My colum, your stories
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Topic: My colum, your stories
Posted By: ginger
Subject: My colum, your stories
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 9:30am
Hey everyone 
Two things! First, as you know, I'm doing a colum for OB. I have a number of topics up my sleeve, but I thought I'd ask if there was anything that any of you would specifically like me to write about? Now, here's the other thing. My colum is centering on pregnancy planning, since I've done a sh*te load of it, and know a fair bit about it. But, my view/experience is that of someone who is married and financially secure, and who has been able to plan as opposed to finding out about a surprise pregnancy under less than ideal circumstances. Would any of you be willing to share your stories, where you've had a surprise and had to come to grips with a pg ...and tell me a bit about what you did, how you coped, and how you planned? You can PM me privately if you want, or just post. I'm thinking, you might have been single, or in a rocky relationship, under financial stress/in debt, not wanting a child, really young, perhaps older than you'd have liked to be having a baby ...that sort of thing. I'd really like to gain an understanding of this perspective, and be able to put a colum together about it, so if any of you are willing to talk to me about what you went through, that'd be fab!! Thanks for reading this!! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 11:06am
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When I've got a few spare minutes, I'll post about finding out Kiya was on the way...
Short story: just turned 20, found out I was pregnant at what turned out to be about 18 weeks, bio dad didn't want a "girlfriend who was pregnant or a single mum". ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 12:16pm
Eek! Yikes! 
And how you made your plans for baby, and prepared once you knew  ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 12:33pm
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I have nothing to add apart from alerting the spelling police.. it's "column"
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 12:39pm
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In answer to your first question, I would love to hear about older mums and over 35s TTC.
As I will be in this group when we start to TTC and eventually become a mum. Especially first time mums. |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 12:45pm
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lol Pepsi ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 1:09pm
Hey pepsi ... 
I'm sure I typed that 'n' ...someone must've stolen it ... ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 1:10pm
Thanks Pepsi I was wondering about whether to say that or not  lol-------------  |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 1:10pm
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hehe Ginger that's a lot of n's that were stolen ------------- |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 1:17pm
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Teehee, the spelling police are alive and well then!
I wrote a story about Maya's rather unplanned arrival for a lady who's ptting together a book on unplanned pregnancy. Your post reminded me I haven't heard from her in a while, so must get back in touch and see how it's coming along. I'm interested to see you go thru the IVF process. I mean, I hate that you have to go thru it, but I've always wondered how it all works. Call me nosy ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 1:54pm
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What the ....?
You're right busymum! They've stolen all of them!!
OK. Just for the record, I do know how to spell column, so I'm going to plead insanity ..It's probably not too much of a stretch for you lot to believe anyway ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 2:14pm
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whatever you write ginger i would love to read, you have a fantastic writing style, whether it is a serious topic or not.
------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe - my big 4 year old 
and Jordis - 1 year old 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 2:15pm
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yep i will ginger just gotta get james to sleep ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 2:27pm
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you could blame the keyboard ginger! quite honestly the 't' on our one always plays up! ------------- "> 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 2:34pm
| I can tell you about my unplanned pregnancy... just once I finish this essay! I'll get back to ya... depending on how bored I am. |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 2:38pm
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Haha, i bet your story Nikki will be finished before the essay won't it?
Hehe, I could write alittle something and PM you Ginger (ok you all know that nothing i write is ever "little") ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 2:40pm
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heeeey.. that reminds me.. Emma my birth storys have dissapeared off the site altogether.. they used to bein with the member's storys section or something like that. now they're gone. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 3:39pm
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Nikki and mum2paris - that sounds great, thank you! (and yes Nikki, make sure that essay is finished. In fact, send me the finished essay as proof with the story! )
Most of the PMs I've had today have left me reeling. I just cannot comprehend the strength that many of you have had to find to raise your gorgeous babies and to get from day to day to week to month. I really do take my hat off to you. Also, I just wanted to say that whatever I write about any of you will be anonymous (I won't tell readers who you are, or who experienced a particular thing), and if I use part of your story I will email you the relevant bit for you to make sure you're happy with what I've written. This thing is going to be a couple of months in the making I think, so you'll hear from me on and off over the time I imagine. I want to do this because it's all very well to look at pg planning and TTC from an ideal perspective, and desperately wanting it, but there are a lot of woman out there who see that BFP and their world crashes down around them, but they still pick themselves up and face what's coming, however that plays out, head on. I really want to do all those women justice. Thanks to those of you who have PMed me, and for those of you that are going to. I really appreciate it. I have to say too that I feel a little ashamed of myself and my on/off whinging when I read what some of you have been through ... Thanks again 
Oh, and I'm trying to keep my inbox clear, but perhaps make sure you have a copy of your stories if they're long, in case I jam up overnight!! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 3:42pm
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Looks like Ginger has a cult following Go Ginger! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 3:44pm
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You can have my number 2 baby if you want. That was a big surprise baby that was totally unexpected as I had made my plans to go back to uni full time. I'll write it up for you and PM it to you at some stage hopefully tonight. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 4:01pm
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What can I say? My fans love me
*Takes a bow* ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: EllenMumof2
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 7:53pm
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i could do the same as dikini found out i was preggies with DS when 20 19 weeks along and his spream donor did a runner when he thought DS was a DD etc etc -------------  
 
Kalem 6! |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 8:35am
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I can't believe what arses some men are! I really can't!!
All contributions gratefully accepted ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 9:01pm
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I just sent you the longest PM in the history of PMs... please don't think any less of me when you read it
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 10:05pm
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So if Ginger's column next week is reeeeeeeeeeallllly long, we know it's Nikki's story. Otherwise it's someone else's.... tee hee kidding! ------------- |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 10:29pm
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hhhm might be mine too.
i wonder if she's sick of us and is thinking "oh my god i've opened a can of worms.. lol" Just kidding... ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 8:46am
I can't believe you were kidding about that... I'd say it's very true! hehe |
mum2paris wrote:Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 1:24pm
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A can of worms? As in, one can? How about a pallet of cans of worms?
Sorry I've been quiet today ...it took me all blimming morning to read Nikki's PM!
Just kidding. Sort of.
You're going to have to wait a good month or so, but I'll get there ... I just hope I get it right! 
Oh, and I have a word limit, in case you're wondering ...at the moment, I think it'll be a two-parter! Part one, and then Nikki's story
I really should stop harrassing Nikki ...she'll me!
No, seriously, thank you everyone! I'll have a bit to do this weekend!! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 2:50pm
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