Help for Single mum to be
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Topic: Help for Single mum to be
Posted By: AngieBaby
Subject: Help for Single mum to be
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 7:39pm
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Hi Ladies (and any gentlemen)!
I hope you're all well. Hey, we have another lovely young mum to be in need of our help! This mum to be is in a difficult situation, just getting off her feet with a 3 year old and now 15 weeks pregnant. She has nothing, and no friends/family to help out. She has been donated a pram by the ladies from her local church, but I know we can do just as well! If you have clothing, moses baskets, bassinets, cots, blankets, toys, - baby stuff, in good condition that you're happy to donate to this lovely mum to be then please let me know! Email: angela@ohbaby.co.nz or just post what you have to: OHbaby! 15 Taupiko Place Greenbay Auckland It'd be great to be 'swamped' with stuff so whenever we get requests like this we can give to these needy mums. Feel free to write a note for them to ready and leave you're details if they're up to responding to your generosity! Thanks so much in advance for your generosity and support of kiwi mums in need! Big Hugs! Angela p.s. MY PM's are full so email best Thanks! 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 9:00pm
i have some baby onices and toys will sort thur on the weekend ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 8:56am
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maybe its just me but i would prefer a bit more information about these "needy mums".
there are so many organisations set up to help people in need and i personally think giving people the information to contact these organisations can be more helpful in the long run. i guess in this case too i find it hard to beleive that someone with a 3 yr old doesnt know anyone else but does know to contact oh baby? |
Posted By: AngieBaby
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 10:25am
Thanks for your opinion gandt. Probably is just you  No offense intended there.
I don't think it is any of our business the personal circumstances of these women. I don't think if I was in this position I'd like my personal life shared out to everyone especially OHbaby's 8500+members! These mums have been given information outside of OHbaby! on where to find help...but it doesn't hurt to stretch our arms out and show we care also...we have access to a network of mums who will no doubt be happy to give. Especially stuff that they're not going to ever use again. I know a lot of mums look out for new mums and mums-to-be to give their preloved gear to. I don't think it's our place to decide whether they are deserving or not, it's just better to give. I know this womans circumstance and don't find it hard to believe that she doesn't have a support network around her. It's always nice to do things for others to show we care! |
Posted By: bookwyrm
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 11:19am
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I would if I could but I am a first time myself in December. Sorry :(
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Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 11:23am
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Yeah i would love to help too but i myself am a first time single mum lol. Lucky enough to have family and friends that will help me at any time i need them though!
Feel bad for people with no family to help them Id be so lost without mine.  ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: AngieBaby
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 12:29pm
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Thanks ladies!
We're only asking for stuff no longer used and you'll need everything you get with first bub's! Thanks so much for the kind thoughts though! Best of luck to you both! |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 12:54pm
edited as decided i couldnt be bothered with conflict today, it is too nice outside. |
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 1:02pm
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I think this is a fantastic idea and agree that it shouldn't matter why these women find themselves in these situations, the fact is they have asked for help and that is a huge thing for some people
We have a couple of bags full of clothes and toys (mostly baby boy clothes ) that we were given and I would love to pass them on
Will email you Angela  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 1:23pm
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I think it's a nice idea! Unfortunately we don't have anything at the moment but hopefully you get lots of stuff to give!
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 2:51pm
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no you're not the only one who wants to know more info, Gant.. like where all the baby things from her previous baby are? Don't get me wrong, I help as many people as I can.. I donate to women's refuge, salvation army, etc etc..
Where abouts is she? I think we need to know this as I'm assuming we'd be paying postage? I have a bag of soft toys (all in good, clean condition) that I'm trying to give away.. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 2:52pm
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doh, just read that things need to be posted to Akld ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 06 June 2007 at 7:09pm
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Hi Angie I think some of the ladies have valid points - it is always good to know a little bit of background in these situations. For example (and I AM NOT in anyway saying that this is the case)...some people may have an issue or a concern donating to someone who has a gambling problem or something like that..... I dont think we should be 'hard' on those that would require some more info before choosing to donate to this lady. Every year we have a big clean out and boxes go off to Salvation Army and clothes go off to Womens Refuge, and would love to help - but do not have anything appropriate for this lady. I think its great that Oh Baby are able to co-ordinate some help, and I also hope that she is getting the help and appropriate financial assistance from all the relevant support agencies out there. Just my views - and in no way a judgement on this lady or anyone on OhBaby.
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 7:17am
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guys im reading between the lines here, BUT im assuming that if this lady has found herself without friends or family etc she might of had to leave a difficult situation.
Ive given all my baby gear away unfortunately, or sold it. Sorry. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 7:31am
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Abby's two now, and we have sold or given most of it away, (unfortunately I put a huge amount of her clothes in a clothing bin as I had no one to give them to) but I'm sure I have some stuff still around so I will hunt it out and will happily donate it.
I know how hard it can be, there are so many reasons and situations people can find themselves in I would love to help if I can. I can understand the privacy issue as it would then become a judging issue if we were to know all the details about these women. I think it's a really nice idea. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 8:35am
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Just my opinion but even if the mother does have a gambling problem or similar, Oh baby is asking for baby clothes, regardless of how the mother found herself in this situation I'm looking at helping the baby.
I think it takes a lot for someone to ask for help so the least I can do is afford her the privilege of anonymity ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 8:42am
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Please dont mis-understand my post (am wishing had kept mouth shut now)...I just think that its a personal choice - and some people feel that they need to know more information before offering assistance. Sometimes there are lots of people asking for help, and you have to be selective - we cant always help everyone. I am NOT saying that this lady does not deserve our help....just trying to back up GandT a little with her post. I didnt mean to open up a 'conflict' or negative discussion, and am sorry.
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Posted By: Parki
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 9:49am
| I agree with what you are saying SimSam.......... |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 10:44am
no, neither did it. i think its great if you want to help people angela and i really like the idea of your "Bundle of Love". However you are at an advantage where you obviously know something about this person and how they came to contact us (meaning oh baby). We dont have the benefit of the knowledge you have in regards to this and your initial post was very non specific and in my opinion slightly confusing and presumptious to think we would have cots, moses baskets etc to give and frankly rang warning bells in my head. i too am not averse to helping others and am always giving away the boys old stuff and filling up the hospice shop with the clothes that refuse to fit me anymore... so i dont think it was too much to ask for a first name and location for instance or a bit abut how this lady came to know about oh baby. I do apologise if my initial reply took this off on a tangent but i stand by my post. 
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SimSam wrote:Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 11:21am
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If I was in the position to help, I would in a heartbeat. Obviously the people who know this person's situation feel she deserves some help, and that's good enough for me.
Just like donating to the sallies etc, you are donating for the cause of helping others regardless of their situation (homeless, drunks, bad home situations) and if you donate there then you're probably not judging them. GandT, Angela said if anyone has these items to give away and they want to give them to this cause, then feel free. It's not obligatory on anyone's part if they don't want to give. I think its a worthy cause just because there is someone (Angela) who knows the full story and is prepared to help. Good enough for me. I hope you get inundated with stuff for this mum and her bubs. 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 12:02pm
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I have got a few things, some are of the bigger variety. I've got boxes of little girl clothes etc which I don't need now. BUT I'm not sending that stuff, would cost a fortune. So would need to make alternative arrangements and I'll have to get a wriggle on and sort stuff out. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 6:47pm
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Does she know if baby number 2 is a boy or girl? ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 7:36pm
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I think this is great. At the end of the day if you are not using it and willing to give it away rather then sell it yourself then is should not matter what her situation is. Plus I don't think Angela would ask for thing's without her knowing her cercumstances. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 10:50pm
| I understand where Deb is coming from and have to say we too have nothing to give at this point either...we frequently give to womens refuge who dont just handle domestic violence cases but are an outreach in the community too...I will continue to give in that way as i know how they work etc....I agree that i know nothing about this lady either and as such will make a personal decision to continue to give to refuge alone. |
Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 10 June 2007 at 8:27am
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I think that this is a great idea. I am quite saddened by some of the negativity being said about the situation. Here Angela is reaching out to the mothers who no longer need their baby stuff. She is trying to help a struggling mother, and future struggling mothers. To know that their is someone out there, complete strangers,that are willing to help out must mean so much to these women.
It is not our place to know of this woman's situation. We need to have faith in Angela's cause, we as Ohbaby members are an extension of her work and should show our support. This woman could have been relocated from another place, she could have sheltered in Womans refuge and so couldn't take many items with her, she could be in hiding from an abusive partner. What ever the circumstance we should not judge, it is not our place to. We should not be brown nosing in the business of others. If these woman feel strong enough, they will share their story in their own time. I will have a sort through my things and send some stuff up for this woman. Who we must commend for reaching out for help. That is itself is something I believe is worthy of our consideration. ------------- 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 10 June 2007 at 3:56pm
i,m with ooevaoo ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: carley1
Date Posted: 11 June 2007 at 4:13pm
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Okay I'm going to come at this topic from a different angle. As we all know the situation with this mum to be, I would like to point something out. This topic may be in the wrong forum, it should be in the general discussion, as this is a forum for Mums grieving the loss of a child, and in my case very recently, some of the Mum's here may not be at the stage where they feel they can part with their treasured baby items that they had for their lost ones. So maybe it could fbe shifted to the general forum? Just an idea and my opinion. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 11 June 2007 at 6:38pm
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Carley just letting you know that this thread is stickied in all the forums of the message boards :). It isn't being specified to a particular forum, I think its just out there so everyone no matter which forum they frequent are informed of the cause. Sorry for your loss. -------------
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Posted By: carley1
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 3:17pm
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Fair enough ooEvaoo, was just an idea and my opinion. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 8:13pm
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Hi Carley,
I'm working on a way to make this a forum announcement on all forums except this one, not sure if our technology will let me do it, but wish me luck! Emma -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 12 June 2007 at 9:58pm
a valid point tho. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: carley1
Date Posted: 13 June 2007 at 2:06pm
Thanks Emma, like I said it was just my opinion. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: o0o0ohemio0o0o
Date Posted: 17 June 2007 at 5:27pm
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hey guy i havnt been on for a while....but i am moving to morrow so wat ever i dont need for doesnt fit my n i will give to james to send!!!
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Posted By: photomaxmum
Date Posted: 04 July 2007 at 9:28pm
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< language=> i have a box of clothes to donate and maybe could even find some three year old stuff, shoes etc but unfortunately i am unable to afford this month to post out the items as we are talking an archive box worth of stuff and shipping will be expensive, is there a drop off point i could look at close to home (papatoetoe)? lisa ------------- http://www.sparklee.com"> 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 05 July 2007 at 12:08am
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photomaxmum you can bring them to my place if you want and next time i see emma (which is quite often lately) i can give them to her to pass to angela... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 05 July 2007 at 10:13am
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Sounds good to me ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Katherine
Date Posted: 08 July 2007 at 8:37pm
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Also, anyone in the Manukau/East/South Auckland area can drop items off to me -- I live near Botany. Just PM me if you'd like to arrange a drop-off time!
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 1:40pm
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well ive got HEAPS of baby clothes id be happy to part with, if its okay i'll arrange a time to drop them at yours katherine?
i hope the girl is doing okay, as well as baby things it sounds like she could do with a few friends .... |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 4:00pm
| Just dont get rid of too many of those clothes your Aunty Tracey gave you (Cailtynsmygirl) |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 6:13pm
| er yes mum (sorry guys ) |
Posted By: Katherine
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 8:47pm
| Hey Caitlinsmygirl, dropping things off to me is just fine -- PM me and I'll give you my address! :) |
Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 9:54pm
lol sorry that made me giggle ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 16 July 2007 at 10:59pm
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hehe ...well im sorry but really-she could have just told me when i got home!
sorry to thread jack
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 20 July 2007 at 9:42am
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he he he!! I'll make her a Tag Blankie (Taggie). Anyone know if the parcel has been sent to her yet? And do we know if she's expecting a boy or girl? ------------- Andie |
Posted By: Katherine
Date Posted: 13 August 2007 at 5:39pm
| Andie, I asked Angela today and apparently the mum in need's baby is a boy! :) |
Posted By: porcelina
Date Posted: 17 August 2007 at 4:54pm
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I have had the offer of baby clothes from someone who has something crazy like 14 boxes of clothes, we have plenty so have passed email and address details onto her so maybe she can pass stuff onto OhBaby! instead. -------------   
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