Bugger...
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Topic: Bugger...
Posted By: AnnaD
Subject: Bugger...
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 12:04pm
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Hi everyone...
Had a spot of bleeding last night and went along for a scan today. Turns out there is a teeny bub but no heartbeat. So it looks like I am off the due date list...  ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 12:42pm
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oh anna,sorry for ur loss ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com"> 
Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days) |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 12:46pm
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Anna, I am so so sorry. Thinking about you and sending lots of hugs our way. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: kas
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 1:19pm
Sorry for you loss Anna. Sending lots of  's your way.------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 1:24pm
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Oh Anna, I am so sorry. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 1:39pm
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Sorry for your loss Anna, keeping you in our thoughts. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 1:48pm
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Sorry for your loss Anna, Take care and big hugs ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Southlandmummy
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 1:56pm
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Anna, Im so sorry for your loss, Sending you big hugs (((HUGS)))
Take Care Cindy ------------- Cindy - Princess and Princes Samia Isobel Joy born 9th September 2008 Spencer Graeme John born 29th May 2006 Kaylin Gavin Robert born 19 December 2004 |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 2:17pm
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Oh Anna, I am so very sorry. My heart goes out to you. We are here if you need us! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 5:00pm
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Oh that sucks. Thinking of you and your family! ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 11:46pm
| Oh Anna!!!! So sorry for you and your family's loss! |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 11:46pm
| I don't know how to "hug" |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 11:47pm
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worked it out
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 12 August 2005 at 11:51pm
yay ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com">
Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days) |
Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 13 August 2005 at 12:47pm
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Thanks for all your sympathy everyone... it really means a lot to me.
I need some more help... After my scan yesterday, i was booked in for a "clinic" on Monday. This is basically where I get a D&C. I started bleeding (very lightly) yesterday so had to go into the A&E. They were intent on doing a D&C then but when they tried to put a drip in my hand in didn't work, same thing for a drip in my arm. At this stage I was so worked up that I couldn't handle anything more so they let me leave as my bleeding was not bad. they have told me to go back if I start bleeding heavily. I am still booked in to go in and get everything done on Monday. I don't think I can go through with this. My mum is baffled as to how I can give birth to a ten pound baby with no pain relief but can't handle a needle. But I honestly don't think i can do it, the D&C to me is far too invasive and I would cope better letting it go naturally. I now know what to lookfor in terms of signs that i must go to the hospital and will if need be but i am hoping not to. My question is this, for those of you who have miscarried, have you had the D&C or has it happened naturally? My midwife is very supportive of letting me go naturally but I need reassurance. Please tell me that this will be ok? ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 13 August 2005 at 2:17pm
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What a horrid time for you I havent had a miscarriage but from what i understand the worry is that the baby wont come away naturally and that you will hemmorage. If you really are against getting the D & C done you should talk to an obstitrician (Sp)about your risks etc. You will prob need an internal (like after giving birth) to make sure all the placenta etc has come away. You really do sound like you need more info to make a decision! ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 13 August 2005 at 3:07pm
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Oh Anna, that is so sad. I'm sorry
And I know nothing about your other question. Good luck with your decision |
Posted By: angel
Date Posted: 13 August 2005 at 3:54pm
Aww Im very sorry to hear about what has happened  ------------- Aimee Ella - 5.5 years old! Toby - nearly 3 years old! 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 13 August 2005 at 8:35pm
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Hi Anna, although I had bleeding when I miscarried I also had a D & C just to "make sure". I am usually freaked out by needles etc. but I think I was still too shocked to resist really. I am glad I had it done though because firstly it made sure everything was cleaned out and secondly they could do tests to make sure everything was ok. I had to stay in hospital overnight but Peter was there almost the whole time and really supportive. Look after yourself. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 14 August 2005 at 10:23am
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Hi I am so sorry for you.. My love is coming your way, I have had 4 m/c 2 naturally and 2 d&c, 1st 2 where ok but with 2nd 2 I developed a temp and didnt feel to flash so had d&c to make sure it was all out ok and so i didnt risk infection, I hate needles to but before i had them thay gave me some tablets to helpme relax, ask for them if you decide on a D&C it makesit alot easier to cope...
Im so sorry for you.. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 6:53am
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hI anna, I had a D&C after my miscarriage, and athough not scared of needles, I found the whole thing stressful mainly just because of why your there. however the staff were great and very understanding. Unfortunately sometimes it's a nessasery evil. I think sometimes they try to do it so quickly you don't get a chance to come to grips with the fact that you've lost baby. I felt a lot of pressure to have my done, but in saying that I had a 3 year old son and couldn't afford any complications from doing it naturally for his sake. Good luck in what you decide, thinking about you. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 8:59am
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Oh Anna....I was so busy that I did not login this weekend....I am soooo sorry to hear what happened! . Big coming your way.
As for the other questions...I cant help you but hope that every thing will go fine! Thinking of you! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 9:06am
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I had a d & c also, but because I was so young I didn't really know what my options were, and the whole thing is a bit of a blur. I guess the best advice I can give is to trust yourself and your midwife and if the idea of a d & c freaks you out so much, maybe give yourself some time to see if it all happens naturally, and if not in a few days have the d & c. But if your midwife is supportive of you going naturally, I would trust that. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: lou
Date Posted: 15 August 2005 at 7:47pm
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I miscarried naturally and so didn't need a D&C. I'm sure which ever way you'll be fine ------------- Mother to two beautiful children - Sophie age 6 and Ephraim age 4 |
Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 23 August 2005 at 10:43am
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Hiya everyone...
I wanna say a big thanks for all the support!! It has been a rough wee while but I am feeling MUCH better now! Everything you guys have said has been a big help, I don't think I would've managed without it! Was feeling very sorry for myself as none of my friends have been in contact after finding out what has happened so it has been a bit lonely, I am giving them the benefit of the doubt and assuming that no one knows what to say... it has been amazing knowing that there is a bunch of gals here who have been so fab!! MANY MANY THANKS!!  ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 23 August 2005 at 3:11pm
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Anna....one of my friends had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and I just found out I was pregnant! I never called her and saw her at a friends wedding after 6 weeks .....and still did not know what to say to her. I am sure your friends are excatly the same!.....they are thinking of you I am sure! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 23 August 2005 at 5:17pm
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Glad you are feeling a bit better Anna ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 24 August 2005 at 12:06am
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We love ya Anna
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 24 August 2005 at 6:41am
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stay stong anna, it is probably just a case of not knowing hwat to say. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 26 August 2005 at 4:35pm
Anna, I'm so glad you are syarting to feel better  Like the others, Im sure your friends just dont know what to say, but theres always someone on here to talk to ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |