I know you’ll be wondering how it went
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Topic: I know you’ll be wondering how it went
Posted By: ginger
Subject: I know you’ll be wondering how it went
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 10:47am
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It didn't go how we expected it to go, how we hoped it would, or how we wanted it to.
I'm working on a blog post because there's a lot of information, and I only want to say it once. I'll let you know when the post is up. Essentially, we have been classed with unexplained infertility, and have been recommended to wait 2 to 3 years (yes, years) before proceeding with fertility treatment ...and as far as that goes, our only option is IVF. ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
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Posted By: Lulu
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 11:01am
I am sorry to hear things didn't go to plan. I see no reason to wait any longer if you want to proceed to private IVF you should be able to do it immediately. What are your thoughts Ginger?
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 11:13am
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I'll have to read your blog entry for today to see what happened. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 11:17am
Ah, well ... we couldn't have it being easy now, could we? 
After the appointment, Al and I went for a coffee to discuss our plan. We will wait 12 months. We won't go on the waiting list. When we get to 12 months, we'll pay for the private cycles. There is no way on earth that I'm giving it 2 to 3 years. 12 months I can manage, and we can try to have some time not living our life for this thing. But that's our time frame. ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 11:31am
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oh thats so unfair ginger, i was really hoping for a better outcome for you.
am glad you have a decent plan of attack that you and dh are happy (??) with, but its still not fair. ------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe -  my big 4 year old 
and Jordis - 1 year old 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 11:54am
What she said! I've been following even if I haven't been posting... and now I just want to second what xanthesmum said, and add ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
xanthesmum wrote:Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 12:04pm
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Awww I don't think that's fair at all! You've already been TTC for nearly two years, doesn't that count at all?
I hope you had a good friend's shoulder to cry on last night ------------- |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 12:13pm
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That sucks Ginger. Maybe the Ladle would have come in handy to beat the doctor over the head with. to you guys. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Lulu
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 12:34pm
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That's fantastic that you have a plan of attack. I know for me, that once I had a plan, even though it wasn't exactly the outcome I had hoped for at the time, it seemed to take a lot of the pressure off in the interim. I hope you can take some time out for you and DH, and I will pray that a natural BFP will come your way while you are waiting. ------------- Lou http://www.babysfirstsite.com">
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 12:36pm
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I third what Xanthe's Mum said, and am crossing fingers hard for a BFP in the meantime.
Some more from me too.------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 12:39pm
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Sending you big hugs honey....I don't know what else to say... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 1:12pm
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Thanks everyone ...it does mean a lot. I'll be fine - I just feel as though things have been unended mightily. I've done the post anyway - I don't think I've forgotten anything ...
Hopefully now that I've written it all out, it's the first step in this, and we've only got 364 days to go  ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: LuluBelle85
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 1:15pm
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Hey Ginger
Sorry to hear it didn't go the way you wanted. We have been seeing someone for about a year and ahlf and are still absolutely no where. I totally feel your frustration. Anyhoo, just wanted to give you some s
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 1:43pm
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Ginger,
I'm so sorry it didn't go the way you wanted it to big big to you and DH.
I sincerely hope you get the baby you want and a lot sooner than three years. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 2:24pm
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Hi Ginger
I've just read this post and then popped over to your blog. Hope the next 364 days goes to plan. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 2:52pm
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I'm really sorry to hear that your appt wasn't as successful as you might've hoped. Best of luck with the next year Ginger & DH.
I too have been reading your blog and would like to say you're doing a fantastic job. You write so well... and in such an amusing way too (not that I'm suggesting the topic is amusing in any way). Thinking of you & hoping like anything things work out for you - and soon |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 4:25pm
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Ginger, I had a read and how unfair. But like you said 364 days to go. I had a read of a previous entry about your goings on with Massey and good to hear they gave you the money back. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 5:22pm
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Ginger real sorry things didn't go as planned.
Have you considered adoption, the reason i ask is my mum and dad had unexplain infertility and the adopted me! at just 2 weeks old, i still remember my mum telling me the route she drove to pick me up. |
Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 7:05pm
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So sorry it didn't go as you hoped Ginger. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 8:53pm
| Hey ginger i have sent you a pm i hope your feeling ok chicka! |
Posted By: LockieandLiam
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 9:17pm
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Great to see that you have a plan of attack, you never know what may happen within that time. Best of luck Ginger.
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 14 March 2007 at 10:09pm
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I just had a read of your blog, Ginger... All's I can say for now is That sux for you guys! Another example of bad things happening to good people. Along with everyone else here, I really hope that you two get your bundle of joy somehow - whether it's a the suprise of a miracle baby, helped helped along by IVF, adoption (I've got my fingers crossed that you'll find yourself preggers though) - whatever road you end up on, I hope you get your heart's desire. I think you'll make an awesome mum to some lucky little tyke! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 15 March 2007 at 7:03am
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Hugs honey
Is it 363 days now? ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 15 March 2007 at 8:54am
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Hugs Ginger, I can't wait to see you get your happily ever after, whatever way it happens.
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 15 March 2007 at 8:59am
And counting yummymummy 
Thanks so much everyone for your kind words, love and support yesterday while I was feeling a bit crushed. I'm getting my feet back under me today, and probably the B vitamin content of the Elevit is kicking in as well ...hehe And believe me, there is no way we're givng up on this thing. The specialist told me he believes that IVF would work like a dream for us, so whatever happens (or doesn't as the case may be) ...this time next year!! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 15 March 2007 at 10:28am
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Hi Ginger, I have been following your posts and reading your blog since I found Oh Baby, and I have to save I really admire your bravery and honesty, and hope that everything turns out well for you and DH. I cant begin to imagine what it must be like for you both, so just wanted to let you know that my thoughts are with you both (even if I am a complete stranger!!!) Sam
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 15 March 2007 at 9:59pm
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ditto to what everyone has said big hugs ginger and my prayersand wish are with you and dh on this jouney ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 16 March 2007 at 12:26pm
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Hi Ginger
"Ditto" to what SimSam just said! She has sumed up my thoughts to you exactly! Best wishes for the future. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 16 March 2007 at 12:46pm
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How are things today, Ginger? ------------- |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 16 March 2007 at 1:38pm
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All good thanks busymum
There is nothing we can do except enjoy life in the meantime, so that's what we're doing! We have are going on holiday at the end of next week and I'm really looking forward to it - just some time to relax etc. I figure that 12 months isn't too bad - it's 12 cycles, and I know that as soon as that time is up, I'll start IVF so it's a finite period. That helps! Having a plan really helps!! Thanks so much for checking on me though and everyone else too for your love and support! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 18 March 2007 at 9:28am
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Ginger I just read your blog and I'm in tears for you! I can only imagine how frustrated you must be feeling to have that Dr say there's nothing wrong and to wait ANOTHER 2 years!!!
I'm glad you are in the position to be able to save up for your IVF in a relatively short time. All the best and HUGE to you------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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