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Topic: Great news
Posted By: Carmel
Subject: Great news
Date Posted: 26 July 2005 at 3:36pm
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Yay I'm pregnant, almost 8 weeks along, I had the first meeting with my midwife this morning and every thing looks good.
I have been so nervous the past week or so because it is around this week last time that things started to go wrong but I'm certain things will be different this time. I'm so excited. 
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 26 July 2005 at 3:37pm
OH WOW!!! Congrats!!!! 
I am sure all will be well. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 26 July 2005 at 3:39pm
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Congrats! All the best! ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 26 July 2005 at 4:02pm
Congrats Carmel!!! All the best n hoping for a smooth pregnancy .------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 26 July 2005 at 8:26pm
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yay! congrats to you and your man! ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 27 July 2005 at 1:12am
| congratulaions!!! you'll have to add your name to the due date list! |
Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 27 July 2005 at 8:15am
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congratulations!!! I'm sure things will progress smoothly for you ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/"> 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 27 July 2005 at 1:04pm
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I am so happy for you! Congratulations! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 28 July 2005 at 12:34pm
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Yay! Congratulations! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: tabs
Date Posted: 28 July 2005 at 12:35pm
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Congratualtions to you here's to a healthy pregnancy. ------------- Mum to 4 lovely girls and 2 loved angels http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: bub
Date Posted: 28 July 2005 at 2:52pm
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yay congrats to you and your partner
Rachel & Brianna ------------- mother to Brianna, Amelia & Mathew. http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 July 2005 at 4:31pm
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Congrats! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Delaneyhoes
Date Posted: 29 July 2005 at 10:00pm
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wonderful news! Congratulations I hope all goes well with your pregnancy. ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: bonjovi6
Date Posted: 30 July 2005 at 9:02am
Congratulations  
8 weeks, That seems so long ago for me now but I still remember frecking out about the least little niggle, twinge etc. Everything will be just fine. Are you going to find out if its a boy or girl? ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 01 August 2005 at 12:43pm
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Congrats... I was i still am actually.. dam nervous every lil twinge or pain.. Good luck for a healthy pregnancy... ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Carmel
Date Posted: 03 August 2005 at 12:55pm
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Probably will find out if we are having a girl or boy as it makes it easier to buy for and also I hate secrets
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 03 August 2005 at 1:12pm
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I cant wait to find out the sex, hopefully baby will be happy to show us tomorrow, ive got 4 friends all due in the next 5weeks that wanted to know the sex, but the baby didnt want to show hem, they say its been so difficult to buy clothes most are either boy or girl, and you dont want your baby in green or yellow every day, ive brought alot of blue stuff, bad me but its stuff you can mix with pink, little overalls would look ok with ipink top under them, im just hopeful for a boy but my instints say girl, as long as its healthy il be ok, but im hoping for a boy... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: bonjovi6
Date Posted: 03 August 2005 at 2:09pm
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LOL, I wanted to find out with my last one as well but the little begger, crossed his legs then turned over so we didnt find out for sure, untill he was born. I had a feeling my last was going to be a boy and also had a feeling this one was a girl, both times I was right. So go with your feelings and not what other people say.
I also like to be prepared. Ive had everything we needed by the time I was 20 weeks pregnant. ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 03 August 2005 at 4:18pm
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our babies room is ready to roll to, i knew id have probs with my preg but not this early on but i had our babys room ready by 18weeks weve gone way over board but im ok with that, people walk in and ask if is the babys room or are we starting our own baby shop lol theirs toys evevry where rocking horses shoes bottles clothes gosh every thing you could imagine, Calebs got heaps of stuff to hes been spoilt, but wat an i say they told me i wouldnt have kids so when i had him i wasover the moon and he struggled so much to be here even after he was born.. yip i admit i go a little over the top... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 03 August 2005 at 4:33pm
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Good on you Judith...
I have bought nothing.....as my MIL thinks it is bad luck. My parents bought us a cot/mattress/linen...cloths. My friends wanna throw me a baby shower...I will wait and see what we get...every thing else I will buy before baby is born. Hubby has a huge family and they will give us loads of things. And this will be the first grandchild for both Families. I however feel like I am so un-organised.  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 03 August 2005 at 5:56pm
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lol, Roksana, our baby is due in about 3 and a half weeks and I am still not organised!!! Think you feel bad... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 03 August 2005 at 9:05pm
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Baby showers are great ive thrown a few but Caleb arrived to early for one and my ousin is throwing me one this time in 5weeks, its amazing how much stuff you get, i think even with number 2 your still not totally organised, I had nothing at all till caleb was 1mnthold and looking at coming home, sad but true he was so sick we organised a funeral for him, but when he was well enough to know hed be coming home i went nuts and so did my family and calebs gparents on his dads side, he is their only gchild and they still spoil him rotten, this one is number 13 gchild for my parents, and number 3 gchild for andrews parent, Calebs gparents hve asked if theyl b gparents to this one even though its not blood family, Andrew isnt C's bio dad. i think thats kinda cool ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 03 August 2005 at 11:12pm
| seriously Roksana I was exactly the same, although did fly to NZ to have Jake so couldn't take too much, but when i got to mum's I found that everything had been taken care of. Between the two sets of grandparents, and extras step-grandparents we had towels, clothes, pushchair, food, bottles, sterilisers, everything!! So I was kinda grateful in the end that I HADNT bought too much. And don't forget, the shops WILL be open after you have bubba. You can always run and get anything essential that you've forgotten. Also, most mums have a few things in the cupboard that was never used. I have baby oil! |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 9:58am
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yah I know...but still I feel like I am a bad mum......I am sure I will get over it! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 10:36am
| doesn't amtter what you do sometimes, you feel like a bad mum!! Am i eating enough of the right food, will that sip of wine cause fetal alcohol syndrome, am i walking too fast and jiggling the baby and will it's face be all mashed? guilty-mum syndrome! |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 10:44am
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To be quite honest Liz, I have been trying so hard to be good. I haven’t drank any think but water and juice from the day I thought I might be pregnant...I ate all the right foods and took care of my self.
But recently I have been going thru a rough patch with hubby and am always emotional...I feel that this is bad for the baby. On top of that I haven’t organized any thing and I feel even worse. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 11:21am
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I know how you feel - i'm going thro somthing similar with my husbands son - we just don't get on - he came to stay with us full time when his mother attempted to kill her self - i have tried to sort things out but i am always emotional and i wonder how the stress is affecting the baby. I also have something else to confess i gave up smoking when i found out i was preganant - but have started up again......i know this is doing damaged but i feel i have no control - it's driving me crazy. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 12:02pm
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Well, I haven't been able to give up my caffeine! I drink coffee and /or tea every day. Seriously I think that as long as we don't over do it - get totally wasted, smoke heaps every day etc. it should be fine! Our mums never had this much pressure about what not to do all the time and we are all normal (well you guys seem normal, I am a litle crazy LOL ) . I think moderation is the answer. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 12:02pm
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Janine...I know how you feel. I some times feel like I want to sit with a bottle of wine or half a doz of beer and just drink away all the crap that is going on....but I am worried about the baby.
And it is not really your job to fix up every thing around you. May be just let your hubby fix what ever is wrong with his Son. You have enough to deal with. And your priority is you and your baby. Hope it gets better for both of us soon! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 12:04pm
I stoped drinking coffee but started it up again soon after...I only drink one cup of coffee a day. I think I would jump out of the window if I didnt....... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 12:14pm
Not long to go Roksana!! I think you can't hurt baby with your emotions. Often when I am stressed or had a scary dream or something, baby moves around lots and it is like it's trying to comfort me or something
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 12:19pm
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I've tried to leave it up to him - i have practically withdrawn from any contact with his son - calvin works full time - i'm the one left to look after them most of the time - i told him right from the start i wouldn't be able to handle him - i have a 2 yr old and his daughter who is an angel to look after as well as this pregnancy - i feel the only way out is to leave the whole situation. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 12:25pm
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Same with my baby Ana...isnt that funny? As soon as I am upset or crying the baby starts moving, kicking. I dont know if it to comfort me or to say STOP IT!
Janine...I feel like leaving my hubby as well...atleast till the baby is born...but I love him too much!!! And I know (hope) that it will get better with time. Be strong Janine and just chat with us....I feel so much better when I blabber all my thought in here... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 1:56pm
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Thanks. I love my husband too - i don't want my marriage to end - he is a fantastic guy - a wonderful father to my baby girl - and i love him too death..........i know hes caught between a rock and a hard place - and he is trying to do whats best for his children...........but i'm not happy here - i don't feel it's my home - i don't want him to have to choose - which is why i told him i would leave - he dosn't want that - but we have him until at least the end of the year. I just don't know what to do any more. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 2:17pm
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Janine...we are going thru exactly the same thing...but in my case it is my MIL who is the problem. And I told him that I should leave....but he says that he loves me and does not wanna loose me...but at the same time it is difficult to live with him like this....I dont know what to do either..... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 3:19pm
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hmmmmmmmmm stuck between a rock and a hard place. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 3:22pm
seems like it .....  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 3:27pm
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How much impact does your husbands MIL have your relationship - anfd have you talked to him about it. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 3:46pm
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Are you ready for this?........
My BIN and FIN died one after the other, with in a year of each other (Not the natural way). So my Hubby who is the oldest found himself the man of the house. Tho his mum is a control freak and runs the family....my hubby thinks it’s his responsibility to look after them. When we got married, I told him that I cant live with my in-laws...he said he cant just leave his mum and brother alone like this....lets live here save and buy a house and move out. This was 3 years ago. Now we can afford to buy a house and we did....it is time to move out...instead of being happy about it his mum starts crying and telling him how lonely she will feel...why cant you wait till your brother gets married? oh I wanted the baby to be born here...blah blah....so then my husband becomes depressed with guilt and feels torn between her and Us (baby and I). But wait we have a house what do we do? No solutions...we are moving this weekend..he is being difficult and totally detached from me and his mum...I feel unwanted and feel like S&%$......he says he will get over it once we move...really? I don’t know? I don’t want to leave him...but I am starting to really strongly thinking about it. We have been fighting every day for last 3 weeks. I've positive and thinking that it will all be okay soon....but now I am running out of patience....May be I am at fault but sure as hell does not feel like it! 
Sorry for all the crap......I dont know who to talk to... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 3:56pm
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I think in some ways our hubby's are similar. Peter's mum is ALWAYS putting on guilt trips. She always cries and tells him to come home (back to Germany) and rings twice a week to put him through it. Just when he is starting to feel more settled here... I know he feels really torn and it is hard.
I have told him though if he really wants to he should just go back, but that I can't go with him (due to pregnancy) and that he has to remember that I am his wife and we made this decision together. They also seem to forget that I exist and am here with Peter too. That makes me mad. All this crying and we miss you, blah blah and they didn't even send him a birthday card when it was his birthday!!! I think that once the baby is here he will realise that he is a dad himself now and not "only a son" and that he has to think about himself and his little family first rather than how his mum is feeling all the time. Maybe he will finally let himself go and feel free to do what he wants and what is right for him/us. Maybe that will knock some reality into your hubby too? I know it sounds really harsh what I have written and I do like his parents, they are really kind and loving but I feel they have unrealistic expectations on Peter and always think of themselves first. Phew, now I have written a novel... I hope it's not to me oriented but that you realise what I am trying to say (I am not sure if I really know..., lol) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 3:58pm
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Thats what we are here for - First of all you are not at fault at all!!!!! It's been three years it's time for him to move on with his life with you and your baby.............she needs to understand that he cannot be there for her all the time - and that by moving out it dosn't mean he want be there for her. But it's time to focus on you and baby to come. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 3:58pm
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Your hubby is probably being detached because he is really torn and doesn't want to "hurt" either of you. I am sure it will be different once you are in the house and it is just you two. Much more relaxed and you can have some privacy and your OWN space. That is so important. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 3:59pm
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We lived at my mums for the first 3 months that we were in NZ and it was really tough on us, we fought all the time. Once we had our own place it was fine!! Strange huh? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 4:03pm
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yah but he is being such an a$$....
Its like he is a different person....I dont know know who he is.. We decided that we will move out and see how he is...if he is better then good...or else we'll have to think of what to do. One min he is all sorry that he is hurting me...the next min he is horrible....
Thanks guys....I do appreciate your support. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 4:12pm
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Just wanted to say Janine that I feel you when it comes to stepkids. I have 3, and have had probs with 2 of them. My youngest SD lived with us full time and was 10 when Maya was born. We have always had problems, she doesn't listen to me at all and is very disrespectful and DP didn't back me up when I needed it. Got so bad at one point that she kicked me in the stomach when I was 8 mth preg and said "I hope that stupid baby dies". I put her out of the house then because I was so angry and so upset, and she stayed with her aunty till Maya was born. Things got worse after that and DP and I split up when Maya was only 3 mths old. I continued to have access visits with my SD coz I felt it was important for the girls to know each other. Long story short, two years on and she is still trying to split DP and I up (we got back together a few months ago). I know he is definitely in the middle of a rock and a hard place - she tells him all sorts of crap and he wants to believe her because she is his child, but I end up getting hurt. She accuses me of starving er, hitting her, ignoring her... the list goes on. Now she has moved down the line with her cousins, and I hate to admit it but life has actually been peaceful since she left. DP and I hardly ever argue anymore, and our house is much more settled.
Whew, what a novel! But I just wanted to let you know that I understand how difficult stepkids can be, and you are doing so well to take on the responsibility! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 4:15pm
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Sorry Ana...I missed your other post from previous page...it seems like these MIL are so good at putting the guilt trip on their son's.....I am glad I am having a daughter...and Hope I die before I become that kind of MIL. As I said, she likes to control every body around her and she will keep bugging him with the same thing over and over till he cant take it ....and then he comes and takes it out on me.....I JUST WANNA SCREAM SOME TIMES......
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 7:13pm
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Oh god it's so nice to hear from someone who knows where i'm coming from - i've spoken to only a few people but they don't have stepchildren and really don't understand. My Stepson is driving a wedge between calvin and i, i've told him so many times how i feel, but he can only do so much - the B***H of a mother isn't well enough to take him back just yet. I've threatend to withdraw all my help but that would mean we would have to split and he would then have to go onto DPB to look after them full time. I'm at a total loss as to what to do next - i don't think i can last much longer. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 04 August 2005 at 11:43pm
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oh Roksana hang in there, most guys can't say no to their mums.. is he an only child? that makes them worse.. believe me.. i know, mike's one. sometimes i still feel like my MIL doesn't approve.. i spose at least she isn't in our face.. she stays right away instead ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 12:18am
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Janine (of the kbushnz variety)
I'll let you in on my story, the stepkid side of it. My parents split when I was 14, and got together with my best friends parents. (Yeah, both ways... strange but true) anywayyyy... I was quite happy at the time while the rest of my siblings were feeling angry and abandoned. I believed that it was the best thing for my Mum and Dad. Unfortunately, it hit me much later. I had some major problems with my Mum's husband at around 17. I hated him so much and believed he was being really mean to me. The only positive thing about the experience is that I was old enough that eventually I realised what my behavious was all about and as soon as I figured out where all my anger and hatred was coming from I was able to deal with it. At the time I felt really abandoned by my Mum and felt that she was taking his side all the time and working against me. Mark continued to make an effort to be neutral despite my teenage hostility and eventually it paid off, though it took a couple of years. Now I appreciate everything that he does for my Mum and think that sometimes she could go a little easier on him Big turn around!
While your stepson is a little younger, do realise that it is more than likely a reaction to his parents breaking up, a really natural reaction. He will grow out of it. You just have to persevere. Do what you can to get through it and in time, (we would be talking quite a few years here) you will become friends. I hope you can stick it out
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 8:56am
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No Janine… Atish is not the only child or the only son...Atish has a younger brother who is 23 years old and will be living with his mum when we leave (We all live together now).
As I said my MIL is a control freak and the fact that she is loosing control of her son is driving her up the wall.......I know she does not approve of me because I come from a different back ground and religion. Hubby was much calmer yesterday…..he kept telling me how important I am for him and how much he loves me, but this whole thing is hard on him. All I could do is tell him that I understand and that I am here for him…..and that I love him. I am sure we will work things out once we move out…here’s hoping! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 10:11am
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Thanks for that Nikkiwhyte, Calvin and I have been together for nine years – his son was 3 and his daughter 2 years of age when we got together – do you think it’s taken this long to act out????? He is close to becoming a teenager. I’ve been thinking maybe it’s me who is the problem – I have such a deep hatred for his mother especially since she committed suicide. For nine years she has invaded our lives and this doesn’t include dealing with the kids – every time she made a change in her life we had to adjust our lives – this include her second marriage breaking up, new boyfriends, starting part time work you name it……….she has even asked my husband if there was any chance of them getting back together a few times during our relationship. Just before her melt down I had had enough of being constantly used by her, I told her no more I was done – a friend of hers who was also being constantly used said “about time it took you long enough’, we set up some boundaries and thought that may been the end of it – then she attempted suicide (not because of this - her then current boyfriend left her, he felt he was being smothered by her) and then kids came to stay with us full time. I know I’m transferring some of the feelings I have for her onto her son – he looks like her and his behaviour is very similar. When we had our meeting a month or so a ago to set up some new boundaries and discuss her taking him for a few nights during the week to help me – she made mention that most of her home schooling friends have also commented on how difficult it was to look after the boy. I know none of this is his fault and I know that its not fair that I should take how I feel about her out on him – but he drives me crazy and I’m sure the stress is affecting this baby. Sorry for the novel. Thanks for all your comments. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 10:20am
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Things will get better Roksana, i know things between calvins son and i were alot better when he was only coming over 50% of the time - we had a pretty good relationship until all this happended. The move will give you the time you need to improve your relationship and hes still in contact with his mother. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 10:52am
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Thanks Janine.....I sure hope so.
I hope things get better for you too...Dont they have grandparents who can take him for a few days of the week? or some one else like Aunt or uncles?... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 11:13am
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Calvins parents live in waitara and her parents live in pauanui - they were there (pauanui) for the school holidays - but they can only handle them for a few days then it all gets too much. We can't afford to send to waitara and both my parents do as much as they can but they both work long hours. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 11:16am
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OMG reading everybodys post over the last day or so has made me feel so normal, i thought I was the only oerson going throgh all the MAN probs, we have been fighting everyday for the last week or so, and i end up sitting bak asking myself if ive turned into the biggest B#$%H being preg but im so sure i havnt, We fight over the most stupid things, Adrew has 2 previous daughters, 2 diff mothers, 1 we hardly see as the mothers a freak, dosnt want her daughtre in our house around me, around my son or around andrews other daughter, but not many stresses with her, Andrews other daughter lives around the corner, literally abiut 15 houses awaay, I have a good relationship with thae daughter and mother now, was horrible when me and Andrew 1st got together, then she got her own man and it was fine, she didnt want andrew anymore, we have his daughter (4) on a regular basis, shes good but totally opp from cleb shes loud noisey abd hasnt go manners, im deaking as she is alays vey=rl loving to me and Caleb, but the mother has just been dumped by the new man and is now beoming very needy on andrew again, rings all the time, if she needs a anything, a jump start, somebody to look at her car heaps of wat I think a deliberate excuses for andrew to go there she uses them and is very possesive of him now, Maybe its just me going a lil green or is it hormones i dnt know but its driving me carsy and i seem to dislike his daughter more now since i cnt stand the mum any more... thought I was going crazy... its nice to know that people are in the same boat... sorry for the novel guys..
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 11:37am
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Yay....we should form a club....LOL
Judith....you have enough going on with you and the baby to have this added pressure from the other woman....put you foot down and tell your MAN to stop fussing over her. Janine..Thats a shame...It would have been good if some one could share him with you guys. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 11:48am
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ive put my foot down the stupid B%$^H rung at 8.30am this morning while we were still in bed, as she knows its andrews day off!!!!! and sked for f^&ken jumpa leads, so Andrew get s out of bed and heads straight there, i told him that she has enough friends to helpher out and a dad, if he runs when she jumps im out.. had enough, hes sais he scared that if he dosnt shell take his daughter away from him, shes that patheti, i said oh well if she does that well go to ourt for access, he apoplogised and made me pancakes for breaskfast.. boys are great greasers lol but that women is making me ropeable..... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 11:58am
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I know exactly what you mean - thats the sort of trouble we had with calvins ex for 9 years - thats why i'm thinking of getting out - i can't see an end to it all and i'm going crazy - i have headaches all the time i'm stressed all the time - even calvin and i are out of sorts - he tells me hes thinking of me and he loves me - but all i hear are words - nothing has changed and i feel nothing will - it always been me to make the necessary sacrifices to keep the harmony. i've had it - i feel like i'm losing it. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 12:03pm
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I so totally no where you are, i feel excactly the same way, Sometimes just walking away would just seem so much easier... Yeah when theres a problem i seem to be the one going out of the way to make it better just beacause itl make my life easier, like shel ask us to babysit on sa day when andrew works, known full well he cant and when he say he cant she guilt trips him so he asks me, and even if im busy i feel so bad i say yes and she knows that i cant be bothered fighting with andrew, cause if i say no he thinks im being a b&^%h...
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 12:21pm
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Honestly I feel like it will not get better and who knows may be it wont...but I am going to stick it out and try. I dont wanna give up...that means MIL won.
But I do agree there is a limit to how much one person can take and when he reaches my limit...I will walk out. I sure hope that none of us has too. Judith, I know all about guilt trip...my MIL is a pro in using that technique. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 12:30pm
Oh its so great to get it of my chest, most of my friends are single and dont understand, tey think im being stupid and caty, my few friends with men seemingly are happy, but people only know wat you tell them , some people think me and andrew are the perfect couple, happy and always get on, bu then again thats what i want them to think, my mums great to moan to, shes been where most of us are but prob worse, i have an older half sis to my mum and 2 older half sis and a brother to my dad and a twin, my dads x was a mental case, and his kids are equally as mental, have screwd my whole family over on more than a few times...atually looking at what my dads x and his daughters have done to our familt makes me thnk my probs are tiny, my mum is superstrong though... sorry about my spelling but its hard to see the keys from lying down and im not a great typer ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 05 August 2005 at 1:02pm
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Don't worry they reckon spellings not that important anyway. Man I thought Troy and I had problems, but nothing compared to you guys. Sounds like some of you have to put up with real cows. You forget how catty women can be. We are lucky that micheals natural father has nothing to do with him, if he did I don't think troy could handle it, I doubt we would have lasted. it makes you wonder what mum is saying to these kids that are being difficult, possibly encouraging it. All I can say is good luck to all of you and I hope everything works out OK. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 06 August 2005 at 11:38am
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i think the other dads are easier to deal with in a way, Calebs bio dad dosnt care about anything we see him once in a blue moon, his mum dad and sisters and him all came to stay here with us for the weekend and evevrybody got on fine.. calebs bio dad didnt really say boo, not even when caleb came running in and was yelling daddy daddy and went straight to andrew, he looked more ashamed than anything, he pi$$e$ me off for not being there at all for Caleb and he knows it but iv ehad my days off stresssing over it and trying to convince him hes as a dad, i ve given up just like he did when Caleb was born, Caleb will be the one to tell him his a jerk when hes old enough to understand.. males sre a funny breed ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 06 August 2005 at 2:40pm
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Geepers... Some females are nuts!!!
I hope the kids are alright. Might be a reason that some of them are so hard to deal with? though that shouldn't be used as an excuse for impossible behaviour. Glad I don't have these issues, I wouldn't know what to do!!! |