clearing up after themselves
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Topic: clearing up after themselves
Posted By: lizzle
Subject: clearing up after themselves
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 8:57am
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this isn't about jake or Taine but about my bloody husband!!! Have had the discussion many a time about how as a SAHM I don't mind doing the majority of the housework - what I do resent however is picking up the wet towels, dirty clothes of a mid-thirty year old (he's actually 31, but remember I'm annoyed at the time!). Anyway, my one solution has been to get a huge box and put all hubbys clothes in there, wet, clken or dirty. I think I'm fighting a losing battle though cause he seems to like this arrangement - and the fact that his dad comes around often, and DOES THE SAME THING!!!!! talked to my SIL and hubbys brothers are just as bad - it's bloody genetic. GRRRRR.
So what I want to know is, beside my box idea, any other suggestions for minimising me picking up after hubby, but having a clean (ish) house at the same time? |
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 9:03am
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I like the box idea...
Or you could just pile his dirty stuff up in a corner out of the way...and when he askes where his clean clothes are...you can say...over there, if you didnt put them in the wash then its not my problem You might like to point out that hes not setting a good example for the kids, and he cant expect them to pick up etc if he doesnt do it. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 10:04am
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dont have any solutions but if all his bros and dad do it then it is a learned behaviour. i hate dirty socks...aaarrrggghhhh. nagging doesnt work, they just resist more, leaving it just makes the house looks messy... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 10:32am
I have the same problem! He always leaves socks and shoes lying around.. and every morning he asks where something of his is!! Instead of putting things away, he piles them all up in the washing basket.. so I wash them, and then the next day he'll say "where's my..." and I'll tell him I've washed it, and it's wet and he'll say "it didn't need washing" 
the box idea sounds great and I might try it! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 11:08am
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My partner just the same I think his mum must of picked up after him when he was growing so he just thinks I should do it but I must admit he is getting a little better. Think he just got sick of me going on about it. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 11:13am
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LOL! i had to have a giggle because when i was waiting for it to load i was thinking yup iv got a kid who is 'learning' to clean up after himself! lol
I had this problem too and DH didnt seem to mind that i piled all his stuff up in the damp laundry until he run out of clothes in his draws and his clothes in the pile! had gone mouldy from sitting in the pile wet for a few weeks!!, he was in a hurry to get to work one day and had no clothes so he snapped at me "Why havnt you done the F****** washing??!" to which i replied "Iv done mine! so when you can pick up after your self and put it in the basket or try washing it yourself then dont moan!" then he said "well isnt that what your a SAHM for!!?" to which i replied "Oh S*** i thought you had a mother!!!!! and its not me!!!"...he started putting his clothes in the wash everytime after that and even does the washing himself if he notices that it needs to be done  and now he even gets a little padantic if i leave something unfolded or on the ground!! lol by the way - this worked well because he absolutely hates to think that he married his mother!!! lol
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 11:29am
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My DH doesn't like things getting too untidy but he does still leave washing all over our bedroom floor. Not all of that needs washing but I'm not gonna sort out what's what! The arrangement we have is that when it's in the laundry basket, I'll wash it. Until it gets there, it's his problem. And he's fine with that.
The funny thing is that every now and then MIL will come to help out (usually when I have a new baby) and she'll say "DH has some clothes on the floor... or socks at the front door by his gumboots... etc... does that mean they need washing?" and I say "Nope. He knows if he wants them washed, they go in the basket". She's a picker-upper so the look on her face at that is priceless!!  -------------  |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 12:24pm
My DH is a clean freak, so unfortunately, its me who is the "messy" one (in his eyes..). The teenager, on the other hand, seems to have broken arms and ears, and is a shocker for not putting dishes in the dishwasher, or things like the drink or whatever he has taken from the fridge don't get put back in etc etc, so i just load it all up, and put it in his bed. Yeo, in his bed. He hates it, but it gets the point across, as he has to move it to get into bed, and knows its not worth ww3 to not dop it properly... ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 1:12pm
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I had my hubby so nicely trained. Took a few years to get him right. And just as I had him right he spent 4 weeks away from us with his mother. And all hell broke lose.
I am like totally fed up. Wet towels on the bed. (you dont know how that one griefs me). Clothes everywhere. When I asked him why he just cant pick it up he told me his mother told him to just throw it on the floor in front of his bed so she doesnt mix up his clothes with the rest of the family.
I still dont have him back all trained. This last 10 weeks I told him straight up that he needs to help me more over the weekends. Most of the stuff is him messing and me cleaning up after him. Still no help. Our container arrived on Monday and I did about 85% of all the work with it. Got a sick baby as well and I ended up sick as well. Asked him so nicely please just go get me something. His answer? It is too busy. Bloody hell. I lost it with him. Got up went and got myself some tablets and then told him in no uncertain terms that I am not a happy camper. Sorry stole your thread totally. Just want to say if you got yours trained give me some ideas as a shockcollar is the way to go for me at the moment. 
With a really nice remote control. Think it can work girls? PS. He usually is quite good. But since he was with his mom last year it seems he is sometimes a bit unsensitive. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 1:41pm
| My mum trained my brother with this problem by picking up what he leaves around and putting it in his bed where he has to sleep hehehe |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 4:03pm
hehe Shirena - one of those electric dog colar things that you have a remote for to give the dog a bit of a buzz as soon as you see it about to do a naughty thing!!! lol *quietly embarrassed about how wrong that sounds*!! lol
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 5:29pm
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I like the shock collar idea too! Mine is pretty good with washing, but a shocker in the kitchen - he makes his lunch at 4am every morning before work and I ALWAYS get up to find crumbs on the bench and the butter still out. And the worst part is he's at work so not there for me to go postal at! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 6:08pm
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I think the box is a great idea, You could decorate it with his name etc if you wanted to put a really fine point on it!
My pet peeve is dishes left in the sink with water on them. Is it so hard to put them into the dishwasher? ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 7:02pm
| I saw an episode of Dr Phil or something recently where the mother was so sick and tired of her kids and husband all not picking up after themselves, that she gave them a warning that anything they leave around the house will be sold on e-bay. Sure thing, they all laughed at her but as the week progressed she had a little collection of things in a box and she sold them all as promised! Was pretty funny as she made about US$300. |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 26 February 2007 at 11:22pm
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DH has a box too! Hes had it for about 2 months and its great Only problem is when he tries to find something in it all the other stuff gets spread around the bed/room- but then I can just chuck them back in the box again. Its my new favourite thing. ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 27 February 2007 at 9:38am
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I threatened my hubby a while ago that if he left his clothes lying on the floor that I would throw them away and I did and he finally took me seriously about it. We've come to an understanding where he can leave some stuff on his side of the room (which I can't see normally) until Friday night when he has to sort it all out and either put it in the wash or put them away.
The big thing for me was that we tell Christopher off for leaving his clothes lying around and make it a condition for getting his pocket money that he doesn't leave anything lying around and then for the hubby to just leave his stuff lying around wasn't fair or setting a good example. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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