something I just realised
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Topic: something I just realised
Posted By: NovemberMum
Subject: something I just realised
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 6:45pm
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I dont drink so when I go out people wont think it unsual that I am not drinking.
we had our house warming last month and a friend of mine offered me a glass of wine and I said no thanks (I only just found out I was pregnant) and she didnt ask why. so those ladies who do drink(when you arent pregnant of course :) ) just curious as to what you say to people especially in the first few weeks when you dont want to announce your pregnancy just yet ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 6:54pm
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Hmmm I do remember mum offering me a glass of wine on the day I found out and politely declined and asked for a coffee instead, she didn't say anything... as for my friends by the time I saw them in a social situation I'd pretty much announced it to them. Some people are more perceptive than others... ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: Millie1976
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 6:54pm
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I had to be pretty careful not to make it too obvious with my work because I was always a social drinker and would always stay behind on Friday nights so I would make up an excuse and say I was either going out to the movies or going out for dinner or going away for the weekend. If I was in a situation where I was at someone's house for a party or something I would just say that I was going to be the sober driver and that would usually work. ------------- Sebastien 2 years old Olivier 3 3/4 years old |
Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 7:28pm
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hey Millie just had a look at your profile and you are 5 days older than me :) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Millie1976
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 7:58pm
Yay for us girls born in January  ------------- Sebastien 2 years old Olivier 3 3/4 years old |
Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 8:30pm
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The only time i was offered a drink was from my exs mum and i said no thanks im not feeling well. Then she guessed that i was pregnant later and proceeded to tell me im useless and if i keep this child they will take it from me. lol.
Now people wonder why im not drinking and i just tell them. Cause obviously im further along now. ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: Mikaela
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 9:08pm
I used to drink apple juice out of a wine glass and pretend it was chardonnay. Ditto appletiser in champagne flutes. It was really hard for me because in the first 8 weeks of pregnancy, when we weren't telling anyone, I had my hens night, my wedding, christmas, new year and my birthday - that's a lot of occasions to be making excuses for!  ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com"> 
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Posted By: justme
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 9:48pm
My god Mikaela - that sounds like stressful times I'm sure, not sure if I could keep it quiet during my hens night myself. Great idea drinking apple juice out of wine glass etc 
MeganGrace, I said that I was on a health kick, liver cleansing diet - I go to the gym so it worked quite well. Some people asked straight away though - I'm not such a good liar 
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 9:56pm
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As soon as I went out and refused a drink (I am normally a fairly big drinker and DH and I are the life of the party), it took our friends about 2 minutes to realise why I wasn't drinking, hence the fact, we started telling people straight away! I cannot lie to save myself! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 04 April 2007 at 10:42pm
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I used 'antibiotics' as my excuse. It worked well as I was so tired, that everyone thought I had the flu!
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 12:23am
lol my MIL still offers me wine now, and she's known about my pregnancy since five weeks. 
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 12:27am
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grrr that would make me so mad if someone kept offering me wine especially if they knew I was pregnant ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 7:42am
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I found out I was pregnant when DF and I were overseas. We got back just before Xmas and had a friends wedding to go to. My workmates texted me to come in as they were finishing at 12 and having some drinks and nibbles. I thought ok, we could pop in on the way to the wedding. as soon as I got there they offered me a wine. I said " no thanks, not for me" and they instantly guessed I was pregnant!!!!! Couldnt I have declined becasue I was jetlagged/ driving/ off to a wedding/ it was midday?
Funnily enough, noone questioned my orange juice drinking at the wedding....could that be because the bride was on sparkling grape juice and half our table were pregnant or breastfeeding? |
Posted By: justme
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 8:55am
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so not fair your MIL still offering you wine knowing you are pregnant eomachine..
My mum didn't understand when I said I wasn't drinking anymore, she said she had an odd tipple now & then when carrying me - I said gee thanks, no wonder I like it so much
But then I suppose alot of people from our parents generation & even now still think it's fine to do so.. I wouldn't want to risk it & would feel so guilty if baby came out brain damaged or something & it was all my fault 
Many babies are born fine but others are born with FAS Such a tragedy.. http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/medical/brain/fas.html My wee boy is due 12/08/2007 |
Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 9:07am
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i was always a social drinker, but on New Years 04 (coming into 05) I was at the firestaton with DF and all the other volys adn went to have a drink and it came straight back up, well form then on they all suspected me being pregs so we did a test a few weeks later as I wasnt due for af for a while.
so because of that i never had to tell anyone as they all kinda knew before we did lol. made for a very long pregnancy i tell you. i have a friend whos brother has FAS and i wouldnt like to ever put my child throguh that. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 9:18am
I never drank when not pregnant either and i still had people suspiciously asking me why i was turning it down when i became pregnant (they didnt know i was pregnant) but i never had anyone ask when i wasnt pregnant??? I mustv looked guilty!! 
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Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 9:22am
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If its a night function...I either say I am driving or that I have had a huge night the night before and couldn't stomach drinking tonight...people would question why I wasn't drinking as do plenty of it usually!
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 9:25am
Oh forgot to say that my MIL always tried to offer me a glass of wine when i was pregnant with Bay and everytime i would turn her down and she would get huffy!! so DH explained to her that apart from not being a drinker anyway - we didnt believe it to be neccasary to have to have a drink while pregnant!...and she called me a prude!!! but now she knows not to ask with this bubs
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Posted By: Mikaela
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 12:06pm
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My mum and MIL both drank small amounts of wine quite often when they were pregnant, but they said that in those days there just wasn't the same amount of information available. You just had to make your own decisions and hope like hell you were doing the right thing.
They've both been wonderful about finding yummy non-alco drinks for me since I've been pregnant though. My MIL even bought special non-alco champagne for me to drink at Christmas because she knew we didn't want anyone to know for a few weeks yet ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com">
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 12:39pm
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Becuse everyone knew so early with us it wasn't an issue, I had stopped drinking with ttc anyway, and at work I had stopped drinking at social functions even earlier just so it wouldnt be obvious.
I would have used the - things to do tomorrow or Im driving excuse, as I don't like to even have one with either of those. -------------  
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Posted By: Lulu
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 1:10pm
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I said I was detoxing pre-Christmas so that I could get stuck into the vino over Christmas! ------------- Lou http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: kabe
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 1:21pm
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I've been trying to avaoid social occasions (not hard when feeling so ill!. However, if I can't I say I've got a headache, I'm on antibiotics or I'm driving. I'll use one of those excuses tonight when I go to work drinks! It's the last time I need to tell a white lie to my colleagues, as next time I see them all (after the school hols) I'll announce my pregancy. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 05 April 2007 at 3:11pm
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I had a huge famliy party to go to the day after I found out I was pregnant with Josh. I had to tell them straight away as mum knew I had brought wine to drink at the party and when I turned up with no bottle she was a little suss about it as I had brought a pretty expensive bottle. I would use antiboitics if I needed to. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |