and remember there are some very nice ears listening on here too....anytime HUGS!!!! |
Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 11 February 2007 at 9:30pm
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Big hugs to you Debz you will be fine, Just keep talking to people who can help you, and counselling is a great start. ------------- 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 11 February 2007 at 9:39pm
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Deb's, good on you for taking the first step. That one is always the hardest one to take. Admitting something is wrong does take guts. Best of luck with the dr. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 11 February 2007 at 9:50pm
 Bigs hugs and best of luck to you. You have done sooo well to not only realize you need help but also ask for it. That takes a hell of a lot of guts to get this far...Goodluck to you.------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: Myamy
Date Posted: 11 February 2007 at 9:50pm
| Good on u for not only admitting to yourself u need help, and actually doin something about it, but for being open on here. If more woman could read this it could really help them! * Big Hugs * |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 12 February 2007 at 6:19am
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You are amazing for being where you are right now, in knowing that you need help. That takes amazing strength, and is the hallmark of an amazing wife and mother. -------------  
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 12 February 2007 at 6:52am
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good on you for taking the first steps. I know for me that was the hardest part. I didnt want to be the nutty wife and mother but once i went to the doctor and even admitted i wasnt happy things got soooo much better.
good luck and remember we are always around if you need to vent/chat etc... |
Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 12 February 2007 at 7:08am
deb. it isnt easy to ask for help and to admit things are tough so that is great that you have  you are a great person, and like others have said we are always here if you need to vent.
take care. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 12 February 2007 at 7:59am
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Hugs Deb! You will never find judgement here - in fact you might be surprised to know how many of us are in similar situations,... -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 12 February 2007 at 9:19am
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Good on you Deb but I just wanted to say that going to the Doc doesn't mean you're like your mum! I can see you love your boys and having them that close together means you do have a big job. ------------- |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 12 February 2007 at 9:55am
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one min I am happy as the next screaming the house down then crying for being such an awful wife and Mother
i thought that was normal - sounds like my house on a daily basis too. 
you may find you dont need chemical help - and the person who said youre not like your mum is right too - if you were like your mum you wouldnt be getting counselling etc. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 12 February 2007 at 10:21am
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Big Hugs Deb! I hope things keep getting better for you ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 12 February 2007 at 7:50pm
Went to the doc today she was lovely. I am starting on a low does pill and I got the happy pill's. Feeling much better had a really good chat to hubby and we have decided no more babies for at least a year. makes me a little sad, but I know it is for the best at this time.
We just got back from the miniral pool's(chrissy pressy from BIL) it was so nice. oh and the boy's are at Nana's for the night ya. well on that note best get off and spend time with hubby. Thank's for all the support I think one of the thing's that has made it heap's easier to admit is that I know I am not the only one feeling like this. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: Lucy
Date Posted: 12 February 2007 at 8:52pm
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Just wanted to let you know that im proud of you for coming to terms with it and getting into the doctor. I was in the same boat! (still am) and was on fluoxetine (sp) for a few months it was due to oscar and his diagnosis, not dealing with that well and then getting a sh*t arse job with Briscoes and having to go through lawyers and it was very emotionally draining...but then i decided i didnt need them anymore and took myself off them. now im getting worse and worse but im scared to go back to the doctor and explain myslef again and just say straight out "so i took myself off the pills now can i have more" I will...I just need to get mum or Jason to come with me.
They really do help and dont feel ashamed (i did) and DONT take yourself off them because you think you dont need them anymore! Good luck and chin up! I hope you start to feel better soon------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 12 February 2007 at 10:15pm
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lucy ts ok to feel scared but the best thing you can do is go backto you doc thats why they are there and they will help you big hugs hun ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 12 February 2007 at 10:59pm
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Lucy sound's like you need to go back to the doctor. don't be scared hun doctor's understand and have probaly heard and seem it all before I do think taking someone wit hyou is a good idea tho. I had hubby with me today and it was great to have someone with to support what I was saying. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 13 February 2007 at 8:28am
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Good one Deb you will be fine, you have taken the first step, just take it one day at a time. -------------
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 13 February 2007 at 1:27pm
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Gotta say - well said, Miss! And Deb, you're not your mum and you're not making all the same mistakes. Good on you for getting some help - I think that's a step to be really truely proud of and you can hold your head high, girl! ------------- Andie |