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Topic: 2 Questions
Posted By: aimeejoy
Subject: 2 Questions
Date Posted: 09 August 2005 at 4:14pm
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Ok, they seem a little silly but have been wondering:
1 What did you wear during labour? I know its a messy business and anything below the hips is going to get in the way at the crucial bit, but what about before that? 
2 How long did you have off work before bubs was due and what did you do? I am only working 4 days now which is great, and finish in 4.5 weeks cos my job is quite physical and is getting very tiring and awkward (i'm a physio). Will have 6 weeks before due date and i'm worried that i'll get bored and annoy my hubby who works from home! 
Thanks ladies  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 09 August 2005 at 4:21pm
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ok ummmm With Xander I wore one of the ever so sexy gowns With Xander i started my leave on 1 April 04 (he was due 4th june 04) so 2 mnths before he was born approx. I never returned to work after him lol. ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com"> 
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 09 August 2005 at 5:06pm
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Aimee I applied to finish a week before my due date...he he ha ha (I am an Accountant and am sitting on my behind the whole day long) LOL
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 09 August 2005 at 5:11pm
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For my first I wore a night shirt, my second I had no time hwen I got to the hospital so was in my t-shirt, the third was C-section so she doesn't count.
I finished work two months before I had my first son and never went back. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: lou
Date Posted: 09 August 2005 at 5:41pm
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I wasn't working, but had plenty of projects to keep me busy I think I started wearing a t-shirt, but ended up in just my bra? can't really remember, by that point what you are wearing doesn't really matter ------------- Mother to two beautiful children - Sophie age 6 and Ephraim age 4 |
Posted By: bub
Date Posted: 09 August 2005 at 8:53pm
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i think i just started off wearing t-shirt and pants and then when i got to the hospital i put one of those sexy gowns on.
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 09 August 2005 at 9:15pm
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lol both times i had been in the bath as long as i could before going to hospital - so was starkers, but only hubby was around anyway. first time ended up having hubby and my midwife drag me out of the bath and dress me so i could go to the hospital - but ended up wearing one of their gowns. second time, i managed to somehow dress myself, but still ended up changing into one their gowns again.
with paris i was studying up till 6 weeks before i had her, and worked weekends till then too. with Ayja i wasn't working anymore, but still studied up till 2 weeks before i had her, she was 2 weeks early. hhhmmm what did i do? i visited people heaps, sorted the baby's rooms, washed the clothes, slept (ALOT!!!), got stuff sorted like thank-you cards and birth announcements so all i had to do was fill in the gaps once baby was here. packed and re-packed the hospital bag, and read up heaps about birth, labour, breathing and active births. made sure i planned at least 1 or 2 days a week that i was out of the house, like visiting, meeting friends for lunch or coffee, shopping, even things like getting a haircut too. i also wrote a list of all the things that needed to be done or bought before baby, and tried to get one done each day etc. gives you a bit of purpose and makes sure that everything is ready as it can be for baby's arrival. (my gosh i sound like a nutter!) ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 10 August 2005 at 12:58am
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hi. I wore a gown. what's the point in getting blood and crap over your own clothes?????
I am a english teacher. i stopped work about two months before Jake was due, so about 10 weeks before he was born. I had to fly back to NZ so that had a lotto do with it. I have to travel about an hour each way to work, so thsat would've put strain on me working later. I also gave up all my kids classes from six months....any excuse huh!! |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 10 August 2005 at 7:59am
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i wore a hospital gown.
I stopped about 6 weeks before she was born. I was a dental assistant and either standing or leaning over people all day. very uncomfortable. I used my spare time fairly well. Taking the dog for walks. sunbathing, swimming. Catching up with friends for lunch. Visiting and helping a good friend that had just had a baby. Reading books. I was kinda bored. But now i just look back and go ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Mmmmmmmmmm 6 weeks of rest. Id also been working since i was 13 and never had a holiday longer than 3 weeks so felt i deserved it before having a baby. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 10 August 2005 at 8:09am
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I also ended up wearing one of those gowns - with briana i stopped working 6 weeks before she was born - i was working for WINZ and it was quite stressful and i hated the job so i left as soon as i can. I do cross stitch and did this as much as i could - i was even doing it when i went into labour. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/"> 
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Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 10 August 2005 at 9:41am
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Hey there, Im not sure what I am going to be wearing.. might try to just wear one of there gowns to save me washing
I finished work with 6 weeks to go.. but then they changed my date so its 8 weeks. I am a Chef so standing on my feet wasnt good. Im still deciding weither Im going to be going back or not. But in saying that.. If I could have stayed for another couple- 3 weeks I would of.. Im really bored now lol |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 10 August 2005 at 11:45am
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I think I will wear one of the gowns too, why get my stuff yucky!
I haven't been working at all during this pregnancy (due to lots of factors outside of my control...) I have done a bit of temping but nothing full on. I have LOVED it!! I think it has helped me have a really smooth, lovely pregnancy and I have really enjoyed the whole process. I just looked after myself and had fun playing house wife, lol, having tea ready when Peter comes home etc. But I also read lots, sleep LOTS (especially now), go aquajogging, for nice walks, out for coffees with new internet friends, lots of washing for baby, getting stuff ready, writing leters.... I do miss teaching though! (I am a primary school teacher) and I do want to go back to work sometime next year, just unsure what exactly to do... We'll see. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 10 August 2005 at 12:06pm
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I wish I could be a stay at home mum for a while...but just cant! We just bought a house and it will be hard on one salary...
And I am not the type to sit at home for a long period of time. But I would have love to stary at home with the baby for at least 6 months....oh well what can you do? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 10 August 2005 at 12:11pm
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At this stage Im staying hom 6 months after he is born... but who knows. I may want to go back earlier.. or I may not want to go back at all.. Im just going to take each day as it comes
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 10 August 2005 at 2:07pm
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I went back to work for approx 8 months just before Briana turned 1, since november i've been a stay at home mum, when this baby born i will stay at home until briana goes to school. well that's the plan at this stage heheh. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 10 August 2005 at 7:48pm
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I finished work at 30 weeks, was supposed to work till 36 weeks but I got Symphisis Pubis Dysfunction which meant I couldn't sit for long periods and work couldn't accomodate my needs. I didn't mind tho, I finished Xmas Eve so Xmas and New Years went pretty fast. I pretty much just rested at home and watched bad TV, the afternoon cartoons, (I was sick all thru my pregnancy) and nested washing baby clothes, painting furniture etc.
At 36 weeks I went up to Whangarei and spent a week with my grandparents. That was great, really relaxing, the last time out I really had before Maya was born, and it was nice to spend some of the last days of my pregnancy with my grandmother talking about when she had her babies, and her thoughts on becoming a grandmother (I was her first grandchild) and a great-grandmother (Maya is her first great-grandchild). It's one of the most special times of my life. Oh and I wore a gown when I had her. I laboured at home for 2 days and had lots of baths, just changed into clean pjs after every bath, and eventually wore my PJ's to the hospital, but I had to take the pants off (for obvious reasons  ) so I just wore a gown over my t-shirt. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 10 August 2005 at 9:34pm
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I finished work a week and a half before Hannah's due date (although that meant it was just over 3 weeks before I had her) though I was only working part-time as a librarian and doing some stuff for Mum at her office. Was hard work shelving books and having to stand on my feet in the last couple of weeks so I dragged a chair around with me to sit down whenever I could! I probably could have worked longer but I had school work to get onto! Was studying up until 2 days before I had her... frantically trying to write my journal (100% assessment - completing it at 9 days overdue hahaha) and an essay. My back was killing me having to sit at the computer for hours to do it. I almost went insane.
I wore one of the spunky hopital gowns, emblazoned with "Hospital Property". I'm not sure that meant the gown or me
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 10 August 2005 at 9:35pm
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i finished off 2 papers starting when Paris was 3 weeks old, but it was only a couple of hours a week and mum looked after her, i then took 6 months off, Paris was 11 mths when i went back to study, part time.
now, this time, my little Ayja starts daycare on Monday. I took her for a visit today, and they just didn't get it at all. she's a pretty hand-off baby, likes to play under playgym not be held and such. she is quiet and goes to sleep by herself for the most part. i put her to bed there, and went to get somet hing to eat in the parent room thing, and came back after eating to one of them getting her up - "oh she was just lying there quietly smiling" she said. I could have screamed at her! "that's what she does, you silly lady,. she lies there quietly till she goes to sleep. why on earth would you get her up. all that will do is overstimulate her and upset her and you'll have a crying screaming mess on your hands that won't go back to sleep!!!!!" argh argh argh! I have another visit there on friday - may go for longer and stay in the sleep room with her and make sure everyone actually knows that she DOES NOT get up, if she is happy then leave her. come i know all too well what happens when you keep her up cos you think shes not tired.. and they certainly don't have the right "equipment" to calm her back down again. sorry, am venting, am pretty uptight about leaving her now. only brought it home to me today visiting the daycare. it sucks. this sucks.  ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 11 August 2005 at 12:31pm
Oh Janine, it must be soooo hard.  Stupid people... I hope they get the masseage, they should be bloomin' happy to have such a good girl coming! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 11 August 2005 at 2:53pm
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Don't stress too much Janine - Maya was the same and the teachers would get her up when she was lying quietly kicking herself to sleep. After a few days of rotten baby Maya they soon got the message and left her alone!
I took 3 papers thru the Open Polytech to make up credits in the semester Maya was born, because I had such a long labour I actually spent several hours working on a psychology assessment in between contractions! After I had her I worked on stuff while she slept, and I only had to get one extension that semester which was because I had 9 days in hospital with mastitis when she was 3 weeks old. Kinda hard to do assignments in hospital! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 11 August 2005 at 4:54pm
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lol just lsightly. got my timetable today and because i already took 2 of my 3rd year papers i have a whole day free each week and at least 1 or 2 mornings or afternoons too so feel alittle better. but placements will be hard.. 12 hr shifts.. i guess she'll have to be used to the bottle by then. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 11 August 2005 at 5:28pm
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Janine and Nikki - you guys both amaze me being able to finish uni while raising babies!! I have done one semester since having Quinn and I found it to be madness!! I think my big prob was not putting him into daycare so trying to work around that but still!!
I finished uni two weeks before having Quinn... I spent most of my time sleeping! And Aimee!! The question as to what to wear while in labour is not silly!! It was one of my main worries!! Being a prude I was really concerned about being starkers in front of people... lots of people told me that while in labour you don't care but I DID!! I had a water birth... I got into the pool wearing a nightie! Not especially comfortable but very respectable, although I did have to change after I got out! ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 8:12am
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lol Anna, when i had Paris i actually packed a bathing suit to wear in the spa bath up there! looking back now it makes me laugh so much! didn't even get in the water!
As for study, yep, it is nothing short of madness at our house every morning, and i'm not even back at ucol yet... next week will be insanity, but i guess that's what gets you out the door each day. a little stress in life keeps you on your toes.   ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 9:31am
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Thanks everyone. Have had a pretty rough week at work and am thinking about finshing up a bit earlier, sont think I can handle another 4 weeks. Getting really tired and a bit grumpy - makes it hard when you have to be so professional with patients and pretend everything is great Am having a "sick" day today though and another annual leave day next monday so that makes me feel better. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 9:59am
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I am having a sick day today to....LOL! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 10:02am
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Real sick day Roksana? or a "sick" day like mine?! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 10:05am
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We must be getting to that stage where we just cant be bothered pretending anymore! When I rang my boss this morning she was really good about it. Another colleague due the same day is hardly at work anymore so my boss thinks I'm doing quite well!! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 2:13pm
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 13 August 2005 at 3:16pm
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I don't know how I would cope if I didn't have Hannah in day care!!! As it is I'd like to have her in a bit more, changing her routine every day is starting to drive me nuts. would be easier if she was somewhere constant, whether than is daycare or home.
I almost considered dropping out of a paper the other day. I'm not coping with the workload very well this semester after missing the first two weeks. But I'm already halfway so I guess I'll just have to cope.
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 13 August 2005 at 4:52pm
| Niki, a little different as I was pregnant and didn't have Jake, but have you looked at going through Massey and doing it extramurally? I did some of my papers like that when I was at uni so I could work. I'm doing my teaching diploma probably next year and will do it extramurally. Helps that i have free day care....thank you Nana!! |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 13 August 2005 at 8:37pm
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yeah i'm so happy now that i DID actually do part time till now cos i got a few papers out of the way that all the rest of my current class have scheduled.. means i have days free, and that makes me feel soo much better. will still be hard but gives me a bit of time with my girls and a bit of time to study too. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 13 August 2005 at 8:50pm
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That sounds like a good idea Nikki. You don't need to be a superwoman! Just take it all in your stride, you will get there in the end and be able to enjoy it muxch more if you aren't so stressed out I am sure! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 14 August 2005 at 10:05am
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I was working in Te Awamutu at a daycare when I was preg with Caleb, had a couple of weeks of to organise moving back to Palmy, was sick to death of Calebs dad, was very stressful with him, and had just moved my stuff back and organised to start workibg here when I went in2 labour at 26wks i havnt worked again since then, Caleb was very sick for the first 2 yrs so I stayed at home with him, then decided to study so started him in daycare twice a week and over 3mnths gradually increased his hours to full time when my studying started, Finished those papers had a bit of time off, Caleb is still in full time daycare now, which is fantastic, as hes in a routine to start school next year but since imon strict bed rest Caleb is staying withmy parents, and only stays with us on my partners days off.. I have been doing small business management for 6weeks now and im doing it exrtramurally, thank god since im stuck to the couch.. but I plan to stay at home till this one is 2 before i venture back into the work force ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 14 August 2005 at 10:12am
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I wish I could be a stay at home mum for a while...but just cant! We just bought a house and it will be hard on one salary...
And I am not the type to sit at home for a long period of time. But I would have love to stary at home with the baby for at least 6 months....oh well what can you do? Why dont youlook into family ass from IRD for a while to help with costs, and you may also be intitled to a payout when bubs is bornor a weekly amount for up to twelve weeks, but if your job isnt staying open family assistance is helpful, we are doing that and it tops us up after andrews pay about $260 per week, we get $100 towards our accomdation costs costs and then so much per child, worth looking into, you can see if you eligable on l line or over the ph... its done together with WINZ and IRD, its a life saver, we didnt know about it till a few months ago... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 9:41am
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Hey Aimee I am at work today..but I had a "sick day" like yours on Friday. He he ha ha
My boss is quite good...when he asked me I said "oh did not feel like getting out of bed"..... I might look into it the whole WINZ and IRD payout thing...I wish I knew about it sooner tho..because I am the only Accountant in my company, my bosses are freaking out about me being gone for more than 3 months. On top of that they asked if I could do some work from home on my 3 months off.....I said Ok...as long as you pay me and I will only do what I can. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 10:02am
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You should definalty be intitled to a payout, its the lovely things your intitled to but nobody ever tells you, if you going back to work I think they stretch the payout into weekly payments till you go back to work or i think its a $1800 payout, dnt quote me on it but I know you are intitled to something.. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 10:05am
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I know they will pay me $289 per week for 13 weeks but I dont what I am entitled to after that..... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 10:17am
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If you dont want to go back to work they look at your income before baby and your partners and then workout what youd be intitled to, then you can go through WINZ, we get $100 towards our accomodation costs, but our rent $350.. and we get $50 for caleb due to disability..Theers other things WINZ helps with but you have to ask, they are useless at telling you ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 10:31am
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yeah they r.i only just found i was eligible for accom supplement!! and food gratns too. ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 10:37am
Food Grants??? Is that with WINZ.. they are the worst at telling you what you can get ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 10:41am
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Gosh that would be good huh? I mean its about time we gets some thing back from the govt....... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 11:25am
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Well I am pretty much an expert on all things WINZ, comes from years of experience with useless case managers and having to find everything out for myself
If you are on a low income you are entitled to an accomodation supplement to top up your rent or mortgage. It's worked out based on income and where you live. The rate is highest if you live in Auckland, slightly lower for Wellington and other main centres and lower again for rural areas.I get $120 a week and my rent is $320. Food grants are available to those on a benefit and/or low income who are recieving assistance from WINZ like the Accomodation supplement. You are entitled to up to $350 per year on average, but to get one you have to prove that you have no immediate means of buying food eg. bank statement with nil balance. You also have to give specific reasons for why you can't afford food that particular week. If you or your child has ongoing medical costs you can get a disability allowance which is worked out based on the costs of medication, doctors visits etc. We get around $40 per week for Maya because of the cost of her docs visits, allergy meds, specialists visits and special food. If you have a child with a 'disability' (also includes things like allergies, asthma etc. anything which requires the child to have a greater degree of supervision or assistance than normal) then you can also get a Child Disability Allowance of around $40 a week. This is not income tested, so anyone with a sick/disabled child qualifies for it even if they are earning megabucks. This allowance is to cover things like transport to appointments etc, special food requirements, keeping the telephone connected in case of emergencies etc. You can also get one off grants for emergency dental/medical treatment, kids school uniforms and stationery, fridge/washing machine repairs etc. but these usually have to be paid back over a period of time. And if you are not on a benefit IRD administers the Family Assistance (on the benefit WINZ pays it as part of your benefit) and it is income related. You can also get Family Tax Credit and Child Tax Credit if you are working up till you have baby, and your partner is working. and for more info check out http://www.winz.govt.nz - www.winz.govt.nz or http://www.ird.govt.nz - www.ird.govt.nz ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 12:57pm
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Well I had a look at the winz site and I doubt that I will be eligable for any payments. Because our combined weekly income is way higher than the limit.
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 2:42pm
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i was told u cn get up to $600 per yr for food grants???also u[ to $600 towards bond if u move n cant come up with the money urself. my mum got help frm winz for 3 pr glasses back in 93 thanx to us kids needing them *sigh* poor mum.i have gotten help for dental and glasses too. ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com">
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Posted By: kbushnz
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 3:13pm
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Food grants depend on your situation - ie:- single people qualify for $200 per year - married for a little more and solo with one child etc ........There is also assistance with bond and rent in advance I think it's up to $800 for bond but you need to check with your case manager. You can also apply for advances on your benefit for certain things such as glasses, dental, school uniforms and stationary. I used to work at WINZ for approx 15 years. My info is a little rusty as i haven't been with them since my daughter was born. ------------- http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 8:09pm
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Yep Becs the amount for the food grant does depend on how many children you have, for 1 child it's $350. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 9:38pm
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ok. I was told by the guy at housing nz sumone could get up to $600 a year?? hmmmmmm dont no if he nose wot hes talking about ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 10:57pm
| I think mine is $400 if I remember rightly ? |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 16 August 2005 at 8:07am
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Housing NZ generally don't know what they are talking about lol. He may be right for a couple with a couple of kids, but that sounds like a lot. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 16 August 2005 at 8:41am
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i dont think u can ask for the full amount at once?we got 150 for last week due to moving n had not enuff for a food shop.so we still got some if need be down the track.nath dnt like doin it but was fun spending sumone elses money tee hee hee.we struggled to reach 150 but felt soooooo good to have full fridge n pantry ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 16 August 2005 at 10:04am
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Yep, you only get what they consider to be 'reasonable' at the time. I got $150 when I moved house, but other times they'll only give between $50-$100 to last till payday.
I could never spend the whole amount either, so I use to use it to stock up on nappies, wipes, breast pads etc. so I had a supply for weeks when money was tight. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 16 August 2005 at 4:23pm
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We get disability for Caleb, $74 per frotnight and they pay it fortnightly to plus we get $35 per week for disability related costs... I used to get $125 for food when I was on a benefit since Caleb needed speciality foods. When I was a solo mum on the benefit I was getting $467 per week and disabilty on top if that so I was doing ok... But most of my friends didnt get that kinda money, but my case manager was awesome and got me every little thing I was entitled to.. My ar got pink stickered years ago for bald tyres.. WINZ paid $1200 for new tyres and I didnt have to pay it back because a car was a necessity with Calebs disability (being on oxygen) so it all boils down to how good your case manager is. The lady we have now on Family ass is a B*#@H simple as that and looks down her nose at me.. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: bridgetbird
Date Posted: 17 August 2005 at 1:01pm
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I was butt naked. Not a good look, but at the time I can't remember even caring. Someone once told me after you have a baby you have no shame and they were right.
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 17 August 2005 at 1:10pm
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lol bridget.. i was told you leave your draws and your dignity at the door.
roksana, you should still look on the ird website... you guys might be eligable for something from them. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 17 August 2005 at 1:29pm
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Janine...I just got a letter saying that I will get my first payment on the 3rd of November for $303 after that they will pay a $289 every week for 12 weeks.
And that is it...I earn 3 times as much now....man it is going to be hard! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 17 August 2005 at 3:21pm
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youll cope roksana. Dont mean to sound rude but we all do it. I got that benefit as well with my first but some people dont. youll be right. May just have to curb your spending a bit
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 17 August 2005 at 3:30pm
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I know we will.....or shall I say have to. Thats why we have savings so just in case we can dig into that.
Its just that we just bought a house and the whole "mortgage" thing is new to us and we only have 3 months to get use to it.... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 17 August 2005 at 5:34pm
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yep it will be hard, but hey, if me and mike can live on $25,000 a year, with 2 kids to clothe feed and nappy, pay the extra for daycare, as well as all the bills and pay off his debts from before he met me... then i think you will be able to to. yep the mortgage thing is pretty tricky, but budgeting is the key. every likes to think they can give their kids the best of the best, but many of us can't.... everything in life is just so expensive these days.. and sacrifices are the only way. pay the bills, and use the rest wisely. we buy nappys from wherever has them on special, we spend $240 a fortnight all up on food... and that includes the $60 spent on nappies, up until a few months ago we spent $30 a fortnight on formula for paris as well.
you learn to buy at sales, buy a year ahead, put things on layby not buy them outright, and use the cheaper brands or buy in bulk. you'll do just fine. just spend wisely and accept that your child won't love you any less if it's not in pumpkin patch clothes with the best toys around... all that counts is you be a good mum and give her lots of love. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 17 August 2005 at 6:32pm
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Yep i just shopped up at the t&T sale for next year. But usually its trademe second hand for Alyssa and Jayde gets all her handmedowns. Unless our rellies or friends give them new clothes. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 17 August 2005 at 10:35pm
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yep i can justify buying for paris because i know it will get used again for ayja. already i have gone through ayja's clothes that she has grown out of and have about 6 supermarket bags full. pretty much all of them are still as new cos even if they were used for paris as well, they both grew so fast that the clothes were hardly used... so onto trade-me they will go as soon as i have time to list them. we getclothes given to us from a couple of people at mikes work.. one of them does the pumpkin patch thing.. the clothes we get have been her girl's daycare clothes.... pumpkin patch... all in great condition.. so they are paris's good clothes for the most part. but i do go and buy at tnt as well, did a big buy up too Maria, paris has 2 pairs of jeans, 2 pairs of jammies and a winter coat for next year. got her a pair of polar fleece slippers for $1, felt so cheap, but she thinks they are the greatest and has hardly taken them off all day. just shows it's the little things.
i do believe in big xmas and birthday though... we save and layby all year so that our girls can have amazing xmases... they may not get a heap in between, but on those days they are treated like princesses. i'm pretty sure most people think i'm a nut, cos when that kmart sale was on, i was there, first day, 7 am when they opened. but hey, i got their cubby house on layby, and when my sister went later in the day to get one for her boy they were all gone. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 17 August 2005 at 11:04pm
| I'm excited about jake's xmas...but he gets so much stuff from friends and family, it feels a little watseful getting him much more. My mum and Nana are prolific knitters so Jake and B2 have beautiful knitted clothes that Jake barely wore (damn handwashing!!). I'm going to buy jake a paddling pool for xmas...but am looking on trademe for a big one, as I'll need to supervise I think. |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 18 August 2005 at 7:59am
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handwashing? I love knitted stuff on the kids. I just put it in a laundry bag and chuck it in the wash with the rest of their clothes. Comes out great. The paddling pool will go down great! ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 18 August 2005 at 8:03am
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Janine its funny what you say about the little things. When i brought Alyssa's stuff from T&T. She fell in love with the jammies (she chose them $5 i think) When i washed them and hung them on the line she was like ohhhh those my jammies for when im a big girl. Soo cute. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 August 2005 at 8:33am
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LOL Maria, I bought all Maya's summr clothes last summer and put them away and I pulled them out last week as we are going to the Gold Coast on Monday and she'll need some of them. She was so excited, she insisted on wearing a pair of hot pink hot pants and singlet - and it's freezing!
I buy most of Maya's clothes a year ahead. I buy a lot of stuff from the Pumpkin Patch and JK factory shops now, as they are better quality, and now that Maya is older she isn't growing wuite as fast. I got her some dresses for $12 from the Patch Factory shop that she will get this winter out of, then next winter as daycare clothes. I'm kind of lucky I guess, when Maya was tiny I lived week to week, hand to mouth while I finished uni, and set up a house etc. (when I moved in I owned a microwave and a bed, no plates, cutlery, washing machine, fridge.....). So I learnt to live on very little, and now that I am working and can afford to spend a bit extra, I can save more. Even tho I can afford it, I can't justify spending huge amounts of $$$ on clothes for Maya, when the cheaper ones do the same job. We have huges xmases too tho. I have labyed all her pressies for this year in the huge Kmart sale a few weeks ago. She's getting some more Little People, a proper 'big girls' bike with trainer wheels, a dolls cot, highchair and stuff, a Barbie laptop computer and some other bits and pieces. I remember when we were kids there was 4 of us, and money was really tight, but Mum and Dad bought at sales and factory shops, and those big clearance expo things, plus xmas was always a huge family day with a big meal, my uncles on the guitars and stuff, and I want Maya to have special memories like that too. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 18 August 2005 at 9:18am
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You are right Janine....Atish and I will be fine...as he does earn well enough (tho our mortgage is a high one).
I also want the best for my little girl! I always had every thing when I grew up and I want the same for my baby (if not a little more). I am not too worried about cloths and toys because she will have two nana's that are going to go mad.....my Mum has already bought so much for her and I still have 11 weeks to go...
We also have very close friends and I am the first one out of them to have a baby...they are very excited and already asking me what they should be buying....I am not saying NO to nothing....LOL 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 23 August 2005 at 5:08pm
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lol, we have had heaps of stuff given to us as well. Every time my mum goes down to the supermarket this week she comes back with something new
I also still have heaps of clothes that I wore as a baby! Joey is a "retro" baby... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 23 August 2005 at 9:09pm
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glad to know i'm not the only one putting my kids in stuff i wore when i was a bub. actually there are a few of my favourite outfits for them that were things i wore when i was little. however i do have a whole heap of those lovely little frilly dresses, most of which i hardly wore... my girls have never been put in them.. firstly cos they were winter babies (thankfully) and well, also, because we aren't really into the whole frilly marshmellow thing ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: skirts
Date Posted: 23 August 2005 at 9:28pm
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Ha, sorry Im a bit late to be answering this post, one day ill be on top of things.
I worked up till 4 days before my due date (not fun, roped in to it by my boss and it sucked cos I commuted from Waiuku to Glenfield on the north shore,one side of Auck to the other, so basically took forever in peak hour traffic) but I actually ended up getting a bit of a break (if ya can call it that, he he) as Summer was 12 days overdue the little monkey. Oh and I wore a sexy hospital gown too, didnt get a choice really, but think I went in in my nightie.
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 23 August 2005 at 11:57pm
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haha Hannah is a retro kid too most of the time. I must stop dressing her up for coffee groups
She wears quite a few of my old clothes. My granny made me quite a few little dresses, which are cute but so old fashioned! I might have to put Han in them for the obligatory photo, but apart from that I can't actually bring myself to make her wear them! |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 24 August 2005 at 12:59am
| I have a few adorable dresses that I had when I was young. I got them out and reluctantly put them back. Lewis won't let Jake wear them. what a meanie. hoping to bring them out again this time. |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 24 August 2005 at 8:59am
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Oh my gosh you guys have cloths from when you guys were little? Damn! My mum never saved any....mind you we did change countries several times and it was more like "take what you need and not what you want" when packing.....
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Posted By: lou
Date Posted: 24 August 2005 at 9:24am
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I've got a wee crochee dress which I wore. I dressed sophie in it a few times, she looked so cute! She also wore a couple of my bonnets from when I was a baby. ------------- Mother to two beautiful children - Sophie age 6 and Ephraim age 4 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 24 August 2005 at 10:43am
| I'm officially an only child and all my cousins were bys so mum kept a lot of my stuff. still have all my lego too, which Jake'll love when he gets older. He's playing with my original buzzy bee as we speak and has my mother's Mary Lou doll. |
Posted By: skirts
Date Posted: 24 August 2005 at 2:22pm
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Ha Nikki thats classic you say that bout coffee groups maybe I should stop dressing summer up too!!
She doesnt wear so much 'retro' stuff as mum only kept a little bit of my stuff, but she definately wears more than her fair share of hand me downs (a lot of which are my nephews so she looks like a little boy at home lots he he). Guess I like her to look like a little girl when I go out so put her in her good clothes
Hey Ana, just thought I'd ask if theres anything you need? I have some unisex stuff packed away so could go through and have a look for you so let me know okay Glad its all going so well too
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 24 August 2005 at 5:37pm
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You guys don't need to dress them up they are soooo cute anyway
I am fine at the mo. thanks Amy! I will probably need more stuff as Joey gets bigger. I can't believe how many times a day I need to change him!!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 24 August 2005 at 8:22pm
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what change his whole outfit or just his nappy?
if you have to change his clothes heaps cos of nappy leakage maybe you need to change the type of nappies you use... or use fluffies? other than that... try sticking bibs on him if he's a sicky baby... we had to do that for Ayja for a while... now we are thinking of sticking them on her again cos she dribbles so damn much! ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 25 August 2005 at 3:02pm
I had to change all of his clothes, I think it was because of his belly button... I didn't want to get anywhere near it and left the nappies quite loose, hehehe  but it fell off last night, yay!! so now I hope it will be better!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 25 August 2005 at 8:34pm
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am late replying to post but gotta share my story too. i wore my cool jammies bright red with big white hearts lol and my end of work date kept changing lol. the boys were due 15th dec so i was gona work until the 1 dec (at the time i thought there was only one bub) but as i got bigger i would tell my boss that i would finish abit earlier and so on until i rang him at 8am on the 14th oct to tell him i wouldnt be coming into work today as i had just given birth to 2 teeny tiny boys (they were 9 weeks early) i also used to work part-time (along with my fulltime job - im mad i tell ya)in a army camp bar but finished that at about 41/2-5mths as i was getting too buggered
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 25 August 2005 at 9:06pm
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oh, that explains it then Ana. lol. those things are icky! ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 25 August 2005 at 11:10pm
| OOoh, I saw that episode of Sex and the City and the belly button fell off and THE CAT ATE IT!!!! ewewew. spose saves cleaning it up though. |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 8:56am
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Oh gosh I just have the pic in my head...eewwww!
I never thought about belly button thing......that is a whole new topic (for me)......arrrggg
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 10:09am
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Roksana - these days they don't have anything to cover. They just tell you to leave the belly button open to the air and that's it!!! When my sister was a baby mum had to wrap it and put alcohol on it etc. but now you just leave it... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 10:42am
| Jake's just came off on his nappy one day. no big deal really. |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 1:04pm
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Yah I know....I am a paranoid first mother......
Guess what happened? I was walking out of a shop at lunch time and saw a kid running towards me....I had to turn to my right, as the kid was going run right into me...but when I did that I hit a damn Pole....It hit the lower right side of my tummy....It did not hurt at all but I was shocked! and now I am worried...I dont know if it could hurt the baby????? What do you guys think? ....Oh God I would just die if it did! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 1:14pm
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Hiya Roksana... I wouldn't worry too much, the amniotic fluid around the bub protects him/her from most knocks like this!! Call you rmidwife for a check if you fancy but please don't worry! I am sure bub will be fine!!
When I was about eight months pregnant with Quinn i tripped down ONE step, landed on the floor in a awkward spot between the step and the freezer and an ironing board landed on my head!! Quinn was/is fine but I was home alone and it took me a LONG time to wiggle my way out of the teeny spot i landed in! ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 1:17pm
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And re the belly button thing EW!! Andys dad swears that once it fell off his two kids he threw it up on to the roof?!? Andy decided (for a VERY short time) that he would start a tradition and do that for our kids too? What sort of crazy family have i got myself tied up in?
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 1:22pm
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Thanks Anna....I can feel the bub move....and phoned the midwife and she said that if I ran into the pole or I fell on my tummy then that would be a different story but the baby should be fine...I asked my mum and all the ladies at work and they all say that it should be fine....but I am paranoid!!!
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Posted By: skirts
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 4:23pm
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He he, I remember being so paranoid about Summers belly button, it looks so sore for them and it would get knocked occassionally and bleed a little bit, but she wasnt actually too phased by it, and it fell off pretty quickly too.
Ew, my friend kept her daughters once it fell off and it sits in a jar on their mantle piece, they are such gross looking things
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 4:27pm
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Ew Definitely wont be keeping my babys one ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 4:42pm
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 5:39pm
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hahahahahahaha i think i've got hannah's somewhere!!!!!!!!
it is really gross. i don't know what possessed me. ah well. maybe it'll come in use some day! (yeah, hahaha what the hell?)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 8:47pm
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i kept the thing they used to clamps my girl's ones with but no way would i keep the actual stump. ew
Paris's fell off no problem, just floated off in the bath one day. but ayja's got caught on her fluffies at a few days old, and tore a little, and got a bit smeely and infected and sticky. was soooo glad when it finally fell off cos i had thought it was gonna get really badly infected and gross.------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 10:08pm
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yeah i kept the clamps too ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 27 August 2005 at 6:55pm
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I have kept the clamp but not the cord, it was too smelly When does the tummy button go to "normal" Joeys is still sore looking and has a little crust on it. Is that normal? I might get the m/w to look at it tomorrow. He isn't red around it or anything though so probably nothing. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 27 August 2005 at 10:28pm
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takes a few weeks i think... still looks like a little puffy swimming ring on their tummy for a while, lol. it's weird, then it suddenly is normal.. you don't really notice it, one day you just wake up and and it's like, oh, ok, when on earth did their bellybutton start looking normal? lol ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 27 August 2005 at 10:45pm
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yeah just keep it clean and maybe give it some air/sun time too. ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 28 August 2005 at 12:01pm
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Posted By: skirts
Date Posted: 28 August 2005 at 1:40pm
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He he, Summer has an outie belly button but I didnt realise just thought it would heal so I was waiting ages for it to go down to normal and then someone looked at it and proceeded to tell me it was an outie, oops! Did I feel dumb or what!
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 29 August 2005 at 12:26pm
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 30 August 2005 at 9:40pm
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LOL my Dad said a few weeks ago "They didn't do a very good job of Maya's bellybutton did they? It sticks out!" Silly males! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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