no baby for me
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Topic: no baby for me
Posted By: emachan
Subject: no baby for me
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 1:41pm
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Hey all, I went for my 12 week scan today - I was prepared for bad news as I began off and on bleeding on Monday night - nothing too heavy, but with clots and cramping which worried me.
My m/w suggested me on Monday night to wait til today's scan (as it was already booked) and when I had it my fears were confirmed - there was no heartbeat and the baby had only grown to the length it should have been at 8w2d, and I should've been 12 weeks yest. I still felt (feel) pregnant, just had not much m/s over the past few weeks which I thought was a blessing! I am glad that I had gone in to the u/s knowing that if there was a heartbeat it would've been a miracle - I had given myself the last 3 days to get used to knowing that it had a high chance of bad news. When the sonographer measured the baby and saw no heartbeat it just confirmed what I already knew and felt inside. The only thing I am annoyed with is, it hasn't been growing or have a heartbeat for almost a month! That's so unfair!  How could I have got to 12 weeks and this happen!!
We are looking on the positive side though - we know we can conceive, I'm still young (26years) and I live a very healthy and active lifestyle. I didn't do anything wrong - did everything by the book and this still happened. Big hugs to everyone who gave me positive thoughts before my scan and hopefully I will re-join you in a couple of months! 
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 1:44pm
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 1:46pm
| Awwww, sorry it wasn't good news for you! But good on you for keeping a positive attitude, it must be hard at the moment! |
Posted By: Bel
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 1:48pm
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Oh emachan, that is terrible news. I am sending thoughts your way. Hope to catch up with you in a few months with some better news!
------------- Mum to two beautiful kids 
Luke (09.11.2007) Amy (01.04.2009) |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 2:00pm
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I am so, so sorry. Big for you. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: Millie1976
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 2:01pm
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss I hope to hear good news from you in the next coming months. ------------- Sebastien 2 years old Olivier 3 3/4 years old |
Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 2:07pm
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I'm so sorry to hear of your news big hugs to you and your family. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: Spudling
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 2:12pm
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oh sweetheart, I am so sorry to read your news, my thoughts are with you.
It's nice to read you are trying to be so positive and strong, just don't forget to grieve, you & your DP don't have to be strong during times like this, thats what your friends are for ------------- http://tickers.families.com"> 
http://tickers.families.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 2:17pm
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Oh That is so so sad. I feel so sad for you because i know what you are going through. Am still going through it myself waiting for the D&C after having our first bad scan 2 weeks ago.
I am so very very very sorry chick. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: callalily
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 2:32pm
oh emachan  - i had everything crossed for you - i am so sorry this had happened. You seem to have a very healthy and positive attitude, and i take my hat off to you.
all the best chickie, and if there is anything we can do, just ask..... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: hailstones
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 2:37pm
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Thats so so sad. Big hugs to you and your family ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 2:41pm
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Awww Emachan that's so sad When I had my m/c last year it helped me to know that an estimated 25% of pgs end in m/c - which is very sad, but it reassured me that it wasn't necessarily anything I had done, but actually a far more common occurrence than I had realised. Even so, it's a very sad time to go through and you may always wonder "why" and "what if". Big hugs! And if you have any questions, feel free to ask us - there's quite a lot of us on here who have had m/cs now. ------------- |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 2:48pm
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So sorry Emachan, I'm thinking of you and sending love and prayers your way. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 3:18pm
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Big hugs to you, I am so sorry to hear your news. Best wishes for ttc over the next few months. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 3:37pm
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I'm really sorry I can only imagine how hard it must be for you at the moment.
All the best with TTC again when you are ready. ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 4:11pm
| big hugs Emachan! sorry to hear of your loss |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 4:25pm
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oh hun!! i'm so sorry to hear your news
all the best for the upcoming months  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 4:41pm
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Sorry to hear of your loss. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 4:45pm
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Sorry to hear of your loss emachan. Sometimes I see your nickname and mistake it for mine. Bug hugs and good luck for the coming months.
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 4:51pm
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So sorry to hear that you've received such sad news. Take care of you! ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: Freesia
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 4:53pm
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I'm sorry to hear this news too Emachan. My thoughts are with you
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 5:02pm
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thanks for all of your kind thoughts! I thought that people might judge me, but when I texted all the friends that I had told about our pregnancy, everyone (and I mean everyone!) have texted me back sending us their best wishes.
Its very touching to know so many people do care out there! Thank you so much.
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 5:08pm
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Hugs Emachan, my thoughts are with you in this difficult time. Fingers crossed we see you back really soon. -------------  
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 5:10pm
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So sorry to hear your news Emachan. Big hugs ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 6:22pm
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My thoughts are with you both. Hang in there - you will be back in here in no time at all! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 8:57pm
I'm so sorry to hear of your news big hugs to you and your family ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 9:28pm
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so sorry to hear your news! big coming your way!!!
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Posted By: Carmel
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 9:51pm
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Sorry to hear your news
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 10:01pm
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Big Hugs to you both.
All the best and hope to see you back in here soon. Your right you are still young. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
http://tweetytweety85.bebo.com - bebo |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 7:58am
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So sorry to hear of your loss ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 9:41am
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Huge hugs for you!!!
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 11:42am
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Not at all (judging)! Sometimes you'll just never know and a lot of the time a m/c has nothing to do with how careful etc you were. ------------- |
Posted By: AN E
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 12:15pm
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Aw! So sorry to hear your news. Sending you big hugs over the net.
We will hopefully see you back here soon ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 April 2007 at 9:23pm
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I don't know how I missed this...
Big hugs Emachan, I am sorry to hear of the loss of your precious wee bub. Thinking of you,and if there's anything I can do just ask. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 29 April 2007 at 11:53am
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Hey there just read your post on little t, big hugs to you , I had a m/c in Feb so know how you are feeling, hope to hear some good news from you in the coming months. ------------- 
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 10:08pm
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Hey everyone,
I had my D&C/ERPOC on Friday - felt ok after it and had a very cruisey weekend, DH and my younger brother who is living with us made me put my feet up for the whole weekend - very hard for me as I am used to going 100% all the time! Had some really sore stomach pains *not cramps* today so took another day off work. Hope to return tomorrow if the pain subsides. Thank you to all of your kind thoughts once again - you definately know how to make someone feel good! Its really nice to know people who you don't even know, care!
em* |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 10:17pm
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That's good to hear Em ------------- |