no congratulations ?
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Topic: no congratulations ?
Posted By: NovemberMum
Subject: no congratulations ?
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 12:09pm
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after we told our parents we were expecting I told my sisters and brother my brother and oldest and youngest sister offered their congratulations but not my younger sister.
she just asked how many weeks I am ...hmm at least pretend to be excited..I mean everyone else I have told have said congratulations. its almost like she isnt even happy for me..oh well ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: sparkle
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 12:30pm
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When we told my sister (who has 2 children of her own) said "welcome to the real world" and left it at that!
I'm sure she's happy for you in her way 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 12:42pm
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Is she a teenager? If so I'd just put it down to being at that self-absorbed stage and not realising that it was the "done thing" to say congrats.
She'll be happy when you have a belly and then even more when she has a little niece/nephew to play with! |
Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 12:57pm
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nope she is 29 ..funny you say that about teenagers as my 16 year old sister said wow cool congrats.
my 29 year old sister probably wont get to see her niece or nephew much as I am in Hamilton and she is in christchurch. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 1:10pm
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Maybe she is TTC? Or isn't keen on children? Or was just heavily thought-absorbed for something unrelated?
My younger sister (18mos younger) was rather blaze, now she hardly looks at my babies. She only seems to ever say smart (sarcastic) remarks and tell me about how her DH generally finds kids quite cute but doesn't really find ours cute... gee thanks 
I think her biggest prob is that deep down she would like to have a baby, her DH isn't so sure but they did TTC for a year-ish to no avail. They don't want to go down the whole specialist or adoption track so are just leaving it at that... may never have children. Her DH seems completely fine with that, but I suspect my sister is covering up her true feelings and it comes out this way. -------------  |
Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 1:26pm
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not likely she is single I know she does want children though.
but who knows maybe it will be different once the baby is here ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 2:22pm
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MeganGrace, my in laws were like that when we told them I was pregnant with my first. We were married or even engaged and all she could say was S and A (B and S in law) are meant to have a child first they are married (well not anymore). And then I got but you can't have children (I have PCOS and quite bad endo). Talk about a kick in the guts after finding out great news. However once he was here she just loves him, and when we told them I was pregnant with Josh they were really happy. Go figure. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 2:51pm
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I think I mentioned in your other thread, I never got congratulations from my parents with any of my pregnancies. Bt as soon as the babies arrived they were besotted. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 6:09pm
I never got a congrats from my sis when i got pregnant with Bay - she said to me "what a waste!! you are brainy!! and young and have a good career and now your going to ruin it!"...nice ay!! but with this bubs i text her and told her when i was 9 weeks and she was soooo happy! she rung me and said congrats and wanted to know why i never told her when we found out!"
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 7:03pm
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I never got a congratulations from my MIL. All she said was 'You'll have to decide whether to adopt it out once it's born', oh and 'You just have to face the fact that you and your mother might have to do this on your own'.
Charming woman. 
Makes me so pleased that her son is really happy that he's having a baby. |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 7:50pm
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Geez - now THAT is a response! What did you say Eomachine to THAT!!!
Re: you sis - is she a bit of a drama queen? Maybe not keen on someone else getting the attention for once. |
Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 7:56pm
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dont know about her being a drama queen but i sometimes wonder if she is a envious of me and my life. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 8:01pm
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She might be a bit jealous? Maybe she wants some attention.... anyways - MeganGrace, I congratulate you! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 06 April 2007 at 8:06pm
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aww thank you emachan :)
now if only i didnt need to go to the toilet every 5 minutes :) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 07 April 2007 at 8:57am
| you might find she is struggling with the whole you have a life and she doesnt. Its hard getting to that age and not being settled if that makes sense. Im sure she would be happy for you, maybe its just a bit of reality biting that she doesnt have it if that makes sense. |
Posted By: justme
Date Posted: 07 April 2007 at 11:13am
Congrats MeganGrace  I have a few friends who are aged between 28 & 33 who don't have littlies yet.. I know for a fact that they all hope that it will happen sooner rather than later. One thing I've noticed is at 29 they all start to get really anxious about turning 30 & not having a baby yet or even looking anywhere near it. They start to ponder where there life is heading etc etc.. Clock really starts to tick for many at this age. Some people fear they will lose the relationship they shared with their friend or loved one once baby comes along.. Your sis will be quietly happy but feeling wee bit sad for herself at the mo.. She'll come round, it'll just be hard for her at the time being. She's not reacting - because her feelings are getting in the way. Not because she doesn't care
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 08 April 2007 at 8:50am
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I have a friend who didn't congratulate me, and she was the first one I confided in & told her I might be "surprisingly" pregnant with #3. She just said "oh really", no happy "wow congrats". She was pregnant herself with #2, so I was thinking maybe she might've been a little peeved she wasn't going to get all the attention from me anymore. I don't know, I just think when anyone's pregnant it's always exciting so am ALWAYS happy for whoever it maybe!! (Ok, but maybe that doesn't apply to myself )
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Posted By: nicolaann
Date Posted: 08 April 2007 at 12:10pm
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I had a friend whose response when I told him I was pregnant with Alex was 'oh did you do that to keep Jason'(DF) I was so pissed off as he knew that our relationship was good and that I would never do that anyway. This time round when I told him we were trying for number 2 he replied 'does Jason know' God I could have hit him!! But then he is 33 and single and says he never wants kids but I think thats just because he isn't even in a position to think about kids. ------------- Nicky, Mum to Alex (5) & Sophie (3) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 08 April 2007 at 12:23pm
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With that attitude I doubt he'll get a woman to have kids with him. Men!!! they really are from a different planet arent they? ...but we like them
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