Languishing in Limbo Land
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Topic: Languishing in Limbo Land
Posted By: KiwiL
Subject: Languishing in Limbo Land
Date Posted: 10 April 2007 at 7:16pm
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I'm running with Kye's suggestion... thanks Kye.
This thread is for those of us who are not really waiting for Ovulation, but not in a 2WW either. Hopefully I am not hanging out here talking to myself all month!! My situation is that DH and I can not try this month, because of a wedding we MUST attend in January next year. And having a baby during the ceremony would be just plain rude. 
So... not TTC again until May. It's gonna be my longest 2WW ever! Anyway, if I'm in here on my own, then I'll just have to stalk you all, but hopefully someone joins me to hang out. Moderators? Any chance of pinning the thread?!? |
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Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 10 April 2007 at 8:22pm
Hey, I'll join you Laurie!! I don't know where I belong  Lol. Been hanging out in the TWW thread but since its now CD43 its been way more than two weeks! Hope your long wait goes quickly for you!! 
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 10 April 2007 at 8:28pm
i'll come too! (and add another thread to stalk  ) i am officially waiting to ovulate but after 87 days i think limbo land is a great place for me to be!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 10 April 2007 at 9:14pm
lol glad I could be of help with my suggestion Well my cycles are around 47-49 days long so limbo land for me for the next month I would say  glad to have you girls here for support and Im sure we will all drop in on tww and waiting to ov thread to see how the other girls are getting along Its great being on here, really makes me realise that Im not alone, thanks girls Im not expecting to ov until May going on my last two cycles so Im with you Laurie!hope something happens for you funlvn and noodle really soon!
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 10 April 2007 at 9:19pm
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oh Ive just realise Ive graduated from a newbee to a groupie hahaha wonder when that happended?
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 10 April 2007 at 9:24pm
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At 50 posts -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 10 April 2007 at 10:23pm
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Yay Groupie Kye!!
I'm obviously more emotional with AF than I realised. Just had a wee cry over the Baby Factory ad on TV! How tragic is that? I really want DH to come home... I'm a bit lost with my own thoughts at the moment. |
Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 11 April 2007 at 6:57am
 to you Laurie!! When is your DH home?
It is good knowing that other people don't know what is going on with their bodies either! (I didn't mean that to come out how it might have sounded, sorry
I wanna be a groupie too!! Still got a way to go yet
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 11 April 2007 at 7:16am
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oh Laurie poor you! it is very hard sometimes! especially when you dont have that sholder to cry on! sending you big hugs hun!!!
i know exactly what you mean funlvn and it came out fine!
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 11 April 2007 at 8:54am
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*hugs* Laurie!!!
Im in the same boat now we arent gonna look at TTC till we have our own house so that could be a year away but i wanna have a chat to cory tonight coz i think i need some more testing done GRRR stupid body So anyways i hang in the air at the moment till i even know what is gonna happen! lol |
Posted By: JD
Date Posted: 11 April 2007 at 8:56am
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Hey Laurie
If I am successfull this month, I will be due on about the 5th Jan and my sister is planning on getting married on 31 Dec. I was going to miss ttc, but seen as we have been trying since July 06, I don't really want to miss a month....just in case you know! I am so used to the bfn that I kindof don't think it will happen anyway. Gee this is starting to sound very "poor me" hehehe. Anyway, good luck for next month to you and good luck for any month for me!
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 11 April 2007 at 2:42pm
Hope your feeln a bit better today laurie Man Im over AF already! Thats a good idea to get checked out Jess...Im off to the Dr this arvo see if I can get some tests done to find out why my cycles are SOOO long! Always good to know we are in working order! or if there is something wrong we can fix it!
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 12 April 2007 at 12:07am
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That's about all I can really say right now!!! |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 12 April 2007 at 2:18am
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It sucks having to hold of TTC for weddings! We had to stop TTC for 3 months as I had to fly back to NZ for my best friends wedding and couldn't do it with a newborn or too far long in pregnancy. At that point we had been TTC for 10 months and it was so annoying not being able to BD for those 3 cycles. We were naughty and 'slipped up' the last of the ones we were supposed to be waiting- not that it did anything. We did concieve the first cycle back TTC if thats any consolation... ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 12 April 2007 at 9:15am
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I have three weddings to go to early next year, in December, January and February. I had thought about holding off to after these but figure there is no point in delaying it becuase there will always be something.
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Posted By: jamesmum
Date Posted: 12 April 2007 at 11:46am
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DH & I are holding off TTC #2 for a couple of months so I can fly to my SIL's wedding.
It really sucks having to wait coz when you make the decision to start TTC you want to start straight away (well I do!!) |
Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 12 April 2007 at 12:17pm
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Yeah, it's really frustrating to be waiting. However, this is DHs best friend, he is best man for the wedding, the wedding is in a really remote location and DH hasn't seen his mate since he came back from Canada three years ago specifically to be our best man.
So, we kinda feel we owe him this one! DHs sister has just got engaged and will be marrying in March next year. So now we just have to figure out if we are going to do the same for her. I don't think so. It would have to be really unlucky to have baby on the exact day, and travel for this one won't be so taxing. |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 12 April 2007 at 1:33pm
I'm going to be putting things on hold for May/June myself because my brother's wedding is next Feb (down in Palmy North), so don't want to be heavily pg/due/with a super new baby over that time. I figure, what's another couple of months...?  ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 12 April 2007 at 2:57pm
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I think I'm in limbo land too...
AF hasn't arrived (should have been sometime this week with cycles of between 30-40 days over the last three months), have tested to a BFN. I think PCOS has decided to rear it's ugly head again, I had AF every month up until now when we actively started TTC (charting etc), now my body seems to have reverted to its old ways 
Good luck to everyone else waiting, I think I'll be joining the party now
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 13 April 2007 at 10:54am
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To all you out there TTC I am amazed and impressed. DF and I are getting married next March and will be TTC round this time next year. However that means dragging myself and DF out of warm winter jammies I'm not so keen. I can see why more babies are made in summer.
Those of you putting your baby plans off for weddings, that is so considerate and thoughtful of you. I am thankful my MOHs daughter was born the day after our wedding day. It means Maia can celebrate her 1st birthday the next day. |
Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 13 April 2007 at 10:44pm
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Hey Ladies,
I went to my GP today, and was pleasantly and happily surprised by his response to me. He was really kind to me, even at times when I thought I was going to cry. Anyway, he is a little worried about my pain, my very different AFs and my cycle length changing, so he has started the testing process. I was really pleased to not be told to just go away and wait a little longer (which, probably would have been reasonable as it's only been 7 full cycles since my miscarriage). He was pleased to see my charts and hear about my OPKs, as at least it shows that I am probably ovulating ok, and something else might be delaying things. SO that feedback was good. Anyway, starting this week we will begin a process of elimination. First, my poor DH has to do his thing in a little cup and we'll get him tested and hopefully eliminated (hey, we have been preggers once, so he's probably ok). Then, next Friday I am having an ultrasound to try to figure out what's causing the pain and check to see if there are any cysts or tumors etc. Then, on cycle day 21, I am having blood tests done. I am a bit consfused about these... I remember reading about Ginger's ones, so might go and read her blog again. Does anyone know what these tests are for and how they help determine anything? And why CD 21?? After that, if we can't find anything specific I will be referred to a specialist, who may want to do the op to check for endometriosis. This is the bit that will probably take forever as I have surgical insurance but not health insurance, so will have to go public until which point they decide if they want to operate. And! After all that, if they still can't see anything in particular, then we join those deciding whether to pursue IVF etc. At the end of the day, I am really pleased to just be doing something that makes me feel like I have a little control. It's nice to know that my doc thinks I have reason to be concerned and am not just a hypocondriac! And..... hopefully paying money on all this makes old Murphy kick in! That would make me very happy.... |
Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 13 April 2007 at 10:47pm
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Ok, and I also have a question. Please feel absolutely free to give me your gut feeling honest opinion.
Remember I was talking about not TTC for a wedding that is coming up. Well, if I did conceive this month, my due date would be 22 Jan. The wedding is 5 Jan - but in a remote location in the Marlborough Sounds. I don't want to miss the wedding, and I particularly don't want DH to miss the wedding. That would be a disaster!! Thinking about my situation... what would you do? I don't want to seem selfish, but part of me really doesn't want to ignore the fact that maybe THIS is the month?!?!? |
Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 13 April 2007 at 11:02pm
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I'l join the group in limbo, Im about 2days post ov, but still pretty sceptical. Going to the docs next week to have the testing phase started. We have been TTC for over a year, so a little nervous. Wish you the best of luck, and keep us posted. As will I!
Baby dust to all! |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 13 April 2007 at 11:16pm
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If you did concieve and you were due on the 22nd would you let DH go to the wedding still- or would he still want to go and leave you if you weren't able to go yourself? I think thats the biggest thing- although I am sure his friend would love to have you there, I would say that it would be his mate that he would be most concerned about missing the wedding. If you think that he could still go even if you did concieve then I say go for it- but if you think that you wouldn't want him to leave you that far along, or miss out yourself then maybe hold off. ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3
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Posted By: Freesia
Date Posted: 14 April 2007 at 7:54am
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Laurie, my gut feeling honest opinion ... if it were me, I would still go for it. I would want a baby more than to go to a wedding and if DP really can't be there at the birth then arrange for someone else to be there instead. Oh I sound so cold I guess it would depend on how DH felt, if he really really wanted to be at the birth then I would hold off. -------------  
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 14 April 2007 at 8:02am
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cool Laurie glad things are moving along for you it is exciting that things are starting to happen!
with the wedding i have no idea what i would do it is a hard one! I would want to miss the wedding but would also not want to miss a month of TTC. I think that if i was at the beginning (the first couple of months) of TTC i would not BD round ovulation time and not worry too much about it, but after you get past the year mark of trying each month (or any egg in my case ) is precious and i dont want to 'waste'it and you always have in the back of ya mind as you said what if this is the month? And in my case dont know if you feel the same way(but then of course there is always murphy floating around ) i would think it hasn't happened yet i dont think it will happen this month. but then on the other hand if i did you would have to run the risk of not going to the wedding or going into labour while you are down there or DH missing out on the birth or wedding! BIG decision i can see both sides of your predicament (sp) and wish you all the best in your decision.Dont know if this helps and sorry for the ramble i hope i have made sense
One more thing!  During my TTC journey so for if it has tought me nothing else, it has tought me to have to go with the flow and whatever happens, happens for a reason. which in my case has been hard to accept because i am a control freak and like things to happen when i want and tell them too!!! hehehe ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 14 April 2007 at 8:03am
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oh and welcome and good luck bumblefoot ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 14 April 2007 at 11:28am
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Thanks for trying to help girls... kind of a bit non-committal of me to ask you guys to help make my decision.
I guess at the end of the day, DH would be devastated if he missed the birth. That's a non-negotiable for him, and there's noone I would rather be with at the time. And two weeks isn't really THAT early. If it were 3 weeks, I would probably just go for it. It's so hard!! But I think in my heart we should probably wait. It was going to be an easy decision, because Ov was due when we were taking a group of teens down south for a sea kayaking trip. But cos my AF was so late, it's bumped the predicted ovulation along three more days to when it would be totally ok to BD. Eeek!! So hard. It'll probably be a snap decision at the time... but I think I should try to be tough and wait it out. Maybe the ultrasound and DHs tests will give some more perspective too. Thanks for your help. And thank to those of you popping into this no mans land thread to check up on me!
Welcome bumblefoot - good luck TTC. |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 14 April 2007 at 12:00pm
| As a bride to be, I would feel awful if my friends/guests put their baby plans on hold just to be there, especially if they had been TTC for a while as you have. I'd say go for it and when you are preggers work it out from there. |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 14 April 2007 at 12:14pm
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I feel the same as fleury on this one (but at the end of the day it's your decision!)
-Go for it! What happens, happens and I think if you were pg you wouldn't even CARE about missing the wedding, you would be so excited that you would be a mum in 2 weeks! And at least you wouldn't have in the back of your mind 'What if?' Just IMHO. |
Posted By: jamesmum
Date Posted: 14 April 2007 at 12:29pm
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It is a hard one
I'm kinda in the same position, although we havn't started TTC, just putting it off so we can go to DH's sisters wedding. I have to be able to fly domesticly (sp?) in Feb '08. As DH said its only a couple of months and the wedding is something we don't want to miss being family. Laurie, I think if it was a friends wedding rather than family and I had been TTC for a while than I would probably be more inclined to keep TTC. How far away are you traveling from home?? I wouldnt mind going to a wedding heavily pregnant if it was close to home, but if I had to travel than I probably wouldn't go, esp since #1 was born 2 weeks early. Sorry about the long post.
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 14 April 2007 at 12:38pm
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That's ok jamesmum.... The wedding is down at the Portage in the Marlborough Sounds. You can only get there via water taxi.
The thing is, this is DH's best friend, and as best man, he really does need to be there. And I really want to be there too. This friend lives in Canada, and we haven't seen him since he came back to NZ specifically to be best man at our wedding. So, there is history there. Anyone else (excluding family) it wouldn't even be an issue! |
Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 15 April 2007 at 5:57pm
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Good stuff Jess :)
Laurie what a hard situation my opinion and I think it has been mentioned is that everything happens for a reason I would keep trying because if it is meant to be its meant to be! and you may wonder if it wold have happened that month?? I know I would. Could you meet your friends like near where you live when they come over before or after the wedding if you are pregnant? I was bridesmaid for a friend and my wedding was in fiji and she was to be my bridesmaid and she told me not long before the wedding which was in fiji that they couldnt afford to come (I know its a different scenario) but I really wanted them to be there and they really wanted to come but it just didnt work out and I totally understood and Im sure DHs friend would too if the situation arises
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 15 April 2007 at 9:36pm
very cute!!! its scary how quick they grow up aye!
my weekend was good it went really quick! lucky i've got tomorrow off!!! I went to the wedding expo in auckland today with my best friend it was really good! i found it alot better than the bride and groom show i went to when i was getting married! (i't might of had something to do with the glass of bubbles they gave to you as you walked in )
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Posted By: sophieb
Date Posted: 15 April 2007 at 10:44pm
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Hello everyone, I'm new-ish. I signed up ages ago when I got all clucky but then all those 'life' things got in the way so babies got put on hold.
But we're getting married in 2 weeks time and after that I am coming off the pill (after 8 years) and then I guess we'll just see what happens. I am pretty keen on waiting for a few cycles to get my body back to normal and find out how long a natural cycle is. I'm quite excited. Have any of you guys recently come off the pill? and how long before you officially start TTC are you meant to take folate? Anyway, nice to meet other people as clucky as I am
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Posted By: queenbean
Date Posted: 16 April 2007 at 11:54am
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Hi sophieb, welcome back!
I have been off the BCP for almost 3 months now so feel free to ask me any questions!!! Definitely start taking your folic acid ASAP. Good luck for your big day!!!!!!! -------------   
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Posted By: Freesia
Date Posted: 16 April 2007 at 12:53pm
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My Dr recommended starting folic acid 3 months before TTC. I was on the pill for about 9 years and when I came off, AF came almost as usual and they have been very regular after that. That was a good 1-2 years ago though, wanted to get off it before TTC just to see if AF was regular (like you).
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Posted By: sophieb
Date Posted: 16 April 2007 at 6:40pm
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Thanks for your replies and nice wedding wishes LESS than 2 weeks to go, now I am starting to get nervous!
Amber, I am glad to hear that your AF was regular after coming off the pill, I am a bit worried that mine will be all over the place, but we will see. Queenbean, what changes have you noticed in the last almost 3 months? I have read that lots of women lose weight (wouldn't that be nice!) but get bad skin and often depressed (what with hormones re-balancing I guess). Also is it ok to come off the pill mid-cycle or better to wait until the end of a packet? |
Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 16 April 2007 at 6:48pm
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Hi Sophieb good luck with the wedding and TTC! how exciting! I was on the pill for 11 years and came off last october after our wedding, and have had 1 period induced by provera and 2 naturally. The Dr said most return to normal after 3 months but not me! the pill can hide any underlying problems which Im sure you dont have! and yes start taking folic acid asap! I also got told by a natropath that the pill can strip u of minerals and vitimans and I have read this in a pregnancy book too, so maybe take some vitimans (ones for pre pregnancy)
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 16 April 2007 at 8:58pm
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Hi sophieb how exciting i love weddings!!! and good luck TTC hopefully your stay on this TTC thread will be short lived! and i mean that in the nicest possible way!!!
Well I decided that i am going to take the provera, after reading others experiances with it (and their lack of the bad side effects) and also i've had enough of this cycle and just want to start a new one full of good opportunities! (I hope ) so i had my blood test today just to make sure i'm not pregnant before i start to take it, I will ring the fertility clinic tomorrow and get them to get the pescription to me then hopefully it will be all on!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 17 April 2007 at 7:01am
Hello and welcome Sophieb! Congratulations and good luck for your wedding and all the best of luck TTC 
Sounds like a good step for you noodle! (hey, you never know, just MAYBE the pregnancy test might come back positive???) I'm still living in this thread Have no idea what stupid AF is doing Just want it to hurry up so I can start counting! I'm sick of this CD counting side of things (CD 50 today ) But aside from that, everyone here is very cool and its so great to meet (kind of ) people in similar situations Have a great day everyone!!
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 17 April 2007 at 7:13am
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funlvn! it sucks aye! i hope AF isn't too far away for you!
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 17 April 2007 at 8:10am
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That suxs funlvn! hope AF arrives soon good stuff Noodle bring on AF! then you can get the ball rolling! Im going for my ultrasound tomorrow afternoon to check my overies and make sure I hopefuly dont have PCOS or anything else! and have bloods for my hormone levels, kind of looking forward to finally (hopefully) finding out what is or isnt wrong with me! then off to the gyno in a few weeks! have a good day girls!
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 17 April 2007 at 9:43am
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Oooh, good luck Kye. I am doing the same on Friday. My stomach seems really bloated but firm at the moment, I'm a bit worried about why that is. I hope there is nothing happening in there for either of us!!
Noodle, good to hear things are progressing for you too... |
Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 17 April 2007 at 12:50pm
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oooh good luck kye and laurie, it will be good to know what is going on! look foward to hearing what the specialists say! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 17 April 2007 at 2:31pm
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Yay noodle, onwards and upwards! I'm on CD40 today, going to docs to get bloods done to make sure I'm not pg, but my body's been really weird so I want to rule out the pg possibility and then maybe take further action. I have PCOS, IBS, low blood pressure and prostractic glandular something-or-rather so the way I'm feeling could be due to any of the above.
Hoping that either I get a BFP on bloods or AF pays me a visit soon, as I really don't want to have to go down the other road again (never had periods until the last 3 months, now nothing again )
Good luck for your scans Laurie and Kye. Did your bloods for PCOS come back -ve? Mine did, i.e. normal testosterone levels, but low oestrogen hence no AF. Only in the scan and my hysto/lapo op did they really see the cysts. |
Posted By: sophieb
Date Posted: 17 April 2007 at 5:56pm
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Thanks again for lovely well wishes ladies
Good luck for those of you getting test and bloods done etc. I had to have a blood test last friday afternoon and I swear the guy at the lab trying to find my vein (in vane?) was about 12 years old. He jabbed me in both arms and mucked it up, then had to go get another nurse to have a go!!!
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 17 April 2007 at 7:09pm
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OMG Sophie, that's terrible.. probably a trainee!
Well, I'm sorry to say this but I really didn't want to come back to this thread (I mean it in the nicest possible way !)
Went to my GP, he said for some reason my body has decided to give me pregnancy symptoms when I am definitely not pg (wow, thanks bod... that's fantastic ). He also said I'm not ovulating AT ALL (3 wasted periods) and I'm infertile as I am today.
So, like I knew, I will be making a trip to the gyno and apparently more tests will be done (yay) and then started on hopefully Provera and Clomiphene. The joys of PCOS! I was so sad and I cried for ages when I told DH. I always knew that it would probably come to this as I've had a grand total of 5 periods ever, but geez it's a hard pill to swallow. Anyway, like I said in one of my posts, onwards and upwards. Hopefully we all have a very short journey to babyland, as I so wanted a bub yesterday Am I just greedy?!
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 17 April 2007 at 7:11pm
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hey girls thats for your supportmy nana died of ovarian cancer and my mum had her ovaries out so Im kinda freaking out with the hole "genes thing" good luck Laurie hope all works out well for you and noodle onwards and upwards for all of us hopefully! good luck emz I have my bloods tomorrow to so will let you know how I get on and with the scan too
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 17 April 2007 at 8:33pm
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Oh emz big to you hun!! Glad you have a very supportive husband! it makes all the difference! I hope your Medical insurance covers it for you!
And no your not greedy at all! you deserve it
Kye no wonder you are freaknig out thats pretty scary stuff! i hope you dont have to go through anything like that! Just think tho your nana and mum managed to have bubbas and i'm sure you will too! Doesn't stop all the worry tho does it! to you too! good luck for your bloods and scan tomorrow!
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 17 April 2007 at 8:53pm
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lol Noodle thats a good idea thanks for your support, and thats right they had kids and these days medical profession has advanced so much more than back then
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 18 April 2007 at 8:32am
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Oh, big hugs Emz. You sounded sad.... Hopefully thy gyno will get things on track for you. I have my fingers crossed for you.
Kye, sorry to hear about your family history. I can see why that would make it scary. At least the doctor should be able to give you some answers soon. Part of my frustration seems to be because it should be easy for me to get pregnant... my mum had 6 babies and no miscarriages and said that whenever she decided to have another one it just happened! |
Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 19 April 2007 at 6:50pm
Hey girls good luck for tomorrow Laurie I went for my bloods and ultrasound yesterday it was friggin horrid! (it was an internal!!!!!!!!!!) THe lady said I had more folicules than usual but overies were a normal size so she said see what the results of my bloods are I may have PCOS or maybe boaderline...she mentioned weight too...sO I went for a 25km bike ride this morning! made me feel heaps better! get the blood resuts of my hormones tomorrow then off to a gyno for probably the same treatment as you emz How are you going on the provera noodle? good luck Laurie for tomorrow I was annoyed today kept trying to get on this website all day at work and computer kept crashing RAAA
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 6:58am
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Yea good luck for today Laurie!! fill us in on what happens! kye you leave those ultrasounds feeling like you've lost all your dignity aye! poor you glad they are getting it sorted for you tho! good luck for your results today! let us know what they are. and good on ya for going for ya bike ride! 25km would just about kill me i think!! ha ha ha
I am taking the 1st provera tablet today! got the pescription in the post yesterday and filled it last night! DH is away this weekend so i think i'll tell mum to keep checking up on me to make sure i havn't had a bad side effect! ha ha ha paranoid or what!!!! hehehe
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 8:09am
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Good luck Laurie let us know how it goes you totally loose all your dignity noodle! lol noodle about being paranoid I was too how many days do you have to take them for? you will be fine will let you know how I go with my bloods
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 9:11am
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Thanks ladies for thinking of me!! Not looking forward to the appointment, but I have had one before so at least I know what to expect. I just hope that the person doing it this time is nicer, the last one was AWFUL!
Frustrating Kye that you didn't get any real answers. At least there is nothing blatantly obvious I guess. Hopefully the blood tests give you a bit more information. Did the person doing your ultrasound give you this information, or did it come from your doctor? 25km bike ride! That's impressive!! Noodle - good luck with the provera! Let us know how you get on, or we'll be worried about you! I'm crossing my fingers for NO side effects.
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 2:32pm
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HI Laurie hope you go ok today the lady I had wasnt very nice either! I got the bloods back today and all hormone levels fine but the nurse said that its hard to tell unless you pretty much have them everyday of your cycle! she said that the radiology report said suspected PCOS but that I may have a mild case...nice of the frigen Dr to actually tell me that when she did the ultrasound!so Ive made an appointment to see a gyno 7th May so he will probably put me on clomid so its good knowing that something is happening, and since Im 28 I feel that its better than being in my 30s so lucky I know now
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 4:49pm
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Kye - it's really refreshing to hear you sounding so positive. For me, the last couple of hours have felt like my world was going to end. I'm coming out of that now and starting to have some rationality again...
Anyway, so I went to my appointment. The first thing that threw me was that it was a guy sonogropher! Didn't expect that!! First I had one of the scans with the thingee on your tummy. He was frowning a lot and then he told me that he couldn't get a lot of information. He offered a vaginal probe scan but said I didn't have to if I felt uncomfortable. Well, after all the frowning I decided it would be far worse to not know at all, so I said I would have the other one. They brought in a "chaperone" - a wee girl probably about 21 who didn't know where to look!! Ok, so after much probing around he said that he'd got all the information. I am pretty sure that if I hadn't asked, he wouldn't have told me anything. Apparantly my womb is empty, which is good because there is nothing left from the miscarriage. However, my ovaries have multiple cysts all through them and my right ovary is 7 x enlarged as compared to my left. That was all he could tell me. He said he wasn't trained to speculate what that meant for my fertility. So! Here I am. I've tried calling my doctor, but haven't had a call back yet. I don't even know what all of this means. If anyone could tell me what the possibilities are, I should be able to amuse myself for the rest of the night on the internet! I am feeling really scared at the moment... spent a good ten minutes crying in the middle of Wellington's busiest streets on the phone to DH. I know noone here is a medical professional, but some help on what all this might mean for me would be greatly appreciated... I am guessing PCOS is possible, but what else might it be? And does anyone know what possible treatments might be suggested? Thanks in advance. |
Posted By: Freesia
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 5:40pm
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Oh Laurie, I'm sorry you didn't get any definite answers and were left upset and with more questions. I haven't got any answers for you sorry but I hope someone here has just to give you some piece of mind.
It's probably unlikely but try not to think the worst. See what your doctor makes of it.
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 6:22pm
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My doctor called me, and we are seeing him on Tuesday. He seems to be not too concerned at the moment - if the cysts are fluid filled then that is better than if they have solids, and will probably go away if I go back on the pill for a bit. If they are solids, then I have to go to the gyno.
On the down side though, and this is a bit saddening, it would appear DH also has issues with sperm count and motility. I guess one of us on our own is bad enough, but when we both factor into things, then there is big issues. On the plus side, we have pulled it off once before so it's good to know it's not impossible, we just have to get it right. DH needs to test again and when I know if they are fluid or solid cysts I will have my course of action. I am pretty gutted though. And pis*ed off too! This is very unfair.
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Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 7:34pm
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Oh Laurie! Thats awful, Im sorry to hear that, and Im sorry I dunno what to say. But you are right, you managed to pull it off once, so there has to be some compatibility there. Thinking of you and sending big hugs! Hang in there chicka, and Im sure (hope like mad!) it will get happier soon! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 9:40pm
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Laurie that sucks!!! double wammies like that are not fair at all!!! we are here for you hun!!!
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Posted By: queenbean
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 10:08pm
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to you Laurie, that sucks. Hopefully the doctor will be able to explain it all a bit better and things won't be as bad as you think.
Man, I totally forgot all about this thread!! It's been a hive of activity! SophieB: I stopped taking the pill at the end of the pack when I had AF. My cycles have been 26-27 days long since then and got AF back as normal straight away (although cramps are much worse now). No change in weight, skin is a little oilier so a few more breakouts, that's about it. The only concerning thing is that so far my LPs have been short, 6-7 days (have to be at least 10 to sustain a pregnancy) This cycle I have been taking Vitamin B6 and Vitex to try and lengthen it. My GP said to keep trying until October before considering taking progesterone to increase LP length. Hopefully the B6 will do it!! Sorry about the small novel!!!!!!!!! -------------
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Posted By: sophieb
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 10:49pm
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Firstly, noodle, good luck with ya pills
Laurie, I am soo to hear about your traumatic times. Sometimes I am really amased at how kinda weird, uncomfortable, insensitive and embarrassing the medical profession can be when you are really putting yourself out on the line! I guess they forget that while they are doing their job that it's a pretty BIG DEAL for their patient. Anyway, big for you. I know it sucks now, but It will be ok.
queenbean, thanks for sharing re: coming off the pill. I remember having really bad cramps before going on the pill and that is the main thing I am dreading! It seems like everyone is getting pregnant this week. Or maybe you just notice it more when you're jealous?
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 21 April 2007 at 8:33am
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he he he sophieb, every one getting pregnant or being pregnant and noticing it when TTC (and being that tad bit jealous) is sooooo true!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 21 April 2007 at 9:04am
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So true sophieb LAurie big big I hope that Tuesday goes well for you and you find some answers, ant at least it has happened for you before so at least you know that although you both have issues its not mission impossible I bet the next few days are going to go so slow for you! I hope not though! Keep busy and try and keep off the internet I was the same on the net looking up info about pcos and anything else I might have and my friend said there is alot of misinfo on the net and when I spoke to the nurse she didnt seem to concerned so that made me feel better and I think we are both lucky that we know now that there is some issues not when we are in our 30s Noodle glad your ok on the pills lol funny when you freak about all the side effects I did the same
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Posted By: WRXnKids
Date Posted: 21 April 2007 at 10:41am
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That sucks Laurie but it does sound like preg is a definate possiblity just might need a little bit of help to get there again. -------------   
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Posted By: Freesia
Date Posted: 22 April 2007 at 6:25am
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Noodle, how many have you got to take and when should you see the effects? Nosey parker me Just wondering if it's a long wait. -------------
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 22 April 2007 at 9:06am
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Hi Amber be as nosey as you want!! I have a 10 day course and i'm not sure when i may start to feel some side effects its been noting yet (but i have only just taken my 3rd one today ) and i was wondering yesterday how long it takes for AF to arrive whether i'll get it during the course or if it will arive after i have finished! suppose i should of asked the nurse!!!! Oh well time will tell!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 22 April 2007 at 11:56am
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Hey Noodle
I got told that AF arrives 2 days after you stop but I had a 5 day course think I took 2 a day? I got real PMSy after I stoped taking them and AF arrived about 6 days after I stoped! I got all paranoid that it wasnt going to arrive
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 22 April 2007 at 12:14pm
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 7:57pm
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Laurie, i havn't 'seen' you around for a few days! I hope you are ok!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 25 April 2007 at 10:47am
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Hey Laurie how did you get on at the doctors yesterday? I hope it all went ok Noodle hows the provera going?
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 25 April 2007 at 6:28pm
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Hi Provera going well so far no side effects and i've taken 6 4 to go!!!
Message from Laurie: she asked me to tell you all she is fine just been really busy, and she is now off on her sea kayaking trip and she will write a big post and fill us in on all her bits when she gets back!!!!
Hope you have a good trip Laurie!!!
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 25 April 2007 at 7:08pm
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yaya 4 days to go so hopefully noodle if you were going to have any side effects you would have by now cant wait to hear how laurie is going probably a good time for the trip to keep her mind off everything Im going good, just waiting for my appointment with the gyno 7th may about 2 1/2 weeks away! its funny since Ive known about the appointment I have been really slack with taking my temp etc just cant wait to get the ball rolling bet you cant wait either noodle hows everybody else in limboland?
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Posted By: sophieb
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 2:00am
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my wedding is in 4 days. eeeek. I can't sleep, and I think I am getting a cold. so I am up in the middle of the night eating kiwifruits and feijoas.
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Posted By: sophieb
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 2:03am
| Plus I went to spotlight today, which was full of pregnant women. PLUS I had a meeting on Monday and someone else announced they are due in October PLUS one of DH's staff just announced she is 2 months.... I'm telling you, it really seems like *everyone* is pregnant... |
Posted By: sophieb
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 2:03am
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ooh, new page ...anyone else tell I am up by myself at 2am?
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 3:41pm
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All the best sophie how exciting!I know what you mean about everyone being pregnant...a friend of mine emailed me the other day saying she was 5 weeks pregnant and it was a mistake but she is happy! hey jess thats all good about the weight loss etc
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Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 10:06pm
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Man! This thread sure is busy!! Big to everyone in here, especially those who are very frustrated.
Thinking of you Laurie, hope all is well. Sounds promising Noodle - bet ya can't wait till you've finished the pills. Sophieb, not long now!! try to sleep at night, not stay up eating kiwifruit and fejoas or you'll be knackered by the time your wedding comes around
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 5:20pm
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hi funlvn! havnt seen you for a while! how are ya doing??
after a while ya sort of forget what CD ya on! I sure know that feeling!! ha ha ha and oh shucks! hehehe i've never been anyone's inspiration before!!! ha ha ha and it's just a case of having to do it i think my body has a mind of its own and its not the one in my head!!! ha ha ha
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 29 April 2007 at 9:17am
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Hows the provera going noodle? when do you finish it?
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 29 April 2007 at 7:00pm
Hi kye i took the last one today! YAY!!! I havnt been very nice to live with yesterday and today tho poor DH! But i told him he has to deal with it because i am doing it for us not just me! What a mean wifey i am!!!  
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Posted By: queenbean
Date Posted: 29 April 2007 at 7:26pm
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Just wanted to wish you good luck for your big day SophieB!!!! Hope you have an absolutely awesome day!! -------------
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 29 April 2007 at 7:28pm
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 5:40pm
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yeah SophieB enjoy every second it does go Super fast! Noodle I was like that it was like hard out PMS for a few days amazing what hormones can do! you go gal its us woman that have to put up with it all Im just plodding along really, I have my appointment with the specialist next monday so in limbo land really until then! cant wait to go when do you start the Clomid? How was the kayaking Laurie?
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 01 May 2007 at 12:48pm
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Yea thats what i reckon any way! a biathcy wife is nothing in camparison!!! ha ha ha
How exciting 5 more sleeps until your appointment! yay yay yay!!!
I start the clomid on day 2 of my new cycle which hopefully wont be too far away!! having bad cramps today and dont feel that good but bring it on i say!!!
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 01 May 2007 at 12:49pm
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 01 May 2007 at 6:18pm
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Congratulations noodle your a senior member I know I cant wait to go to the specialist and get the ball rolling! I bet you cant wait either...its funny looking forward to having a period I was all excited when I had provera but was over it after day 2 of AF hahahaha hopefully the weather wasnt too bad for Laurie!
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 02 May 2007 at 7:10am
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ha ha ha yea id say i'll be the same!!!
Just jumped on quickly before I have to go to work (havent had a chance to read any other therads!) But i'm officially on day 1 today! AF arrived yay yay yay start my clomid tomorrow!!!!
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 02 May 2007 at 12:33pm
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Yay Jess glad things are looking up for you!!! Ya have to make sure you look after yourself!!!
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 02 May 2007 at 6:21pm
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thats really possitive news Jess and happy birthday for tomorrow Yay Noodle thats so exciting! finally getting the ball rolling
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Posted By: sophieb
Date Posted: 03 May 2007 at 9:39pm
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Thank you so much for your nice wedding wishes ladies I had the best time, in fact, best night of my LIFE! Over very quickly, but just lovely.
It feels very strange to be a Mrs, but I am enjoying it
Happy Birthday for today Jess! I'm half way through last month of BCP then will come off and go from there, so still in limbo for some time yet... oh well, got to pay off a wedding now anyway
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Posted By: queenbean
Date Posted: 03 May 2007 at 11:32pm
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Happy Birthday Jess!!!!!!!!!
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 04 May 2007 at 10:06am
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Hi Ladies!!
Wow... there's been so much to catch up on while I have been gone! I've actually been back since Sunday but have been really busy and haven't been able to get on to post. And work is cracking down on internet usage so I've not wanted to go online there. Sucky! Anyway... Happy birthday for yesterday Jess! Hope you had an awesome day.
And Noodle, I am really glad to see a cycle day 3 on your ticker! That is very cool because it was getting excessive. Good luck with the clomid... I've got my fingers crossed for you.
Sea kayaking was absolutely amazing. With DH I took 11 teenagers into the sounds and we all had such a good time. The weather at times wasn't the best, but not bad enough at any stage to really stop us having fun. The kids were really well behaved, and I just had a super fun time. I've linked a couple of photos: One is the view from inside our tent looking out on the first night, one is of me and Aly. I'm in the front seat. And then the other one is all the kids on the first day. Fun! 
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 04 May 2007 at 10:17am
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And, I guess you're also wanting to know what happened at the doctors last week.
Mostly good news actually - my doc said that the cysts a "physiological" which means that they are filled with fluid and nothing sinister. Basically they might go away on their own, but because they are causing me a bit of pain, I am going to go on the pill again for a minimum of 3 months to try to clear them up. Then I'll have a scan to see if they're all gone. If not, it's another 3 months of waiting. I'm pretty frustrated about having to go back on the pill, but I am relieved that they aren't anything serious. Hopefully they'll go away and I'll start ovulating properly again soon. DH is also going to go to Fertility Associates to do another test to see if the result we got was accurate. The doc was a bit concerned that they might have not been correct because of all the stress DH has been under at work (he is currently doing his role, his manager's role and his manager's manager's role!!). Also, DH has had his thyroid "killed" due to previous issues, and if his levels aren't being properly maintained it can affect his fertility. We're waiting on the results of the thyroid tests now. I'm kind of feeling better about everything. Frustrated as all hell, but better. We did manage to conceive relatively easily last year, so I am hoping that it is the cysts that are causing the delay right now. I'm quietly optimistic for a mid-2008 bubba. It just seems such a long way away!! In the meantime, I am enjoying some of my favourite wines and DH and I are planning on going skydiving on our holiday down south later this month. Gotta have fun while we can!! It was really nice to come back and read the posts and know that so many of you were thinking about me. I'm looking forward to seeing you all graduate from the "Languishing in limbo-land" thread while I am stuck here for the next three months!!!
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 04 May 2007 at 6:41pm
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Hey Laurie good to see you back and awesome photos! wow! and all good about the doctors! Im going to fertility associates on Monday arvo so looking forward to that! how are you going Noodle?
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 04 May 2007 at 8:42pm
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Wow Laurie what a beautiful sight to wake up to in the morning!!! glad you had a great time!!!!
I hope your 3 months goes quick and the cysts dissapear! And yea CD108 was a bit excessive i think aswell! Tell you what tho! *CAUTION TMI TO FOLLOW!* I have NEVER had an AF like this one only spotted for about 2 hours (2 days of spotting the norm for me) Then full on AF! where before was always VERY light! Hopefully this different AF is a positive thing and i'm having a much needed clear out!! (thats what i tell myself anyway!!! ha ha ha
So i'm on day 2 of my clomid and feeling allright so far!!! lucky DH i say
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 05 May 2007 at 11:28am
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wow that sucks having a heavy AF but yeah probably a clean out! I know I cant wait till monday! thats good that you have had no side effects yet! how long do you take the clomid for?
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 05 May 2007 at 2:33pm
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Just 5 days for clomid from day 2-6 then ovulation is suppose to happen 8-9 days after the last one is taken! So fingers crossed that i'm growing a nice healthy egg!
I was thinking if i do ovulate this cycle and we dont end up concieving i think that even though we didn't get pregnant i will be SOOOOOO stoaked that I can ovulate!!!!
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