Most terrifying night of my life.
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Topic: Most terrifying night of my life.
Posted By: mum2paris
Subject: Most terrifying night of my life.
Date Posted: 31 May 2005 at 7:51pm
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Things here have been interesting.. Ayja has her days and nights very mixed up.. she only wakes every 3 hours during the day, yet ever since the first night, i have only gotten about 10 minutes of dozing each hour during the night between 8 pm and 4 am... when she usually settles down for a couple of hours. I am very very very sleep deprived, so is mike, and mel as well. Her cry is very sharp - not like Paris's at all. and she has alot of trouble with wind , which i think is why she is so bad at night.. you put her down and within a few minutes she is screaming the house down and the only way to stop it is feed her.. a viscious circle.
Sleepness nights have really taken their toll though. Last night was possibly the most terrifying night of my entire life. I had been feeling a lot less tired than the last few nights. but well, that obviously wasn't true. I had fed her, about 1 am, and she had gone back to bed. I had just picked her back up out of bed cos she had that windy cry again. and was sitting on our bed, with my back up against the head board.. it must have been about 2 seconds later that i FELL ASLEEP. I woke as she fell from my arms, and hit the floor head first. she screamed, then stopped. I tell you i have never moved so damn fast in my entire life, i cannot even say how she hit, or how she was lying, i was down there and picking her up so fast. I just sat, I couldn't move for a few mins..then Mike and mel woke to me sobbing uncontrollably..just saying "i fell asleep, i fell asleep"...and freaked out cos they couldn't get any other words out of me and Ayja was so quiet. we went straight up to the hospital.. and stayed in overnight.. she has had a huge lump come up on her head, taking up the whole left side of her head, and is about 1 - 2 cms high.. full of fluid and blood. They said it's under the skin and tissue, but don't think it's under the skull or anything. It's horrible. and she has bruises on her eyes, from them haivng to pry her eyes open all through the night to check her pupils etc. my poor baby looks like she has been beaten up. we go back tomorrow for re-assessment, and every day afterwards until it has gone down and they are satisfied with her condition. they did blood tests and her haemoglobin level is fine which means she isn't bleeding heavily at this time. we are just watching and waiting .. don't think i will ever forgive myself if she has any damage. so yep, just a post to tell you all, may be a while before i am back on here. please.. iuf you are sleepy you other new mummies... get up to feed.. do anything to avoid having this happen. i wouldn't wish it on anyone. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 31 May 2005 at 8:34pm
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Oh Janine, that must be so horrible for you guys.
An unfortunate accident that could definitely happen to anyone. I remember how often I used to wake up and freak out that Hannah was under the covers - just pure luck that she never was. I hope everything is alright and Ayja gets better soon. |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 01 June 2005 at 2:12am
| Janine, Oh my gosh. How awful for you. But Nikki is right...It could've happened to ANY of us. I'm sure Ayja will be fine. And as for you, DON"T BEAT YOURSELF UP ABOUT THIS. THIS WAS A FREAK ACCIDENT. YOU ARE A GREAT MUM!!!!!! |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 01 June 2005 at 7:46am
Janine i really feel for you!  . Like the others have said its not your fault! Please try and look after yourself! ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 01 June 2005 at 9:36am
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Oh Janine, how awful. I'm sure she is going to be fine, and the others are right it could happen to anyone. THinking about you and bubs. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 01 June 2005 at 12:35pm
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Oh my goodness, Janine, you must have been so scared! Please, please, please don't beat yourself up over this, IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! - like the others have said, it was an accident, and could happen to any one of us. I'm sure Ayja will be absolutly fine. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 01 June 2005 at 4:00pm
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Janine.....I can't imagine how you feel right now, but I also think it was just an accident. Think positive!! I am sure Ayja will be fine.
AND..YOU ARE A GREAT MUM....never think otherwise. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: angel
Date Posted: 01 June 2005 at 4:27pm
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Ohhhh man - thats so frightening!!!!! I hope and believe Ayja will be ok - just relax Janine, these things happen unfortunately... a lesson for us all. ------------- Aimee Ella - 5.5 years old! Toby - nearly 3 years old! 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 01 June 2005 at 8:09pm
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OMG Janine, how scary for you! I dropped Maya out of the Jolly Jumper onto the wooden floor at home when she was 3mths and she had to go to hospital too, but she was fine, and I'm sure Ayja will be too.
Don;t beat yourself up about it, it could happen to anyone. I used to often fall asleep when I was breastfeeding Maya, and it is only but for the grace of God that she never fell or was hurt. Sleep deprivation is like torture, and bound to takes it's toll on us Mums. You are an awesome Mum, and I am sure little Ayja will be fine. Keep your head up, it will get easier. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: kobe
Date Posted: 01 June 2005 at 9:27pm
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that must have been so frightening for you. Unfortunately these sort of things happen aye and it makes you feel so sick when they are hurt but as everyone else has said it can and probably will happen to most of us in some way. Keep us informed on how she is going. ------------- Robyn & Kobe www.babiesonline.com/babies/s/stackyjunior |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 02 June 2005 at 11:25am
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Hope all is well, I am sure it will be. I am sure we are all thinking of you, stay strong! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 02 June 2005 at 11:00pm
| Does anyone know how janine and Ayja are doing? |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 03 June 2005 at 6:45am
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Hey Lizzle just came on the site to ask the same thing. I've been thinking about them none stop since she posted. What a scary thing for them all to have to go through. It's horrible how bad sleep deprivation can affect you. Hopefully she knows we are all thinking about her and Ajya, and isn't beating herself up. I'm guessing almost everyone has a story about a close call they have had when they were exhausted. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 03 June 2005 at 3:00pm
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She did say that, it might be a while before she is on here.....I hope all is well!
I couldn't stop thinking about little Ayja. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 03 June 2005 at 3:11pm
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I only just read this post...
Hopefully mum and bubs are doing well...and I hope she knows that we are all thinking of her. They'll be in my prayers. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 03 June 2005 at 5:31pm
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I was gonna give Janine a call at some stage just so she knows if she needed to talk to someone outside her family that I am here for her.I too had a close call the otha nite.I was on th couch holding harmony and just as i woke i saw harminy heading for the floor out of my hands!!! luckily i reacted so fast. ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com"> 
Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days) |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 03 June 2005 at 11:11pm
| Tell us if you hear anything becs. I've been thinking about her, how it could have soooooo easily been me. We were talking at work and it was surprising the amount of "drops" people's kids have had. My friends wife dropped their eight month old down the stairs. he had a fracture in his skull!!!! Now, you'd never know! thank goodness!!!! |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 04 June 2005 at 7:57am
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yep hope all is well! ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 04 June 2005 at 9:56pm
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Hey ladies thank you for all your messages. Things are settling back down again now. The bump on Ayja's head has almost dissapeared, and has just left a nasty purple bruise that will probably take a while to fade, others have said they can't notice it too much, but i know it's there so notice it more i spose.
We went back to be re-assessed and they are satisfied that there shouldn't be any internal damage - but also told us that the blood tests did show she had had some bleeding (haemoglobin levels) it annoyed me a bit cos the nurse that discharged us had said the bloods were fine - obviously they were ok enough for us to go home but i don't like that we were told everythin was fine when it wasn't completely ok.. Now we are just keeping watch, as all babies have a huge drop in haemoglobin levels at around 6 weeks.. since she has had bleeding she will more than likely drop very very low.. so i am back on iron tabs to hopefully pass a little bit of extra iron on to her so she won't fall too far below safe levels. My sis went home yesterday, she has been great. Mike has also been really good, and i think it helps that Ayja has setlled a bit with her sleeping patterns. we had a really good night the other night, with her waking only at 12, 3 and 8am.. The good thing about her feeding so much i spose is that she never lost weight.. she was weighed and had gone from 6 pound 2 up to 6 pound 9 in the first week.. so she is doing pretty well. paris has been very overprotective of Ayja.. she already was, but now no-one is allowed to pick her up but mike or me.. and daycare has said that the whole day she is away from her little sis she is upset and whingy.. like she was when she first started there - very fragile. so far there is no jealousy.. much the opposite.. no matter what we are doing with her, if ayja so much as makes a squeak she wants us to "get ayja" and give her cuddles. she is an awesome big sister. my sis has promised that tomorrow she will upload all the pics she took while she was here on her digital cam.. and send them through to me.. so if i have time i will update Ayja's site (have not done it for 2 months) and stick some pics on there. We had thought maybe of taking a pic of her bump on her head.. but decided we didn't want to have that reminder there. She has now decided that she does not like anything touching her head though.. hats are a no go pretty much.. you put one on her and she screams.. we are looking at going to see a cranial osteopath just to see if that does anything. has anyone used one for their baby? ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 04 June 2005 at 11:16pm
| Jake had a huge bruise on his head from being in the birth canal for so long. It took about 3 months to fade. and then one day it smelt like chemical so i scrubed his scalp and dead skin came off...and no more bruise. Very weird. Glad to hear Ayja is doing well. Looking forward to seeing the pictures! |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 05 June 2005 at 7:55am
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yep i took both the girls to see an osteopath. Very relaxing for babes. It didnt really help with jaydes reflux, but its good to get all the bones in the head correctly aligned.
Im so pleased to hear that things have settled and that Ayja is getting into a routine. Paris sounds just like Alyssa is with Jayde. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 05 June 2005 at 9:52am
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You sound like you are feeling a whole lot better Janine.
Glad everythign is going well and looking forward to seeing pics.  
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 05 June 2005 at 1:24pm
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I am pleased to hear that you are back at home and I hope it all continues to go so well.
I have only heard good things about cranial osteopaths, I think it can't hurt if you do go. Keep us posted! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: angel
Date Posted: 05 June 2005 at 9:42pm
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Great to hear you are all doing so well, hopefully the osteopath helps ------------- Aimee Ella - 5.5 years old! Toby - nearly 3 years old!
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 06 June 2005 at 10:53am
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So good to hear you are all ok, Janine. Hope the osteopath helps! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 06 June 2005 at 2:09pm
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Hey pics are up on Ayja's site now, tried to get them on last night but computer packed a tantrum.
here's the link http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/o/ourweebabe - Ayja's website ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 06 June 2005 at 4:29pm
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What a cutie. Paris looks a little shocked, like oh my god i have a sister. Janine you look fantastic after just giving birth. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 06 June 2005 at 6:03pm
| she's soooo tiny!!!! I forget how small babies are! What a cutie. And Paris is looking so cute too. What a great big sister she is! |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 07 June 2005 at 6:11am
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So glad to hear all is well janine. Paris sounds like she's going to be a fantastic big sister. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: paigesmum
Date Posted: 07 June 2005 at 7:54am
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So glad to hear everything is ok! She is just beautiful!
Blake was alot smaller than Paige born he was 6lb 4oz she was 8lb 5oz, they seem so small. Karen ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 07 June 2005 at 10:28am
So glad to hear that Ayja is Okay.....
Both your children are gorgeous! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: angel
Date Posted: 07 June 2005 at 11:36am
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Awwww shes so cuuuute!!!! ------------- Aimee Ella - 5.5 years old! Toby - nearly 3 years old!
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 07 June 2005 at 11:56am
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What a gorgeous baby! Maya was so big and black and hairy that I'm not used to seeing little white babies lol! She is so cute, and Paris looks like she is loving it. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 07 June 2005 at 3:23pm
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What a beautiful little girl!! You all look so good together in those photos. I'm really glad things are settling down for you and thank you for sharing! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 07 June 2005 at 9:22pm
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Thanks guys. Emma, I find it weird to see Ayja after Paris... because Paris was an olive-skinned, dark haired eskimo chubb when she was born.. lol. I have a feeling they are going to be VERRRRY different in so many ways, yet tonight i was looking at Ayja and then looked up at a pic we have of Paris and they looked like the same child, i think it helps that Ayja is gaining weight and getting a bit more chubba now too. can't wait to see what she weighs.. midwife comes tomorrow. It's pretty exciting.. just cos Paris lost weight in the first few weeks, then never really gained much at all cos of all the probs i had feeding. Ayja is much easier.. we went up town the other night and it felt so completely wonderful to be able to just go to the mum's room and feed her.. Paris used to scream and not latch or feed, that would make me upset and we would have to go home.. funny how the little things make all the difference. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 08 June 2005 at 12:48pm
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I just have to say also that I think your girls are lovely! I can't believe how good you look in that photo! I know I will look like hell when I have given birth! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 09 June 2005 at 9:20pm
I looked like hell just after I had given birth. And for about the first 12 months afterwards 
I'm pleased to hear that feeding is going better this time round Janine, must be a huge stress off you. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 09 June 2005 at 10:48pm
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very much so. She has alot of trouble with wind etc this time though.. it is a matter of opposite of last time.. I let down too fast and more often than not she will end up choking and spluttering, and you can actually hear the wind in her tummy as she feeds.
She was weighed today, and is up to 7 lb already.. that's 8 oz in a week. yay! ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 10 June 2005 at 8:47am
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I am so glad Ayja is doing so well.....keep it up!!!
Would love to see more pics.......keep us updated! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 10 June 2005 at 11:01am
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so would i!! i am waiting for my sister to send the rest through!
lol, as for the posts about looking like hell after having bubs etc.. after paris i looked like a puffer fish for ages.. and was really white and sick looking.. so i'll agree with Emma.. I looked terrible for 12 months afterwards.. came back to right, then got preggers again. lol. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 11 September 2006 at 10:15pm
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Bump - after the talk of bumps to head and feeling like a bad mum... and to let all the new-sleep-deprived-and-feeling-slightly-crazy mothers.. we have all been through it.
(and a bit of a trip down memory lane too. lol) ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 12 September 2006 at 8:25am
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I remember that happening Janine - it was back in the days when I was too shy to post anything!! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 12 September 2006 at 3:17pm
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thanks for bumping that up janine, it was good to read it and see that these things happen to most mums. i don't feel so bad now ------------- |