teenage pregnancy
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Topic: teenage pregnancy
Posted By: chonni
Subject: teenage pregnancy
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 12:58pm
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hey im 18 and i know how it feels to not have anyone to talk to about things the same age range as me so i thought we could start our own lil chat will be gud to hear from all u girls ------------- 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 2:21pm
HI! im not quite a teenager anymore (almost 24) but im happy to chat
I had my son when i was 20 and i also had a MC when i was 17 so im not shy to teenage pregnancies 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 2:26pm
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I'm not a teenager either at 26, but I'm happy to chat too. I had my daughter when I was 20, actually finding out I was pregnant at about 18 weeks. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 2:31pm
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good to know that people have had babys young and are living there lives people somethimes make me feel like im sily and wont be able to do it alone i know its going to be hard and all that but i just would like some support thats not negative lol -------------
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 2:38pm
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I'm 22 and pregnant with my first. Not as young as some, but I really do feel like I'm still fresh out of high school, or that I'm too young to handle it.
It's not going to be easy, but there are so many supportive people around that are happy to help and give you good advice. I don't how on earth I would be coping if I didn't find this website. Everyone here is just so lovely and non-judgemental, that you are able to share your worries and fears knowing that there is always someone that feels the same, or has been through the same. Good luck!
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Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 2:42pm
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yeah ive been ut of collage for 2two years and and half amd did a chef course a year and a half ago so its not like im so imature that i cant handle and dont know wat im doing.
same this site is great lots of people willing to be honist and and havint read anythig yet where someone was being jugemental -------------
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 2:49pm
Even though some of us are years off teenage years we are all going through the same thing. I dont think age really comes into it. I have no idea how old most of the people on here are. You are an August mum too, so we will be experiencing similar things. you will just cope better and bounce back to your pre preg figure faster....bet your boobs wont droop as fast as mine 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 2:53pm
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Being a young mum never made my life harder in fact i think it made my life happier (not so much being the young part but just being a mum part) I married my high school sweetheart and we are having another wee man
Alot of people told us that we were ruining our lives when we got pregnant with Bay especially as DH was 2 yrs younger than me! so only 17 when i got pregnant!!! but we certainly did not ruin our lives....Bays definately a pain in the butt sometimes!!!!  but certainly not a bad thing both DH and i went on to get good careers and are living very happy
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Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 2:54pm
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hhaha nah age doesint matter i just thought it would be nice to get the younger mums to talk about wats going on coz ive lookd and lookd and theres nothing anywhere for teen mums which isint good for a country which has a lot.
haha nah my boobs have gotten so big its just not funny lol every time i buy a new bra it doesint fit anymre and its gunna get worse when mila is born haha  -------------
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 2:54pm
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I was 20 (turned 20 the day before my daughter was born!). It is hard being a young mum, esp with people commenting on your age - ie "oh, you look too young to be a mum". But you get used to it, and you learn to just shrug those comments off.
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 2:57pm
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I know Beanz (she on here every now and then) had her little girl at 18 and i'm sure there are others. I had my first at 22 and i'm glad I had my children young. You will find that there will be a lot who had their first in their early 20's a few years ago now. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 2:58pm
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yeah i definetly feel much happier now and just cant wait till shes born i bleaive everything happens for a reasson and this is my path and im loving it heheh -------------
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Posted By: jamesmum
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 2:59pm
| I was 19 when I got pregnant, 20 when my son was born. I have just turn 22. I was lucky in that I never got any negative comments about my age. |
Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:03pm
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haha yeah lucky when i first got pregnant evryone including my partner of 5 years was so rude and told me to get rid of it when i chose not to he left me and took all our friends with him i had to start everything new with friendships. i just couldint bleaive people could tell someone alse wat to do just because they are young -------------
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:03pm
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there is a teen mums site - cant remember what its called tho sorry - but when i looked (was a reading a thread a friend had recommended) it looked very immature and catty and if you are used to oh baby it it might be hard to get used to.
i can see if i can find the site again for you if you want.? oh and as an older mum i wish i had had mine younger, maybe not teen young but def early 20's. |
Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:05pm
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yeah i know wat u meen that would be good if you can find it and ill have a look and see but most teen sites are very bitchy and like to judge evryone even for the silly things haha -------------
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:11pm
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teenmummy.co.nz I think it is. I had a look at it and agree with you deb it did look very catty, reminded me a bit of high school (but then teenage girls that was all that was at my high school). ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:14pm
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thanx girls ill have a look. haha same i come from an all girls school so im used to it i gess -------------
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:15pm
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Hey I'm 18 and pregnant too LOL! I know how you feel, having all these people judging you and stuff! I'm kind of scared to go to any of the Ohbaby meet ups because of it. Not that I'm saying anyone on this site is like that. But I think after having comments from some people your self esteem and everything drops!
By the sounds of things you already are mature and have a life going. I'm in the middle of study too, people think 18 wow thats young but people have to look at your maturity age and who you are as a person not just "18!! What a brazen hussy" I think every mother should be celebrated because of who they are and what they do. Ok end of novel :D ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:20pm
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hehe i know do u find that every one stairs at you when your walking all my frineds say its like people have never seen a young mum b4 i just look proud and keep walking lol. where abouts are you from?? -------------
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:38pm
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I'm from Bay of plenty and Waikato lol.
Yes it is, I'm just like yea watch my phat belly then. A lot of my own family wont even talk to me and some that do avoid the fact that I'm pregnant ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:42pm
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aww really that must be hard im lucky most of my falily is in england and they cant really do much over there but my mum is being really suportive thank god i dono wat i would do without her. sory if it sound rude but did u have any problems telling your partner? -------------
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:44pm
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thats not rude! But first I'm sorry bout what happened with you and yours. My partner was excited he had his up and down moments as some guys do when they suddenly realise the responsibility and commitment etc. He was the one who told me I was pregnant! And his boss told him!
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Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:47pm
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lol thats fine at least i can make all the deisions myself without worrieing wat he wants lol. haha how did he know u where pregnant b4 you? -------------
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:48pm
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Babyonboard,..you should definatley come to the waikato meet up on Fri! We are lovely
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:50pm
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I think I'm going to! I might stammer ans stutter a bit a first but I will try my best to be charming ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:51pm
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hey how do u know where the meet ups are where abouts are the posts about them lol -------------
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:51pm
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Umm lol this is shame! Well the boss noticed my boobs were getting bigger so he told DF who then told me I was pregnant at 6am one morning when I was throwing up in the cow shed LOL ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:53pm
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lol how many weeks where u by then. man guys notice the weairdest things haha -------------
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:55pm
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lol not that far can't remember exactly but before 10weeks
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Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 3:59pm
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lol i got my first scan at 6weeks she was just a lil peanut then i was lucky that the only time i got morningsickness was when i was in the shower and i only threw up once.
i still cant eat cerial tho lol. -------------
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 4:02pm
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Im 24 so Im not young but Im not old either hehe.
But Im always keen to meet up soemtimes if you want Chonni seen as we both in welly. We having a meet up at wholly bagels in Lower Hutt tomorrow if you want to meet us, I'll be meeting everyone there for the first time to. If you pop over to the general board theres always someone posting a meet up there. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 4:06pm
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dam i have a meet up in petone with the house of grace we are all going for a walk on the beach hopfully if its not raining lol yeah it would be good to meet up sometime tho aye -------------
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 6:34pm
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i was 18 when i got pregnant and 19 when i had mikey. i was lucky, when i was pregnant i lived in greymouth and didn't really get any negative comments or anything. i think it might be because there is a higher incidence of teen pregnancies on the west coast?
i am now 21 and loving being a mum. sorry to hear about you and your partner, hopefully it was for the best. i'm a solo mum as well although my ex and i were together until quite recently. all the best for the rest of your pregnancy! ------------- |
Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 30 April 2007 at 7:06pm
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Lol I used to live in the south waikato - Putaruru/Tokoroa and it used to have (not sure if it still does) the highest teenage pregnancy rate along with the highest clamydia and ghonorrea rate ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: aleisha
Date Posted: 01 May 2007 at 12:10pm
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hi
well im not a teenager anymore(BOO HOO HOO)But i had my first at 16 second at 18 third at 21 forth at 23 and now 5 weeks away from my fifth baby at 26!(Due 10th June) The pregnancys were all planned.So there you go it cant have been that bad aye.Youll be sweet!!! Having babies beats any party ive ever been too!(JUST!LOL) So i dont think teenage mums really miss out on anything and besides they can do it all later when kids are older,as i am finally starting to realise,with my oldest being nearly 10.
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 01 May 2007 at 12:52pm
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Yay thats good! lol. It's funny how disinterested in some of the things my friends do now! I used to do the same things but now it's like I've got more to life and something special which is cool ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: megrac
Date Posted: 01 May 2007 at 2:04pm
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i had my first baby 3 months before my 21st now i am 27 and having my third. it is funny when i take my eldest daughter to school who is in year 2 all the other mums are a lot older than me and i kinda feel out of place. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 01 May 2007 at 2:28pm
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Thats what I think is going to happen. Around the same time I'm due another lady in town is due - and shes old enough to be my mum. Thats such a huge age gap between mums with the same aged bubs
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 01 May 2007 at 2:32pm
| In my antenatal class there was a girl 12 years younger than me, and a lady 10 years old than me,..all having our first bubs! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 01 May 2007 at 7:47pm
I was the baby of my antenatal classes (21), I felt really out of place as being young single and pregnant amidst all these 'old' married couples (funny how they don't seem so old now that I'm older  )
Baby on Board you should definitely come to the Waikato meet up! I'm definitely the last one to judge - it's sheer good luck I managed to avoid a teenage pregnancy  -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 02 May 2007 at 7:07pm
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I was a teenage mama too... just. I was 19, but turned 20 a month after Han was born.
I'm also a single mama... went through a bit of crap with the whole paternity thing but have given up since so Han just doesn't have a Dad. It's not always easy being a young, single mama but it gets easier as time goes on. I'm not living with my boyfriend who is getting better and better each day with my not-always-so-lovely two year old
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Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 02 May 2007 at 10:37pm
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I was 19 when I got pregnant, 20 when Sean was born and did the single parent thing for years. I was at uni at the time, went back then starting working full-time. It's hard, particularly when your mates are all taking off to do OE's etc and you're at home with a toddler and no money!!! It does get easier - or at least it gets different and you meet new people and find different friends. However it's all an adventure, and you'll be fine. Get yourself some information and support and I'm sure all will work out well. It did for me...even though now I'm old, married and have even more kids. Eeek I'm double a teenager now!!! (in age that is) ------------- |
Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 03 May 2007 at 7:33am
I feel old  Guess that teaches me for lurking
There are pluses and minuses to both ages I guess. If you have them young, you will still be young when they are a bit older and can do more things then....and that will be about the time when a lot of other people are finally getting their act together so you will have people to do things with then. I guess when you have them older (I'm only 34) you get to do things before hand. It all works out doesnt it? |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 03 May 2007 at 8:08am
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I was 17yrs when I had my eldest daughter. I still remember all the predjudice (sp?) towards me and just the sense of not being good enough because I was a young mum (even my own family including my father were terrible to me, my mum was always supportive tho). My daughter is now 11yrs and I would not change having her when I did for the world. I have since studied my butt off and became a registered nurse and also had 2more children to add to my family Im one of the youngest mum at the school and my daughter is soo proud because I was voted "The Coolest Mum at the school lol" LOL!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 03 May 2007 at 8:12am
Chonni it would be great if you could come to a Welly meet up. We are having them weekly now. Im just not sure yet if next weeks one is Thursday or Friday. I think its at Whooly Bagel in Lower Hutt. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 03 May 2007 at 8:44am
Thats the same situation as Im in to an extent, my DP is quite a lot younger than me(still in the teen years) but we are in love and plan on getting married and we are trying for a baby, we know that we will get some flack for it, but I have never been so happy in my life and same with him, we know we are meant to be together and we both want to settle down and have a family, so if I get pregnant soon, to us it will be such a blessing, and we will be fine :) So we feel it wont ruin our lives either, it will make them better becasue we will have what we always wnated  ------------- |
Baysmum wrote:Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 03 May 2007 at 6:19pm
yeah i want to if its on thursday i can its junna be a bit hard to get out there but ill try lol it would be gud to meet up with you girls -------------
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 03 May 2007 at 7:48pm
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I think a few bad teenage mums have ruined it for all and it's only because people watch more closely they pick up the flaws. It depends on the individual person and their personality and maturity.
I'm still coming to terms with the fact that I'm going to have a baby, not because I don't want to or because I think bubs will ruin my life! It's just I know there are things I'm going to have to give up or cut back on and I hadn't really thought of that, because I was just so happy! And it's not things like partying etc. Because thats not really part of my life. It's just a lot to think about. I think this new chapter of my life will be the most rewarding! I'm so excited to have real flash and blood family! Sorry for the big spiel!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 04 May 2007 at 9:59pm
| Hey I was 19 when Jack was born and I'm 21 now and expecting number 2. That web site is www.teenmums.co.nz and its not that catty anymore (well no worse than on here) |
Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 05 May 2007 at 11:45am
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I just turned 21. I know im not a teenager but i still feel like im young! And im still getting used to the fact that im pregnant! I never though i would be in this position!
I also worry about being a single mum. I think ive said this story a million times and people are probably sick of hearing it lol. but my ex decided he wants nothing to do with the bubs and dumped me when i was 8 weeks. SOoo coming to grips with having a baby PLUS being single is freaking me out but im slowly getting used to it. I have my family and friends and thats all i need!
Sorry for the rant lol ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 06 May 2007 at 12:03am
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Thats got to be hard! And it's awesome that your doing it and are strong.
I'm stressing enough about all the baby things! I think my study maybe suffering a wee bit 
Oh well I get to spend 3 weeks with a plunket nurse for my prac so I'm hoping to learn lots! I wont forget the notebook and pen ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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