Absolutely furious
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Topic: Absolutely furious
Posted By: Mikaela
Subject: Absolutely furious
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 1:35pm
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Ohhhh I am SO angry!!! I was just sitting at the lunch table with a few others from work, and one of the girls asked me how the baby is today, and I said he's fine and that there was a little knee sticking out earlier but I think he's asleep now.
And one of the guys there said, 'Would you stop that?' to us. And I looked at him in genuine puzzlement and said, 'Stop what?' And he said, 'Talking about that while I'm eating my lunch'. And I just looked at him in bafflement and asked if he found me talking about my unborn child offensive and he said, 'Well obviously'. And I said, 'How is it different from talking about any other child?' and he refused to answer me even though I asked a couple of times and just went back to eating his lunch. So I pretty much stormed off. 
F*cking wanker, how dare he try to suggest that my child is something he wouldn't want to hear discussed while eating! I'm so angry I'm actually close to tears! ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com"> 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 1:38pm
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What a dick. Very obvious that he doesn't have children!
Don't take it to heart tho... his prob, not yours. And sit with females next time - they get it 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 1:41pm
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What an absolute w*nker!!
You next time you end up with him sitting near you i'd be tempted to throw around a few terms like "episotomy" and "birth canal".  (yes I do know I have an evil streak) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 1:41pm
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what an insensitive prick! how dare he say that to you! reading that made me start fuming because it reminded me of my ex's best friend who made me feel absolutely awful for breastfeeding, saying it made him sick and that breasts are for guys to touch and to have a baby sucking on them was obsene(sp?) and disgusting.
some guys just have no clue and need to grow up! personally i think an unborn child is a wonderful mystery, certainly nothing that should offend anyone! ------------- |
Posted By: tashzmum
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 1:46pm
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omg thats shocking!!!i too would start throwing birthing terms around too....
how could he say something like that. what a prick. and the breast thing...i though the main reason why woman had breasts were to feed their children?!?!!??!!! males aye*shakes head* ------------- Natasha Jayde, 1-01-05(7lb3oz) Caroline Elisabeth, 9-04-08 (4lb15oz) Izabella Kate, 9-04-08(6lb7oz) Lexi Brenna, 23-01--2011(6lb6oz) |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 1:49pm
He freaking what?!?! Bet he's just bloody glad he didn't meet me. I'd have nailed him to the wall. I went absolutely ballistic at a guy who lived with a whole lot of my friends when I was giving Hannah some no-nappy time and he suggested I put a nappy back on her as it was making him feel uncomfortable. He may have been entitled to feeling uncomfortable, but I felt utter disgust that he was even considering my child's nakedness something to be uncomfortable about. Oops... sorry for threadjack. |
ellabellame wrote:Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 1:54pm
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That is disgusting! It amazes me how some people can be so wrapped up in their own little world!
I'm with Paws, next time you see him try and throw vaginas into the conversation! ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Mikaela
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 1:59pm
I thought I might mention something about pooing during delivery? Or tearing right around to your bottom? I'll wait until he has a mouthful as well ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com">
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 2:02pm
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Oh, like boys conversations are appropriate for lunchtimes! You have every right to be mad, I would so have given him the tough word over that stupid statement! -------------  
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Posted By: tashzmum
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 2:02pm
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hehe thats the spirit!!i cant believe what comes out of the mouths of some males!!! ------------- Natasha Jayde, 1-01-05(7lb3oz) Caroline Elisabeth, 9-04-08 (4lb15oz) Izabella Kate, 9-04-08(6lb7oz) Lexi Brenna, 23-01--2011(6lb6oz) |
Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 2:19pm
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that was kinda rude really.
but i guess some people are liek that and dont find the miracle of pregnancy etc very fascinating. lol at tlaking about tearing etc i bet he'd be really put off by his lunch then ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: bookwyrm
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 2:20pm
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I think you should piss him off even more with it. If he doesnt like it, he can move to the corner of the room. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 2:28pm
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Actually if this occured in the workplace - you are entitled to make a complaint. I would seriously speak to your manager or your HR manager about it. Its not good enough to just let someone get away with comments like that - even if the guys is a prick! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mikaela
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 2:41pm
He is a prick, but unless he does it again I'll let it lie. Also, I'm not sure how I would word a complaint about this. He said something I found offensive, but apparently it was caused by me saying something he found offensive. Wouldn't I just look like a hormonal pregnant twit if I made a complaint?  ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com">
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 2:55pm
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gez! i bet hes single with no plans for kids!!! if hes not single then his partner should run a mile!! cos what an arse!!!!! definately wait till hes eating something like a yoghurt!! maybe chocolate or strawberry flavoured and then mention all the graphic vagina details and poohing and bleeding!!! LMAO!!
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 3:01pm
He could have said it a bit nicer than he did.. but my DP is more squemish than a girl  and I can imagine him saying something like that.. although he'd make a joke out of it.------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: justme
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 3:15pm
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he sounds like a real loser Mikaela! What you said sounded quite normal - not sure how he could have found it off putting - maybe he shouldn't have been listening to "your conversation" - he obviously wasn't part of it - idiot!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 3:15pm
haha That's suprising considering the amount of conversations I have had with him about poos! hehehe |
Posted By: kabe
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 3:28pm
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What a creep!! I hope that some of the other woman in the room gave him an earful once you left. I'm sure they were as shocked as you. Not sure how he can interpret that as 'disgusting talk'. He's obviously led quite a sheltered life!! ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 3:47pm
What do you mean your rip and poo during labour?! 
I thought you went to sleep and out popped the baby, and you went straight back to your pre-preggy weight?! Your telling me that's not true?
Hehe, I have a friend that hates 'placenta', so I try to chuck that in just to wind her up every once in a while. I can understand how you felt so peed off - I would have socked him one (and then you just blame it on the hormones - gotta be good for something!) |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 4:24pm
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ooo I would have been livid and prob attacked him then blamed the outburst on his offensive comment and preggie hormones lol. Oooo next time hit with the vaginas, cracked boobs, haemorroids etc...hehe he wont know whats hit him ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: sunnyhoney
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 4:56pm
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He he he talk about the ring of fire!!
What a jerk. As if saying what you did could be considered "offensive". It only says more about him than it does about you Mikaela. ------------- Mum to: Joy Emily 1.05am 27/09/07 7lb 3oz Austin Paul 12.47pm 18/04/10 10lb 8oz |
Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 5:20pm
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yeah some people are really rude aye some girl at my work when she found ot that my partner left me becususe i was pregnant, she told me that i should get rid of it because my baby is unwanted. then later on when she saw me crying she goes up to me and says WAT I TOLD YOU THAT U COULDINT HANDDLE IT DID YOUR BABY DIE OR SOMETHING. i fould that to be very very rude ------------- 
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 6:47pm
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Oh Chonni - how did you not hit her?
You want to see preggy hormones? i would give her a close up with my fist! -------------
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Posted By: chonni
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 7:00pm
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hahah i wanted to sooo bad but i couldint shes sleeping with the boss lol. and evry weekend after she workd at her other job the strip club she would come bak to work and tell me that she saw my ex with other girls just to piss me off and tell me how pritty they are thank god i dont work that much anymre i dnt have to see her -------------
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 21 May 2007 at 7:20pm
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oh she sounds like a real treasure - good for you to be out of that environment! -------------
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Posted By: Lulu
Date Posted: 22 May 2007 at 11:20am
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Oh Mikaela, what a jerk! Still you have to feel sorry for him that he doesn't understand the joy and wonder of an unborn child! ------------- Lou http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: lil_miss
Date Posted: 22 May 2007 at 5:36pm
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 22 May 2007 at 6:18pm
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ugh guys like that annoy me mikaela, and i hate how if you talk about your labour experience some of them are like " okay okay " as if they cant bear to hear anymore, why? wimps...its not like they will ever have to go through with it.
I think some men cant differentiate (sp) between a baby growing in your tummy and a cute little baby wearing stretch and grows and sleeping, they still think the stork bought them. chonni your ex ( i hope ) work mate sounds like an idiot and similar to a girl i worked with, she asked me why did i keep caitlyn and i said id had a termination before and i wasnt doing that to this baby (and id already fallen in love with my baby but thats beside the point) and she goes "oh, ive already had FOUR abortions, id just have another one if i got pregnant again" ...not sure if she was telling the truth but STILL ! |
Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 22 May 2007 at 6:34pm
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Mikaela - That is diabolical (sp?) what he siad, i would have got up and threw my food at him!! Geez that made me so mad i wanted to cry!
Geeez i dont think iv eva met such a rude selfless prick! Sorry you had to hear that! ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Posted By: Phat_Cat
Date Posted: 22 May 2007 at 8:47pm
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Gosh we are a voilent lot arent we? as for the chick OMG 4 abortions maybe she should be a bit more careful......... and the other chicks just need to grow up!! ------------- Tristen - 24/06/07 Rylan - 11/12/08 Angel Babies -14/08/05 & 21/01/2010 Curtis - 26/02/12 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 22 May 2007 at 9:27pm
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LMAO Mikaela - wait till you go back after bubs is born to show him off to all your workmates and start telling your very loud birth story in the lunchroom. Revenge is sweet -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 22 May 2007 at 9:35pm
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I would have told him that he should come apologise to me once his GF or future wife gets pregnant...and that you will be looking forward to it...
he does sound like the typical male...I had one in my office on short staff over summer and pre xmas they joked that he might have to birth bubs if i went in to labour over the break while working...poor kid didnt come near me much and i puffed one day and my sec (aged 20!) ran - seriously she RAN!!!! Every one handles it differntly....just realise that and have something ready for next time! |