ok, you’ve got to be kidding
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Topic: ok, you’ve got to be kidding
Posted By: mum2paris
Subject: ok, you’ve got to be kidding
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 3:52pm
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mum just rung me and told me my little sis is pregnant again, and due in august. ARGH!, you have got to be kiddingme. Since xmas not only has she been drunk a considerable amount of time but don't think she has taken any folic acid etc, and has also had full on xrays. Anyway, she is back with Bailey's dad and they told mum "if it's another boy we'll adopt it out, if it's a girl we'll keep it" what is it? an old couch? oh we don't like this anymore - its not the model we want, lets give it away?! Mum told her if she gives another of her grandkids away she will never forgive her.
oooh i could just kick her A to the double SS ( i know i sound deeply hypocritical since i am too preg with number 3, but her other two are 2yrs old 1 yr old and she has neither of them, I actually take care of my kids) Am seriously peed off.  ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 3:58pm
 Good grief!  Surely someone needs to have a serious talk to that girl - of the foot up the rear-end variety!
Rant away to us, Janine... get it out of your system here where its safe (and you won't offend your sister by saying it to her) ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 4:06pm
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janine that is terrible...those poor kids. i had to check the date on the post to make sure it wasnt an old one caue i couldnt believe she as preggers again...!! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 4:09pm
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I am sorry if this is going to sound mean seeing she is your sister but maybe it will actually be better for her to let that child be adopted. Maybe someone will give it all the love that it needs then because it seems that she is not capable of it right now at all.
I am not trying to make you feel bad one bit here. I can totally understand you being mad at her. I also get mad at people like this (specially when I couldnt concieve and kept on losing my babies and people like that can just fall pregnant so freaking easily and not appreciate every little child. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 4:09pm
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Janine your sister need more than what you want to give her. A baby no matter a boy or girl is great. She seriously needs some talking to. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 4:35pm
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Am with you all on that. I know motherhood isn't for everyone - but cannot understand why she can't just be a little more responsible in the first place. This is her 3rd pregnancy in as many years. She needs to step up and start acting like an adult, yes she needs to be given the chance to be a mum, but i think the best way would be to get rid of the father IMHO - he is the one who has said that, she didn't get preggers on her own.
And yes, there are so many people out there that are infertile and it makes me so angry that she does not see what a gift it is that she can have children so darn easily! Her last baby was adopted out to a family that have been battling infertility for a long long time - so it is nice that she chose someone who was longing for a child. But she can't just keep giving her kids away because she couldn't take the precautions in the first place. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 4:44pm
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How old is she? I'm shocked at her comments and I guess what the other girls have said is completely right. Maybe a little intervention needs to take place..... ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 5:14pm
Argh Janine - sounds to me like it's your fault! Every time you get pregnant so does she 
Seriously tho, you think she'd learn! And btw have been meaning to ask, how IS Bailey? -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 5:17pm
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Oh wow!! this sounds exactly!! like my SIL!!!!! she found out she was having another bubs (has had it now though) at 5 months along after doing all sorts of naughty things!!! she already has 2 kids who were 2 and 1 at the time and she never looked after them and could barely provide for them!!! and she had the nerve to babble on to me (who was having TTC problems at the time) that it was an "accident" WTF 3 accidents!!! how careless!!! and she too was going to give it away if it was a boy!!!...it was a girl! GGRRR some people!!!
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 5:52pm
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How bout a large pack of condoms for her next birthday.....maybe with a little instruction on how to use them
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 8:04pm
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He he, there's the prob, she is highly highly allergic to latex.. ie, huge blistery quick reactions (they already knew this sort of but made the mistake of using a latex catheter after one of her ops a few years back. not nice)
My sis, currently, is 18. I think she has known for a while - and so has mum, but just kept it secret. And Emma - i soo know what you mean. Can i ever have a baby without her doing the same - it's getting crazy. maybe that's another reason i am so grumpy.. my babes are always overshadowed with her dramas. Now i sound sooo childish, but argh. and well - since she is due before me this time - we are now keeping our mouths shut about names, considering her last few choices. I know - we have all had the "you can't bags names debate" lol. but seriously the last 2 preg.. we have had boys names, and ended up with girls - and what do you know - her boys got those boys names. ending rant now, have officially had far too much of her. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 8:17pm
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omg she may never get a girl and only have boys so maybe she should jsut be happy with what shes got.
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 8:22pm
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wow - your sister should get together with my cousin - she is 23 and has had three kids, all either abdoned or given away - and when i say given away i mean, some guy on the street said what a cute baby and she said "here take her" and left.
but anyway, thats a WHOLE nother story- sucks about her being preggers - hope she can do the right thing! whatver that might be? |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 8:52pm
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I have been thinking most of the day what to say to you about this one. First off I think it totally sux that she has gone and done this again. Like you say someone really need to talk to her someone outside the situation and not emotionally involved. I know your Mum has said she did not want the baby given away this time, but like other's have said maybe it would be for the best I some how don't think ur Mum would up to raising another grandchild. I also think it is really sad for you and all your family to have to be dealing with this. So big hug's to you and your Mum. Not sure if there is much else I can say. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 8:57pm
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[QUOTE=mum2paris] I just want to add it is perfectly ok for you to feel like her drama's over shadow the thing's you are doing it is also ok to be really pissed about that. I know I would be. So most deffintly not childish. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 10:00pm
| ok, if latex isnt an option.......chain her knees together? |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 03 April 2007 at 10:21pm
ROFL!!!  ------------- |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 12:43am
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This reminded me of my step-sister.
I am currently pregnant with my first child, which will be my dads first grandchild. He was so excited about it, and I'm sure he still is, but two months later my stepsister gets pregnant (due in August) to her ex boyfriend who is a drug addict and tried to beat her up. She didn't find out until 14 weeks that she was pregnant, but had MRI scans and alsorts of other medical issues over Christmas. I feel really bad for her because of her numerous health problems (hepatitis, liver probs, kidney probs). But now she has decided that she won't cope on her own so is moving in with her mum and my dad, which totally takes away from the fact that I'm having a baby. They have forgotten about me because her life is such a huge drama and everything revolves around her. I just feel bad for my dad that's all. So, kinda not the same, but a little. |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 8:53am
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just as darn frustrating though i bet!
I guess, in all of it, the last two times ihave been preg or had anewborn, i have had to not only deal with all that, but also with my mum constantly ringing me up and offloading all her problems and worries about my little sister onto me.. the first time it mixed in with all my PND, and not only did i have all those probs but also enormous guilt that i couldn't just go and be the hero, noboddy saw i had enough probs of my own, in the end mike told mum to stop ringing me if she was going to talk about my sister. I still feel guilty and selfish, but why not. it does, as you said Renee just make you feel like your special things are overshadowed by the drama. So much so now that she does not know where we live since we moved, and she is not invited to my kids parties - for the simple fact she causes a scene and i finally decided after a few too many outbursts that she has no right to ruin my kids birthdays etc. black sheep aye. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 9:08am
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Good on you for standing up to her. I know this is a little differnt, but I have alway's had the same with my Mum alk way's creating drama's and stealing my thunder she even did it on my wedding day so I know how you feel. I think you are doing the right thing you don't have to be the hero I know you are a very storng person and people even your Mum probably look to you for support, but you don't ahve to be that person all the time its ok not to try and fix thing's or rescuse people. I think you are doing so well don't let what your sis is doing over shadow your life I know it is hard to distance yourself from it all. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 9:09am
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oh yeah and don't feel guilty you have no reason too. It is ok to be pissed. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 9:40am
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I'm not going to comment on the situation mum2paris ... Everyone knows I have fertility issues, and therefore will hopefully understand why I don't want to get myself started ...I'd never stop
I DID want to say to you though, that you are NOT hypocritical, and you shouldn't feel as though you are, or feel bad in any way for the children that you have and love. It's a good reflection on your values as a parent, and because you are a good and loving mum that you feel upset about your sister. Don't ever feel bad about that. I just wanted to say that to you  ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 10:21am
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Don't you just hate that you can't pick your family! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 11:55am
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Or your step-family!
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 12:40pm
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well realistically she is only my half sister. I guess that other half is the bad half. lol. Having a bit of a better day today. Was just so p'd off yesterday.
Have work in an hour or so so better get butt of computer and actually go get ready. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 1:25pm
I echo what Ginger said. I wanted to say that last night but didn't have the words.  ------------- |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 12:41pm
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Geepers. Pregnant again!!! Is she nuts?
I don't usually judge (having been in the accidentally pregnant way twice before) but having read many a post by you Janine over the years, feel so so sorry for you, your mother, and her children. And eeeeeeeek at the adoption comment. |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 1:11pm
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Sadly it seems to be the state of things out there. Those woman who would be wonderful mums and can't get pregnant, and those that get preggers just looking at a guy and don't seem to care about their babies.
Life just isn't fair sometimes. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 1:39pm
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Im sorry but your sister needs to grow up and take responsibility for her own actions. She has been very lucky to have a great mum bailing her out. I can see why you are so pissed off with her. I am and i dont even know the girl. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 5:50pm
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I can completely understand why you are peeved off - Its pretty shocking behaviour! Looking at it from a different point of view (and obviously not passing any judgement on ANYONE!) - I think its very sad. Its sad that those children arent going to grow up with a relationship with their mum, or possibly the wider family (cousins, aunts etc). I wonder if your sister will look back on her decisions 10 - 15 years from now, and wish that she had made different choices. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 4:40pm
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Aw, man... I can see why you're feeling pi$$ed, Janine. It's not just her own life she's messing with but everyone elses, especially your yet-to-arrive little niece or nephew's! Some people. ------------- Andie |