home birth?
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Topic: home birth?
Posted By: Spudling
Subject: home birth?
Date Posted: 05 March 2007 at 1:49pm
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i was wondering who has had a home birth here? I would love to have my second baby at home, but the main thing that is making me think twice about it is that I want to stay up at the hospital for a few days after so somebody else can cook and clean for me! (ha ha, lazy old me)
I can't see how you can get any form of rest if you have the baby at home because it must be just straight back in to it.... Anyhow, would love to hear from other Mum's who have had their babys at home and the goods and bads of it all. |
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 05 March 2007 at 4:41pm
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I haven't had a home birth, personally I don't want one actually, but after Briona was born I came straight home (within 3 hours) and it was hard going. This time around I stayed at the hospital for 2 days, I had good cooked meals on time, lots of rest time, nurses on call (change the sheets, rock the baby, how do i????), and I found it a lot easier to get used to Krystiana's routine and not get caught up with looking after the older kids.
A lot of it would depend on your family supports (mum, DH, etc) and the age of your older child. I still remember a misunderstanding I had at nearly 4 years of age when my mum was home-birthing my brother... I thought he was going to go down the toilet!  It's really important to have another adult on hand as a minder (one for the child and one for you).
Hope that didn't sound too negative, there's a lot of things to consider but once they are all worked out I know of a lot of home births that have gone really well. -------------  |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 05 March 2007 at 4:59pm
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I have a friend who ended up having a home birth as bubs progressed too fast to get to the delivery suite. After resting a couple of hours after the birth she and bubs were packed off to the maternity hospital place, where she got to relax for 3 days, especially as it was on e of the less busy ones where they all get their own bedroom! Best of both worlds I reckon. -------------  
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 05 March 2007 at 6:35pm
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Talk to mummy22 she had her second at home. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 06 March 2007 at 12:29pm
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I did it was really awsome. I loved it however some suggestion's are. Have someone to look after the older child even if this is in your own home. Someone that can maybe take this child for a drive if the the going get's a little rough. Also we had my Mum stay the night for the first night that way she was there for Alan I guess it sort of depend's what time of the day you have baby as well. Also afterward's make sure you have everything you might need during the first night close by like Panadol that way you can get to it easy. DH needs to be 100 percent ok with it and need's to be aware jsut cause you are at home you can't do anything other then what you would had you had baby in hospital eg not lifting the older child out of bed etc. We had lot's of crap tea's for the week in fact I sent DH out for Mc Donald's after I had baby. If you have had a good birth with your first there is no reason why it won't work at home. If you want anymore info PM me and I will see if I can help. Oh a side note Hubby was really worried to start with about the whole thing now he would not consider going to the hosapital unless we really needed to. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 06 March 2007 at 12:43pm
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I'm considering having a homebirth if I end up pregnant again before we move away from Ohakune. The current situation here is that expectant mums have to travel to either Taihape (45min), Palmerston North (2hrs) or Wanganui (1.5hrs). I went to Wanganui to have Xavier, and had such a negative experience that I haven't posted my birth story yet because I still can't think about it without crying.
My husband is really supportive of this (he suggested it with Xavier!) and I think that is one of the most important things. If your partner is not 100% on board with the idea then it may be not an appropriate choice for you, as feeling unsupported makes for a major source of stress. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Spudling
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 9:14am
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thanks girls! Other than DH I don't have a lot of support. My Mum would come and stay but to be truthful, I couldn't think of anything worse than having her staying for a few days. DH is supportive but has a new job so will only be able to take a day or so off. All my friends work so wouldn't be able to help out much either, so unless I was to go it alone doesn't look like it is going to happen. Ah well, no major drama I guess.
becca, what made your first birth so negative? Maybe posting about it will help you get over it and then you will be able to prepare yourself for this one better???? |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 9:18am
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What were you hoping for in a homebirth spudling? ------------- |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 10:58am
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Just want to add so you don't get the wrong idea the Mum that stayed with us is not my real Mother I would have gone nut's with my real Mother. The Mum that stayed is a lady that I have meet through my church that has taken us on as part of her family. Like busmum asked what were you wanting to get from a homebirth.? Best sugesstion is to have a chat to your M/W see what she think's just be aware they do get more money for a homebirth so some can be a little pushy about it. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Spudling wrote:Posted By: Spudling
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 11:35am
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oh no, MW has never pushed me at all, she's great.
I love my home, it just has a nice feel to it and I think it would be a wonderful place to bring a new life into this world. It would be so nice to have our first cuddles and feeds in our bed that has been our bed for at least 13-15 years and I just think it would be fantastic to begin our completed family in a place that we all love. Sounds a bit corny, but thats about the strength of why I would like to have a home birth. |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 12:30pm
Umm... actually, it was my third birth and I'm not currently pregnant  . I have a blood disorder that self-corrects in pregancy, and has not been an issue with the birthing of any of my children, as I have been able to have drug-free water births each time. It was the way the hospital midwives over-reacted expecting a bleeding problem as soon as Xavier was born (despite all professional advice indicating the opposite) that made it a negative experience.
The midwives rushed me, pulling the plug on the bath almost straight away and giving me a stronger medication than the one I had authorised (to encourage the uterus to clamp down and expell the placenta) which left me suffering side-effects for about 6 hours afterwards. My husband did not get to cut the cord, as he was feeling a little faint (and lying down on the floor) so they went ahead and did it themselves before either of us had a chance to say anything. Once the placenta was out, they helped me move to a bed then took Xavier to weigh/measure him. Because of the medication I couldn't get up (I was dizzy and couldn't balance even standing still) so it wasn't until he was 1hr 15min old before I got to breastfeed him, when Nat (husband) passed him to me. The midwife said "Oh, are you going to feed him now? Okay, I'll leave you to it." and walked off... never mind if I had needed any help to get him latched on or anything like that. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Spudling
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 1:17pm
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oh Becca, I wouldn't want to go back there either. It is such a shame when people just don't listen and take over with out any thought to the families wishes.
Did you not even get to hold him until after an hour? Poor you. I hope you have had no worries with feeding and bonding despite everything and that your DH has been able to get over his dissapointment about not cutting the cord. My DH wouldn't say too much about it, but I know he would have been gutted if that was him |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 1:24pm
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I got to hold him for the first few minutes, then he was whisked away so I could deliver the placenta. Once I was on the bed, Xavier was given back to me for 15 minutes or so, then they took him to check and weigh etc, and check me over too. As they sorted him out and then sorted me out, I didn't get him back for ages. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Spudling
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 2:46pm
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that is just all a bit crap becca, you only get one chance to birth your baby and I hate reading stories of not so much things not going to plan because that often happens, but when "the experts" just don't listen and don't seem to care.
I think you really should look at a home birth if you do have your next bubs while you are still living where you are. 4th babies must fly out surely and better at home than in the car I say 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 2:49pm
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LOL yeah, Spudling, I'm hoping so! My midwife said I'm a perfect candidate for homebirth, so that's at the back of my mind as I consider it. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 2:51pm
I wish I could send my mw up there for you! 
Spudling msybe you could plan to do the most of labour at home before transferring to hospital for the birth and planning to discharge at 24 hours? I think if I were you I'd talk with the mw about whether it would be possible to admit you in the first week if you changed your mind? Or look into nearby maternity units? ------------- |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 2:53pm
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Oh, my antenatal midwife was fine! It was the hospital midwives that were so useless... but I'm sure that's not nationwide, as I know the midwives at Waikato are nice. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 9:00pm
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That sound's like great reason to me not corny at all. I think you should go with how you feel I mean you can alway's change your mind at anytime and head up to the hospital. Becca sorry that you had a bit of a hard expirence that sux. hopefully next time you will get a better expirence. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 9:00pm
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Becca, I found a couple of the hospital MW at Palmy to be a pain so it would be this area. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 07 March 2007 at 9:02pm
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Beck's I had one of them as my first M/W befdore we moved to NP she was ok, but could not have imagined giving birth with her. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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