This is driving me nut’s!
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Topic: This is driving me nut’s!
Posted By: 11111
Subject: This is driving me nut’s!
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 11:11am
 Ok so not sure where to put this, but I am having the worst baby ache's now. I really want another baby ,but I know i have to wait a bit longer. Has anyone else felt like this? What did you do to make it go away? I am almost in tear's about this whole thing and think about it nearlly all the time I know so many people that are Pregnant at the moment which does not help. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 11:41am
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I'm sure a lot of us feel that way. I know I certainly do!. I mostly miss being pregnant, it's such an amazing experience. I would love to just keep popping babies out lol, but I know that I really need to achieve other goals before bringing another life into this world (like returning to Uni and finishing a degree) things that I should have achieved already but got sidetracked. I really would love to be pregnant again but I want to be able to enjoy this time I have with my son. Then again at the mo I'm doing the 2 week wait (not that I want to) I just don't want to miss out on things with Kahtrell because I'm having to devote all my time to a new baby, Plus the majority of the time I feel like a solo parent (even though I have a partner) I do everything for baby, we even go on family outings by ourselves, just me and my son. Baby is lucky to even have one hour of his dad's time a day. Quite sad really, even though I know he's working on starting up his own business, and works during the day, but you'd think for those reasons he would want to spend time with us out n about. Anywhooos from just pondering on that thought I think it's not the right time for me, I can just imagine it, with no support from my partner I definitely would be a solo parent...... Hmmm don't think I helped lol. But least you know that you're not alone :) ------------- 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 12:01pm
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I have moments of feeling the same way, and other moments I think "I am soooo never doing this again!"
I used to worry that it would never go away and I would just keep having baby after baby and still never fix that longing, but a friend who has just had her last baby told me that she feels done now, that the longing is absolutely and completely gone. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 12:29pm
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I totally understand...there are times when I want to start trying for number 2 so bad it hurts....even on the bad days with Maddie...i love being a mum! Still I know that sensibly after my c-section I need to wait a year (and don't want to face the wrath of Monique my gp/lmc) so I'm sitting on my hands.
I think it really is totally normal though! As a friend of mine suggested....there needs to be a pill to pluck the cluck!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 12:33pm
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OMG nooooo ...... I so dont miss being pregnant it was the worst time ever!!!!
One day i might do it again....maybe!!! It must be hard being around all those people who are pregnant tho esp if you want another one....wanna borrow mine?
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 12:59pm
oh i loved being pregnant and want to do it again all the time...and when the boys are good and being cute i think i could - then when i watch them smearing food everywhere or throwing tantrums i get over it... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 1:03pm
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Debs, I went through that sooooo bad last year, I knew mikes decision was 2 kids, and no more, and when he actually booked himself in for that vasectomy I thought , well, that's it then. (obviously it wasn't through some weird twist of fate!) But when all the people who had their bubs at the same time as I had Ayja, were all becomming preggers again, or even having babies, or some were going on to have their 3rd.. I had the worst baby aches. My sister told me the other day she remembers me saying to her after mike had his vasectomy that"I can't help but think there's a little boy out there waiting for us".. which sounds so stuuupid. We definately had not planned this #3, and it freaked me out completely. But somehow, i do know now, that after this one, those baby aches might come back a little once it gets past the baby stage, but 3 is my complete limit now.
I just got on with what i had to do, ha ha, and found a job working with bubbas.. I know you plan to be a SAHM.. maybe you could volunteer sometimes to look after other peoples babys as a babysitting service etc.. it fulfils the want to give a cute baby a cuddle but it's nice to give em back. The nice thing i spose you can remember is that you wil have more, just not right now. I focussed on having as much fun with my girls as i could, even though they don't need me much for th elittle things any more, they need me to expand their minds and teach them all the big stuff now - which is pretty scary. So have fun with your boys, and know that when the time is right it will happen again and you'll have 2 wonderful big brother helpers there to help you out!. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 3:47pm
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deb- YES!!!!! i have the BIG babyaches right now! i dont think it is because of others around me pregnant i do know quite a few people having babies this year, but nooone close. it is because i WANT another baby and we have decided not to. and why is it ever where i go i see a big round beautiful pregnant belly?!!!!
i would LOVE to know how to make it go away so i hope someone out there has some advice for us!!! PLEASE?!!!! hugs deb- i am sitting here with that ache right now so you arent alone hun. |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 4:30pm
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Oh good so pleased I am not the only one. It is awful. And yes Rach I was in town today and I swear there were heap's of pretty Preggy bellies around. Oh well I guess we jsut have to go with it and see what happen's. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 4:32pm
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Thank's chick I really needed ot hear all that. I am sure we will have moer its jsut a matter of when and now is not quite right. I think part of me really need's something to look forward too and I think that has alot to do with how i am feeling. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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mum2paris wrote:Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 4:38pm
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mmm i know - sometimes io think we are so far looking ahead that we miss all the present stuff though. I have learnt now to just sit back and watch the girls and marvel at what wonderful kids they are.. if i do say so myself. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 4:50pm
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LOL I think you are very right there. Getting too old to look so far forward before I know it i will be 30. Argh now there is a scarey thought. Can you believe I remember you at primary school oh that is like a whole life time ago now aye chick. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 5:01pm
Oh man i remember having this feeling!! (when we were trying but unable to concieve) walking around and all i saw was big preggy ladies!!! and then all my close family (SIL and others) started getting pregnant!!!i cried every single time i had to be around them but mostly my SIL cos hers was an "accident" I hated the feeling!!!!!!! and im sorry that you are feeling that way it sux big time!!!!!
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