Not sure whats wrong (sorry venting)
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Topic: Not sure whats wrong (sorry venting)
Posted By: Kazzle
Subject: Not sure whats wrong (sorry venting)
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 3:12pm
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The last couple of days ive been feeling a bit blue...(and im just wondering if its my depression kicking back in), i havent felt like this for well over 2 yrs...
i dont want to deal with anyone...or anything...i know that i have a lot going on in my head at the moment.. I know im stressed over ttc no 2...im thinking about going back to work in the evenings a couple of nights a week...just for some me time and some me money. Im really really tired...which isnt helping...but the stupid doctor put my iron blood test on teh same form as my ovulation blood form...so i have to wait until my next cycle starts before i can get those done. One of my friends and I had a huge huge fight on sunday...as she was telling me how to raise my daughter and how to deal with her being clingy...( when she doesnt have any kids of her own) and because she wouldnt listen to what i was saying and just wouldnt leave rhiannon alone when she was having a tantrum i bascially kicked her out...and her parting words to me were..."your child is giong to be screwed up because you are a bad mum"...i was like WTF...AND...I know im not a bad mum infact i think im a bloody great mum...but with everything else thats going on...arrggghhhh anyway guys thanks for letting me vent...i actually feel heaps better...might have a chat with kent tonight and talk about going back to work for a little bit and see what he says....its either go back to work...or find something to do a couple of nights a week...so im outta the house ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 3:23pm
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Sorry to hear that you are feeling a bit down Kazzle.
Sorry if this offends you but your friend sounds like a right B**CH saying that were does she get the nerve trying to give you advice when she doesn't have any kids so doesn't know what it's like. I think your a great mum and it might be just what you need to get out of the house a couple of nights a week for some alone time I know I enjoy my every second Friday night out for a couple of hours after James has gone to bed and I feel really rejuvenated the next day.  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 3:24pm
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oh Kaz, big hugs, you know your always welcome to call me up for a vent or come over.
You are a good mum and your friend shouldnt be jumping at you like that when she hasnt got any kids of her own, sometimes its easier for some people to dish out advice without understanding. going back to works some nights might be good for you, I know I would love to but will be a while yet before I can. Im sure Kent will support you with whatever decision you make. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 3:26pm
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thanks danni-chick and i agree my so called friend is a B*&^H and she also knows that i am really really mad at her...as she has spoken to another friend of mine...and my other friend told her that because she was interferring with the way i do things and raise my daughter im not likely to want to rush into making up with her.
and quite frankly i dont have time or space in my life for ppl like that. on the getting out front...i just need a couple of hours a week to myself..that doesnt involve housework or running errands...lol ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 3:29pm
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a few hours a week would be nice i miss my independance, housework really gets to ya sometimes eh. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 4:21pm
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he he, that's why i went back to study, the first year at home with paris was the most lonely isolating crazy time of my life. I had no choice, but when ayja was born i went back when she was 12 weeks old. and it was hard, but the best thing i could have done. work, is my me time. i don't get alot of it otherwise.
your friend has no right to tell you how to parent your wee girl. some friends that don't have kids are still great and can sometimes offer an alternative view that you hadn't thought of, but to keep on and get you that angry.. is not ok and not fair. Kids when they pack tantrums are best left to get over it themselves, and at this age that bubs is, (and anywhere up till 2ish and over still) they do get clingy and a bit weird on it. sometimes you have to just keep going and tell them no you can't pick em up, but mostly all they need is a bit of a hug and then are hapy to go off and do their own thing. how rude of her. I hope things improve for you Kazzle, sucks to feel like that. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 4:43pm
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thanks guys...i am feeling much better....the past few days rhiannon has been really clingy and grizzly...but have just noticed that a molar is trying to make an appearance so tht explains that.
going out for a cuople of hours tonight to a friends...so that will be nice ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 5:14pm
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yeah molars arent very nice, we got molars coming through with haleigh atm and shes horrible
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 5:22pm
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oo that will be a nice break for you. I know it's really nice to get out of the house - by yourself - for a bit of sanity sometimes but if you're exhausted, are you really sure that work is the way to go? I find once I'm exhausted my life-outlook goes way down also. Not so much a depression thing but just a "woah everything's getting on top of me" for a couple of days.
Talking it out with Kent (and us  ) will hopefully help improve things for ya too.-------------  |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 5:31pm
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Oh ho wrude of your friend!! NI would say the parting words wa the nail in the coffin (or atleast would have been for me...).
We all think you are great mum, and dont you ever think other wise!! Go out there and have fun. You deserve it! And tell you friend where to stick it....  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 5:45pm
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What a horrible "friend"!!! if it was me i certainly wouldnt be forgiving her anytime soon!!!!
I hope you feel better soon and have a great time at your friends 
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 6:09pm
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thanks guys....it really helps knowing that you guys are here.
I am looking forward to going up to my friends place...even if its just to help ice a birthday cake for tomrrow.. my friend rang me today...and basically i told her that when i was ready to talk to her that i would ring her...until then i expected her to respect my space and leave me alone...she rung up the phone in tears but frankly i didnt care...may sound harsh but thats what she is like...if she doesnt get her way she tries the waterworks... oh well one less drama to worry about now...  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 6:47pm
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I think you handled the phone call from "that friend ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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" well. You stick to your guns. Your a great mum and you dont need busy bodies telling you otherwise!!!Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 24 April 2007 at 7:53pm
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Good on you kazzle for telling her whats what! And also good on you for realising that her remarks are HER problemv and that you ARE a good mum. stupid people!
and poor rhiannon with molars. Taine is going through that too - NOT fun. |
Posted By: Brenna
Date Posted: 25 April 2007 at 5:10pm
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Good on you for standing up to her! It's hard to do, but in the long run she will have more respect for you and will know that you wont put up with crap.
You're a great mum! What would she know anyway?? - she doesn't have any kids ------------- My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 25 April 2007 at 5:57pm
| Just about your blood test, why not ring the doctor and point out that you would rather not wait until you ovulate to get the bloods done and pick up another form? |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 25 April 2007 at 8:55pm
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i had thought about tht...but then it would cost me another $10 just to get that...just spent $70 at doctors and chemist..so will just wait.
Rhiannon is going to mums on friday morning and coming home saturday arvo...so apart from the wedding we are going to on friday night...just gonna sleep in on saturday. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 25 April 2007 at 10:05pm
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Hugs Kazzle. I had a so-called friend spit the dummy over Sienna's name, and it sucks.
If you go into the lab they should be able to do your iron levels and then give you back the form/give you a new form to get the ov bloods done later on. Or you could just start taking iron tablets, it isn't going to do you any harm even if your levels are normal. Oh and talking about ways to get out of the house, I (possibly stupidly) allowed a certain OB member to sign me up for Belly Dancing classes - my belly dances all by itself  But it will be good for a laugh, good exercise, and good me-time.------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 7:10am
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Hey Emma...
a group of friends and I are thinking of doing pole dancing...and they have a studio right here in lower hutt...we are just plucking up the courage to go...hahahaha ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 7:49am
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LOL Kaz that would be interesting ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bumble
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 9:26am
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My sister did a pole dancing lesson as part of her Hen's night.
It was such a laugh!!!! Man was I sore in places that i never knew existed the next day!!! Seriously fun workout! ------------- formerly known as "Bee" Ethan ~ March 2003 Big 6 year old school boy! Micah ~ Aug 2008 ~ Smiley pants who loves telephones! |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 11:23am
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lol...my belly dances all by it self too Emma....I think I would stay away from any thing that need my belly to be exposed at any given time...LOL ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 12:46pm
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Pole dancing would be such a laugh. I would love to give it a go. My belly dances by itself too - maybe I should do some kind of class... ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 8:08pm
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my belly doesnt move much unless the aliens having a wriggle but before getitng pregs it jiggled lol, haleigh used to make it jiggle
but pole dancing would be lots of fun to get into. so would belly dancing ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 8:32pm
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My sister is doing pole dancing, she enjoys it but reckons the heels are a nightmare ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 9:18pm
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I only started re reading this post on this page and read all these comments on pole dancing and, Kaz, I thought you had taken it up!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol!!!!! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |