Why do people feel they....
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Topic: Why do people feel they....
Posted By: Travelgirl
Subject: Why do people feel they....
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 9:40am
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need to comment on the pregnant woman?
I am so sick and tired of people telling me I am "So small for 25 weeks, and your having twins". No kidding I'm having twins, I already knew that..... before everyone else!!!! I don't think I am that little, infact, I feel like a beached whale most days.... But nearly every person asks me if I am SURE its twins. Oh, why can't they just but out!!! 
OK, rant over, now I feel better. Anna |
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 9:45am
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Anna I hear ya! I am getting that at the moment....oh your not even hardly showing yet, gosh your small, blah, blah, blah! Its like hello, not everyone carries the same, just cause I am not huge.......yet, I've got four more months to grow huge!!!
I am definately showing, if they could put themselves in my body, they would notice that the belly has indeed grown to what it normally is! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 9:58am
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I guess cause they are the experts and know what they are talking about! I've been getting it too, "oh gosh you are alot smaller this time round aren't you?" I don't flippin know I can't remember that far back!! The other one I get is "oh you look very pregnant today!" So can't win. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 10:04am
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It's so annoying isn't it!!!
I got comments the whole way through that I wasn't really showing much. I was at the end though! My mother in law told me at 9 months that she thought I looked exactly the same as when I was first pregnant! RUDE!
It doesn't stop either, the minute I gave birth to my son, a horrible theatre nurse said to me 'Are you sure you had a gestational diabetes test?' Just because he was over 9lbs..
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Posted By: BellaBoo
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 10:11am
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I think I would like it if people said "you are not very big". I would think great! I dont look like a beached whale although I would probably feel like one. Cant say for certain however as I am only 10wks and just look I have eaten a few too many pies at the moment. ------------- http://lilypie.com">   http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: EllenMumof2
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 10:24am
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i so hear you im a size 18-20 and i carry my babys in the back and don't show much before 30 weeks it just looks like im puting on weight. -------------  
 
Kalem 6! |
Posted By: Travelgirl
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 10:30am
Yeah, I guess I should take it as a complement, but it gets a bit too much to bear when the same comment comes from every 2nd person. I don't think it helps that I am still in pre-preggy pants etc either, little do they know that I was so sick in the first few weeks that I lost over 10 kg. Don't get me wrong, I do look pregnant, but obviously ALL women that have twins are supposed to grow to the size of a 5 bedroom, 2 story house 
It just makes me mad, coz they tack on comments like, "are you sure they are growing enough" and, "oh, I hope they will be healthy" makes my blood boil, and really sets in the panic. As if I am not scared enough by the fact that not only do I have to give birth twice, but I'm going to come home with TWO babied that I have no idea how to look after!!!! I wonder if one day I will wake up, and just be gigantic, and then I'll get all the opposite comments. Can win really!!! Anna |
Posted By: ShellandBella
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 10:42am
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I know - very frustrating! In just ONE day I got these comments...
"you're hardly showing at all" "how far along are you?" AND (my all time favourite - NOT!) "are you sure theres only one in there?"
Honestly! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: justme
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 10:44am
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I'm so with you on this -people have said this to me - right throughout my pregnancy (Your hardly showing Or.. you're big!!) - it's the most annoying thing - (apart from strangers or people you don't know too well prodding or patting your belly) Last weekend we had couple of friends over for a roast - I don't know our friends lady that well - she was calling me "Fatty" & "big girl" throughout the meal - then prodded my tummy when they left & said "Bye Fatty"!! Also we had a large family get together recently & my own mum was overheard saying to distant relatives - oh she's carrying small & then giving the incorrect EDD to compensate!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 10:57am
I think a lot of people like to comment on a pregnant woman - and probably even more if she has twins - because it's exciting, but unfortunately they run out of things to say  . It's generally considered a compliment to tell a pregnant woman a) that you can see there's a bump and b) that she's not looking overly huge (or ugly  ) but the additional comments about "are you sure there's two, or that they're growing ok", man, that's really unthoughtful of them.
And I live in a "2 storey, 5 bedroom house" lol  -------------  |
Posted By: sunnyhoney
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 12:27pm
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Justme you should have looked at her up and down and poked her and said "oh wow, and how many are you carrying"?
------------- Mum to: Joy Emily 1.05am 27/09/07 7lb 3oz Austin Paul 12.47pm 18/04/10 10lb 8oz |
Posted By: bookwyrm
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 12:35pm
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I am not looking forward to these comments. I am a size 14-16 and 5"5. I carry alot of my weight around my belly and I dont think my bump is showing yet. I felt I already looked 5 months pregnant before I even was up the duff as such.
Should be interesting to see how big I am at 8-9 months. And whether I just look fat or whether I have a huge baby belly with extra padding. Tara ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: megrac
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 1:52pm
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i am a no sory was a size 12 and people ask me "when are you due again" and look shocked when i say september thay think i am due this month or next because my belly is a lot bigger than i was with my last two. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: megrac
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 1:54pm
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i am a no sory was a size 12 and people ask me "when are you due again" and look shocked when i say september thay think i am due this month or next because my belly is a lot bigger than i was with my last two. and thay say its going to be a big baby but the real reason is that i have no stomack mussles left or soft mussles as my midwife nicely put it. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 1:59pm
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I really enjoyed a reply Liz came up with as soon as someone commented on anything about pregnancy
"What baby? I've got a tumour" (or thereabouts) Really would prevent any further discussion. |
Posted By: justme
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 2:05pm
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That would have been a good one to say.. I wish I was quick to say something but I was more upset & shocked with her rude comments throughout thier visit - then couldn't believe her poking me & saying bye fatty! at the end.. Just one of those situations that I felt too shocked by her rudeness to say anything.. Instead I gave her a hug & said nice to see you, bye.. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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sunnyhoney wrote:Posted By: Travelgirl
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 2:10pm
| I have a very good friend and a FIL who both have taken to calling me fatty - in jest of course, and probably as an antedote to all the your too little, are you sure the babies are OK comments..... |
Posted By: bookwyrm
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 2:56pm
I love that!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 5:27pm
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I got these comments all the time!!!!! everyone would say "gosh i didnt even realise that you are pregnant! you hide it well!!" and then all of a sudden at 30something weeks they start with the "geez you really popped out!" and "oh it looks like your due now! your going to be huge when you really are due"!!!
I am definately getting very annoyed with everyone asking how long i have to go!!
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 6:56pm
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everyone seems to think there an expert when they see a pregnant woman i get it all the time at work
them: oh your pregnant how many weeks are you?? me: 27weeks them: (shocked looked) gosh you are small arnt you , is the baby growing ok?? are you keeping well?? it does make you paranoid, im 27wks and can still fit my normal clothes, but i was the same with my daughter so i know the babys fine :) ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 7:21pm
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I'd get different comments from different people! Most people said I was small, and then there were a few who said I was huge.. and I also got called "fatty" by one girl too, although I think she meant it in a nice way - not sure how you can take something like that to be good though.. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AuntieSarah
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 9:28pm
Well I know I've commented on friends/workmates bumps...I really hope I never offended anyone because I only mean to say that it's exciting that there's a baby growing in there! I would never call anyone fatty or anything like that though, or ask if they're growing ok...
Maybe I'll get annoyed at people who do that when I'm pregnant
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 04 June 2007 at 10:33pm
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I had a woman ask me in July when I was due and when I said October she said "oh dear, are you sure it's not twins?" Well, duh!
And I had half the world telling me how "small" I was for carrying twins, and the other half (including my midwife) telling me how huge I was and that the gremlins would "have to come soon coz there's no more room". Humph. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Travelgirl
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 4:42pm
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Well I'm glad I'm not the on;y one getting these comments, it just makes me so mad, I feel like telling people to buzz of, in not very nice ways.
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 11:08pm
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ugh i remember those comments, i didnt show till about 7 and a half months and i got so sick of being told "you cant even tell your pregnant"
But you know what? stuff them, every bump is different and unique, so whether your smaller or bigger than "normal" (what ever THAT is) you ladies (imo) all have beautiful bumps to be proud of :-) |