my husband is an arse...
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Topic: my husband is an arse...
Posted By: Bizzy
Subject: my husband is an arse...
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 11:00pm
grrrr - so much to complain about him, not enough space on here even for that novel....
we have hardly even spoken to each other since mothers day...such an arse...grrrr. and yesterday he had a day off work and said he needed to have a day off to himself....WHAT the ...... grrrrr. so he did, but all he did was the same stuff me and the kids did - warehouse, lunch, home.... gggrrrrr and then he tells me at 8 this am he wasnt coming home for dinner so i had to do bath and bed routine by myself when he normally does it and he is working late tomorrow too. i asked him what his problem is and he gives me this big sad "i dont know" like now we have to discuss his problems but i have had enough and just said whatever.! so once again he went to bed early and left me in the lounge.... gggrrrrrr. arse is all i can say. oh well, life goes on. and as my mum keeps reminding me back in her day that was normal and med who did stuff for the kids was not the norm. i feel better now - but hes still an arse. 
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 11:13pm
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Im glad you got that out of your system and feeling better!!! Hes lucky your only calling him an arse....I dont know if I would be so restrained Just another question...What the hell are we doing up at this time of the night ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 11:14pm
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Sounds exactly like something my DP would do Sorry no advice to offer, but I understand! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Katherine
Date Posted: 16 May 2007 at 11:55pm
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Sigh. MEN! My DH often goes to work late in the mornings because he just needs to sleep in since he worked late the night before. This morning he gave me that excuse, so I got up, got Em dressed and breakfasted and ready to go see Emma for a meeting, and was rushing around, cleaning up, feeding the dog, packing our stuff... When I came back into the bedroom to get a sweater, I found him in bed reading a new science fiction novel! When he saw me, he whipped it under the covers. GRR! And I get that same excuse for needing a day off -- that he needs "me time" -- and then he does exactly what your DH does, gandt. Goes to the Warehouse, surfs the internet, eats fast food lunches. What hacks me off the most is that when I have to go to work away from home, I have to pay for childcare out of whatever pittance I make -- so when I want a day off, I either need to "book" him to look after Em, or pay a babysitter -- but when he wants a day off, he's got ME to do the care. GRRR! Let's send them to Husband Boot Camp! (my recurring fantasy!) |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 6:30am
| I am so there at the momemnt! BUT, I'm off on teaching section at the mo, so hubby is at home with the kids everyday! (see how you like it buddy!), and I tell you what, when I pull in the driveway, he's ready to go to wokr - practically throws me out of the car and jumps in! *he works nights). But the worst part is walking in and seeing "all" the housework he's done....grrr |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 9:55am
oh gandt thats the exact word i use to describe my DH sometimes (a little more frequently than sometime!). I hope he sorts his crap out soon!! and i hope you feel better soon 
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 10:17am
Gawd that would be a great idea. If only!! What is it with selfish husbands? No wonder we nag! |
Katherine wrote:Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 10:40am
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I am about to have a husband, so ladies by the time this happens you have to let me know the details of the boot camp. My Dp sure could do with a swift kick up the backside. I will send a cyper |
your way and hope that today is a better day for you!Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 2:23pm
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What is it with men always thinking they have the monopoly on tiredness and stress????? My day goes a little something like this: 6am wake up when Joshua does - up, Jman dressed, bottle, breakfast; 7am DP gets up, me shower and back downstairs, make lunches, tidy, dishes etc; 8.15am - Jman to daycare, us to work; 2.30pm - me leave work, collect Jman, home, unload dishwasher, prepare Jman dinner, play with Jman, give him dinner 6.15pm - DP home, DP baths Jman, me prepare our dinner, make bottles, give Jman bottle, 20mins getting him to sleep; 7.30 - start cooking dinner; 8.30pm - eat dinner, do dishes, tidy house 9.30pm bed for me..... DP's day - 7am - wake up, eat breakfast, drink coffee; 7.45 - shower, get ready for work; 8.15am - go to work; 6.15pm - get home, small rest, bath Jman, then chill out FOR THE REST OF THE NIGHT.....
Dunno about you guys, but MAN..... MEN P*** ME OFF SOMETIMES!!! Vent, and release 
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 2:36pm
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Where is this magical sounding husband boot-camp and how fast can I get an application in?!? I had to laugh the other night though - DH had been uncharacteristically moody around me since the day before. Finally, Ella was asleep, my housewifely duties (!?!) were finished, and I could sit down with him, ready to watch House. But he still seemed pi$$y about something... so I heaved a big sigh and reluctantly asked him if he wanted to talk about his feelings, then muttered something along the lines of "oh lord, no" when he said yes and actually started to! All I needed was a beer in hand and I'd sooo be the man! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 2:41pm
sign this one up for boot camp...still grumpy and an arse. this am i was told he didnt want to talk about things cause i just go on....and so he left in a grumpy for work again...thats 4 days now. he mumbled something about feeling angry at everything so i said do something about it - i think its a crock tho, its his choice to be angry. i told him too if he cant sort it out maybe he should move out. he said fine but i doubt he will. gggrrrrr again...
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 4:13pm
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I have had a lightbulb moment! When we all go to the OHbaby! Mega Meet we will arrange a simultaneous 'boot camp' for the useless male species and while we lounge around Welington for the weekend they can be learning why it isn't a good idea to bite the hand that cooks your dinner.
GandT - call me! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Katherine
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 4:31pm
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Emma, that is a fabulous idea, only... Who will we get to lead the camp? A "reformed" husband (is there such a thing)? Or a bunch of pissed-off wives? LOL |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 4:36pm
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I'm with the bunch of pissed off mums approach ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 5:35pm
i vote a bunch of pissed off transvetites...the best of both worlds.
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 5:44pm
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LOL gandt!!!!!!
My hubby and I haven't talked since yesterday after work and he slept on the couch and I actually really liked having the bed to myself so I am not talking to him again tonight to see if I get it again - LOL. Terrible aye. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 9:58pm
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Ahahahahahahhahhahah....
Women.... 
"Mens boot camp" wouldn't work. If you really want a good insightful book into guys get "Men are Clams and Women are Crowbars" by Dr David Clarke. ------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 17 May 2007 at 11:02pm
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LOL at this thread....BSDH hasnt found it - YET!!!!
HE got annoyed at me this am as i wanted to upload photos of ella and email...I got yelled at that he was waiting to have a shower...ummmmm he couldnt have done that instead of watching cartons downstairs???? hmmmmm oh yeah and apparently last nite he had given heaps of time to his daughter and felt it was my turn so could i PLEASE come take her - excuse me....it was less than 20 mins with him and i had her ALL day and got dinner etc etc etc.....OMG!!! boot camp is a great idea! |
Posted By: BSDH
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 6:34am
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Well you all must still have far too much time on your hands if you can get on here and Bitch and Moan about we men are doing. Us Dh's and Dp's are so busy making sure you all have roofs over your heads and food on you r tables and cloth's to wear and if your BS gas in your car that we made need Me day's I like me day's when I can go down to the boat and potter around nobody to bother you no dumb F#*ks Asking questions(work) not talking.. Just being me with me going back to our cave man roots when we where loaners out hunting doing our primal thing..... We don't get that now day's and We men miss it!!!!! Maybe there should be a wife boot camp and wife's could be deprogramed of all the feminist Crap that's come about over the last 30 years..
No Seriously Don't stress we will talk when we are ready sometimes it just takes time we love you all most of us couldn't live with out our women in our lives you are what keep us men grounded. It just may take time to explain what's going on in our heads 
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 7:27am
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Deb hope hes woken up in a better mood today. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 9:05am
I can just hear the violins, poor overworked men creatures... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 9:13am
| I'll have you know up until this week I WAS THE SOLE BREADWINNER in our house..... |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 11:22am
My DH puts gas in the bed ------------- |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 2:24pm
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He he he, Busymum!! TMI! Sorry BSDH... you probably won't get a heap of sympathy here. But we women need to have a whinge and vent about our DH's every now and then, love em as we do. And it's such a relief sometimes to hear that other people are going through some of the same stuff, that being overworked and unpaid is something most mother's share - it's nice to know you're not alone in it. So let us vent - it's one less thing out DH's have to listen to when they get home! And we usually 'get' that you men need to do the same - but you'll get better results if you whinge in a more testosteroney venue, I think! Is 'testosteroney' even a word?!? Ah well... ------------- Andie |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 3:28pm
thanks maria, he has. i got an apology last night and a moritz icecream and lollies. it must have been a record sulk tho - from sun arvo till thurs nite... |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 3:44pm
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LOL Andie but I've gotta agree. ------------- |
Posted By: BSDH
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 6:41pm
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I'm not whingeing I'm stirring.......
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 8:33pm
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Obviously well practised too BSDH ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |