Pushy vs Friendly?
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Topic: Pushy vs Friendly?
Posted By: MummyFreckle
Subject: Pushy vs Friendly?
Date Posted: 19 April 2007 at 4:48pm
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I have new neighbours (the last ones were HORRID!!) and I met the lady yesterday. They seem very nice - so thats a relief. We were talking and she told me that her teenage daughter (who lives with her, along with her daughters boyfriend) is pregnant and due in late Oct / Nov time.
I have got a tonne of pregnancy books, and some duplicates (where different friends have all given me the same book!!) and I was thinking of taking some over to her to borrow, but would this seem a bit pushy? Wanted it to be a nice 'hey we are neighbours and pregnant and due close to each other' kind of thing, but am worried I might just come across as pushy and nosey.
Thoughts?
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 19 April 2007 at 5:20pm
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Hmmmm I think I would mention one of the books in a conversation but only go get it if she seems really keen to borrow it. I don't think it would come across as pushy. -------------  |
Posted By: Bumble
Date Posted: 19 April 2007 at 5:25pm
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I agree with the mention in the conversation. Perhaps suggest that you found those books really helpful...Maybe her daughter might like them.. Or try and strike up a conversation with the daughter... ------------- formerly known as "Bee" Ethan ~ March 2003 Big 6 year old school boy! Micah ~ Aug 2008 ~ Smiley pants who loves telephones! |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 19 April 2007 at 5:47pm
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I think its a lovely thought. I am sure she will say no thanks if she didn't want them or already has them but yes maybe mention it in a conversation over the fence and then take them round. I myself wouldn't mind if neighbour turned up with books but you never know some ppl. - although be prepared to not get them back sometimes things go missing etc....??? ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 19 April 2007 at 7:06pm
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She brought up the pregnancy, sO i think the gesture is lovely - I would have them on hand and say - would your daughter be interested in borrowing some preggy books? -------------  
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 19 April 2007 at 8:09pm
Yes I agree miss, she brought up the pregnancy so maybe when you aare in conversation again, you can casually mentions the books ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 19 April 2007 at 9:26pm
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i think it is a nice gesture, and not at all pushy. but yea, be prepared not to get them back as you dont know these people. ------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe - my big 4 year old 
and Jordis - 1 year old 
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Posted By: Lissy
Date Posted: 19 April 2007 at 9:39pm
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I think it would be a great idea. Just say you were cleaning out a few things and thought you might like to read / look ??? at these. ------------- Harlan Drew DOB: 06.12.06 & Stepmum to Ethan & Christian, DOB: 25.02.99 |
Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 7:36am
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i think it is a great idea too- not pushy, especially if you drop it casualy into a conversation with her. she might like to know someone due close to her too- i know i would of. your lovely
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Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 20 April 2007 at 8:33am
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Thanks ladies - feel better now!! If I see them this weekend, I will 'casually' mention that I have lots of books if ask if she would like to borrow them!! (I am prepared to not get them back!!) ETA - the funny part of this story is that we live in a cul-de-sac with 7 houses, 2 of us are pg, 3 have had babies within the last 6 months. Something in the water maybe?? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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