Most painful part?
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Topic: Most painful part?
Posted By: sunnyhoney
Subject: Most painful part?
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 5:03pm
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Hi Ladies
What do you reckon is the most painful part of labour/birth (aside from contractions)? ------------- Mum to: Joy Emily 1.05am 27/09/07 7lb 3oz Austin Paul 12.47pm 18/04/10 10lb 8oz |
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 5:06pm
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Definately the contractions were by far the worst part for me. I can remember the pain of the contractions but can't remember the pain of much else IYGWIM. I think by the time it was time to push I just wanted that baby out soooo bad that I didn't care about how much it hurt. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 5:18pm
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Aside from contractions? Crowning!
That was verrrry stingy and was when I started yelling something along the lines of "OH MY GOD GET HIM OUT OF ME NOOOOOOOW!" Luckily that bit was over very quickly  ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Bumble
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 5:20pm
I second that. Don't be scared tho. Once you get to that stage, you just want bubs out and will do ANYTHING to make it happen.....!!! (Even tearing from front to back.....  Ouchie ouchie!!!)------------- formerly known as "Bee" Ethan ~ March 2003 Big 6 year old school boy! Micah ~ Aug 2008 ~ Smiley pants who loves telephones! |
caraMel wrote:Posted By: sunnyhoney
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 5:24pm
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Ouchie Ouchie sounds right. Ow!!
Yes, I have a big fear of tearing that bad. ------------- Mum to: Joy Emily 1.05am 27/09/07 7lb 3oz Austin Paul 12.47pm 18/04/10 10lb 8oz |
Posted By: Brenna
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 5:27pm
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I know you said apart from contraction, but I found that the worst part for 2 reasons:
1. I didn't know how long it was going to go on for 2. They were so intense (I had a VERY quick labout so didn't have any breaks in my contractions.) The crowning did sting, but I was so glad that I was now pushing that I didn't care (and I've got a very low pain threshold) -------------  My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 5:53pm
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The contractions were the worst for me too. Like Anna said it's the unknowing of how long, how more pain full they will be I also had a reasonably fast labor. The crowing was bad but by then the adrenalin had well and truly kicked in when I started pushing I just wanted to meet my little baby and find out if it was a boy or girl. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 6:06pm
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I had painful contractions at least every 3 mins apart for 23 hours before Isla was born
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Posted By: 3xMummy
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 6:22pm
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Hmmmm..... it's been more than 5 years since I last gave birth so I've 'forgotten' what hurts most, so this is interesting to read!! I'm preparing to do it all over again in about 9 weeks
I would say crowning was probably the most painful part but like others have said once you get to that stage you really want it outta there & it's over pretty quickly! ------------- Jess  http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 6:44pm
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Crowning for me too... it felt like someone had a burning hot poker in there! ouchies... the sting was worse than ever! then it was over and out popped my darling daughter! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Skyflame
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 7:00pm
| The crowning did sting a little for me, but I didnt care so much by then as we were actually getting somewhere and I had a bit of control. I know you dont want to hear contractions were the worst but I found I could handle most of them until I got to the transition ones which came on very suddenly for me and the fact that you felt like you wanted to push but had to wait made them horrible. |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 7:32pm
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I find the contractions hard, taxing emotionally with the end seeming like so far away, but the crowning has been the worst part for me by far - and I only felt that part once! Apparently I have a long perineum and that makes my crowning time rather long - not one of these "over in two pushes" ladies! For a minute I was afraid I would tear forwards but my mw reassured me and I was ok (tore elsewhere but I didn't feel that).
You asked what was worse aside from contractions... but labour/birth is: contractions, pushing, crowning, stitches if necessary. Anyway, why are you asking this? I don't want my reply to freak you out!!! ------------- |
Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 7:38pm
I just wanted to say on a positive note, having never been through birth or labour myself (yet), most of you lovely ladies go back for a second, third and even fourth time so I figure as bad as labour might be, you all go back time and time again so it MUST be worth it in the end, right  !!
Of course it is you get a darling bubba to take home !!------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 7:38pm
| Lol Busymum,..thats exactly why I didnt elaborate,...my labour/birth is enough to put anyone off! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 7:45pm
Peachy is right though. It might be one day of pain (in varying degrees of course) but it really is all worth it in the end.  And hey, I've pushed out twice and am planning on another time yet lol------------- |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 8:08pm
| I have to add, tearing sounds a lot worse than it is. With Jake I tore and had three stitches, with Taine I grazed slightly. Didn't notice the tear at all with Jake, either during or after, but boy! that graze stung when I peed afterwards! |
Posted By: Spudling
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 8:39pm
I had forcepts so didn't have to go through the crowing bit so I just have to say contractions because they were just insaine...but at least once you get to the point of pushing you can do something and focus on your pushing instead of just waiting until a contraction is over....OMG, why am I putting myself through that again  ------------- http://tickers.families.com"> 
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 9:40pm
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The contractions were the worse for me, but I never got to birth HAleigh as hard as I tried she ended up forceps.
So I had the lovely epidural disguising any pain after that. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 10:06pm
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I am gonna jump on in here to say that the BIRTH is only *however many* hours long, if you are lucky (like me?!) the whole thing will last several hours, or a couple of days? In the big scheme of things, the birth is not what you should be worried about! ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 26 April 2007 at 10:43pm
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With Maya the contractions were awful, mostly coz I had 36 hours of latent labour (contractions every 5-7 minutes ) before they kick started it with synto, I felt very out of control, the contractions were unbearable and I remember the crowning was the absolute worst part.
With the gremlins, I can honestly say I don't think it hurt at all. I mean, yes, the contractions were painfl, but never to the point I felt I couldn't cope, and when the midwife said Sienna was crowning I remember having a sudden flashback to how much crowning Maya hurt, but Sienna was nowhere near as bad, and I don't even really remember birthing Mercedes, it was all over so fast. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: emmaohara
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 7:34am
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I agree the crowning was not painful for me last time, think I was sooo relieved that the baby was actually coming out at last after throwing up for the past 5 hours.
Definately the contractions were the most painful part, not looking forward to those, but as pople have said, you get a beautiful baby at the end of it and you know the pain will end so its all worth it , thats why we are repeat offenders!!
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Posted By: Spudling
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 8:13am
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haleighsmum, just because you had forcepts does not mean you didn't birth your baby....I too had to end up with forcepts after 3 hours of pushing DD just was stuck and we needed a little bit of extra help.
In my opinion, you did birth your beautiful baby, just because somebody helped pull her out doesn't take anything away from you and all the hard work you went through to get to that point  ------------- http://tickers.families.com">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 1:45pm
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i hated the whole procedure, contractions were the most painful thing id experienced but it was also the fear of not having any control over them, then the crowning was definetly not a pleasent experience but at least it was over quicker than the contractions.
I also found it rather (as in very very) sore when the midwife gave me an injection in my vagina to numb it before sewing, i would have jumped off the bed but the sneaky midwife had given me caitlyn to hold ....crafty b*tch sunnyhoney , dont let yourself worry too much about the labour, youve still got a while to go, and while labour isnt that pleasent (but better for some than others) you wont know how your own labour will be till your in it, pregnancy is an exciting time, have fun (apart from feeling sick, backache, heartburn etc) it'll be over before you know it 
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Posted By: sunnyhoney
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 3:24pm
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Yeah I know, I just thought it might be a good idea to be prepared for the worst. I'm definitely looking forward to baby arriving and I know it won't be a picnic, but it doesn't mean I don't want to go there. If I didn't I shouldn't have got pregnant huh!! It's exciting to watch everything change! :) ------------- Mum to: Joy Emily 1.05am 27/09/07 7lb 3oz Austin Paul 12.47pm 18/04/10 10lb 8oz |
Posted By: megrac
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 5:11pm
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contractions are the worst the rest went so fast.
when it was time to push wasnt any pain that i can recall (had no pain releif at pushing stage mw took my gas away so i could concentrate on what was happening) crowning really stings especally when mw is saying dont push when that is all you want to do to get pain to go away. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 8:52pm
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Well if there's any advice I can give your newbies, it would be (as dumb as it sounds), read into all the options, put your preferred one into your birth plan with your mw, but at least if any surprises come you know what you're talking about. Then just let it all rest because there's nothing you can do about it, talk your concerns over with your mw (especially in labour), and you'll come through. Often if you start to freak out, the mw will be able to say "this is the worst part" or "you're almost there" and that's really reassuring. ------------- |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 9:04pm
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LOL Teresa, my midwife was veeeeeery supportive - with Maya I was screaming "I can't do this anymore", and she said, very matter-of-factly "It's a bit late for that now!" ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 9:10pm
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I agree, I read so much and decided that I was going to be calm as going into things with Andrew, well it didn't go all to plan as I was induced but everytime someone told me that labour was going to hurt (mostly people that didn't have children), I would remind them that I get a good result at the end and to my friends who said it: You haven't done it so don't have much to say about it. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 9:20pm
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True, Becks, True. Yes, it does hurt, ALOT, and there is not much you can do about that, so you just have to get on with it and do it and remember that it is only one day, and look what amazing awesome results come form all that pain, and you really DO forget about it (the pain)afterwards, honestly! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 27 April 2007 at 10:30pm
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i can't really comment on this after having 2 c/s babies....but.....alot of you are saying the contractions were painful, to me, they weren't. i guess i am one of the lucky ones that had an easy labour, which didn't end up the way i wanted.
the only thing you can really count on in childbirth is.....it will eventually be over and won't last forever i am sad that i will never be going through it again and to all the upcoming new mummies......be as relaxed as you can be and also be prepared for things to not go as you planned 
all in all, the end result definately is worth it...although it may not seem like it at the start ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: youngmumnz
Date Posted: 28 April 2007 at 11:27am
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Hi there, the lost painful part of labour/birth for me was one the crowning and then when my daughters head was coming out she turned and tore me and felt every tear!!
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Posted By: littlejo
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 4:30pm
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I tore badly, and really the worst for me was the stitching up afterwards. Yep, the contractions were painful, and pushing was difficult (I was apparently minutes away from having an assisted delivery - forceps or ventouse), but at least they had a purpose!
My tears were a little worse than "standard" though, I guess - was stitched up in the delivery suite for over an hour before they decided I had to have general anesthetic and go down to surgery for them to finish off (another hour of stitching, I believe). But, hey, it was only about a week ago, and I'm already doing pretty well. Not quite ready to try that again in a hurry, but it really is worth it! ------------- Jo Jo http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 9:29pm
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Contractions were the worst for me, they were so close together for almost the whole labour I wasn't getting any breaks. The pushing was a huge relief and I didn't feel anything when DD crowned, so I guess it is different for everyone. I'd take more pushing over contractions any day!
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