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Forum Name: Life After Miscarriage
Forum Description: Up to one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet for many the loss of a pregnancy is isolating and lonely. Share your thoughts and feelings here with others who have experienced loss.
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Topic: 2nd miscarriage
Posted By: meow
Subject: 2nd miscarriage
Date Posted: 05 July 2007 at 10:21pm
I haven't talked much (if at all) about this but I've had 2 early miscarriages since having my daughter. The first I was about 3.5 weeks and the 2nd = 5.5 weeks. The first one was so quick, found out I was pregnant and then 2 days later started spotting. This time (only happened a month ago) I had lots of nausea, tiredness etc.. heaps of symptoms. Went to the doctor, got used to the idea of having another baby, then another miscarriage

I'm wondering if anyone here has gone through a similar thing, having one healthy child and then miscarried more than once, then gone on to have another healthy child? I am worried about what will happen next time, going through a m/c takes a huge strain on me physically and emotionally, I don't think I could handle it again.

TIA.

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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 05 July 2007 at 10:27pm
Awww I'm so sorry to hear that Kat, I hadn't known about either. I don't know the answer to your question, I had one m/c between #2 and #3 but not two. Big hugs!

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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 05 July 2007 at 10:40pm
Thanks Teresa. The doctor can't do any tests until (hopefully not) a 3rd m/c occurs.

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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 12:29am
aw Kat that sucks, can't help much but big hugs.

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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 2:23am
So sorry Kat!! Huge hugs from me too.

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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 7:43am
hugs from me too. I haven't had your experience so can't comment, but just wated to give some support


Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 8:31am
Hugs Kat! My SIL's mum miscarried numerous times between my SIL and her sister. Obviuosly managed to have a healthy baby again but it must be very hard. Sending you lots of love and support

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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 8:53am
My sister had her first child then years later tried to have another. She miscarried about 3 times then got pregnant had baby, tried again a couple of years later and 2 more miscarriages and were booked into see specialist and got to the first appt only to discover she was pregnant again and carried that baby sucessfully too and she has had another since then. So yeah as horrible as the journey can be it is possible to have another baby


Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 1:26pm
Hugs Kat, I am sorry you have had to go thru this.

I've had two miscarriages, one before Maya and one before the gremlins. I remember reading somewhere after my second m/c that women who have had 2 m/c have the same chance statistically of having an ongoing pregnancy as a woman who has never m/c.

I've met a lovely woman thru another forum ( http://www.thelostones.co.nz - www.thelostones.co.nz ) who had 14 m/c and a stillbirth after having her first child, but has since gone on two have two beautiful healthy boys.

Best of luck on your journey

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Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)


Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 1:41pm
14 times!

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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 1:54pm
Yep, sad huh? She is such an inspiration to me, I just don't know how you get hurt that many times and still get up and keep going, I'm not sure I could do it.

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Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)


Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 2:31pm
I'm really sorry to hear that Kat! Big hugs.

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Hannah 22/10/05
Greer 11/02/08


Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 06 July 2007 at 2:39pm
14 times! that is horrible.. she must be one strong woman!

I have to say that if it happens a 3rd time, I don't know if I'd want to risk it again Thanks for all your support ladies!

p.s - congrats Aimee, just noticed your ticker!!

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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 07 July 2007 at 9:46am
Aww Im sorry, I havent had two but I just had my first one yesterday and I know how hard it is.

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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 07 July 2007 at 1:25pm
Hey Kat, i am in the same position as you.

i had a miscarriage at 7wks last october and another one at 4 wks 2 months ago, we are still currently trying as i firmly believe that we will have another healthy baby.

if you are wondering whether you should try again, then my suggestion would be to maybe wait a little bit until you have come to terms with these miscarriages, and when you are feeling emotional better then start ttcing again.

thinking about you babe

((((hugs())))

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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 11:56am
I've just noticed this thread, and thought this might help:

There's a 10 year gap between me and my sister. It wasn't meant to be so big, and it wasn't for lack of trying! My mum had 2 miscarriages (that I know of) before the successful pregnancy with K, one when I was 4 and one when I was 8. I think she had another one when I was 9, probably a couple of months before conceiving K but I'm working off my memories, without confirmation.

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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 1:15pm

I only just saw this thread.

 Big hugs Kat, Sorry to hear your recent struggle with 2 m/c.  Take care!



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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 23 July 2007 at 2:11pm
Big hugs. Sorry you have had to go through this. My mum had 3 m/c between me and my brother. The first she didnt know whe was preg and she had a IUD in- was early mc. The other 2 times they were ttc and were a bit further on and knew they were preg. My bro is 3 1/2 yeras younger than me.


Posted By: fives_enough
Date Posted: 27 July 2007 at 8:51pm
Yip for so many of us we spend the mjority of our lives using some form of contraception to stop from getting pregnant, then the time you do try and start/continue a family it becomes an emotional rollercoaster.
I too have had 2 miscariages. Both after my daughter when trying for a second. The 1st was at 5 weeks and the second the, (very next month) at 4 weeks just after (I found out). And yeh it was very hard to cope with.
People seemed to think that it made it easier given my pregancy wasnt that far along, and dont get me wrong that would have been alot harder to deal my heart goes out to thoes people that have;
but to my husband and I it was still our little baby that we had been trying for. We were over the moon. When all of a sudden it was gone. So my thoughts are with you kat. Be strong. As hard as that can be
I am just so blessed to have had a beautiful boy at the end of our heartache. He is now 3 months.
I just had to remind myself while we were going through this that I did have 1 beautiful baby and thats more than some are blessed with.

So chin up chicken stay positive and just enjoy practising.!!!:p




Posted By: emmaohara
Date Posted: 28 July 2007 at 9:59am
Hey meow, since my mc I have realised that probably over half the people I have spoken to have had one or more mc, either before their first or more often between pregnancys.

This does not make it easier for any of us to take, but at playgroup there were 3 woman the other day who had both had 2 mc between the first and second babies , so it does give us hope, good luck with ttc

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